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Read about couples who spent the time and invested their resources and got practical, tangible change.
Our former clients describe how they became friends and lovers once again.

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I would highly, highly, highly recommend Daniel to any couple who is struggling.


Boston / Berkshire Couples Retreat - Daniel Dashnaw

My relationship was in trouble. We were dealing with a lot of outside stressors and didn’t have the skills to cope as a couple. We really wanted to learn skills and tools that we could use while managing our stress.

We were impressed with the “BIG BIG Book” assessment and the science-based approach. We also loved that your therapy was rooted in the Gottman Method and that you offered weekend intensive.

I absolutely loved Daniel’s directness and the fact that he was honest with us about our pain points, but also highlighted what we did well as a couple. He shared just enough information about himself to make both of us feel comfortable and we quickly felt at ease with him. He has a great sense of humor, which was appreciated. He also really took the time to learn about us in advance of the intensive (via our BIG BIG Books) and I really felt as though he was very prepared when we arrived. As a result, we were able to accomplish a lot and I’m so thrilled with our progress during the intensive with Daniel. I honestly don’t think there’s anything I can say that I didn’t like about working with Daniel! We truly enjoyed our intensive and we’re so grateful for his time with us this past weekend! Oh, and Jack (the dog) was such a wonderful addition to our sessions. 🙂

We are better communicators and just more respectful of each other. I feel that the therapy gave us a lot of insight into our damaging & counterproductive behaviors and what we could be doing instead to foster a safer/more loving/fulfilling relationship. We’re more connected and “in tune” as a couple.

I would recommend Couples Therapy Inc in general, but I would highly, highly, highly recommend Daniel to any couple who is struggling. He really gets to the heart of what’s going on and works with you to understand how you can improve yourself so that you are a better partner. I really liked his style and working with him was worth every penny.

What would you say to couples that are considering working with Couples Therapy Inc.?

Be prepared to work! Couples therapy is not easy and you have to be willing to really take a hard look at yourself in the context of your relationship. It’s so worth the time & energy, though!

I feel grateful for Marisa every day.


Houston Texas Couples Retreat - Marisa Mundey

I wanted to feel like I was heard. Before the weekend, it was impossible to talk about the relationship without huge arguments and silence for days or even weeks.

I had wanted to [got to therapy] for years, but my husband wasn't willing.

CTI’s scientific approach and that it was a weekend workshop made it more palatable to sell to my husband on those points.

I was hesitant that it would lead to my realizing we couldn't work as a couple.

I loved everything about Marissa Mundey. She has the perfect demeanor and sees right to the heart of the situation without scaring anyone away. She asks the right question at the right time and has a very gentle approach, especially with reluctant spouses.

I recommend CTI wherever women tell me about their marriage woes: to friends, at the dentist, hair salon, etc.

I appreciate my partner and his childhood trauma more, which gave me more empathy for him. We are better able to talk through major disagreements, even if we have them more than I'd like to. It brought us temporarily much closer together. I wish we could hold on to that for longer, but I felt an important connection to him that weekend as he was more open. I still feel closer to him and hope, in the future, he'll be open to more sessions together, as I think it's healthy to dialogue with another observer about the relationship.

We are now able to work through most of our major disagreements. There has definitely been a shift to continued and better communication. There are still many frustrations, but they don't seem as dire most of the time. We feel closer. Like two steps forward one step back, whereas before it felt like one step forward, two steps back.

What would you say to couples that are considering working with Couples Therapy Inc.?

It is well worth the money and time. I was really at the end of my rope and considering leaving, which would have been really hard financially and on our family. I don't feel that way anymore. I thought it'd be a chance to air all of my grievances and finally feel heard, and in many ways it was, but I never expected to come away from the weekend feeling so much empathy for my partner and what he went through. I felt a deep connection to and affection for him that had been buried under all that anger for many years, and it only took one weekend for it to shine through. That was a blessing.

Marissa is a very gifted therapist. I can't thank her enough for her approach and time with us. Things aren't perfect, but they are so much better six months later. I feel grateful for her every day.

I was afraid there would be no resolution and tension for the entire weekend...


Washington DC Retreat - Angela Voegele

We had trust and intimacy issues. I was afraid there would be no resolution and tension for the entire weekend.

Instead, we have hope, a restored trust, and a plan.

Angela was patient and just very effective at getting us to recognize issues.

I'd like to have refresher weekends on an annual basis.

I realize perhaps for the first time in my life how much this relationship means to me.


Mt. Pleasant (Charleston), South Carolina Retreat - Kent MacEachern

Our marriage was rocky, near the breaking point. Intimacy and communication were huge stumbling blocks. It was a sexless marriage, little communication beyond careers, kids and puppies. The previous couples therapy was on a limited one hour per week basis, it did little if anything for us.

We chose CTI because of the one therapist on one couple design. Einstein's theory of insanity required we do something different. Also the qualifications and experience of the organization and staff along with Gottman techniques and MBTI. I had no reluctance. I knew it was our last shot.

Working with Kent was terrific; easygoing approach but always with a plan in mind. We learned a lot about each other in a very brief but highly efficient weekend. I am able to see fear and pain where once I saw only contempt and anger. I realize perhaps for the first time in my life how much this relationship means to me and how far I am willing to go to preserve it. It has given us real hope of saving the relationship and helped me tear down decades of emotional walls to express real vulnerability and desire. Worth every penny.

What would you say to couples that are considering working with Couples Therapy Inc.?

Nothing more than it could literally save your relationship.

You have made such a difference in our lives


Boston / Berkshire Couples Retreat - Daniel Dashnaw

The only reason I am writing today is to say thank you. [My partner] and I are doing really really well. You have made such a difference in our lives - with helping us understand ourselves and each other as well as with helping us to communicate with each other. We are very happily married 🙂

I hope you are doing well. I'm so grateful for the insight and help you were able to provide. Thank you again.

We experienced a deep connection during our weekend intensive visit.


Boston / Berkshire Retreat - Dr. K

My wife and I had two large perpetual issues, but we did not have the correct language to describe it that way.

Dr. Kathy McMahon seemed like she would be a one-stop shop for us.

We were hesitant because of the cost, travel, and time away from kids.

We now have the language and roadmap to start working with each other to solve our problems.

I loved Dr. K’s expertise in Sex Therapy, Peak Oil, and Gottman. She was awesome! She definitely converted me to Gottman, and she tailored our time together to my needs. I would definitely recommend Dr. Kathy McMahon and Couples Therapy. I am convinced that the Gottman Institute techniques used are the best available anywhere.

My wife and I have a language now, such as flooded and perpetual problems, which describes what we are experiencing We have a roadmap to deal with our perpetual problems. We experienced a deep connection during our weekend intensive visit.

What would you say to couples that are considering working with Couples Therapy Inc.?

It is definitely worth your marriage to take a weekend to learn the tools available from Couples Therapy Inc, and to get personal attention tailored to your situation.

We could have never made this progress spread out over 2-3 months of 1 hour sessions.


Amherst MA Couples Retreat - Dr. Gorman

We had a marriage on the brink, we had significant difficulty communicating and navigating the issues that we had been dealing with over the last several years.

I thought that couples’ therapy was unlikely to be effective. I was concerned that it would be painful and difficult and embarrassing. We had each went to counselors which were primarily involved with the other spouse. It was not successful before.

Dr. Patricia Gorman is amazing, so knowledgeable and skillful. She knew our story, having read our Big Big Books. That was very important. She is a great listener. She was able to direct us in a balanced way. She let each of us be heard. She recognized key parts of our narratives and responded to them in a thoughtful and respectful way. I am sure that she understood way more than she indicated. She was a solid, non-judgmental active, guiding listener. A good balance of listening and guidance or direction.

We were able to break through to the difficult issues and address them in a way that was impossible before, without help.

We could have never made this progress spread out over 2-3 months of 1-hour sessions. We had reached a point where additional delay would have been destructive. So, the format was important. Also, the Big Big Book helped the therapist, but it also helped me to organize my thoughts and feelings, so that is a very helpful tool. I think that the expertise of the therapist was crucial.

My wife and I were able to reconnect in a meaningful way. Address the concerns and issues that were undermining our relationship. To have a plan for how to address them moving forward. It also provides a venue for additional help moving forward.

We were on our way to divorce and wanted to understand how we got there...


Berkshire Retreat - Dr. K

We are getting a divorce, but I wanted to understand how we got there and figure out how to move forward.

I feel like it's not all my fault that our relationship failed, now. I'm dealing with my childhood issues. We also have points of reference from our weekend that help us communicate better for sake of kids.

We communicate better now. I am working on my stuff.

I liked her toughness, depth of knowledge and challenges to us. I liked her working with us even though we were not both on the same page.

Would you recommend Couples Therapy Inc.?

Yes, it helps to get away and focus on your stuff. I learned a lot about us.

Dr. K, I'm glad we worked with you. It was inspiring and comforting to know what good help is available if you don't wait too long to seek it out.

It’s the final ditch effort to save something valuable.


Boston / Berkshire Couples Retreat - Daniel Dashnaw

Our relationship was strained and disconnected and previous therapy was not successful at all.

We wanted something intensive but private but we weren’t sure what would be expected.

Our therapist, Daniel gave me valuable tools for working with my husband and not against him, as well as ideas on how to improve the way we talk to each other. Daniel was really great. He’s knowledgeable, yet not preachy. He respected us enough to not tell us what we wanted to hear. He was very clear about what his role would be and what we would get out of the experience.

I really liked his candor. He was straight up and didn’t sugar coat anything. I really appreciated that about him. I found him engaging, yet authoritative enough that I knew he was the “teacher”. I respected his experience and input.

We have a better understanding of each other and what we can not change. We have the tools to argue more effectively and talk to each other with more respect. We have gained more insight into how to approach our daughters.

What would you say to couples that are considering working with Couples Therapy Inc.?

Do it! Without hesitation. The few people I told [about CTI] wish they had gone themselves before their divorces. It’s the final ditch effort to save something valuable.

She’s changed our lives and we are profoundly grateful.


Orange County California Couples Retreat - Jenny Fang

We hesitated starting couples therapy because of the money and an unknown therapist. We wanted to improve issues with intimacy, communicating, conflict resolution, and quality time. With other couples therapy in the past, we would get stuck often. We couldn’t seem to progress. It was always about putting out fires, never learning or growing.

Jenny Fang was intuitive, used different modalities, and pointed. She taught me so much. She would show me how to talk to my partner. We’ve mega shifted! It’s like we are starting new with helpful tools. Trauma is there but we are aware of it now. We’re making different choices. Jenny tapped in to deep parts of us that are problematic and keeping us wounded.

This deep work is what we needed to breakthrough.

What three benefits resulted from working with Couples Therapy Inc?

-We shifted out of being wounded 24/7 so we could start the real work

-Learned about our trauma and tendencies

-Tools to talk! Especially in conflict. Also, the secrets to making my husband feel loved.

Jenny is a superstar. She’s so smart and really gives a s---. She’s changed our lives and we are profoundly grateful.

I had given up… I didn’t know if we were fixable, and didn’t want to put any more effort into something that wasn’t good.


Berkshire Retreat - Daniel Dashnaw

I was ready for divorce, even though I never wanted that. I just couldn’t take what our marriage had become. I didn’t know if we were fixable, and didn’t want to put any more effort into something that wasn’t good. I had given up. But I actually feel hope now! I feel like I was listened to for the very first time...ever!

I liked everything about Daniel! He really got us and was very no-nonsense with his advice. I believe Daniel has saved our marriage. At least he’s given us the tools to save our marriage. Now the work is up to us.)

I understand my husband better. I understand myself better. I am learning to become more assertive for myself.

I am so grateful for this type of therapy. I believe the science-based aspect is what makes it so good. This WILL help us if we are BOTH willing to do the work. Thank you!

Heading to divorce.


Berkshire Retreat - Daniel Dashnaw

Our only hesitation was just the cost. It is not cheap and I imagine many cannot afford it. We were heading to divorce, and it definitely helped a lot. It improved our relationship significantly. We tried some local people, who were pretty bad and seemed to only make things worse.

Daniel is very direct. He also is clearly knowledgable about the science. He has two tactics for doing solution- and action-oriented steps to solving things, and getting them off the 'plate'. We got (1) more insight into the issues we were having; (2) We got some solutions for improving things, and; (3) We have an improved outlook.

I'd suggest the possibility of on-going therapy, at some cost, say, each week or two weeks. We began to backslide since we just went to the one weekend and had nothing more after.

I'm not sure I have the words to convey my gratitude.


Berkshire Retreat - Daniel Dashnaw

Before we called Couples Therapy Inc. our relationship could be described as having dwindling trust, an Inability to come together to resolve issues selflessly, lovingly or respectfully. Rapid and immediate escalation hindered any chance of understanding let alone creating a win-win outcome.

From the moment he spoke I found Dan open and approachable—even on the phone. I enjoyed his perfect blend of professionalism and warmth. He was relentlessly fair and reliably direct. He was tireless. He was thorough, kind, and reassuring throughout. I liked Dan instantly. I felt very fortunate that he would be our counselor. I'm beyond grateful for Dan's ability to relate to my husband as well.

The repair and healing started when we locked in our weekend and shared via the assessment. Not knowing what to expect, I sensed I could trust the level of expertise combined with what seemed to be a down to earth approach to getting down to business. I found comfort in Dan's unwavering integrity, and his commitment to staying true to his "no nonsense" approach.

We were able to let go of the resentment. We started fresh. We stopped being hyper reactive to perceived injustices and were once again able to appreciate and accept our differences. I'm relaxed. I feel respect for my husband again. We can love one another through issues.

I would absolutely recommend Dan and Couples Therapy Inc. to others. I already have and will continue to do so. Because too many couples give up instead of standing up!

I feel reassured about our relationship and optimistic about the future.


Amherst MA Couples Retreat - Dr. Gorman

How would you describe your relationship?

Distant. We wanted to reestablish emotional intimacy.

I thought Dr. Patricia Gorman was great. She was warm and sympathetic to both of us and it was easy to trust her. Her advice made sense to us. We learned some concrete techniques for talking to each other and our relationship feels reinvigorated.

We were able to open up to each other and talk about some old problems. We were able to get in better touch with our love for each other. I feel reassured about our relationship and optimistic about the future. It was a really good experience for us. We liked the fact that it was intensive.

What would you say to couples that are considering working with Couples Therapy Inc.?

Try it. But it’s important to be willing to take the process seriously. We were both really interested in doing this weekend and I think that helped us.

I did not know if I could continue in the marriage


Mt. Pleasant (Charleston), South Carolina Retreat - Kent MacEachern

I did not know if I could continue in the marriage. Kent MacEachern provided the guidance I needed to work toward a resolution, and the understanding if it does not work, it was worth the effort to try.

Kent was unbiased, down to earth, compassionate, commanded a knowledge of the materials and method given his years of experience.

I gained insight into programs, theories, and realities of staying married vs. divorce. I am attempting to remove detachment and create a new, stronger bond. The therapy provided my wife with a better understanding of where I am based on the support of Kent and the application of his knowledge. This will help both me and my wife understand how to proceed to work on necessary changes to how we think and act upon the issues we have.

She made [sex] very easy to talk about and explore.


Washington DC Retreat - Angela Voegele

We had good communication/core relationship but devoid of intimacy.

Angela is a licensed sex therapist and this is where we knew our issues were.

Angela Voegle was wonderful. Very laid back, honest and easy to talk to. She had many tools in her "toolbox" for us to use going forward in our lives. It's hard to talk about intimacy but she was so open (Europeans don't have issues with intimacy) she made it very easy to talk about and explore.

We became closer immediately and we knew what we had to work on to keep our relationship healthy. "Maintenance" lists were given and many resources that do/will help down the road. Angela was excellent - hope I don't need to return but have no qualms if we have to "check-in" with her.

What would you say to couples that are considering working with Couples Therapy Inc.?

Try it! If you are going through a crisis albeit acute/chronic it won't hurt anything, just help - if help is what you want!

Daniel didn’t choose sides; he was fair.


Boston / Berkshire Couples Retreat - Daniel Dashnaw

We were miserable; dealing with insecurity, jealousy, control issues, and family/in in-law issues. We feared things would escalate further; however we both felt comfortable & safe with our therapist. Daniel is skilled, knowledgeable, and patient. Daniel didn’t choose sides; he was fair. It helped clarify our feelings. Understand each other’s world, anxiety issues and developmental trauma due to upbringing. We are working on communicating better and reconnecting.

What would you say to couples that are considering working with Couples Therapy Inc.?

Seek the help.

Jack O’Leary was honest and direct.


New South Wales, Australia - Jack O'Leary

My relationship was in a state of chronic crisis. I wanted to improve our communication and have an opportunity for a therapist to help guide our conversations so they could be productive. We tried couples therapy last year but only had 2 sessions as my husband was not willing to talk with a counselor.

I was looking for something close to Brisbane or Toowoomba in Queensland and the price was reasonable compared to other similar intensive counseling services in the area.

I had no hesitations. I was eager to move forward.

Jack O’Leary was honest and direct. He told us he's not here to tiptoe around issues and he will call out our bad behaviour and address things that need addressing. I really liked that and is exactly what we needed and why we came for the weekend.

The intensive weekend is a great way to kick start the therapy process and breakdown those initial barriers.

No major changes resulted, it was more of a discernment weekend. I suppose the one change is that my husband agreed to couples therapy going forward.

What would you say to couples that are considering working with Couples Therapy Inc.?

Absolutely do it, I have no regrets.

Dr. Mike McNulty was an intensive listener.


Evanston & Highland Park, Illinois Retreat - Dr. Mike McNulty

Our relationship was AT RISK. We were in "regular" [traditional] couples’ therapy but the frequency was inadequate (1x 5-6/weeks)

Dr. Mike McNulty was an intensive listener and had a surprising ability to control the room. I had a personal breakthrough on a childhood issue and some realization of wife's childhood issues. We now have an appreciation for one another, an agreement to move forward on a defined path, and an agreement to continue individual therapy and switching to Gottman couples therapy.

The dark cloud over our marriage seems to be clearing.


Washington DC Retreat - Angela Voegele

Before we contacted Couples Therapy Inc. our relationship was contentious and bordering on a separation.

We had tried couples therapy before but it was somewhat unsuccessful, I don't think we ever found a good match of a therapist.

We chose Couples Therapy Inc. because of the online reviews and the ability to concentrate significant work into a short period of time.

Angela was extremely prepared and stuck to her program without idle chatter. There really isn't anything negative to say other then it's a long day. It was overall very intense but rewarding. We already seem to be communicating better, and surely have a deeper understanding of techniques to help us grow more together.

