That's why all of our work happens AFTER a "State of the Union" marriage counseling ssessment.
You'll objectively know how good or bad things are, before you commit to ongoing couples therapy. Ours is the most comprehensive marital assessment available today. We deal with all of the common (and not so common) problems couples face.
There was a time when it was widely accepted in the field that couples would not complete a marriage counseling assessment until well into the treatment, if at all.
Couples Therapy Inc. and The Gottman Institute have demonstrated Neil Jacobson's firm belief that assessment is not just "nice to have." It's essential to effective couples therapy.
It is our belief that without a thorough assessment, a couples therapist is "shooting in the dark." We'll spend 5 or more clinical sessions trying to uncover the fundamental issues that you present in couples therapy. These details you provide us in our marriage counseling assessment instrument.
That's a lot of wasted time and stress on you.
Couples therapy, focuses not only on how a couple functions, but also how each individual is doing. A thorough assessment answers relevant questions not only about family history, but also more current questions about drug or alcohol use, patterns of sleeping and eating, support systems, hobbies, religious or spiritual beliefs and much much more.
Yes, it does. Couples that complete an assessment early in the process (even before we meet them, in the case of Couples Therapy Inc...) receive the benefit of an informed therapeutic perspective. While time and effort is spent on completing these structured instruments, this work is done beforehand, and not while active couples therapy is suppose to be happening.
In Discernment Counseling, one partner is clearly leaning "out" of the relationship, while one may be leaning "in." We are convinced that to get the most out of Discernment Counseling, it is essential that the couple and the therapist have the most comprehensive overview of the current state of the relationship possible.
A State of the Union assessment is not a substitute for Discernment Counseling. It is simply the precursor.
A thorough marital assessment costs about the same as a weekend psycho-educatonal program like The Art and Science of Love or Hold Me Tight. They range in price from $700-$1495 for almost 8 hours of clinical time (several hours behind the scenes understanding the scoring and reading your assessment instrument.) In contrast to a psycho-educational workshop however, these marriage counseling assessments are personalized treatment plans that are tailored to your unique relationship needs.