Your Relationship Is in the ER. We’re the Critical Care Team. That sick feeling in your stomach? The panicked thoughts? The tears that won’t stop? This isn’t “just a rough patch.” It’s a full-blown relationship…
Love may be blind—but you don’t have to be. Engagement is thrilling. Hopeful. Wildly romantic. But if you want a resilient, connected marriage—one that lasts long after the champagne’s gone—you’ll need more than butterflies. Our…
This post outlines Dr. John Gottman’s three-stage model for helping couples heal from infidelity. For a broader understanding of emotional affairs and recovery, see our Introduction to Affair Recovery. If you’re working through the aftermath…
Respect is a cornerstone of any healthy marriage. When partners treat each other with consideration, kindness, and appreciation, it lays the foundation for a strong and lasting relationship. But what does respect look like in…
In this post, we’ll discuss the dynamics of the Secure and Avoidant attachment combination. We’ll compare and contrast this combination with the Secure-Secure partnership and explore how the Secure partner can support and reassure their…
In my culture, it is customary for the oldest son to financially support his parents, have them live with me, etc. However, I live in the USA and they are in my home country. My…
The Developmental Model, created by Drs. Ellyn Bader and Pete Pearson, in the 1980s, is a unique approach to understanding and resolving marital conflicts. Central to this model is the concept of differentiation, which family…
Levels of differentiation Bowen describes two essential aspects of differentiation. On the intrapsychic level, differentiation involves distinguishing between emotional and intellectual processing and the degree of choice a person expresses in choosing how they will behave in a conflict-laden…
My partner doesn’t trust me to do most tasks, so she does them herself and then resents me for it…what can we do about this? There could be several reasons for this. Talking to her…
Introduction As internet pornography has become ubiquitous, more couples are grappling with its impact on their relationships. While porn use isn’t always problematic, the latest psychology research suggests it can negatively affect marital satisfaction and…
Written: May 29, 2018 Revised 2/12/2025 Marriage is a beautiful journey that brings together two individuals, each with their own unique personalities, habits, and quirks. While it can be a source of immense joy and fulfillment,…
My partner thinks that we have too much stuff, she even calls me a “hoarder.” I think she is overly controlling of our space-always wanting everything perfect. I want to have 15 framed photos even…
The new year is approaching, and this past year has been challenging for many people. Despite its highs and lows, 2023 allowed people to spend time with their loved ones. Many couples needed to continue…
Consider these sweet phrases not merely as words but as remedies to mend emotional fractures and rebuild connections. In his book The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work, John Gottman, Ph. D., introduces the concept of…
When an affair shatters the sanctity of a relationship, deciphering the path forward becomes a daunting challenge. As you grapple with the emotional aftermath of infidelity, it is essential to recognize specific markers that can…
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