We have a better understanding of trust, openness, and honesty in our relationship. Our intimacy has returned. The dark cloud over our marriage seems to be clearing.

Angela knows her profession extremely well, and the intensive design of the program really gets to the core of whatever issues you may be experiencing in a timely, efficient manner.

What would you say to couples that are considering working with Couples Therapy Inc.?

JUST DO IT!

I enjoyed her guidance and understanding.


Houston Texas Couples Retreat - Marisa Mundey

What hesitation did you have about starting couples therapy with us?

Not knowing what to expect and discussing openly topics which are private.

What three benefits resulted from working with Couples therapy Inc.?

Open conversation, closer physically, and developing trust.

Marissa Mundey, she seemed to understand us and our situation and adjust to it. I enjoyed her guidance and understanding.

She did a great job working with my husband who has a very strong personality.


Washington DC Retreat - Angela Voegele

How would you describe your relationship before you contacted Couples Therapy Inc.?

Terrible. An affair and bad communication.

Had you considered or tried couples therapy before? If so, how successful or unsuccessful was it?

Yes. It made things worse.

What made you choose Couples Therapy Inc.?

I like that it was intensive and the Big Big Book.

What hesitation did you have about starting couples therapy with us?

Whether my husband was really open to change.

What changes resulted in your marriage/relationship resulted from your work with Couples Therapy Inc.?

We learned a better way to communicate.

What specific qualities did you like most and least about working with this therapist?

I felt Angela could see and understand me. She did a great job working with my husband who has a very strong personality.

Would you recommend your couples therapist and Couples Therapy Inc.? If so, why? If not, why not?

Yes. She did a great job at teaching us the new community pieces our marriage must have to continue.

What three benefits resulted from working with Couples therapy Inc.?

I felt heard. We worked on resolving the issues around the affair and learned the tools we need to have better communication.

What would you say to couples that are considering working with Couples Therapy Inc.?

This program truly covers your whole marriage and if you are both honest and open it can help y’all work out the big and small issues in you marriage.

Daniel is direct, immersive, interactive, smart, and truly invested in our success...


Boston / Berkshire Couples Retreat - Daniel Dashnaw

We really needed to unpack our communications problems. We are great professional communicators, but we weren't doing a good job between the two of us.

What made you choose Couples Therapy Inc.?

My amazing wife found you guys, thankfully! Daniel's specialty in dealing with weight loss surgery patients was a big driver.

What hesitation did you have about starting couples therapy with us?

Nothing. We wanted and needed this ... And most importantly, we were ready for it.

And our communication has improved exponentially. We know how to successfully reach each other's nervous system and a positive way so we can both be heard and understood. The tools we learned with Daniel are invaluable in every phase of our lives.

What specific qualities did you like most and least about working with this therapist?

Daniel is direct, immersive, interactive, smart, and truly invested in our success. His use of real life examples of couples we can relate to were incredibly helpful, and something we still talk about. He gave us a lot of latitude to be ourselves and explore communications styles and techniques that work specifically for us.

That was a true blessing.

Would you recommend your couples therapist and Couples Therapy Inc.? If so, why? If not, why not?

Absolutely yes

What three benefits resulted from working with Couples therapy Inc.?

Communications, connectedness, and a true desire for mutual understanding

What would you say to couples that are considering working with Couples Therapy Inc.?

Be ready to work. Be ready to collaborate. Be willing to explore things about yourself you need to improve.

We had an affair.


Berkshire Retreat - Daniel Dashnaw

After our intensive with Daniel, we came home with great hope that we could have a stronger relationship…but different from the first. We are able to communicate easier, and we have tools to have a calmer disagreement and express OUR feelings.

We liked Daniel’s knowledge and approach... we feel that he has helped us immensely.

I was so unhappy...


Houston Texas Couples Retreat - Marisa Mundey

What changes resulted in your marriage from the work you did?

Life changing, earth shattering, amazing changes -- I am not kidding when I say this absolutely hands down saved our marriage, saved our lives... I was so unhappy and I am now looking at the world differently, knowing I have a partner with me in this life that I once felt so alone in... We have a lot of work to do -- but we are both committed to this and following through with the changes ... I cannot believe that this had such an immediate impact on us and I am forever, forever grateful. I will be recommending you to any of my friends or family that ever is faced with some serious relationship troubles...

My husband has always been reluctant to participating in counseling and we had communication difficulties among other issues.


Boston / Berkshire Couples Retreat - Daniel Dashnaw

Daniel quickly assessed our core issues and addressed them head-on. He provided tools and methods for us to engage each other on a deeper and more intimate level. We appreciated his knowledge and professionalism. Dan alerted us to things about ourselves that we were unaware of. He used data-based references to come to conclusions that were helpful and enlightening while providing references for us to explore. We felt that he adapted the counseling session to meet our specific needs. We enjoyed Dan's rapport and the immediate connection that we felt. Wonderful!

We are very pleased that we chose to participate in this couples therapy program. We learned to hear more of the underlying feelings of each other and how to respond in more positive ways. We have expanded our vocabulary in ways that are more beneficial and productive. We have a better understanding of why we as individuals behave the way we do. We've learned how to listen, respond and communicate more effectively. We've learned to appreciate the many positive aspects of our relationship.

We liked this approach to couples therapy and we would personally recommend our therapist.

It has worked for us. . . It's that simple.


Online Couples Therapy - Daniel Dashnaw

This would be an option I'd highly recommend to anyone who needs couples therapy, especially in our situation as expats living outside of the USA."

We needed a refresh and re-set and the intensive helped us accomplish what we wanted.


Washington DC Retreat - Angela Voegele

We wanted to improve our communication, empathy, understanding, and affection in public. We had participated in some weekly sessions before, but we realized that going that route would be a very long process. We wanted and needed faster results.

Angela was very kind and her guidance came from a place with good intentions.

We re-connected and have improved our relationship by learning how to take time to work on it correctly. We learned how to have real conversations again, we were in a rut before and only discussed the mechanics of the household and the schedule.

We needed a defined schedule and process to work on how to be a couple again and concentrate on us, which we received. We needed to be taught about how to deal with anger and how to be empathetic towards each other, to avoid getting angry. We learned how to comfort one another and be compassionate which made a huge difference in repairing our relationship.

After being married for 18 years we needed a refresh and re-set and the intensive helped us accomplish what we wanted.

We were fortunate to have Dr. Gorman as our therapist.


Amherst MA Couples Retreat - Dr. Gorman

We needed some sense of order when we communicated over situations that we both felt strongly about.

Dr. Patricia Gorman was fantastic at listening to each of our sides, validating us, and bringing attention to what would work to build our bridges of differences toward better communication. We were fortunate to have Dr. Gorman as our therapist. I guess we could say we would have liked more time with her!

We understand each other’s “side” better and learned techniques to use when differences arise between us. We have a stronger commitment with a better understanding of why we each have differences and how to respect those differences and compromise in a healthy way.

I got my best friend back.


Washington DC Retreat - Angela Voegele

We bad communication, lack of sex.

We tried weekly therapy before. Things would be ok for a few hours after our session, but nothing really changed in the long run.

We did a lot of online research. This company worked best with our schedule and also had a great website.

Angela Voegele made me feel very comfortable and safe in sharing my concerns. After studying our Big Big Books, she seemed to know who exactly who we were and how are personalities clashes.

I wasn’t sure if we were going to be able to accept each other for the better but we learned how to listen and communicate. We now have quite a few tools to turn to when we start sliding back.

I got my best friend back. We have an exciting and reignited sex life. I feel accepted for who I am.

What would you say to couples that are considering working with Couples Therapy Inc.?

It’s the best thing that we could have ever done for our relationship

Angela was simply amazing!!

It it definitely worth the investment in your relationship.


Houston Texas Couples Retreat - Marisa Mundey

We were not communicating well & we didn't understand each other's POV [point of view.] We've been attending couples counseling off and on for years.

I wanted a marriage retreat/intensive that was not religiously based. I liked that CTI was a one-on-one set up for a weekend, it wasn't incredibly far from home and it was affordable.

My only concern was that CTI wouldn't deliver what was on the website.

Marisa Mundey was knowledgeable and really good at drawing me out to get to the root answer. I wish that the handouts that we received were already in a binder in a logical order - so we could focus on review and usage. We left with a better understanding of each other as individuals.

My husband and I have tools to help us communicate better and I have some defined areas to work on with my individual counselor.

What would you say to couples that are considering working with Couples Therapy Inc.?

Go with an open mind and heart. It is definitely worth the investment in your relationship.

The relationship was not in good shape. There were issues with trust and anger.


Berkshire Couples Retreat - Daniel Dashnaw

Daniel was very experienced, knowledgeable and showed a lot of empathy. He provided a safe environment to discuss our issues, he provided a lot of feedback and tools to assist with our communication skills. He helped us understand how important our marriage was to us.

It is the best $ we have invested for our family!!!


New South Wales, Australia - Jack O'Leary

Before working with Couples Therapy Inc. we felt disconnect and trouble communicating our needs. Jack O’Leary made us think and helped us to go within and find the answers ourselves! He created a gentle safe space. He listened and was able to always be objective whilst remaining sensitive to us. I loved his empowering solution-based approach.

We were hesitant to start because of the big financial investment. However, now we both remembered how much we love each other and how amazing our marriage can be. I became a lot more aware of my need to communicate my own needs clearly to my husband. I felt I could ask myself "what is this anger/frustration telling me about my needs and how can I clearly and lovingly communicate that."

It is the best $ we have invested for our family!!! I felt reconnected to and loved by my husband again. I felt I could communicate my needs to him better. I felt hope, optimism and enthusiasm about remaining married to my husband.

My husband wanted a divorce and to end the relationship immediately...


Washington DC Retreat - Angela Voegele

I wanted to see if we could save the marriage; my core goal was to stay together. We had tried some therapy sessions with local therapists but it was not really very helpful and I think it actually pushed my husband in the other direction.

We both loved Angela because she was extremely detail-oriented, pushed in the right places and discussed the things that we did not want to discuss, but had to. She was amazing really. She showed us how to talk to one another and see the other person's point of view based on their perspective and why they are coming from that point of view. I learned more about my husband in those 2.5 days than I had in our 11 years together.

The weekend opened both of us up to have conversations that in the three prior years we were not able to have so we were able to work things out between us. Ultimately it seems like after couple’s therapy my husband has become a completely different person. He is much happier after opening up and telling me the truth. He decided he wants to work on our relationship after all and that there is hope for us.

We would recommend Angela and Couples Therapy Inc. Angela was very thorough; she was not on either one of our sides, very neutral. She as extremely intelligent, sensitive and ultimately probably saved our marriage.

I felt I was on the last thread of a rope that tied my marriage together.


Washington DC Retreat - Angela Voegele

My core issues included: trust, communication, abusive behaviors.

Angela was calming for our situation. She understood many things and was able to help my husband and I put emotions into words. She provides a nice and comfortable venue for the sessions. I was able to open up with her and felt comfortable.

Since our work with Couples Therapy Inc. our communication has improved, I don't hold things in and I am trying to stop my "stonewalling". We share more positive comments and "thank you's" are given. I'm not on the computer/phone as much. All drinking has stopped in my other half.

Our marriage was very distant and cold, we wanted to improve communication


Houston Texas Couples Retreat - Marisa Mundey

This was our first time in couples therapy, we were hesitant because we thought that it would be a “bash the husband" session.

Since our work with Couples Therapy Inc. we are talking again and connecting daily about the little things. Three benefits that we have experienced; communication, love life, and addressing the issues we both had.

Marisa was fantastic!

She was very bi-partisan and listened to both of our issues. She gave great suggestions on how we can improve our marriage. Marisa is a great therapist and really helped both of us get through this rough patch.

Angela was not deterred when he stormed out...


Washington DC Retreat - Angela Voegele

I had filed for divorce.

Our core issues were my husband’s outbursts of anger, different beliefs in parenting style and a profound inability to communicate effectively with both feeling that the other wasn’t listening. My husband’s personality traits are exactly those of someone with a borderline personality disorder. He has never been in therapy, often distorts reality and typically considers suggestions as criticism.

It was very apparent that Angela Voegele did her homework and was prepared for our completely opposite personalities. Angela’s calm, patient demeanor was especially effective in dealing with my husband’s unpredictable mood changes and outbursts of anger. Angela was not deterred when he stormed out during the first two-hour session and was able to communicate with him.

We now know what triggers to avoid conflict and are making changes in our living arrangement that were a major factor in the breakdown of the marriage. We will each seek individual therapy and will continue marriage therapy.

Would you recommend your couples therapist and Couples Therapy Inc?

Absolutely yes.

Anything else you’d like to add?

Having our personality profiles explained to us was very helpful, but I believe for someone like my husband it would have been more helpful to explain to him that based on his profile he might have Borderline Personality Disorder and should seek therapy. He did tell Angela that he has an appointment to see a therapist but he has been saying that for years. Basically, a complete diagnosis for people with personality disorders would be more helpful.

Note:

Diagnosing personality disorders effectively would add significantly to our diagnostic process for couples that is already one of the most extensive in our profession. It's also a specialty to work one-on-one with individuals with a personality disorder, and usually involves both individual psychotherapy and group psychotherapy. I'm delighted to hear that Angela was able to work effectively with the affect dysregulation your husband displayed. Dysregulation, in one or both partners, is a common feature of a troubled marriage. So glad to hear you got the help you deserved. - Dr. K

I saw myself on video and that impacted how I will now communicate.


Washington DC Retreat - Angela Voegele

Before I called Couples Therapy Inc. the relationship was over for me. The issues to be resolved were my partners lies, lack of accountability, and a few others. I was done with the relationship, although I cared for him, and so I thought doing the therapy would be a waste of time and money.

The change was actually dramatic. I opened up and am allowing him to prove himself to me, which was his goal for the therapy. My partner and I now have some useful tools for connecting; I remembered my love for him again.

I loved the warm environment. I really liked that Angela soaked up and was involved in our discussions. There wasn't anything I didn't like or liked least, except I didn't want it to end because I learned so much. Angela was great! I would only want to see her again. It was like she's known us for years.

I already have recommended Couples Therapy Inc. to others because it's not just talk or a tagline. The intensive therapy gets into that which you wouldn't for months, if at all, with traditional 1-hr long therapy.

My husband was pushed to talk through the situation instead of withdrawing.


Mt. Pleasant (Charleston), South Carolina Retreat - Kent MacEachern

I was ready to contact a divorce lawyer. My husband was having a 3-year affair and we had severe social problems. But I wanted to be able to tell my kids one day that I did everything I could. Didn't have time for typical weekly therapy. My husband refused therapy up until now.

I wondered before we started if I could endure the pain of talking about his affair. Wondering if I could hold it together emotionally through the sessions. Worried how my husband would act.

My husband made the decision to end the affair and try again. The therapist [Kent McEachern] was able to confirm my guess that my husband has Asperger's. With the third person in the room, my husband talked to me for the first time in years.

I wanted to use a male therapist because I thought he would help me decode my husband's thoughts and feelings and I wanted my husband to feel like somebody was on his side. He wasn't as comforting and empathetic as a female counselor probably would have been but I really just had to get down to the business of fixing things and pragmatic worked best.

The affair was discussed and dealt with. My husband was pushed to talk through the situation instead of withdrawing. That therapist was able to introduce concepts that my husband remembered when we got home and repeated.

What would you say to couples that are considering working with Couples Therapy Inc.?

It's a great thing to do especially when you're reaching the end of the relationship.

Go ahead, be bold, do the homework (prep) fully and do the work. LISTEN


Columbia, Maryland, Couples Retreat - Dr. Scott Wolfe

We were married for 40 years. We were dealing with the effects of a multi-year on and off affair, and while we had begun to break open to positive territory, we felt it was really important to frame up the opening we had created between us - to consolidate and further the gains we had begun to make in the way we were relating.

After searching online and reviewing several options, we came across Scott Wolfe's website. We were impressed by Scott and the things he said there, including what he said about the intensives, which led us to Couples Therapy's website. And we were impressed by what we saw there as well - so we booked. One thing - perhaps peculiar to us: Scott had practiced here in Columbia MD for many years. Columbia is a unique community and we knew that there was an excellent chance that a therapist that had practiced here successfully would have a background of values that was a match for us. We were prepared to go to Nevada, but he had a free weekend coming up almost immediately planned for Columbia, so we grabbed it fast.We were not sure what to expect. Frankly, both of us have had less than stellar experiences with various individual therapists in the past. And we have both done extensive personal development work for 40 years. So while there were natural nerves, we knew we could handle anything that came up, and had already begun to deal with some of what we expected were the most difficult things to say to (and hear from) one another.

We were well on the way, but I think the weekend really solidified things for us. We are on a really good trajectory, enjoying being together...freer with one another than I think we've been in over 30 years. We had already begun to get to ownership of the whole 'mess'. This is a complicated thing to describe without it sounding like jargon - but in my case, I had already seen that my own actions of many years (35!) ago - seemingly harmless to me at the time - had set in motion an entire way of our being together. And in that sense, I could own...be fully responsible for... the fact that my wife had had an affair (and I HAD been feeling wronged, etc.). This is not to justify anything she did or I did (in fact - wrong domain... no freedom there, just righteous anger and justification). But it began to let the air out of the balloon, to dissipate the 'charge' for me, which allowed it to do the same for her.. all the hurts, etc. Scott was an invaluable guide, witness, coach etc as we continued to pull the threads. I also think it is important to say that we did NOT have a horrible relationship for most of our marriage. Far from it. We successfully raised a daughter and had many good times. But guess what - it was all on top of a seemingly small betrayal of 35 years ago that rather than effectively dealing with at the time, we 'managed' around, which set the inevitable in motion. That got completed at the weekend.

Scott was fabulously safe and non-judgmental. It was clear that he has heard it all and could listen to anything. He was clearly FOR us as US and as individuals.

[Three benefits from working with CTI…] Paying attention - remembering 'turning toward'. Checking in with one another. We have an open future now. We had a predictable (and not a GOOD predictable) future before.

What would you say to couples that are considering working with Couples Therapy Inc.?

Go ahead, be bold, do the homework (prep) fully and do the work. LISTEN

We are glad we found you. And for myself - I am glad we found and chose you and Scott.

I would recommend anyone to use Couples Therapy Inc.


Atlanta, GA Couples Retreat - Dr. Powell

The core issues we wanted to improve were communication and understanding but we were hesitant about the price. We went to another therapist together instead but it went poorly.

What changes resulted from your work with Couples Therapy Inc?

I thought the intensive weekend was very helpful. I liked Dr. Powell’s even approach and focus on Gottman methods. We still have challenges, but the weekend was a great way to make deposits into each other’s emotional bank account. We have much better ways to communicate. We’ve slowed down our discussions so they don’t spiral out of control. We identified some core conflicts and helped to “declaw” them. We have better communication, better understanding and empathy towards each other and better skills moving forward.

