A “State of the Union” Relationship Assessment

Do you really want people trying to help your relationship, before they really get to know you?

We don't. 

That's why all of our work happens AFTER a "State of the Union" Assessment.

You'll objectively know how good or bad things are, before you commit to ongoing couples therapy.  Ours is the most comprehensive marital assessment available today.  We deal with all of the common (and not so common) problems couples face.

We call it The "State of the Union."

Many couples want to learn as much as possible about their relationship, despite their anxiety.

Here is what is included:

  • One 1.5 – 2 hour online interview with both of you. This includes both the Gottman Oral History Interview and a Pearson problem Interview.
  • A video analysis of your fighting dynamics.
  • The BIG BIG Book:  A detailed questionnaire completed online by each of you. It's scored and analyzed. It's an important part of your Assessment.  Learn More...
  • Two individual interviews with each of you.  What are your perspectives, hopes, and wishes? Speak frankly. Just how much does this relationship means to you?
  • One feedback session of one hour twenty minutes. We have the time to provide you with a detailed understanding of your areas of strength, your areas of relationship vulnerabilities, and your attachment styles.

It starts with a "State of the Union."  It's a part of every Couples Retreat.

Is it right for you?  Find out.

Why Do a Marriage Counseling Assessment?

There was a time when it was widely accepted in the field that couples would not complete a marriage counseling assessment until well into the treatment, if at all. Couples Therapy Inc. and The Gottman Institute have demonstrated Neil Jacobson's firm belief that assessment is not only nice to have, but essential to effective couples therapy.

It is our believe that without a thorough assessment, a couples therapist is "shooting in the dark" spending 10's and sometimes more clinical sessions trying to uncover the fundamental issues that present in couples therapy. In couples therapy, we not only care about the functioning of couple, but also about the functioning of each individual. A thorough assessment answers relevant questions not only about the history of the family of origin, but also answers more current questions about drug or alcohol use, patterns of sleeping and eating, support systems, hobbies, religious or spiritual beliefs and much much more.

Does it Matter When You Do a Marriage Counseling Assessment?

Yes, it does. Couples that complete an assessment early in the process (even before we meet them, in the case of Couples Therapy Inc...) get the benefit of an informed therapeutic perspective. While time and effort is spent on completing these structured instruments, this time is spent at home with us, and not while active couples therapy is suppose to be happening.

How much Does a Marriage Counseling Assessment Cost?

A thorough marital assessment costs about the same as a weekend psycho-educatonal program like The Art and Science of Love or Hold Me Tight. They average about $600-$800 for almost 8 hours of clinical time. In contrast to a psycho-educational workshop however, these marriage counseling assessments are personalized treatment plans that are tailored to your unique relationship needs.