Marriage Counseling Assessment – A “State of the Union”

A marriage  counseling assessment is an organized way your couples therapist understands more about you and your marriage. Do you really want people trying to help your relationship before they really get to know you?

We don't.

That's why all of our work happens AFTER a "State of the Union" marriage counseling assessment.

You'll objectively know how good or bad things are, before you commit to ongoing couples therapy.  Ours is the most comprehensive marital assessment available today.  We deal with all of the common (and not so common) problems couples face.

We call it The "State of the Union."

Here is what is included:

  • One 1.5 – 2 hour online interview with both of you. This includes both the Gottman Oral History Interview and a Pearson problem Interview.
  • A video analysis of your fighting dynamics.
  • The BIG BIG Book:  A detailed questionnaire completed online by each of you. It's scored and analyzed. It's an important part of your Retreat Assessment.  Learn More...
  • Two individual interviews with each of you.  What are your perspectives, hopes, and wishes? Speak frankly. Just how much does this relationship means to you?
  • One feedback session of one hour twenty minutes. We have the time to provide you with a detailed understanding of your areas of strength, your areas of relationship vulnerabilities, and your attachment styles.

It starts with a "State of the Union."  It's a part of every Couples Online Intensive.

Is it right for you?  Find out.

Why Do a Marriage Counseling Assessment?

There was a time when it was widely accepted in the field that couples would not complete a marriage counseling assessment until well into the treatment, if at all.

Couples Therapy Inc. and The Gottman Institute have demonstrated Neil Jacobson's firm belief that assessment is not just "nice to have." It's essential to effective couples therapy.

It is our belief that without a thorough assessment, a couples therapist is "shooting in the dark." We'll spend 5 or more clinical sessions trying to uncover the fundamental issues that you present in couples therapy. These details you provide us in our marriage counseling assessment instrument.

That's a lot of wasted time and stress on you.

Couples therapy, focuses not only on how a couple functions, but also how each individual is doing. A thorough assessment answers relevant questions not only about family history, but also more current questions about drug or alcohol use, patterns of sleeping and eating, support systems, hobbies, religious or spiritual beliefs and much much more.

Does it Matter When You Do a Marriage Counseling Assessment?

Yes, it does. Couples that complete an assessment early in the process (even before we meet online, in the case of Couples Therapy Inc...) receive the benefit of an informed therapeutic perspective. While time and effort is spent on completing these structured instruments, this work is done beforehand, and not while active couples therapy is suppose to be happening.

Why Do a Relationship Assessment Prior to Discernment Counseling?

In Discernment Counseling, one partner is clearly leaning "out" of the relationship, while one may be leaning "in." We are convinced that to get the most out of Discernment Counseling, it is essential that the couple and the therapist have the most comprehensive overview of the current state of the relationship possible.

A State of the Union assessment is not a substitute for Discernment Counseling. It is simply the precursor.

How much Does a Marriage Counseling Assessment Cost?

A thorough marital assessment costs about the same as a weekend psycho-educational program like The Art and Science of Love or Hold Me Tight. The are priced at $1400 for 5 hours of clinical time (and several hours behind the scenes understanding the scoring and reading your assessment instrument.) In contrast to a psycho-educational workshop however, these marriage counseling assessments are personalized treatment plans that are tailored to your unique relationship needs.