Dr. K saved our marriage.


Boston / Berkshire Retreat - Dr. K

When we first contacted Couples Therapy Inc., our relationship was in danger of ending. We were having a lot of trouble communicating. We were fighting a lot. There was a lot of resentment toward one another. We were on the brink of giving up our 39-year marriage.

We had never tried couples therapy in the past.

When researching other options, we both liked the one-on-one experience and read multiple reviews from other couples. We felt all of the therapists were very qualified.

Once we made our decision to start couples therapy we never looked back and booked our appointment with Dr. Kathy McMahon immediately.

We both learned a significant amount about each other. A lot of the way we both behave today stems from our childhoods. We understand each other so much better now. We learned a lot of techniques to communicate in a positive way.

Dr. K was very direct, yet easy to talk to. She gave us great direction. She was very knowledgeable. She made us feel very comfortable and we could share anything with her. She really seemed to study our Big Big Book. She knew so much about us before we ever showed up. We never felt like strangers around her. We felt she was our cheerleader and really wanted the best for us. She continued to remind us how strong our marriage actually is. If anything we would have loved more time with her.

We really understand one another better now, and we also understand ourselves much better. We returned home feeling rejuvenated. We are practicing our techniques to improve our communication.

We would strongly recommend this to other couples but would recommend going in with an open mind.

What would you say to couples that are considering working with Couples Therapy Inc.?

We both would strongly recommend Couples Therapy Inc. because Dr. K saved our marriage. She made us see things more clearly. She set us up for success by providing us with many tools. We couldn't have asked for anything more.

It’s like a breath of fresh air not having to walk on egg shells.


Boston / Berkshire Retreat - Dr. K

Our relationship was rough. We had no idea how to communicate.

I was concerned that it was going to be a lot to take in within 2 days.

Dr. Kathy McMahon knew her stuff. Anything we threw at her she had already dealt with and knew how to approach it. It’s only been a few days since we went but there have already been a few positive changes. When we don’t agree on something we can talk it out like adults.

It was expensive but well worth the happiness it brings both of you.

What would you say to couples that are considering working with Couples Therapy Inc.?

Just do it. It’s so worth it. It’s like a breath of fresh air not having to walk on eggshells.

I am feeling positive about the future.


New South Wales, Australia - Jack O'Leary

I was close to accepting that our relationship was over. We were not getting anywhere and needed intervention.

The intensive mode was preferable and in a safe place away from our home town. My husband told me the research showed the intensive mode was more successful than ongoing therapy.

Jack was fabulous and was very knowledgeable. He challenged us both and was professional at all times. I felt very safe with him.

I feel much more on track and able to have better discussions with my husband. My husband has also accepted some responsibility for aspects of the problems so I am feeling positive about the future.

It was extremely worthwhile and got our relationship back on track.

What three benefits resulted from working with Couples therapy Inc.?

  • Better communication
  • Clear strategies to improve communication
  • Honesty with each other

We feel confident in our new tools and skills that Dr. Doug has taught us.


Overland Park, Kansas Couples Retreat - Dr. Burford

Our relationship was troubled. We had begun couples therapy weekly regimens prior to attending Couples Therapy Inc. It didn't feel that we did much or progressed much in our weekly sessions. Also, the therapist seemed to have to be reminded of our problems because she didn’t seem to remember anything about us each week.

Dr. Doug Burford, was very kind and easy to talk with. He was great at promoting spiritual involvement without feeling preached to. And he listened to what we have done and adjusted anything he needed to meet our needs.

He was absolutely great. We feel confident in our new tools and skills that Dr. Doug has taught us. He finds ways of conveying information and skills in a way that sticks and always you to reinforce and build on them. We have improved our conflict communication and resolutions. We can express our feelings in a productive manner without using bad phrases or words. And we feel stronger that we can face future challenges together as a team.

We feel we are now capable of continuing healing and communicating without hurting each other. We have new tools and don’t fear a potential conflict.

We had an amazing experience with Couples Therapy Inc. The whole process has helped us so much. My husband and I feel like we have a renewed relationship or new in general. We know each other on a deeper level that we never knew existed and now we can pursue getting stronger.

Jenny Fang saved our marriage.


Orange County California Couples Retreat - Jenny Fang

Our relationship was distant, with no connection. We wanted to reconnect and move on from anger.

Jenny was amazing at seeing what we were trying to say and where our pain came from. We really enjoyed going each day, we looked forward to her input.

Now, we are closer, we have a connection and can see past our previous anger. Jenny Fang saved our marriage, I did not see any option except divorce and now I see our future again.

What would you say to couples that are considering working with Couples Therapy Inc.?

I would highly suggest it!! You have nothing to lose.

We tried couples therapy before and it didn’t work.


Orange County California Couples Retreat - Jenny Fang

We were on the verge of divorce. We wanted to improve communication and address issues with our sex life.

We tried couples therapy before and it didn’t work.

Jenny Fang had a very calming, caring disposition which made it easy to open up and be honest during the therapy session. Our communication has gotten better. We now have a better understanding of each other, better communication, and a better understanding of how to deal with issues from the past that affect us today.

I would recommend Jenny as a therapist.

Just truly amazing—thank you for dedicating your lives to something that helps other lives.


Atlanta Georgia Couples Retreat - Dr. Alisha Powell

Before the retreat our relationship was horrible!!! We tried other couples therapy and it was not successful at all...y'all offered something drastic and different and that is what we needed.

We have a better understanding of managing the gridlock and when to step back and deal with certain emotions that are not productive. We have understanding, patience, and acceptance when we don’t agree.

We walked away laughing and having such a great time!!! We are dedicated to our marriage and Alisha Powell gave us the tools we needed to stay dedicated. I hate knowing people aren't aware of Couples Therapy Inc. before divorce papers are signed. This system can save marriages and it can prevent marriages from happening.

Just truly amazing—thank you for dedicating your lives to something that helps other lives.

We were on the wrong road and this weekend put us on the right road.


Los Angeles Couples Retreat - Havi Kligfeld

Before we contacted CTI we were; unhappy, teetering, with a poor ability to connect and manage conflict.

Havi Kligfeld was confident, she had a plan, and was evidence-based. We improved conflict management, improved kindness, and improved understanding.

We took an 180-degree turn. We developed a new shared story, techniques to manage conflict with extended "speaker-listener" techniques, and my husband learned to "see my pain" and to renew his supportive role in my life. A few happened in therapy, but the time we spent together AROUND the therapy was where we had the most amazing breakthroughs. So therapy was a catalyst for us to rediscover our ability to heal. We were on the wrong road and this weekend put us on the right road.

It was a miracle. Benefits are continuing. We were both highly motivated and had been together for our whole lives and agreed on many many things so that may have made it easier for us, but we were truly stuck. Thank you!

What would you say to couples that are considering working with Couples Therapy Inc.?

DO IT. Worth it. Intake is great to be very clear about what is going to happen, it reduces fear.

For the first time in many years, I feel like we are headed in a good direction.


Las Vegas, Nevada Couples Retreat - Dr. Scott Wolfe

[From a recent client to Dr. Wolfe]

I just wanted to say thank you again for a really good weekend. For the first time in many years, I feel like we are headed in a good direction. I feel more at peace and I believe my partner does too. We have had a few good days since we left and feel grateful for your guidance.

I was reluctant to open up to a total stranger....


The Berkshires of Western MA Couples Retreat - Daniel Dashnaw

My main hesitation was just opening up and telling someone about the personal issues we were dealing with and some of the root causes for our problems. We had considered couples therapy before, but this was the first time we ever met someone to discuss our issues.

I was reluctant to open up to a total stranger.

Daniel was very understanding of our problems. He spoke to us in a way we could easily relate to. He didn't judge our mistakes but gave us tools as to how to correct and avoid them in the future. Dan helped us remember how great our marriage and relationship was at one point and taught us how we can get back to that place or even a better place in the future.

We've been more connected, our communication has been much better than before, and we are better at addressing one another if we disagree.

Our physical connection and closeness has also improved tremendously. Our sex life is much more active.

Dan was amazing. My wife and I have both said how much he helped us, and that we may not have been able to save our marriage without his help.

For that, it's been worth the time and money spent...

His knowledge and insight will follow me for the rest of my life.

We tried couples therapy once before and it was unsuccessful.


Houston Texas Couples Retreat - Marisa Mundey

My marriage was on the verge of divorce before couples therapy. We wanted to learn how to disagree in a calmer way. I was willing to try anything to help improve and save my marriage. We tried couples therapy once before and it was unsuccessful (probably because we only attempted one session).

Marisa Mundey was patient and had actually used our pre-work to help move straight to our problems. We finally got a chance to address a few of our top issues. After the sessions were over, however, I felt as if the therapist was relieved and ready to move on. She was extremely nice, but there was no immediate follow-up or opportunity to schedule more sessions (and I asked).

The programs and material are good, but one weekend isn't long enough for all couple situations. It was a lot of money and we somewhat practiced the therapy skills for about 2 - 3 days following. Then our relationship resumed its bad habits and continued as if couples therapy never happened.

As of now, I am making arrangements to separate from him and possibly divorce.

I would recommend this therapist but not Couples Therapy, Inc. I was hesitant about spending so short amount of time, to help improve 8 years of built up relationship issues. Although we spent 2.3 days discussing our relationship issues, it was nowhere near enough time to divulge as deep as we needed on more specific issues. Also, not enough time to practice various scenarios of the couple exercises.

I would not recommend this treatment. I'd suggest couples find a therapist and schedule ongoing sessions. This way they have the ability to continue working on their issues with that particular therapist.

From Dr. K: To clarify for this client, Marisa does, in fact, schedule regular ongoing follow-up with couples in Texas. Relapse prevention is an important part of science-based couples therapy. In addition, if our couples prefer to work with a local therapist in weekly work, we contact the couples therapist of your choice and provide guidance, based upon the work you've accomplished with us, and feedback to this new therapist, to help you accomplish your long-term goals. Our Intensives are a "jump-start," and don't promise to be an end solution for every client. Please contact Marisa for either ongoing online work, or for help finding a local weekly therapist.

We briefly tried couples therapy before.


Austin, Texas Couples Retreat - Jennifer Elkins

We were tense before we came. We briefly tried couples therapy before. Before we even started the counseling, I was slightly concerned about the quality...It's a lot of money to be spending, so I wanted every assurance that it was a polished, professional program!

Jennifer Elkins left us with a better understanding of what caused the problems, we're better able to work through them. I loved it that she could relate to my ADHD issues and had a clear understanding of the stress it causes. She was warm and empathetic, and we BOTH felt an immediate and sustained connection. She was easy to trust on every level. We left understanding the causes, tools to get out of the immediate conflict, and renewed commitment. Obviously my experience was a good one in the end, but I was uncertain in the beginning.

I felt no appreciation for who I am.


Orange County California Couples Retreat - Jenny Fang

How would you describe your relationship before you called Couples Therapy Inc.?
Over, I didn’t feel like a real partner, I wasn’t able to contribute as a parent for my son, and I felt no appreciation for who I am.

What changes resulted in your marriage/relationship from your work with Couples Therapy Inc.?
The remedies to all of the core issues seem possible.

Had you considered or tried couples therapy before?
Yes, 6 others. Our relationship continued to degrade

What specific qualities did you like most and least about working with this therapist?
Jenny's perception in the moments and ability to identify our issues.

Would you recommend your couples therapist and Couples Therapy Inc?
Absolutely! We are looking forward to our follow up sessions.

I discovered that my husband had been unfaithful in the marriage that left me feeling devastated, alone, betrayed, angry, confused, and aggrieved.


Boston / Berkshire Couples Retreat - Daniel Dashnaw

Issue: Infidelity—I discovered that my husband had been unfaithful in the marriage that left me feeling devastated, alone, betrayed, angry, confused, and aggrieved. I was not sure how to handle the situation on my own. Reaching out to an experienced therapist was my only and most valuable recourse. I did not have any hesitation or reservations. I had talked to Daniel a couple of times over the phone before deciding on therapy sessions with him and had an instant connection with him as a very able therapist.

Daniel served as a supportive listener as each of us expressed our emotions regarding the infidelity and helped us determine our needs and future goals for the relationship, whether we choose to maintain or end it. It is too early to say that changes have happened but I am using his guidance and assistance to discover my level of commitment to the relationship, the possibility of repairing trust, and most importantly healing.

Dan's qualities I liked the most; his empathy, trustworthiness, flexibility, ability to explain symptoms, willingness to continue working with us and his unconditional positive regard for us both. He provided hope, optimism and encouragement.

I feel very grateful to him for being a patient listener.

The intensive allowed for a deeper dive.


Washington DC Retreat - Angela Voegele

We needed to work on trust and intimacy. We were concerned, however, that an Intensive would be too much. Instead, the intensive allowed for a deeper dive, instant practice on repairing with each other, and a chance to start the earnest repair sooner than we would have. It was easy to organize and a good investment in their relationship.

We learned techniques for improving our connection.

Angela was fine. She was very good at getting to the root of our problems.

She didn't make me feel like the "bad guy" or baby my partner for being the "victim.”


Washington DC Retreat - Angela Voegele

Our relationship was very rocky because of a recent affair, which had my partner wanting to leave me.

We never tried couples therapy before.

Angela was very honest and understanding of both of our sides but didn't baby us. She didn't make me feel like the "bad guy" or baby my partner for being the "victim.” She gave us concrete tools to work on our marriage. We would have liked even more "scenarios" to test out different techniques of discussing conflicts, etc.

It worked to get my partner in the mindset to work on things. There is more understanding and willingness on my partner's part to work on things.

My partner is open to working on the marriage, she understood why I had the affair and we felt positive about our marriage after the therapy.

What would you say to couples that are considering working with Couples Therapy Inc.?

Do it.

It really digs deep and gets to the bottom of issues.


Amherst MA Couples Retreat - Dr. Gorman

There was a distance between us that needed to be investigated and repaired.

Dr. Gorman was very helpful and did not favor one of us over the other. She was able to identify the big issues and help us focus on them, she did a good job. It really digs deep and gets to the bottom of issues. We did learn a lot and came away with some tools that should help us in the future.

We now have a better understanding of each other, tools to work within the future, and a resource we can call on in the future if we have more problems. We are both very glad we did it.

What would you say to couples that are considering working with Couples Therapy Inc.?

Definitely worth trying.

I would highly recommend Dan Dashnaw. Especially if your companion is stubborn.


Boston / Berkshire Couples Retreat - Daniel Dashnaw

I loved Dan’s honesty and ability to teach. My husband was able to recognize my hurt and respond in a much more emphatic way. If you are looking for straight forward honesty, I would highly recommend Dan Dashnaw. Especially if your companion is stubborn.

It is the best investment we've made in our marriage.


Missoula Retreat - Jim Ramsey

We tried traditional counseling. My husband felt it was one-sided. I felt I wasn't ready to reconcile. It wasn’t successful at all.

We had turned a corner after a year's separation, and both of us wanted to try one more shot before a divorce. We chose Couples Therapy because of the science behind the method, and the intense weekend therapy.

James Ramsey was so good at explaining how women and men think and act differently. He didn’t judge one spouse over the other. He had our backgrounds and gave us insight into why our communication and actions were not working well together and caused our conflicts.

Now we are understanding each other better and have the ability to talk about things calmly, not judging or becoming defensive. We've learned to be empathic to each other's needs and to consider compromise. And what words and actions have triggered past behavior.

What would you say to couples that are considering working with Couples Therapy Inc.?

If you are committed, go. You will learn a lot. It is the best investment we've made in our marriage. This would be greatly helpful for couples who want to be emotionally close, better understand each other, and communicate better at any stage in their relationship.

Both parties need to be open and to hear the information. We needed to hear things from another source rather than each other.

We felt like we needed a quick fix for our problem.


Amherst MA Couples Retreat - Dr. Gorman

We have a solid relationship however, we are currently dealing with a major business-related issue which brought to the surface communication issues and emotional betrayal within the relationship. This situation has caused several escalating arguments between us and that was the reason we choose an ICR [Intensive Couples Retreat.]

We hadn't done any type of couples therapy before and we definitely learned a lot about ourselves, each other and how we needed to alter our communications.

What made you choose Couples Therapy Inc.?

We felt like we needed a quick fix for our problem.

What I liked best was that Patricia could tell when we need to dig deeper into an issue and we would spend the time doing that deeper work and we gained clarification and understanding around these issues that were caustic to our relationship.

We were able to get into a session within a month’s time, we gained improved communication skills, and we understand our deeper issues within our current situation. We enjoyed working with Patricia and we plan to continue to see her monthly for now.

What would you say to couples that are considering working with Couples Therapy Inc.?

If you truly want to improve your relationship and you are will to do the work than this type of therapy will definitely help.

Thank you, Angela, for bringing us back together.


Washington DC Retreat - Angela Voegele

Our relationship was near the end with a lack of trust and misdiagnosis of intentions, wants, and needs.

Previous couples therapy was slightly successful, but at one visit/week it had limited effectiveness. It was emotionally-based therapy.

We were nearing our end, and we needed to go all in for our last attempt. [We were hesitant about] hearing the truths, receiving the unadulterated diagnosis, and concerned that things would not change regardless of the therapy.

Angela’s approach to us, her ability to speak openly and honestly about our issues, and her knowledge of the Gottman Method opened up my Wife so that healing could occur and it drastically altered (for the good) her misinterpretation of me, my actions, intentions, and persona. We liked Angela’s openness, honesty, emotion, and knowledge of our situation and Gottman. [We have] Increased trust, greater openness, and communication through a feeling of safety.

Angela was amazing to work with through the intense therapy. Although it wasn’t easy for me or my wife, we both came out of it with an in-depth understanding of each other, our relationship, and past family and personal hurts. Angela help us start the healing process and we are much closer now than we ever were. Thank you, Angela, for bringing us back together.

What would you say to couples that are considering working with Couples Therapy Inc.?

Absolutely do it. The benefits/potential benefits far outweigh the investment.

I would recommend Dr. McMahon without hesitation.


Boston / Berkshire Retreat - Dr. K

Our relationship was positive and in recovery, but we still struggled with deep attachment wounds we had individually and later, between us. We are both earnest and comprehensive in the life we are seeking together. We have many new tools to work through together. We are learning how to communicate amygdala-to-amygdala. The Gottman practical skills are also a useful framework for day-to-day conflict. We are still internalizing bigger messages about our own development and how that fits into our marriage.

Who was your couples therapist? Excellent. We appreciated Dr. McMahon's direct approach, breadth of knowledge and ability to see our situation from a new and fresh perspective.

Most: She knows what she is doing in complicated situations and has the confidence to address issues she sees in a direct way. Least: We needed more time to digest in pieces.

The weekend format was great and is likely the best format for couples that need very intensive and consistent intervention. However, the BEST format for us would be 3 hours every two weeks for 12 weeks or something like that. Our issues are intense, but we are not in crisis. I think we do best when we can work intensely, close that down, break for several days/week, process, distil our questions down to one or two and then come back to answer those. We fatigued, but I think the issues still have energy. Our issues were marathons - not sprints.

What changes resulted?

1. A fresh perspective on our unique issues. 2. New skills to practice and utilize tailored specifically to our relationship. 3. Hope.

What follow-up services would be helpful?

A summary of Dr. McMahon's impressions for each individual and then the couple/marriage. Three paragraphs of her straight impressions and advice. No nonsense. Big picture. Summary.

I would recommend Dr. McMahon without hesitation.

I went from hopeless, to hopeful.


Las Vegas, Nevada Couples Retreat - Dr. Scott Wolfe

I was at a point where I was debating on leaving the marriage, due to anger issues & no communication. Looking back, I'd say previous couples therapy was unsuccessful long term or short term. Possibly, just a temporary relief/fix.

I heard about CTI’s reputation from a magazine article sent out to help couples with marital stress. The cost was my only hesitation.

I am finally hopeful for a possible turn around from the fear I had.

Scott Wolfe was patient. He kept to the task at hand. He was focused, compassionate, hopeful and had faith in the method you use. It provided a way to look at the marriage & relate in a way no other therapist we have previously seen did. I am no longer afraid of my partner. I went from hopeless, to hopeful. I look forward to the continued growth we learned from the therapist.

What would you say to couples that are considering working with Couples Therapy Inc.?

I'd say that I know it is expensive, but if you are open to working on your marriage, then this seems like an effective tool.

My kids have their dad back home.


Boston / Berkshire Couples Retreat - Daniel Dashnaw

Our relationship was completely toxic and essentially over.

My wife researched [CTI] and asked me to do it with her. My only hesitation was that we had just separated and I wasn't sure if I wanted to get back together.

It's still early days, but I feel like it turned out to be the best solution for our marriage (much better than separation, and much, much better than the way things were before.)

What I liked most was that Daniel didn't mess around. He just got right to it and got us on track.

This is the most excited I've felt about my marriage and my life since our wedding. My kids have their dad back home. I feel hope for the first time in a long time. I no longer feel like I have to choose between work and marriage.

What would you say to couples that are considering working with Couples Therapy Inc.?

This was no small amount of money for us to spend, but if you're at your wit's end, it's worth every penny.

Jennifer used her personal experience..


Austin, Texas Couples Retreat - Jennifer Elkins

So I would describe our marriage as troubled but not in crisis.

Communications, interactions, sex were issues. I think there was an immediate bounce (in relating), and unless one stays on focus, things can become troubled again... Jennifer used personal experience to highlight her point. Three benefits from working in this retreat?

  1. Finding reasons for why we are who we are;

  2. learning more about each other; and

  3. learning to feel what the other is feeling...

I'd absolutely recommend Jenn and Couples Therapy Inc.

It was well done and would do it again...

Angela was excellent and very good at listening and understanding.


Washington DC Retreat - Angela Voegele

Our relationship was a disaster, lack of communication and trust. Our previous therapy was completely unsuccessful. Angela was excellent and very good at listening and understanding. We have more understanding of; our behavior, that we are both at fault, and how to communicate with each other.

What would you say to couples that are considering working with Couples Therapy Inc.?

BEST CHOICE YOU CAN MAKE.

I don't think it accomplished even a portion of what it promised to accomplish...And, to be frank, I was pissed about it.


Mt. Pleasant (Charleston), South Carolina Retreat - Kent MacEachern

We were at an impasse, semi-seriously considering divorce. Our communication was non-existent. Wife felt invisible. Husband felt like he couldn't do anything right. Lots of fighting. Wife does everything. Husband works. Wasn't the plan from the outset.

Very angry, disappointed, and hopeless.

We tried couples therapy before twice. Did not do it long enough for good results. Felt like we weren't learning anything we didn't already know. So we searched online. Thought the intensive weekend seemed smart and efficient. I know and appreciate John Gottman's work and theories. Kent, our therapist, had over 30 years experience in couples-specific therapy. My husband has a job where he can't leave during the day...so we needed something non-traditional. Big book seemed to push the whole process forward, as if we would be starting in the middle of a year of therapy, with all background out there and reviewed.

But would it be enough time? Would we get "there" in the weekend? Would it be actionable and not theoretical?

We were very encouraged by the fact that Kent had so much experience and had been working with couples for decades. We also liked his demeanor and the fact that he remained a therapist and didn't try and be "chummy," which has been an issue with lots of therapists before.

Also, it was encouraging that it wasn't all talk therapy, but action therapy.

That said, during our first hour, Kent was already discussing additional "catch-up" appointments we would need. On day-two, he had introduced an additional six-week course he thought we could take. While we agreed with both, we felt we were kind of being upsold before even starting what we paid for. He engaged in a lot of small talk that I felt was a waste of our time and money. I suspect that he was trying to create a rapport.

I personally felt like I had to keep us on track, stating at least once on all three days, "Okay...let's get to work" or "Let's get going, we have a lot to accomplish." I found all of the therapy to be slow. When it was my turn for my one-hour private session with Kent, we spent 90% of it talking about my husband and not me. I was confused.

And I frankly didn't understand why we'd spent so, so, so, so much time on the Big Book because there were basic facts (like how long we'd been married) that he didn't seem to know. (I wasn't confident he's spent much time reading our books.) Because of the books, I expected to come in and have him give us a list, written or verbal, of where we stood, what he'd learned about us specifically from our books, where we needed to work in Gottman's "house," what he saw as our major issues or struggles, how HE viewed US from our books.

He kind of, vaguely, started to do that on Friday, but it became very general, very quickly. As far as I can tell, he didn't have any notes written down, at least he didn't refer to them. He also didn't have anything prepared for us. When he needed a Gottman handout for us, he went to his big pack of files for it (he didn't have anything prepared in advance, either of the workshop or on day 2 or 3).

At lunchtime on Sunday, I literally lost it. I completely lost it, bawling and crying, because I felt like we hadn't gotten anywhere, because he had made a statement that implied that he had NO CONCEPT of what my main issues were and how seriously I was floundering mentally as a result of the heavy responsibilities put onto me in the marriage (which I had written about extensively and discussed in previous days). To his credit, he offered to stay "as long as it would take" that night to help us. But it was too late. We had a 6 hour drive home. All of the slow-moving throughout the weekend caught up to us.

And, to be frank, I was pissed about it.

I wondered if perhaps, I had erred in wanting an experienced therapist (who, perhaps, felt like he'd already seen everything over his career and didn't need as much preparation, rather than a new therapist who would have worked their butt off to prepare and would have given it 100%.)

We did identify some action items that we needed to incorporate...weekly marriage meeting, reviewing resources, etc. We learned ways of approaching conflict/issues via the conversation wheel. We ID-ed our major issues and why we have them.

But no, I wouldn't recommend it. I don't think it accomplished even a portion of what it promised to accomplish, or what was praised in reviews from other couples who'd done the program. As time has passed since the weekend, and I've discussed it with friends, my focus has been NOT on what we learned and how it's helped us but on how disappointed I was in it and the process.

That said, we are likely going to pay for a follow up with Kent because we have invested FAR beyond our budget on this therapy and we at least have a history with him and know that he "knows" us. It wouldn't be wise or efficient to start over with someone else at this point. Nor could we afford it.

What three benefits resulted from working with Couples therapy Inc.?

  1. We identified some practical action items we can do to improve our communication and division of labor.
  2. We recognized that my husband's communication skills are basically non-existent and we MUST address that directly and ASAP.
  3. We learned an interesting approach to conflict resolution that may lower the temperature during interactions between us and between all members of our family.

What would you say to couples that are considering working with Couples Therapy Inc.?

Investigate other options. Interview many therapists first. Ask to interview couples who have worked with the therapist you choose before you choose them. Send a list to the therapist you choose ahead of time of what your specific expectations are and what you expect to accomplish. Be proactive during the therapy itself.

Note from Dr. K

First, I appreciate this reviewer for their thorough comments. I can assure you that every clinician reads and studies the BIG BIG Book and incorporates this understanding into the weekend therapy. And it is true that not every intensive can stand alone or produce dramatic results. It sounds like your relationship had an unevenly matched set of communication skills, and seemed very slow to you, as your partner "caught up." It is also to your credit that you recognize Kent's clinical skills as needed beyond this single weekend. And that you feel that he does "know" you both. But your disappointment, hurt and anger is very evident, and for that our apologies for falling short of your expectations. And thanks again for taking the time to provide this review.

We didn't know if we could make it one more week together.


Berkshire Retreat - Dr. K

We hadn't been to couples therapy before and this was extremely helpful. We loved Dr. K and wish she was closer. She was compassionate, articulate, understood us, and easy to speak with.

We didn't know if we could make it one more week together. I was praying it was going to help us. However, there is always a certain amount of anxiety with something new.

Results? Well, we are still working on our core issue, but we realize through the therapy what we had, and that our marriage wasn't hopeless. My husband was humbled by it, and he has made many changes that were recommended. She made him see things from a different perspective that I couldn't. He was not sharing with his therapist what he needed to in order to grow and become a better person. He was self-destructive. He now is working on that - which gives me and us hope. We have the skills for coping when I get crazy angry. We are talking better. Also, that how you speak to someone makes a difference in the results you get. I realize if I criticize him he's only going to get defensive so I use my words carefully! We use the results of how well we know each other and where we scored as a couple to help us also in seeing that we still have enough left in this relationship to work on it.

I already have recommended Couples Therapy Inc and Dr. K. Alot of married couples lose what they have over the years and take each other for granted.
They'll invest money in a house or car, when their relationship is most important.

Well, we have a few more sessions with her and I'm looking forward to that. We also set ourselves up with a therapist here.

I just wish we had one more day.

He seemed to genuinely want us to stay together...


The Berkshires - Daniel Dashnaw

Dan's most admirable quality as our therapist was that he seemed to genuinely want us to stay together and work to fix our marriage. I never felt like he was just coldly and indifferently going through the academic motions of a therapist.

His input felt more like a family member with a lot of training and wisdom advising us on how to better communicate, understand each other, and unpack our various individual and joint issues. Dan had a genuine humility, which made his at times challenging demands of us much more palatable. I never felt bullied or obligated to do anything.

I was, admittedly, a bit worried that I would be attacked and admonished throughout the weekend.


Boston / Berkshire Couples Retreat - Daniel Dashnaw

There was much tension due to difficulty communicating - something we let fester for years. This was the primary issue we needed to improve.

My partner’s research and Daniel Dashnaw's book and blog posts were the primary reasons we chose CTI.

I was, admittedly, a bit worried that I would be attacked and admonished throughout the weekend.

Daniel immediately established a welcoming, comfortable environment for both of us with kindness, sympathy, directness, and thoroughness.

We are doing much better - communicating more clearly and responding to each other more readily. We have; better communication, comfortable affection, tools to continue improvement in our relationship.

What would you say to couples that are considering working with Couples Therapy Inc.?

The intensive weekend is well worth the investment.

I was ready to end the relationship, I had even told him to leave.


Boston / Berkshire Couples Retreat - Daniel Dashnaw

The core issue for me was no trust in the relationship, I didn't even realize how the constant jabs at me had just worn me out.

We had tried other couples therapy for a short time. We stopped going when the therapist was unable to offer any type of assistance or even ideas of things to try or think about in any area. It was very disappointing.

Daniel Dashnaw was our therapist at Couples Therapy Inc. I loved that he was able to word things in a way we could each understand, specifically out of our fumbling attempts to say what we were thinking. I also loved that he was willing to call it as he saw it. Him being blunt and therefore understandable took a lot of stress off worrying that we wouldn't have a clue what he was talking about. We really needed help with understanding and stopping some long term negative behaviors that were driving us apart. He had to both point out, and step in to stop the "negative jabs." I appreciated his ability to do this and in addition the important part of teaching us why it’s not helpful, and how to correct the problem.

We now we have a much deeper understanding of how a person’s past really does affect their present way of doing things. It allows a lot more empathy. We are now struggling to learn new ways of communicating and giving needed positive feedback that are much better for both of us. I am willing to keep trying and not give up entirely.

As Daniel said often, neither of us ever had a chance to learn how a normal relationship works. We both need we-ness to feel better and to overcome our past. Burying the past doesn't work it keeps seeping into relationships and making them a mess.

What are three benefits from working with Couples Therapy Inc.?

(1) We are still together, it was so bad I almost ended the relationship before making it there. I told him to call and cancel it a week before the appointment.

(2) I have hope. Because we have specific loving and kind patterns to replace our horrible patterns we could turn into one of those wonderful couples you see who are really happy with each other. And even when we disagree we are kind and respectful to each other.

(3) We each came away with several big understandings on what we do, or fail to do, and the effect they have on each other. We have been each trying hard to implement what Dan taught us, which is instantly beneficial. I understand how important hearing compliments are to my honey that I am making a point to give much more freely, and when he does those awful negative jabs at me, not even realizing it, I have a tool to ask him to re-word and state how bad they make me feel. He has been putting a huge effort to word things in much nicer ways.

I would recommend both our therapist and Couples Therapy Inc to anyone having issues. I learned more in two days than I had ever learned in all the classes and reading I had ever had about how to actually have a lasting, loving relationship, and what a relationship even is, or even how to communicate.

For someone to explain "why" and give you the tools to communicate effectively with understanding of your own personal weaknesses and strengths is priceless. It may be a generic pattern that is helpful to anyone, but without guidance and practice under supervision it just doesn't make sense. Plus without the 3rd party to referee, couples like us would just miss the whole point and continue to argue we are right without even realizing we never even heard the problem.

It has been a blessing...and fun too.


Houston Texas Couples Retreat - Marisa Mundey

Thank you so much for all that you offered us, Marisa. This has been such a great experience!!! I have implemented your ideas and it has been a blessing to us and fun too. I realized how much I had a guard up and how it was effecting both of us.

Thanks again, you are an angel!

I was going to file for divorce.


Northern California Couples Retreat - Lisa Lund

Before Couples Therapy Inc. we went to some who were totally unqualified to handle our needs. I was going to file for divorce. Lack of communication and suspicion of infidelity were the core issues.

I liked everything about Lisa and I have nothing negative to say. She was so helpful in the way she kept us on track and figured out what we should be working on to get the maximum benefit in the time frame we had.

We're learning to communicate about things in our relationship that were potentially going to cause the marriage to end. Now we have tools and exercises that allow us to become much closer to each other and a direction for us to grow in for a happier and healthier relationship. It was emotionally, spiritually, and physically moving. I'm very happy I did it and will always be grateful for what it did for us.

I would recommend couples therapy even for healthy marriages.

Working with Lisa stopped a divorce, improved communication, and brought us together in a way we haven't had since we first became involved with each other romantically.

Husband: I feel that this was a one-sided therapy... Wife: I loved his directness and expertise, knowledge.


Berkshire Couples Retreat - Daniel Dashnaw

Wife: On the brink of divorce. Emotional control and domination on my husbands part.
Husband: Had more communication issues with my spouse.

Wife: I was hesitant about spending the money not knowing if it would make a difference.
Husband: I had no hesitation.

Changes?

Wife: It's only been 10 days it's hard to know if the change is permanent but we are using the tools in how to better communicate and express my feelings without making my partner feel threatened.
Husband: Listen, be patient hear your spouse.

Had you tried couples therapy before?

Wife: Traditional marriage counseling once a week for 6 months. Things just seemed to get worse.
Husband: No we had not heard of couples therapy (inc?).

Who was your therapist? What did you like most/least?

Wife: Daniel. I loved his directness and expertise knowledge. I felt heard, known, seen and understood.
Husband: Upfront and forward. I feel that this was a one-sided therapy and that it looked at the individual that was hurt the most. No effort to determine if the other person had any validity. I can see why this was done but the other person also needs some listening to.

Would you recommend your couples therapist and Couples Therapy Inc?

Wife: Absolutely!
Husband: Yes

What benefits resulted?

Wife: Better communication skills. Anger under control. A better understanding of my emotional state.
Husband: I feel we are closer and my spouse has put some walls down, is willing to let go some of the past behind us, although she still wants to know why. We never discussed the root causes and she wants closure.

More?

Wife: It was a very productive and enjoyable experience. I would have easily welcomed another 1/2 or full day.

I was concerned that my husband would not respect the therapist.


Boston / Berkshire Retreat - Dr. K

We were in dire straits. I wanted the verbal abuse to cease and I was concerned that my husband would not respect the therapist. We had been to couples therapy before, and it was not successful in teaching us tools that we could use. I liked the fact that Dr. K was not afraid to take on our strong personalities even when it was uncomfortable.

Would you recommend Couples Therapy Inc?

Yes, a million times.

What changes resulted?

  • Renewed hope
  • Plan of action

  • Clarity

We are both hopeful and we have a plan.

Our relationship was almost over...


Boston / Berkshire Retreat - Dr. K

How would you describe your relationship before you called Couples Therapy Inc.? What were the core issues you wanted to improve?

I was hesitant about spending a substantial amount of money with no results. However, our relationship was almost over. We had poor communication and high-stress levels. This was more of a scientific approach. Dr. K was very neutral and explained things very well. It's only been a week but our relationship has definitely improved. We have better communication and understanding each other better and the stress level between us has also decreased. I had no hope before going to see Kathy. Now I know we've got a chance to mend our relationship.

I would definitely recommend Couples Therapy Inc.

It was great to sort through all our issues in one weekend


Mt. Pleasant (Charleston), South Carolina Retreat - Kent MacEachern

We were unsure if we were going to make it. We needed to discuss living arrangements, baby and family, habits, financial togetherness.

We had tried couples therapy before. Did it 1x a month but it was not what we needed.

Kent was great! Understanding, extremely knowledgeable, wise and able to stop us when we were not communicating correctly. We learned how to communicate through our differences.

It was great to sort through all our issues in one weekend

We are comfortable communicating together, we feel closer, and I am falling back in love with [partner’s name.]

What would you say to couples that are considering working with Couples Therapy Inc.?

Do it! It's worth it!

It was in crisis due to a long term affair.


Berkshire Retreat - Daniel Dashnaw

Hesitations? I really had none. I wanted to save my marriage and I had no other good options at the time. We tried couples therapy in the past and it was unsuccessful. Our marriage was in crisis due to a long term affair. The core issues we wished to determine if we both wished to work to save our marriage, to gain a more clear understanding of why and how the affair started and problems existed in our marriage before the affair that made it possible. We gained some understanding on how and why the affair started and we were both able to make a commitment to work to save our marriage. Daniel was knowledgeable, direct with us, able to connect with us both; he was sincere, caring, empathetic and understanding. I could not have asked for anyone more helpful than he.

Benefits? An understanding of how and why my affair happened, an understanding of how to be more helpful to my spouse to promote healing, how to deal with anger. I believe I will wish to have additional ongoing sessions after the two included, to ensure we are on the right track, to help us through difficult problems as they develop, and answer questions we have.

I would recommend CTI and Daniel to anyone needing therapy for Marital issues, especially an intensive which I found very helpful.

Thanks for being there.

Daniel’s directness was refreshing.


Boston / Berkshire Couples Retreat - Daniel Dashnaw

Our communication and sex life were at the core of our issues. Daniel’s directness was refreshing.

We were given some solid tools to help us reconnect and communicate. I feel like I was better understood by my partner.

We didn't want a "touchy/feely" therapist since both of us are engineers. 


Boston / Berkshire Retreat - Dr. K

We have been through several ups and downs with our similar personalities and expectations for the relationship. Core issues are who is in control and how are decisions made along with raising a young boy. Financial questions between us are also something that we did not communicate effectively.

We didn't want a "touchy/feely" therapist since both of us are engineers. The approach mentioned on the website and our preliminary interview with Dr. K made us feel welcome and also we were able to talk to her on a logical level.

I was not sure how it would go with the past issues I had opened up to in the BIG BIG Books. However, it went extremely well and I have been able to move forward in my own thought process while repairing issues and conflict with my husband in a fair way. We know how to fight better now and handle the issues that we all face as couples more effectively.

It has reshaped my perspective on conflict and complaints. Relationships are hard and I am committed to it so I was very happy to have support from Dr. K and also my loving husband. It was great. Very relaxed and at the same time intense.

No complaints from me. Just worked through a lot of issues very quickly and now need to plan for next steps moving forward.

100% of it was worth it for me and I would be glad to recommend it to any other smart ladies out there who are struggling to relaunch a career while working in a "man's world" of technical engineering.

What would you say to couples that are considering working with Couples Therapy Inc.?

Go for it and take it seriously.

Our walls have been broken down.


Orange County California Couples Retreat - Jenny Fang

We had some deep resentments that prevented us from being close and feeling connected.

We have gone to see a few different therapists over the years but did not find one we felt comfortable with. I was interested in an intense therapy that would tackle our issues in a short amount of time.

Jenny Fang was great! Jenny is very personable and easy to talk to. We both felt like she heard us and understood each of our points of view. She is very intelligent and also warm and sweet.

We learned about our triggers and how they affect our relationship. We were able to speak honestly to one another because Jenny created a safe space for us both. This helped to break down walls and get rid of some harboring resentments. We have more empathy for one another and feel closer.

Our walls have been broken down. We are closer and feel connected. Our resentments seemed to have melted away.

The weekend saved our marriage, or at the very least, made it much, much better. We intend to do future sessions for maintenance.

What would you say to couples that are considering working with Couples Therapy Inc.?

Do it! Don't wait.

It is helpful to do the needed work over a weekend rather than take months to get through the issues. When you have a regular 50-minute session, you may not have the time to get to the core issues and then you have to regain whatever momentum you had in the next session, one or two weeks later.

We would bicker over the littlest things and often ignore the big issues completely...


Boston / Berkshire Retreat - Dr. K

Before we called Couples Therapy, our relationship had become strained. We would bicker over the littlest things and often ignore the big issues completely. Every conversation threatened to turn into a confrontation. We were hoping to improve our communication with each other and rekindle our marriage. Our biggest worry was that it wouldn't work, or worse yet it might send us even further down a dark spiral. After our three day intensive session with Dr. K., it was like we had a new marriage. A huge weight had been lifted off our shoulders. We were happy to spend time with one another again. And we couldn't keep our hands off of each other! We had tried couples therapy before, but without success. Kathy McMahon had a great way of talking to one of us in a w ay that we could both hear. Even though she was giving us some pretty harsh feedback at times, it always felt like she had our best interests at heart.

The worst thing, by far, was the drive to Cummington. (Dr. K is now in Boston!)

I would enthusiastically recommend Couples Therapy to anyone who is going through a rough patch in their relationship or is just looking for a tuneup. We felt close to each other again. Although we still have a long way to go, we learned to communicate better.

We both left recommitted to our relationship like never before. Thank you, Dr. K. We hope to check back in again with you soon.

Couples Therapy Inc. helped me cope with the situation.


Washington DC Retreat - Angela Voegele

I had just found out my husband wanted to leave…I was trying to save our marriage.

Our marriage retreat turned into divorce planning. He is/was unwilling to work to reconcile the marriage. I found out he was having an affair. He was finally honest with me; I didn't know there was a problem until he told me he was leaving. At that point, he was unwilling to work on our relationship.

Angela was easy to talk with and she made me feel comfortable. She was supportive and able to change her focus once it was clear that my husband had no intention of reconciliation.

I gained better communication skills once I found out the truth.

Would you recommend your couples therapist and Couples Therapy Inc? If so, why? If not, why not?

Yes, because I like the Gottman method, it was easy to coordinate, insightful, very responsive and affordable.

We have more courage to talk about sensitive topics and a renewed commitment to our relationship.


Boston / Berkshire Couples Retreat - Daniel Dashnaw

We were desperate. Our goals were getting past infidelity, ongoing arguments and old patterns.

Daniel was great, straight forward and to the point.

I believe that we gained a better understanding of each other and what we perceive about each other. We have more courage to talk about sensitive topics and a renewed commitment to our relationship.

My only objection would be the meeting times and breaks. This is probably just specific to us. We're early risers and would've preferred to start earlier and have less of a break.

My husband became aware of his sex addiction...


Berkshire Retreat - Dr. K & Daniel Dashnaw

We were going through a difficult time. I wasn't completely sure what to expect from the weekend. My husband became aware of his sex addiction. Now he is being treated for it.

I liked how Dr. K & Daniel worked as a team. Yes, they did a great job.

Would you recommend them?

Yes, they did a great job.

Goals met?

  1. Desire to work on our marriage,

  2. Knowledge of addiction, &

  3. Accepting treatment for it

I was skeptical heading into the weekend...


Metro Washington DC - Angela Voegele

We thought it might be nice for you to get some feedback on our retreat with Angela. Both my husband and I thought she was excellent. We have seen numerous therapist over the last three years and she by far exceeded all of our expectations. I got there on Friday with a lot of anger over our situation. By the time we left Sunday afternoon I felt free. She had a very nice way of not taking sides yet giving good strong comments and thought-provoking scenarios. She absolutely knew us when we got there and often referred to our history.

She gave us practical tools to use for when I was very upset which included meditation, favorite songs, my partner holding me tight (with a safe word if I did not want that), breathing devices and apps to download. We had struggled with much pain and anger for almost 10 months and by the time we left we felt almost normal again with a new vision of our future and tools to use to improve our communication. Her own experience and having gone through a similar situation was also nice for me in particular. She was extraordinarily easy to talk to and also has a nice sense of humor.

I was skeptical heading into the weekend but now I am so glad that we did it.

There was reinforcement of the love that already existed.


Northern California Couples Retreat - Lisa Lund

Our relationship was good but stuck. Communication was a core issue. We were concerned about whether or not any therapist would really get the problem and us...and the cost.

Lisa was fantastic. I honestly have nothing bad to say. She was perfect. I was overwhelmed by how she handled us. We are now more open, have better communication, barriers have broken down, and there was a reinforcement of the love that already existed.

What would you say to couples that are considering working with Couples Therapy Inc.?

Just do it.

Kent made us listen to each other


Mt. Pleasant (Charleston), South Carolina Retreat - Kent MacEachern

[Our marriage was] strained, headed for divorce.

We had never been to CTI. We had been to a therapist 2 years previously and had no success.

Kent’s process revealed issues and lead to streamlined coaching. Kent made us listen to each other and rationalize our thoughts, he was patient and very helpful.

The weekend approach gave us the time to really dive into our issues and face each other's concerns. We are communicating, showing affection, and have had no conflict.

[We] recommitted to each other, learned how to deal with conflict and a better way to communicate with each other.

What would you say to couples that are considering working with Couples Therapy Inc.?

If you really want to save your relationship it is worth the time and investment.

We were hesitant about spending the money and not getting the results we wanted.


Houston Texas Couples Retreat - Marisa Mundey

We had tried other couples therapy many years ago for several sessions but did not have any success. In contrast, I would recommend Marisa and CTI because I feel she helped put us on the right track. We were troubled and needed to improve communication, trust, and boundaries and we learned better ways to communicate, we learned to focus on improving the future more than worrying about the past, and we now have hope for our future.

Marisa is wonderful and is able to make everyone feel comfortable and listened to.

Now we have better communication and a better understanding of each other’s feelings. The things I liked the most is that Marisa had a genuine interest in our lives and that she did not rush us and made sure we were satisfied before ending any sessions

[I was] unsure if my partner would participate 100%


Boston / Berkshire Couples Retreat - Daniel Dashnaw

We were unsure if the marriage would survive.

We chose Couples Therapy Inc. because of the methods employed, online information, testimonials and weekend intensive program.

I was unsure if my partner would participate 100%. Daniel Dashnaw was straight forward, sincere, gave real-life examples, intuitive, knew how to communicate with each person and help them see the other person's perspective. Easy to talk with and provided direct and pertinent information. He understood what you were saying and needed. He helped you communicate your needs to each other. He provided tools and direction for the relationship.

Our therapist was genuinely interested in helping us both and did not take sides. Gave our marriage a chance and hope for a better relationship and met each of our needs. Improved communication, identified individual trauma's and how that affected us, tools to continue to improve our relationship and tools to help deal with infidelity/coping mechanisms.

What would you say to couples that are considering working with Couples Therapy Inc.?
Read the profiles, testimonials and then speak to the therapist you feel you might want to work with. Speaking with the therapist before we made our decision to go to Couples Therapy Inc was extremely helpful. If you do not reside in the state of the therapist be sure to ask about follow-up sessions if you do the intensive weekend. Our therapist was very helpful in helping find a local therapist as we could not regularly travel to the Couples Therapy Inc. location. You may wonder about the pre-work assigned for the intensive weekend but it is amazing how important it is and that you are 100% honest in your responses.

Anything else you’d like to add?
Dan Dashnaw was wonderful to work with. I am grateful for him and Couples Therapy as I don't feel we may still be married without either. Thank you so much for the important information you have on your website that is accessible to anyone and truly helpful.

Our New Year is filled with hope and love.


Amherst MA Couples Retreat - Dr. Gorman

We were on the brink of divorce. Barely speaking. I was afraid there was no hope and couples therapy would solidify that. I had brought my partner to my individual therapist. It was not successful.

I found it hard to talk about my past. Dr. Gorman was amazing, nonjudgmental, and was able to help us open up and be honest with each other in safe environment.

We are able to understand the other person better and have new tools to keep us from attacking when we are angry or withdrawn.

My husband and I are able to identify the triggers in our relationship, we can communicate without fear and we now have options to help us calm down and focus on what is important.

Thank you, Dr. Gorman. You are a wonderful person and the best therapist we have ever met. I am so grateful for your expertise and patience. Our New Year is filled with hope and love.

My real fear was that it wouldn't work or my husband would be uncooperative.  


Berkshire Retreat - Daniel Dashnaw

Our relationship was in real trouble. We were disconnected from each other and didn't know how to bridge the gap. Hesitations? My real fear was that it wouldn't work or my husband would be uncooperative.

Therapist: Daniel Dashnaw. Where to start? He was AWESOME. We appreciated his candor, honesty, kindness, sensitivity, practical - solutions based approach. Would you recommend him and Couples Therapy Inc? ABSOLUTELY.

Practical Outcome? We have a much better understanding of each other and were given a set of tools that put us on the path to recovery. 1- We got to the root of our troubles, 2- we know how to repair our relationship, 3- I learned how to address my own challenges.

Not sure, how else to be helpful. Additional follow-ups as/if needed.

I am truly, deeply grateful.

It was a great marriage retreat weekend and we are so grateful for all you did for us!


San Juan Puerto Rico Couples Retreat - Dr. Rodriguez

Thanks Dr. R! It was a great marriage retreat weekend and we are so grateful for all you did for us! We will get on our homework and schedule a follow-up soon.

Again, many thanks for helping us with your approach and care!

Be ready for some hurt


Washington DC Retreat - Angela Voegele

We were stuck – a sexless marriage with growing resentment.

We tried therapy in the past, but looking back he never focused on the lack of intimacy as one of the potential missing links (why things might be stuck, to begin with). these sessions did. I think our sexless marriage issue has been brought forward as one of the core reasons as to why we are having more issues with each other.

Angela really was the right person for us - I think it's her own experience that makes you sit back and listen (reassuring); she doesn't force doctrine down your throat and she kept making us look back at some basic issues we have that are probably the reason for all of the current troubles - stuff we brought up and then she made us think about as to why. She also kept the TO DO LIST basic and straight forward - it's work, but reasonable work and if keep at it you will get there.

Angela was very good at letting each of us talk but then getting us to re-align with the topic/issue. very good at making sure we understand you can be critical but how you say it is key - soften the wording. you are not the only people with these type of problems and you need to put time aside to work on you and us and then the kids

What would you say to couples that are considering working with Couples Therapy Inc.?

Be ready for some hurt - not by the session, but what it stirs up in you - it makes you look back at your actions and words. I think I would recommend her without a problem - but it's super important, and we were lucky my wife made sure, she was the right person for us and our current issues.

It is life changing!


New South Wales, Australia - Jack O'Leary

We were very close to separation, the major issue related to an affair, but this led to some very poor patterns of communication.

We chose Couples Therapy Inc after a review of the evidence base, along with the fact that it was 1:1 and very rigorous pre-counseling assessments. I had concerned it would be the final nail in the coffin for our marriage.

Jack O’Leary was genuine, challenging, caring and flexible. We have much better patterns of communication and a resolution of some very core issues. And more admiration and affection to one another and finally, better individual health. He saved my marriage and my life (work, wellbeing, etc).

What would you say to couples that are considering working with Couples Therapy Inc.?

Do it - it is life changing! You both have to be ready to reflect and change - if you are ready, it can help.

Not knowing the therapist or the program - we were uncertain if it would be a fit.


Houston Texas Couples Retreat - Marisa Mundey

We were looking to improve on conflict resolution and to improve our communication skills on subjects where there is disagreement.

Marisa was very professional, very approachable and disarming. We immediately felt at ease and comfortable talking to her. I really can't think of a criticism of her.

What changes resulted in your marriage from the work you did?

It was a powerful weekend - that we both enjoyed. We both came away with a fresh perspective on each other. We have a deeper understanding of why each of us reacts the way we do on certain issues. I believe we will have a stronger relationship due to the weekend and be better at resolving conflicts without anger. We were very pleased.

We left with: 1) better perspective on each other's positions and why we are like we are on certain topics 2) better communication techniques on areas of disagreement. 3) we learned how damaging anger can be and how to avoid it.

For us - it was exactly what we needed. it was an intense, weekend, but very very helpful. I thought the time allowed was great - the one on one sessions were very good and beneficial. Marisa was really good - we identified with her. She is very affirming, warm and sincere. the whole weekend exceeded our expectations.

Absolutely would recommend.

Everything about Jack was positive


New South Wales, Australia - Jack O'Leary

Our relationship was broken. The trust was gone. We were hesitant to commit the time, money & the stress of having to deal with the issues, not knowing there’d be a result.

Jack was amazing! I'd definitely recommend him. He really simplified everything so we could both see the core issues. Everything about Jack was positive. We always felt heard and understood by him. We are now open and honest and have hope for the future.

Thank goodness my husband didn't give up on me and finally agreed to this retreat...


Washington DC Retreat - Angela Voegele

We were looking for affair recovery; re-igniting the spark and re-building trust. We hesitated because of the expense; the sense of vulnerability when divorce may be imminent anyway; and of course, the fear that it wouldn't work.

Angela Voegele has a calming presence and is dedicated to addressing all the issues and bringing you closer together. I appreciated that she recommended reading and ways for us to keep up the momentum, acknowledging the fact that things may change at home in "real life" rather than being caught up in a few focused days.

Now I am learning to appreciate my husband like I did way back in the beginning; ensuring we are both communicating our needs and feelings on a regular basis; re-igniting our attached and loyal relationship rather than living separate lives.

I think without it, we would have gone through with an unnecessary, costly, divorce and thrown away a lifetime of future togetherness with our family. We will not be divorcing; we have begun to heal and have started to restore the Loyalty phase of our relationship that had broken in the first place.

Thank goodness my husband didn't give up on me and finally agreed to this retreat. We both feel forever grateful that we just decorated the Christmas tree together with our family rather than apart, in different homes. We realized that our relationship is not only repairable, but that we were so lucky to have found someone we are so compatible with way back when...and we both WANT to stay together - it makes us happy. I'm excited for what the future holds. Thank you.

Developmental trauma explains so much about the dynamics within our relationship...


The Berkshires of Western MA Couples Retreat - Dr. K

Dr. K When I looked in the mirror on Monday morning, I saw, for the first time, a loved and lovable woman looking back at me. The woman looking back at me was not defective, not broken, not crazy. I didn't, until that moment, realize how much contempt I felt for myself all these years. Imagine the joy I felt! And the gratitude!

There are no words to adequately express how grateful I am for the weekend my husband and I spent with you. You provided invaluable insight that, with time and practice, will help us navigate our marriage as well as our relationships with our children and extended family in a loving, supportive way. I walked away with so much hope, to the point of bursting with it. The concept of developmental trauma explains so much about the dynamics within our relationship, and still has us reeling when we think about the impact it has had not only on us but on so many other people. I can only imagine the difference it would make if it were more widely recognized.

I am looking myself squarely in the eye.


Boston / Berkshire Retreat - Dr. K

Our relationship had a strong foundation weakened by distance created by geography and alcohol.

A friend had a great experience with your [CTI] team and I was impressed (in theory and, more importantly, in practice) by the data-informed intensive format.

My husband looked at himself, me, our relationship, and his alcoholism with open eyes and heart. The exercises and tools have been great. I felt a lot of hope for the first time in a year.

I appreciated Dr. K’s directness and kindness rooted in starting our intensive with deep knowledge of me that felt spot-on based on the Big Big Book. I believe my husband felt the same, so it really clicked for us in real-time.

We now have an Ice-breaker/heart-opener within our relationship, professional understanding of how our histories and personalities could fit together more smoothly, and tools to guide how we work through our tough discussions.

There is still a lot of work to do, for sure, but now there's a path to follow, our path. I experience new revelations and reflections daily, about myself, my husband, my kids, and what I do or don't want in my life. I am looking myself squarely in the eye.

Would you recommend your couples therapist and Couples Therapy Inc.? If so, why? If not, why not?

Yes, already have.

What would you say to couples that are considering working with Couples Therapy Inc.?

Trust the process and believe that a skilled therapist equipped with an honest and full Big Big Book can help make a huge difference in a surprisingly short time.

Many thanks.

Was there ‘too much water under the bridge’ to save our marriage?


Boston / Berkshire Couples Retreat - Daniel Dashnaw

Describe your relationship before you called Couples Therapy Inc.
Disastrous. Looking to recover from an affair and improve communication.

What hesitation did you have about starting couples therapy with us?
Whether or not my wife would attend with me. Also, was there ‘too much water under the bridge’ to save our marriage?

What changes resulted in your marriage/relationship from your work with Couples Therapy Inc.?
We acquired the skill set to communicate better.

Had you considered or tried couples therapy before? If so, how successful or unsuccessfully was it?
Yes. Mostly unsuccessful due to a more generic approach.

What specific qualities did you like most and least about working with your therapist?
I really respect Daniel’s knowledge, perspective and no-nonsense approach.

Would you recommend your couples therapist and Couples Therapy Inc?
Absolutely yes

What three benefits resulted from working with Couples therapy Inc?
Knowledge and understanding of my own issues
Knowledge and understanding of my wife’s issues and how they relate to our conflict
Developing a better way of communication

Our underlying issues of her distrust and anger as a result of my actions continue...


Berkshire Couples Retreat - Daniel Dashnaw

Our relationship was in a state of crisis. It is still in a state of crisis. Although we have many moments of joy, the underlying issues of her distrust and anger as a result of my actions have continued. That said, the intensive with Dan was very productive. He provided very useful research on relationships, and as we requested, tied that to our faith's religious writings naturally.

The hesitation was in whether my wife remained committed enough to the relationship to justify the time.

Results? We have gained some skills for communicating during conflict. we have made use of Dan's evening prayer thanking God for each other. We have taken the time for longer prayer with each other (at times, although not consistently...). We have defused conflict at times using Dan's suggested methods.

Dan is a very thoughtful guy. He met us where we were. He is direct. He weaved in scientific studies and our religious writings with great skill. We very much enjoyed working with him and did not have any notable negative feedback.

Like I said above, I think it has given us some good skills for dealing with conflict. I also think that the information about the consequences of contempt in the relationship, and harsh words generally, was eye opening. We continue to struggle with that, as my wife remains very hurt and angry. It is a struggle. But knowing the science behind the results of harsh words has better enabled me to deal with it and keep it moving forward.

Would you recommend your couples therapist and Couples Therapy Inc? If so, why? If not, why not?

Yes. I already have recommended it. It is the science-based approach that really makes it worthwhile.

[I was worried] my husband would not participate at all.


Boston / Berkshire Couples Retreat - Daniel Dashnaw

We were in a tough spot, no communication, a lot of disagreeing, the children and our families were creating a wide rift in our marriage.

I did a lot of research and needed to find a therapist that my husband would trust and communicate with. He has not seen the benefits of therapy with others and was very much against it. I read a lot about Dan and how he worked with couples. I was worried my husband would shut down and not participate at all.

Daniel Dashnaw was honest, straightforward, allowed us to work things out on our own, but also provide other ways to think about how we were communicating.

We are now communicating in a way we never did. We both share our feelings, but more importantly, listen to the other person's feelings and acknowledge them. We have learned to compromise and let go. We share our ideas; we listen to each other; we both are taking responsibility in our marriage - it is no longer feeling one-sided for either of us.

What would you say to couples that are considering working with Couples Therapy Inc.?

Put in the effort, and it will be helpful and insightful.

We were worried that it would be as ineffective as other therapy.


Orange County California Couples Retreat - Jenny Fang

Our marriage was very troubled. We had trouble communicating and resolving issues.

Had you considered or tried couples therapy before? If so, how successful or unsuccessfully was it?

Several times, it was a waste of time and money. We were worried that this therapy would be as ineffective as that other therapy we tried.

Jenny Fang was well researched, intuitive, and positive. She helped us focus on building a better future rather than arguing about the past. Now we are more appreciative of each other and able to engage in effective communication, I have a better understanding of where we each come from and how that affects how we, each, perceive the world. I also have a better appreciation of the goodness in my partner.

For a couple in trouble this has been the best experience.

We were trying to figure out if we would divorce.


Las Vegas, Nevada Couples Retreat - Dr. Scott Wolfe

Our relationship was very bad. We were trying to figure out if we would divorce.

After this intensive we have now reached an agreement on how to be with each other. We communicate better. We have a clear idea what to do. The weekend provided structure for us and some good tools to use when we argue.

We have a good plan for the next six months.

The intensive therapy and questionnaire cut through months of weekly therapy before getting to the heart of issues.


Las Vegas, Nevada Couples Retreat - Dr. Scott Wolfe

After researching other couples therapy I believed you [CTI] were our best chance as a couple

[Our work with CTI] opened up our communication and provided tools to assist in communicating and connecting

Dr. Wolfe had the ability to work on most important issues but there was not enough time to get into other issues. The intensive therapy and questionnaire cut through months of weekly therapy before getting to the heart of issues.

This work opened up communication with my spouse, provided tools to improve connecting with my spouse, and showed me that my spouse cares.

This approach gets to the point. You start working on your issues much sooner than weekly therapy, which can be a benefit depending on the couple’s issues.

My only wish was that the Friday session was a little longer and included the individual sessions, so that on Saturday you can start running.

___________________

We intentionally end Friday night focused on memories of your early relationship that we hope will spark pleasant bonding. For many couples, it might be the first time they've thought about these "better times" in many years. After a night's rest, the individual sessions help you approach your problems with (hopefully) fresh insight. This is our thinking...

Neither of us could leave until the day was over and the therapist was there as a referee.


Washington DC Retreat - Angela Voegele

Our relationship was terrible, core issues were trust and communication. We did therapy a couple of years ago, it was not successful. We chose CTI because we wanted consecutive sessions as to not lose track of topics by going to weekly therapy. There haven’t been any changes as of yet.

Angela was calm and direct which was appreciated. I’m not certain that I would recommend it [CTI]. It was helpful to get everything out in a faster manner however you think of additional topics that could have been spoken about afterward [when you get home]. I believe there could have been a bit more one-on-one time with the therapist as well as one-on-one time on the last day of the retreat.

Benefits were the consecutive hours to try and work things out, neither of us could leave until the day was over and the therapist was there as a referee.

What would you say to couples that are considering working with Couples Therapy Inc.?

Go into it knowing that the therapist is there for those couple days but to carry on the lessons is extremely difficult without someone being the referee.

The entire experience was geared toward making us (the couple) get along.


Washington DC Retreat - Angela Voegele

We were planning for a divorce.

Past weekly sessions of couples therapy improved our communication but not much more.

Angela Voegele was very positive, very prepared, very professional.

It was a positive experience. The entire experience was geared toward making us (the couple) get along. The concept of considering that we may not be happy together was avoided repeatedly.

We gained the ability to talk more calmly and worked through several resentments.

Not knowing if therapy would truly help us at this stage in our marriage, we were reluctant.


Berkshire Couples Retreat - Daniel Dashnaw

We tried couples therapy several years ago, but it was not successful. Not knowing if therapy would truly help us at the stage we were in - in our marriage, we were reluctant. The core issue of our marriage was discovered and we were able to shed light on it and are now able to approach the issue together. Us against the issue. Daniel approached things head on (with care) - in a way we both could understand and there was no room for doubt on what the issue was and how we need to overcome it. Daniel made us feel comfortable and left us with the feeling of truly being able to take on whatever comes our way.

Daniel is very knowledgeable in his area of expertise and knows the most appropriate way to communicate an action plan and build encouragement. 1) We walked away knowing we should not face things as us against each other, but rather us against the problem. 2) I got my best friend back. 3) Vulnerabilities were revealed, but I feel safe in them now.

Thank you for helping me communicate my vulnerabilities and not feel ashamed of them or concerned I will come across as a weak person for having vulnerabilities. Thank you for pointing out our incredible strengths together. Thank you for being such an incredible part of our healing process.

We needed a clear direction as to whether we were going to stay together or not.


Washington DC Retreat - Angela Voegele

Our relationship was not in a good spot as we were dealing with issues of infidelity.

We had been in couples therapy with slow progression.

We needed a clear direction as to whether we were going to stay together or not.

Angela Voegele was very straight forward yet understanding. She was able to call each of us out for things. We weren't able to get away with poor habits and lack of responsibility. She treated each of us fairly but was straight forward.

I would recommend Angela to others. She was able to hone in on our issues and also see our strengths. She gave us real tools to improve and showed us the good we still have in our marriage.

We have better communication skills moving forward, we understand each other better and can have fruitful discussions that do no turn into arguments. We have hope for our future.

What would you say to couples that are considering working with Couples Therapy Inc.?

They have proven techniques, tools, and skills that will benefit every couple. It goes beyond talk therapy to learning, practicing new skills, and growing in your marriage.

If you’re both serious about transforming your relationship, it can change your life.


Washington DC Retreat - Angela Voegele

We had discussed and were likely headed for divorce. We never reconnected after my affair and never reset our shared lives together after the tumult of our early marriage years. We needed to reconnect, to identify shared dreams, to start trusting and treating each other differently.

We tried couples therapy. It was unsuccessful. To say the least.

I felt like Angela Voegele (hallowed be her name) listened to me, and in turn, she helped [partner’s name] listen to me. (And she helped me listen to [partner,] too.)

Angela was wonderful and the intensive format really works. It’s expensive but much cheaper than (1) all the counseling I’ve previously consumed and (2) divorce.

This is early days. We have a lot of work ahead. But our retreat helped us stand back up, together, and to start walking forward again, together. And it gave us a blueprint for what that path might look like, without prescribing our destination. We both have hope. Shared hope. I didn’t realize how deeply I longed for that shared hope until our retreat helped us rediscover it.

We’re implementing the Gottman process, doing the work, and living in hope.

What would you say to couples that are considering working with Couples Therapy Inc.?
If you’re both serious about transforming your relationship, it can change your life.

I am stronger emotionally, and have the courage to end the marriage now if necessary.


Boston / Berkshire Retreat - Dr. K

We were recovering from an affair and struggling with trust and sexual intimacy. We went to a therapist for a few months and were able to improve in some areas. However, after the Couples Therapy Weekend, it is clear that that therapist we had been seeing was not a couples therapist and we knew that we needed to identify someone else. Kathy was great-very professional and knowledgable. The CTI website provided information that seemed like it would be a good experience and it was.

Kathy was able to get a lot of issues presented and discussed that had never been discussed. I think my spouse and I will be better able to discuss other issues moving forward. She was very direct, which was very much needed and appreciated. She was also very insightful.

I would recommend her highly.

My partner has realized the depth of pain she has caused me by being involved in an affair. My spouse and I can now speak more openly. I am stronger emotionally and have the courage to end the marriage now if necessary.

What would you say to couples that are considering working with Couples Therapy Inc.?

Do it!

It takes a lot of work but it is worth it in spades.


Amherst MA Couples Retreat - Dr. Gorman

Our marriage was in dire straights. We had trust and communications problems. We had tried couples therapy before, but very unsuccessfully. And I was concerned that my wife would not be an active participant...

However, vital issues were cleared up. We have better communication and more trust.

Dr. Gorman was our couples therapist. She asked pertinent and vital questions. Was able to direct the sessions in the right direction for constructive results. We got very positive results. Our intensive prevented a divorce, increased communication, and we're able to enjoy each other again.

I would recommend it. It takes a lot of work but it is worth it in spades.

A man of wisdom..


The Berkshires of Western MA Couples Retreat - Daniel Dashnaw

I just wanted to thank you for providing me with the opportunity to work with Daniel Dashnaw. It has been a wonderful experience for me and a true source of joy during a very difficult time in my life. He is a man of wisdom and I truly enjoyed the learning adventure he so skillfully crafted with me.

​For a long time, I had so many doubts as to whether we could make this work...


The Berkshires of Western MA Couples Retreat - Dr. K

I spent most of my marriage not knowing it could be as rich as this last month as been. I felt the "switch," over this last month, and it's felt like living in sunshine instead of shadows. My husband and I haven't had a fight in months, even while navigating normally very tense waters including dealing with our families, and even buying a house! They've turned into discussions....

Dr. K, I'm not kidding, it's been the sweetest month I've ever had in our marriage. I know that we'll hit plenty of bumps ahead, but for the first time in a long time, it feels like my teammate, my partner, has shown up.

So this email is simply to say "thank you." Thank you for giving us the tools, and the hope that things would change if we wanted them to. Thank you from the bottom of my heart. Thank you for giving me my husband back, and for listening when we were at our rock bottom."

We needed therapy to resolve issues that were problematic...


Orange County California Couples Retreat - Jenny Fang

What hesitation did you have about starting couples therapy with us?

Not much, it was geographically close. We hadn't tried couples therapy before. We had no personal referrals. But we needed therapy to resolve issues that were problematic with this relationship. My husband's former wife and the direction of the relationship were core issues we wanted to resolve.

What specific qualities did you like about this therapist?

Partner One: We like Jenny from the introductory phone call. She was warm, insightful, and made some great interpretations that opened things up as a couple.

Partner Two: Jenny was pleasant and knowledgeable and was able to get to some areas of discussion which were hidden to us before.

What changes resulted in your marriage from the work you did?

Partner One: It's a little early to tell but we seem more patient with each other. We have more patience and we're expressing more emotions.

We received tools and had an opportunity to use one.

It was a lifesaver. That should speak for itself.


Washington DC Retreat - Angela Voegele

After an affair, there were many things that were not addressed, unanswered and caused lots of issues of distrust and anger. Calling Couples Therapy Inc. was a final effort to make it work.

Angela was amazing, she asked all the questions that I was wanting to ask but did not know how. She watched us argue and gave us feedback on how to communicate and repair.

We now have a new outlook on our lives and marriage. We have been given a platform where we can talk openly and frequently on many levels, daily stressors, state of the union and date nights. We are implementing them and feel that we are able to be an even better couple than ever.

I have already recommended Couples therapy and will continue to be your biggest referral to anyone that I know can benefit from it. It was a lifesaver, that should speak for itself.

I wanted to have my manhood back...


Orange County California Couples Retreat - Jenny Fang

Our relationship was very rocky. A lot of mood swings, A lot of silence, A lot of being short with each other, some trust issues, disrespectful. Issues for improvement-I wanted to have my manhood back that was so deeply taken away--I am an expert craftsman, very seldom I was told "wow, Honey that looks great," "That will really improve the value of our house," "our friends and family will really enjoy your work as well." I am constantly being put down, even in front of friends and family. If I don't understand how to do something, I get yelled at and she was then pissed off at me the rest of the day. She had no understanding for me, at all. How can we have an intimate relationship with no manhood?

We tried therapy a few times. The first one worked out pretty good but was missing something. A big part of it was only spending 50-minutes a week was not working. Others we tried were not successful at all.

My wife had found out about you and ran it by me. I said "absolutely" I will try CTI!

It is a lot of $, I just thought it would be the same as the others.

I'm so glad I was wrong.

OMG-Already my wife has treated me with respect. She has changed her attitude towards me. I get complimented. She catches her self starting to say something negative and corrects herself. I have totally changed how I speak to my wife, I encourage her when she is doing things. I compliment her when she is doing things and the way she dresses. I stop and listen & don't talk over her.

Jenny was amazing!! She did her homework. Every session, after every break she was prepared to guide us! She listened and remembered everything my wife & I were telling her. She interrupted us when the time was right. She was very friendly, understanding and FUNNY! I don't think I have any negative comments about Jenny. I wanted to take Jenny home with us! When we left for the final time, I felt she was part of the family.

I would absolutely recommend CTI to everyone that is having issues. You all put so much effort into our sessions. At any given time, I never felt it was a waste of money and or time. You all made it so real, you can say anything you want. CTI cares!

What would you say to couples that are considering working with Couples Therapy Inc.?

Be ready for the time of your life. Go in with an open mind. Do not hold back. it's very intense, you will leave absolutely worn out (in a good way). "I guarantee you will come home with a whole new meaning for your relationship."

I want to personally let Jenny know that she saved our marriage! Thank you all so very, very much from the bottom of my heart for all your hard work! Thank you.

I really feel a great sense of relief...


Metro Washington DC Couples Retreat - Angela Voegele

Angela was a wonderful therapist and truly advocated for both of us, and our relationship throughout the weekend intensive. Her approach was thoughtful, logical and easy to follow. She listened to our concerns and organized the weekend in a meaningful way to cover many of our needs. The feedback she provided was constructive and professional.

I really feel a great sense of relief.

The follow-up work and reading she gave us provided a framework we need to continue the work on our own.

I would definitely recommend Angela to others looking for couples counseling.

I thought our problems were too big to even begin to resolve in a weekend couple's therapy retreat.


Boca Raton, Florida - Dr. Marni Feuerman

How would you describe your relationship before you called Couples Therapy Inc.? Terminal.

What were the core issues you wanted to improve?

Communication

What changes resulted in your marriage/relationship from your work with Couples Therapy Inc.?

Improved tremendously.

Had you considered or tried couples therapy before? If so, how successful or unsuccessfully was it?

Yes, but not an intensive. Intensives should be the norm. Marni was excellent, she caught everything and didn’t let us not reveal issues between us. She was attentive and candid. She kept us to point. We now have improved communication, a greater understanding of my spouse issues and tools to make our relationship better.

We will definitely use Marni again. She is great!!!

THANK YOU CTI!!!


Boston / Berkshire Couples Retreat - Daniel Dashnaw

My husband and I were disconnected & distant from each other. We were angry and distrustful of each other and anytime we interacted, it was confrontational and escalated. We no longer felt the need to put any effort into saving our marriage or even healing our relationship.

I had been after my husband for many years to go to couples therapy, but he refused until he realized we were on the brink of divorce. I had told my husband that I wanted to separate, and on that same day when he went into work he asked our daughter to find a therapist for us and she came across your site.

I had no hesitation at all, but my husband believed it would be all about making him the bad guy. To help ease his anxiety about going to therapy, I suggested he choose the therapist.

After our couples’ weekend, we realized that we still love each other and wanted to work on saving our marriage. We now recognize the warning signs if a disagreement starts to escalate. It has only happened a few times since our intensive weekend, but we caught ourselves and stopped. Then we try to calmly and respectfully address the issue we don’t agree on, trying to at least understand the others’ perspective.

Both my husband and I liked Dan’s relaxed but straight forward approach. He truly listened and understood each of our concerns and pulled no punches in sharing his opinion and perspective. My husband felt that he was also heard and appreciated that he wasn’t made to be the bad guy. My husband had already recommended him to a friend and business associate within just days after intensive couples’ weekend with Daniel.

What would you say to couples that are considering working with Couples Therapy Inc.?

Don't hesitate! Go into it with an open heart and an open mind and you’ll come away more aware of how to have a healthier, more loving relationship.

Daniel was great and we are grateful for the tools he’s provided us to do the ‘work’ in healing our relationship. We realize it’s an ongoing work in progress, and we will have our ups and downs, but being able to have contact with Daniel for his advice when we stumble helps us to refocus and realize that our sacred union is worth the hard work. We also read every email & article from Kathy McMahon, which we find to be valuable tools for starting discussions on specific struggles and issues we are experiencing in our marriage.

THANK YOU CTI!!!

Jennifer Elkins was very positive, supportive, and non-judgmental.


Austin, Texas Couples Retreat - Jennifer Elkins

We had a solid, committed relationship with some difficulty communicating needs and wants.

We were hesitant, concerned that we would fail and lose all of that money we invested.

After working with CTI we would recommend Jennifer Elkins to others. We realized how flooding impacts our communication and how to break the negative feedback loop.

I read Daniel's blog posts and knew he would get us...


Berkshire Retreat - Daniel Dashnaw

Before we called Couples Therapy Inc. we were distressed. The core issue was healing from infidelity. This was our first time in counseling after 31 years together.

We are now in baby steps mode in learning how to better communicate. But we will need more time with Daniel to help heal some things that went unaddressed due to time constraints.

I loved how direct he (Daniel Dashnaw) was and that he knows the science behind the work.

I felt that some (not all) of the research statistics and educational part of the therapy took away from some valuable time that could have been spent on our actual issues. I would have like more time to be able to effectively voice my hurt directly to my husband with Daniel's calm guidance.

I would recommend Daniel. I like his no BS style and he has a real knack for gathering information and making it applicable and understandable.

What three benefits resulted from working with Couples therapy Inc?

  1. Learned some valuable tools to take the heat out a conversation.
  2. I learned that my trauma is real, but more importantly, so did my husband.
  3. We both learned that recovery from infidelity is going to take a long time.

We will be coming back soon for at least one follow up. I was really glad to find Daniel because my husband is very averse to any sort of mental counseling.

We were concerned that the therapist would use theoretical concepts that won't work in practice.


Amherst MA Couples Retreat - Dr. Gorman

How would you describe your relationship before you called Couples Therapy Inc.?

We were in trouble. We weren't communicating that effectively. We both needed to reflect on our method of dealing with difficult topics, understand how our partner responds to our style and learn tools to get the most effective means of dialogue going. We were concerned that the therapist would take sides or use theoretical concepts that wouldn't work in practice. Instead, we learned a lot more about each other, how to communicate more effectively, and tools to avoid slipping into old destructive habits. What we left with:

  • Understanding your partner's response to stress - tough topics
  • Understanding how to communicate effectively given these long-held response mechanisms, and
  • Leaving with a feeling of optimism for our future IF we continue the hard work done over the intensive weekend.

I liked all aspects of Dr. Gorman's approach to us individually and as a couple. Her sense of humor and balanced approach in listening and guiding were exactly what we needed. She is a gem.

Bottom line: The intensive approach, although difficult and exhausting, is the best way to get on track. I can't imagine trying to do what we did over several weeks of one hour sessions.

We had an extremely distressed relationship.


Berkshire Retreat - Daniel Dashnaw

There was a tremendous amount of emotional absence in the relationship and unproductive communication styles. The brief hour-long sessions with other couples therapists were a waste of time for someone like us. We needed intensive training and work.

I was hesitant that like other couples therapists we’d been to, Daniel would not get the gist of our relationship and also not get the smaller more specific issues in our relationship. But Daniel immediately got the gist and every single issue was understood by him, and he addressed it with specific suggestions and also was direct about how to handle it. There was no beating around the bush. He just “got it” and addressed it very quickly and effectively. He’s amazing!! I’ve never seen a therapist that gets it so fast, doesn’t waste time, and addresses things in a direct but empathetic way. I highly recommend him.

​After the intensive, my husband started working on specific issues that he minimized in the past and I started feeling like someone was getting it and addressing it. Also, I started to notice my own reactions better. I understood my own situation better, my husband could not be in denial anymore, he started understanding what changes he needed to make, which never happened with other couples therapists as they could not bring this level of specific suggestions and expertise and training. Daniel gave real tools.

Also, I felt really heard and confident that someone had our back, and was not doing it just as a “therapist”. I loved his expertise, training, and statistics which made everything he said more comprehensive as it was backed by evidence and research and this really spoke to me.

This is truly an effective method which is meant to get to issues quickly. What would need months took 2.5 days.

Thank you Daniel Dashnaw for making our transition from angry to loving.


Boston / Berkshire Couples Retreat - Daniel Dashnaw

Before we contacted you, we loved each other, but hardbound a great resentment and distance due to our constant heated battles.

We hesitated started, thinking that it would become "the blame game and finger-pointing." We considered marriage counseling, but neither one of us wanted to continue the stress, anger, resentment of blaming one another on a weekly basis for months.

Daniel Dashnaw got straight to the point of our issues without judgment or blame game - nothing negative. Hats off to him! We now have a deeper respect and knowledge of what our partner is truly thinking when we are playing a much different scenario of the situation in our own minds. Two and a half days seems like it is not enough time to get to the root of our issues, but it was.

Now we aren’t assuming what is going on in our partner's mind. We have tools to work thru our anger with one another.

Thank you, Daniel Dashnaw, for making our transition from angry to loving. The exercises and tools have given us a much brighter future.

We will forever be grateful to Doug. He gave our marriage a second chance.


Overland Park, Kansas Couples Retreat - Dr. Burford

We were in a place after 20 years of marriage where we weren’t understanding one another and were considering divorce.

We had done therapy one other point in our marriage, and had a good experience but never with Couples Therapy Inc.

We chose Couples Therapy because of Doug’s years of experience and because he is Christian based. We were hesitant due to a fear of judgment and getting someone who didn’t get our issues.

Doug helped us to find ways to understand one another, and to know that we were both trying to accomplish the same things but with different approaches. We learned to be on the same team.

Doug was understanding, non-judgmental and related everything we did back to a biblical basis, which was so beneficial for us. The videoed fight was eye-opening and good to see. It made our issues easier to see.

I would recommend Doug and actually have already to a few close friends and family. I would trust him to get to the root of their issues and give solid tools to use to better their marriage

Now we have a different approach to arguments. More of a discussion to understanding rather than a fight. Work in progress and implementation of tools given. More understanding of one another than we have had in years.

We will forever be grateful to Doug. He gave our marriage a second chance

What would you say to couples that are considering working with Couples Therapy Inc.?

Don’t give up on your spouse. Put in the work. It’s worth it

You have nothing to lose and everything to gain.


Mt. Pleasant (Charleston), South Carolina Retreat - Kent MacEachern

My husband found Couples Therapy Inc. We were at a breaking point in our marriage and I was ready to throw in the towel. He was not and made a conscious effort to find us a good therapist. We really liked Kent and felt he understood our issues.

We had no hesitations. I knew we needed it to make our marriage better. It started the day after our 38th anniversary. Not a time to give up. We made it this far.

Kent was easy going, stayed on point. Kent made us feel relaxed about talking about things in front of someone else.

I now have a better understanding of how my spouse felt. We are listening to issues without judgment and know what our love language was (both of us a feeling loved), which we were not doing. We are kinder to each other. Forgiving of our mistakes.

What would you say to couples that are considering working with Couples Therapy Inc.?

Just do it. You have nothing to lose and everything to gain.

I was anxious going into the weekend knowing it would be a difficult one, and it was...


Amherst MA Couples Retreat - Dr. Gorman

Dr. Gorman, I wanted to thank you again for this past weekend. I was anxious going into the weekend knowing it would be a difficult one, and it was. But I don't think we could have selected a better therapist. You put me at ease from the first evening we were together. I appreciated how thorough you were going through our Big Big Book. I am amazed at how many times you referenced something we said or a family member we talked about by name.

Your genuine interest/concern for us came through very clearly to me. It made me feel very comfortable and able to express the things I haven't been able to previously. I learned a lot about myself and how I chose the path I did (even though sub-consciously in many ways).

I am also grateful for the tools you gave us to help communicate more effectively. I do believe that my partner and I have both tried really hard and we are both good people. Although he and I are still struggling with how to act around one another, I am hopeful we will work together to improve that.

Our departure on Sunday from your office felt very sudden (although I knew our time was winding down). We were also so emotionally drained at that point, I didn't feel I gave you a proper goodbye. I really want you to know how much I appreciate everything you did for us.

My husband and I both agreed on our ride home (regardless of the outcome of our relationship/marriage) that we were glad we went.


Recent Client Reports

1. I am a better communicator with my wife
2. I know when to disengage from overheated situations
3. I have a deeper understanding of why I have done the things I've done.

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"Feeling heard, having tools, trusting each other more..."

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"We have the skills for coping when I get crazy angry. We are talking better. I realize if I criticize him he's only going to get defensive so I use my words carefully! Also, that how you speak to someone makes a difference in the results you get. We use the results of how well we know each other and where we scored as a couple to help us also in seeing that we still have enough left in this relationship to work on it."

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"My husband has torn down the walls of defensiveness, combativeness, and manipulation. We are working on re-establishing trust, connecting through different communication tools, and have a common goal of wanting to have a marriage worth our happiness. I feel free. We both feel like we don't have to pretend or hide anymore - We have been able to talk about any and everything this week and it feels so freeing."

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1) We walked away knowing we should not face things as us against each other, but rather us against the problem.
2) I got my best friend back.
3) Vulnerabilities were revealed, but I feel safe in them now.

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(1) I have hope; (2) I have real tools to use, and; (3) a structured strategy to work on our marriage.

I was not sure that my wife could be real with me or herself.


Berkshire Retreat - Daniel Dashnaw

At first, I was hesitant because of my wife's pill use. I was not sure that she could be real with me or herself. I told Daniel to hold no punches, that our marriage depended on him! We had tried just regular therapy. Nothing like this. I would do this again if needed!

He held no punches! Dan did what was needed to save our marriage!

I wanted us to get along with each other. To be able to communicate with each other without fighting. I wanted to improve our intimacy with each other.

After 37 years and two marriages, I was able to be heard! I also learned how I added to our problems with the way I communicated. I learned how to communicate in a positive way. I feel like a new person, partner, friend and husband. I feel that we will be happy with each other and get closer to each other again. Our marriage will start to grow as we implement what we learned!

I was heard which made me look at our marriage in a totally different and positive way. I learned that we had a great marriage but had to learn to communicate in a much better way, the way we communicated sucked!

Would you recommend your couples therapist and Couples Therapy Inc? If so, why? If not, why not?

Yes!! When couples have problems like we had, this would be the only way to correct them. Seeing someone for 45-minutes once a week would not work.

Couples therapy is incredibly personal.


Los Angeles Couples Retreat - Havi Kligfeld

Our relationship was cold and icy. We didn't fight much, if at all, and we lived our lives like roommates for the past year or so. We had a difficult time opening up to one another and getting past the boredom and dullness of a 7-year marriage with kids.

Couples therapy is incredibly personal. I was worried about what my partner would say and I was worried about the vulnerability I would feel in expressing my true feelings about myself, my partner, my children, and our relationship. We had tried couples therapy before through other therapists and it was not successful. Part of me thought we could never repair our relationship and I was worried that our session with Couples Therapy Inc would be our last effort - that everything was riding on the success of this program - so there was a lot of pressure for our intensive marriage retreat to succeed.

My partner and I now have tools we can use to communicate more effectively with each other. We're also more in tune with each other's past and we understand how the families we grew up in greatly affect our outlook, our participation in, and the expectations we have for our partners.

We're actively building love maps and we schedule time to discuss the day’s events and to truly listen to each other. Marriage is for life so the journey ahead is long. We'll change over the years but I'm confident Couples Therapy Inc has given us a framework we can use to overcome obstacles and stay on course.

What three benefits resulted from working with Couples Therapy Inc?

  • I have hope in my relationship and in the ability of my partner and me to communicate effectively.
  • I have faith in couples therapy. After a few ineffective therapists, Couples Therapy Inc has restored my faith in marriage counseling.
  • My partner and I have noticed an immediate change in the way we view our family and each other. We're warmer to one another and we're more patient with children. We owe a lot of that to the road map our therapist created for us, which gives us hope and confidence.

Our intensive marriage retreat also reminded us of why my partner and I are together, what attracted us to one another, and why we're good partners. Somehow, sadly, we lost sight of that.

My partner and I visited two therapists before finding Couples Therapy Inc. Both were completely inadequate in terms of content and continuity. The sessions were 60 min long and we often had a difficult time resolving any conflict within that time. Also, we often had to wait for weeks or even a month between sessions, which made it difficult to build any momentum. Meanwhile, we'd suffer during that time with absolutely no support from our therapist. Lastly, our therapist had to rely on notes they took from our previous sessions and would often forget what we talked about, ask us to repeat something or miss important issues. After attending Couples Therapy Inc's Intensive Marriage Retreat, I honestly wouldn't consider any private therapists, even to support the groundwork CTI put in place.

Havi Klifeld was amazing! I felt very comfortable with her from the start - like I've known her my entire life or like she could be a best friend. She was very warm and inviting and really took the time to listen to my partner and me. She offered advice and shared stories when it was appropriate but she kept the conversation focused on us.

Havi is very professional and she knows her material well. Other therapists my wife and I visited tried to teach us material from Gottman, but it wasn't presented well and it was lost on us. Havi is an excellent teacher and my wife and I instantly understood what she was talking about how we could apply it to our marriage and our everyday lives.

I would recommend Couples Therapy Inc to anyone experiencing marital issues and I would recommend them as a FIRST option. My wife and I visited a few therapists before finding Couples Therapy Inc and it almost made our relationship worse. The short sessions, the long delays between sessions, and the therapists who couldn't remember the details of our relationship presented barriers were not conducive to solving our problems. We felt more and more like we were alone in this and that therapy (in any capacity) wouldn't succeed. We felt hopeless. Couples Therapy Inc, in many respects, was our last effort to repair our relationship. However, it should have been our first choice. If we had led with Couples Therapy Inc, we would have repaired our marriage years ago and with much less pain and suffering.

I can't express how impressed my wife and I are with Havi, she's really amazing!

This was the first time that we both felt like couples counseling really had the impact we wanted it to...


Evanston & Highland Park, Illinois Retreat - Dr. Mike McNulty

How would you describe your relationship before you called Couples Therapy Inc.? What were the core issues you wanted to improve?

Our relationship was on the rocks. After a second incident of cheating, we wanted to find out if we could mend our relationship, stop avoiding conflict, and learn to let each other in.

What hesitation did you have about starting couples therapy with us?

Honestly, the expense. It's a lot of money to put into something that you're not sure will work and to meet with someone you've never met.

What changes resulted in your marriage/relationship from your work with Couples Therapy Inc.?

I think it was really beneficial for us to just clear the air and talk about all the things we had been avoiding. Dr. McNulty is very skilled and he was able to pick things out that we needed to talk about that we weren't even really aware of. He also made sure to spend a good deal of time taking us through skill building segments that would help us in the future, and that we've continued to focus on using after we got home. Since we got home our communication has been much better and we've been feeling much more affectionate towards each other. I finally feel like we've figured some things out!

Had you considered or tried couples therapy before? If so, how successful or unsuccessfully was it?

Yes. For a few years we had been trying couple's counseling with a few different counselors. We had (have) real avoidance issues and we haven't ever found a counselor who could see through the facade and force us to talk about things we needed to talk about.

What specific qualities did you like most and least about working with this therapist?

We really liked Dr. McNulty a lot. He was easy to talk to, listened very well, and was able to see through to our issues quickly. I particularly appreciated his skill in talking 'for us' - helping to translate feelings and positions that we were having trouble articulating. I also feel grateful for his skill and interest in working with my spouse and his profession - he was able to see what issues might arise as a result of his job and how it would affect our relationship. My spouse was able to have a great individual session with Dr. McNulty due to this and his knowledge about the profession really was able to impact our weekend in a helpful way.

I think the only thing that could be a little distracting was that his office is in an old building and the heat fluctuated - but this didn't really detract much. Overall, Evanston is a great place to visit and we were within walking distance of everything. There are tons of restaurants, shopping opportunities and things to do.

Would you recommend your couples therapist and Couples Therapy Inc? If so, why? If not, why not?

Yes - I would. I think that this was the first time that we both felt like couples counseling really had the impact we wanted it to, and we both feel very hopeful for our future now.

What three benefits resulted from working with Couples therapy Inc?

I would say that the long days were really great - draining, but great. We spent a few hours talking just about one particular issue - something we could have never done in traditional counseling. The second benefit was knowing we were going to see Dr. McNulty, and knowing that this was his area of expertise. We felt more confident knowing that we'd get some real help after researching him online. The third benefit was that this was the first weekend in a long time that we had taken away from our house and our pets and gotten away together. Even though the days were long and draining, going out to eat together afterwards and walking around Evanston was fun and recharging, and we were able to do it together.

Anything else you’d like to add?

Thank you! We really benefited from the weekend and we are glad we did it.

We were troubled. We wanted to improve; daily interactions, joint purpose, joy, sex.


Houston Texas Couples Retreat - Marisa Mundey

How would you describe your relationship before you called Couples Therapy Inc? What were the core issues you wanted to improve?

Troubled. Daily interaction, joint purpose, joy, sex.

What hesitation did you have about starting couples therapy with us?

Concern that it would be difficult without positive outcome.

Had you considered or tried couples therapy before? If so, how successful or unsuccessfully was it?

On occasion in distant past. Overall, unsuccessful.

What specific qualities did you like most and least about working with this therapist?

Our Couples Therapist was Marisa Mundey Extremely favorable review of Marisa. Strong yet gentle direction during activity practice. Able to steer and focus both partners.

Would you recommend your couples therapist and Couples Therapy Inc? If so, why? If not, why not?

Yes. While I think ongoing therapy will be needed and beneficial, it was much more effective than a traditional once a week approach.

We got ideas and a plan to solve conflict


Atlanta Georgia Couples Retreat - Dr. Alisha Powell

Our relationship was overwhelming with constant fighting. unappreciation with poor conflict management.

Had you considered or tried couples therapy before? If so, how successful or unsuccessful was it?

yes. It was unsuccessful. It was not a good fit for us.

(from the second partner)

We were fighting too much and not communicating well. We needed a reset.

We had consulted with two local counselors for about 6 hour-long sessions. We needed a data-based process and more than just an occasional conversation.

What made you choose Couples Therapy Inc.?

It is science-based. We know about Dr. Gottman method by reading his books

What hesitation did you have about starting couples therapy with us?

Price. Think is very expensive

What changes resulted in your marriage/relationship as a result of your work?

It is continuous work. Slow progress but we had used the information we got to resolve conflict.

What specific qualities did you like most and least about working with this therapist?

Dr. Powell is academic knowledgeable, respectful and reliable. I think Dr. Powells is a good Therapist. I just was expecting somebody with more experience to manage some issues in this kind of therapy and for this amount of money. For instance, we - not the therapist- identified a core issue that affected both of us but we were stuck on ideas of how to solve it. She really did not provide help here. This is an issue that is very common among couples. I think a more experienced Therapist would have been able to provide more help.

(from the second partner) Dr. Powell was not always effective at diffusing a tense situation. Need to get to the results of the data much sooner. The Friday get-to-know-you is OK and I see the purpose of trying to get us to remember why we got married in the first place, but this can be condensed. The individual sessions were helpful to get things off my chest that I didn't want my wife to hear but much of my background was not pertinent, my individual thoughts were not incorporated later (so why ask), and we thus wasted of valuable time. Accordingly, Saturday morning has to be condensed so as to get to the Big Book results quicker. It is only after getting to the data do we know where to work. Because of wasted time, we did not get through all of our most important issues.

Would you recommend your couples therapist and Couples Therapy Inc.? If so, why? If not, why not?

No. I think it was too expensive for what we got. There were issues mentioned in the big book and our individual sessions that never were brought up, so what is the point to have them.

What three benefits resulted from working with Couples therapy Inc.?

We got ideas and a plan to solve conflict, learned about each other more and have a plan to continue feeding our relationship.

(from the second partner) We got our reset and are committed to working on our marriage.

What would you say to couples that are considering working with Couples Therapy Inc.?

hope it works for them. we are trying the best we can for us.

Hope we get the 2 follow-ups with Dr. Powells -3 and 6 months - we were promised by her.

Note from Dr. K:

Thank you for taking the time to write this review. I wanted to address a few issues that you pointed out as problems with Dr. Powell so that people reading this will be able to choose wisely. The Saturday time spent in assessment seemed like a "waste of time" to you, but that's not the experience for the therapist targeting a complicated case such as yours. Without knowing your private thoughts about the relationship, we're in the dark about what feedback to give you! The full assessment is an important aspect of our work, and every Gottman therapist spends time alone with each of you, as directed by Gottman himself.

You mentioned that you, as a couple, identified a core issue that affected both of you. You think Dr. Powell should have done that for you. Here's another take on that: Dr. Powell is a solution-focused therapist, and the questions she asked may have had more to do with helping you to solve your own issues than you may give her credit for. That's by design. Dr. Gottman points out that couples that solve their own problems in our work will have more lasting change than the solutions that the therapist offers to them. So congrats on that one!

You also mentioned that "there were issues mentioned in the big book and our individual sessions that never were brought up."
I'm also glad you also mentioned this. None of our therapists will reveal the information you provide in the BIG BIG Book (BBB) unless you initiate. I'll give you an example: One person discusses a painful betrayal in the BBB, and with the therapist privately, but they simply don't mention it in session. None of our therapists will assume that they've simply "forgotten" to bring it up.
We'll respect the partner's decision about when and how to address it with their spouse.

Most of our couples have multiple issues to resolve, and it sounded like you tackled many important ones, but not all of them. I'm also delighted that you got ideas and a plan to solve conflict, that you've learned more about each other and have learned how to feed your relationship. You are also motivated to continue your work with Dr. Powell in follow-ups. It sounds like, despite your cost reservations, you believe she's a better fit than your former therapist. You'll be continuing with her. I applaud you both for putting your full efforts into making a better marriage.

We'll try to do a better job on our website to help couples like you celebrate your victories in coming up with your own solutions. It's great that you were able to do that successfully and that you're continuing to work together. Keep up the good work!

We were in a very tough spot prior to therapy.


Las Vegas, Nevada Couples Retreat - Dr. Scott Wolfe

Our marriage was terrible; near divorce. This was our last chance, a Hail Mary.

Our daughter found you online; presented it as a last-ditch attempt that has worked for other couples.

Scott was our therapist and he was great – [partner’s name] and I had several tough moments during therapy that Scott was able to navigate.

What three benefits resulted from working with Couples Therapy Inc.?

Not sure - too early to tell, but we were in a very tough spot prior to therapy.

What would you say to couples that are considering working with Couples Therapy Inc.?

Would strongly recommend Couples Therapy Inc.

We were in a very bad way.


Washington DC Retreat - Angela Voegele

Not communicating with each other, fighting over little things, resenting one another, making up but not resolving our feelings so things quickly turned negative again and another fight and retreating to ourselves ensued. I honestly thought a divorce was a better option/alternative than to living as unhappy as I was. And we were fearful that our problems were too big to even begin to resolve in a weekend couple's therapy retreat.

What changes resulted in your marriage/relationship from your work with Couples Therapy Inc.?

Honest, open, patient, and supportive communication. We both have issues that we need work on individually and we discussed them openly and honestly with each other. We also learned techniques to better communicators with each other. We are enjoying spending time together again and it is so rewarding.

Had you considered or tried couples therapy before? If so, how successful or unsuccessfully was it?

We have participated in weekly couples counseling before 3 different times over the past 23 yrs. It was good at times, but we defaulted back to our old ways of behaving.

Angela Voegele is an excellent therapist. She listened and was able to see through to what our real issues were. She was nonjudgmental. She confronted us when we defaulted to the four horsemen behavior, she made us accountable to each other for what we did well and what we did to make our communication unhealthy and non-productive. She related well to us and we felt comfortable sharing with her in a non-threatening way. She had our best interest at heart and was genuine in her advice, sharing of personal information and our goal setting for our future. My only regret was that we didn't have more time with Angela.

Would you recommend your couples therapist and Couples Therapy Inc? If so, why? If not, why not?

Yes. Angela and Couples Therapy Inc. was a true gift to us and our relationship and I would recommend her to anyone who is experiencing marital discord, uncertainty about divorce, and or to just jump-start a long-term marriage.

I have learned to be a more effective listener, to be vulnerable about my shortcomings and to own them as being part of who I am, and that it is empowering to be a more accepting and forgiving communicator with my husband.

We met with Angela and it was a life-changing experience that I am so grateful we participated in it. It has given us and our marriage a second chance. I am hopeful for the first time in a long time and I am in love with my husband again and it feels wonderful. Thank you.

These sessions opened my eyes to many of the marriage issues between us.


Washington DC Retreat - Angela Voegele

I appreciate very much Angela's efforts with my spouse and I during this past week. These sessions opened my eyes to many of the marriage issues between us and I believe they helped deepen our love and commitment to one another.

Also, the sessions were not as hard as I expected them to be.

Angela is that reason. Her patience, softness and her understanding helped to bring us together and enabled us to see for ourselves what is most important in our lives and marriage.

We had done couples therapy several times with varying degrees of success. 


Northampton, MA Couples Retreat - Dr. Ham

We had done couples therapy several times with varying degrees of success. We have communication and trust issues, particularly my partner’s willingness to commit.

Dr. Maryanna Ham is affable, very skilled and knows how to push into the deep water. Now, there’s more honesty about where we are, more risk-taking to say what we feel/need/want.

My husband and I had already filed for divorce


Washington DC Retreat - Angela Voegele

Before we called Couples Therapy Inc, our relationship was on its last shot. We had trust issues and we hadn't been connecting for a long time. There was also a lack of intimacy.

We had tried couples counseling for a couple years before we filed for divorce and it seemed to do more harm than good. It seemed like we went in expecting the therapist for advice on how to change our unhealthy patterns with each other and would just get stuck in the fight of the week and leave worse off than when we came. We were worried this was going to be the same way and we would waste our money.

We worked with Angela and she was amazing.

She understood the core issues in our marriage and we spent the time focusing on those. So far there has been more communication and empathy in our relationship. We are working through the trust and intimacy issues using exercises and tools she gave us.

When we showed up, Angela already understood what our main issues were. We didn't waste time going back through the details. She took the time to make sure she understood what both of us were looking to get out of the retreat. She never let us get caught in a fight and instead stopped us and guided us through how we should be handling our issues. She gave us tools and exercises to do (things we had begged our previous therapist for for years). She was engaged and warm and seemed to genuinely want to help us. She made us talk about and deal with and have the tough conversations that we had been avoiding or were never able to have constructively. She is also a sex therapist so she was able to give us great advice on how to increase our intimacy.

She was just amazing.

I would absolutely 100% recommend Angela. She exceeded my expectations and we left with the tools we needed to succeed.

What three benefits resulted from working with Couples therapy Inc?

1) We were able to repair old wounds and move on 2) We have more communication and a stronger connection 3) We have tools to increase our intimacy

I would just like to emphasize how much we got out of the retreat. The exercises and ways to communicate with each other were things that we had been looking for and asking our previous therapist for for years. She seemed to know exactly what we needed and made sure we left with the things we needed. She gave us a bunch of resources to refer to after we left so it didn't just feel like the end of the road when the retreat was over. She was so warm and understanding and comfortable to talk to. This retreat was worth every penny and I am so glad my husband and I made the choice to go.

Past attempts were not successful, I wasn't sure this would be different.


Houston Texas Couples Retreat - Marisa Mundey

I'd describe our relationship as "stuck" in a cycle of criticism and judgment.

Past therapy was not useful at all. Past attempts were not successful, and I wasn't sure this would be different.

We chose Couples Therapy Inc for the scientific research behind the process.

Marisa Mundey had a very endearing personality. Non-judgmental. Made us feel like she understood us both, yet could challenge us where we needed to be confronted. It was like a pressure relief valve was opened and we were reminding of the good we shared. It was a reminder of the good that attracted us to each other in the beginning. It allowed us the space to get "un-stuck" from our cycle of conflict. The Big Book Assessment saved weeks of time for our therapist to get to know us and our issues in a much better way.

What would you say to couples that are considering working with Couples Therapy Inc.?

Do it.

It's like finally breathing again


Washington DC Retreat - Angela Voegele

We were at the end of the line; it felt like we had nothing left after struggling through the fallout of emotional infidelity. Every conversation led to increasingly cruel fights, and we were both ambivalent about staying together. I felt like I could never trust him again after the lies and betrayal, and I had no idea how to process or heal that wound.

We had gone to traditional couples counseling several times over several years, and nothing had seemed to help.

I felt like I needed to have tried absolutely everything before walking away; because I didn't want our relationship to be over, but I couldn't keep going the way that we were, and nothing had helped.

I was worried that we were too far gone and that we'd tried so many times before and nothing had worked. It felt like we were so stuck in our pattern that nothing could fix it. It also felt like previous couples counselors hadn't accurately seen the pattern we had going, and I had felt blamed before and like I'd been hurt worse by not being understood or seen accurately by the counselors.

Angela Voegele was wonderful. I didn't dislike anything. I felt like she was truly present and engaged with us through our difficult conversations and processing, and she provided so much guidance without lecturing or provoking any defensiveness. I felt immediately that I could trust her, and she was very kind and put us at ease in what is naturally a very challenging circumstance. She was calm and connected and seemed to know exactly when to step in and help and when to silently support us as we talked through things.

It was transformational. I felt like we were able to get "our" story back. We made a huge amount of progress on rebuilding trust over the weekend, and we have a shared vision now for our life together moving forward. This retreat gave us a way of framing what we've been through together that is connecting instead of separating. It also reinvigorated our sex life. We are having so much fun, and we feel like we're allowed to step away from all of the tension and just enjoy one another again!

I can't say enough about how much she helped us. Having "failed" out of so many conventional couples therapy settings, the retreat format provided exactly what we needed to have the time to work through things and practice skills. Healing, connection, and hope. It was an exhausting, draining, life-giving weekend. We have hope and love for the first time in years.

What would you say to couples that are considering working with Couples Therapy Inc.?

It is worth all of the time, money, and effort. Yes, it is expensive and exhausting, and it was saved our relationship when we'd literally tried everything else. With so much at stake, having exceptional, expert help was so needed.

Thank you so, so much. You helped give us- and our family- our story back. After years of suffering and hurt and disconnect, it's not an exaggeration to say it's like finally breathing again. Thank you.

My partner and I were completely stuck on the core issue of sex (or absence of) in our relationship.


Berkshire Retreat - Daniel Dashnaw

How would you describe your relationship before you called Couples Therapy Inc.?

My partner and I were completely stuck on the core issue of sex (or absence of) in our relationship. We had tried repeatedly through the past several years to heal this. We were unable to do that through traditional marriage counseling or through numerous discussions between the two of us.

What hesitation did you have about starting couples therapy with us?

The only hesitation was financial. We were otherwise very eager to try anything for help.

What changes resulted in your marriage/relationship from your work with Couples Therapy Inc.?

Dan changed the entire context of the conversation. Dan brought my husband and I to an entirely new space and allowed us to communicate around this issue in a brand new way. It was truly transformational.

Had you considered or tried couples therapy before? If so, how successful or unsuccessfully was it?

Yes. Very unsuccessful.

What specific qualities did you like most and least about working with this therapist?

I loved Dan's bluntness. He was direct and concise. Dan understood me and my issues in a way no therapist ever has before. I have had years of individual therapy - no one had come close to figuring me out the way Dan did. I loved his knowledge. He is so well read and provided an abundance of scientific research to back up his comments.

Would you recommend your couples therapist and Couples Therapy Inc? If so, why?

Yes. Absolutely. I would say you could condense 10 years of therapy into a weekend. I would especially recommend Dan for people with Developmental Trauma.

I would especially recommend Dan for people with Developmental Trauma.

What three benefits resulted from working with Couples therapy Inc?

I understood that the husband in my head is not the same person as the husband who I am married to. I learned how my childhood trauma is impacting my ability to connect with my husband. I learned that my husband loves me.

Maybe there is some hope after all for forgiveness and reconciliation of our marriage


Evanston & Highland Park, Illinois Retreat - Dr. Mike McNulty

Our relationship was very strained and volatile at times. We wanted to improve knowledge of what happened to cause my husbands infidelity, we needed to reevaluate communication skills and we needed to feel like we could find a place of acceptance.

We have been dealing with this since June 2016 and were still not making progress after two therapists and lots of reading. This almost felt like our last hope and we both needed to see if it could help us even see a glimmer of a chance.

We have tried therapy with two other Licensed Social Workers that had some insight but were not able to really see the bigger picture, the whole picture, like Mike did.

Mike was able to help us discover issues that led to my husband's decisions and his change in character. He also helped me to see why my reactions to everything was a reflection of my past as well. It was like opening a Pandora’s box and for me, the betrayed spouse, has kind of left me floundering right now with sorting it all out. He is also starting to see the full effects of his discovery of work addiction and what it entailed for him personally.

We both appreciated his approach to hearing our story, of respecting our feelings, of helping us to understand our lack of communication style, of evaluating our family histories and how relevant it was to our adulthood and explaining ways It had affected our marriage. He was extremely thoughtful in his evaluations and comments—reintroducing concepts that we needed to keep in mind and he kept us on track, which we really have had issues with. His use of doubling our conversations was so helpful, especially for my husband who admits that he has problems with saying things the way he wants.

I don’t feel as if there was anything we didn’t like about Mike—other than we are in different states. We would both benefit tremendously with being able to continue therapy with him.

Would you recommend your couples therapist and Couples Therapy Inc? If so, why? If not, why not?

Yes! Yes! He was so knowledgeable about more than just the marriage. He saw the whole picture—the picture that helped us to see the “why” that caused so many of our issues.

What three benefits resulted from working with Couples therapy Inc?

  1. We felt progress—why we have been stuck in neutral, was given some momentum forward.
  2. We discovered a family history of addiction does include workaholics and what destruction that can do to self and family—it isn’t just reserved for alcohol, drugs or sex.
  3. That maybe there is some hope after all for forgiveness and reconciliation of our marriage

We were hesitant about the expense and fear of the unknown. Fear of what might happen.


Boston / Berkshire Retreat - Dr. K

We had become very distant from each other, very little communication or intimacy. We were at a decision point of whether to stay together or separate.

What hesitation did you have about starting couples therapy with us?

Expense, fear of the unknown. Fear of what might happen.

What changes resulted in your marriage/relationship from your work with Couples Therapy Inc.?

Mutual understanding and concern for my husband's concrete communication tools, education on communication styles and practice. Open communication about sex and intimacy.

Had you considered or tried couples therapy before? If so, how successful or unsuccessfully was it?

Yes, for many years and was unsuccessful at getting to the root of the problem.

What specific qualities did you like most and least about working with this therapist?

Dr. Kathy McMahon was very personable and genuinely interested and caring. She provided education in communication skills and allowed us to practice what we learned. I loved that she shared examples and stories to illustrate a point. She was flexible and worked with us on whatever topic came up in the exercises and made it easier to talk about difficult subjects.

Would you recommend your couples therapist and Couples Therapy Inc? If so, why? If not, why not?

Yes, definitely. It was not only "talk therapy" but educational, with proven methods and educational materials with lots of practice and support in those techniques. I developed a new understanding of my husband and his point of view. Understanding the role that trauma has played in my life and in my relationships has helped him to understand this too. This retreat has opened the door to open and honest communication for us.

Using my husband's words, this weekend helped us more than 3 years of couples therapy did! We were amazed at what was accomplished in such a short time. We are so thankful that we took the leap and did this, it helped us immensely. We have renewed sense of understanding, care and love for each other that would not have been possible otherwise. Thank you Dr. K!

I believe that we have a deeper appreciation for one another as individuals now...


Atlanta Georgia Couples Retreat - Dr. Alisha Powell

We were arguing over everything so effective communication was the primary goal. Now, we both have taken a closer look at our beliefs and experiences and how they shape our own reactions. I believe that even just completing the BIG BIG Book questionnaire was helpful. It forced us to examine so many facets of our relationship on our own.

Who was your couples therapist here at Couples Therapy Inc.?

Dr. Alisha Powell. Her neutrality was very impressive. I felt like she really was very objective.

What specific qualities did you like most and least about working with this therapist?

She was very professional.

Would you recommend your couples therapist and Couples Therapy Inc? If so, why? If not, why not?

Yes probably. I believe the intensive questionnaire and in person weekend really help focus on a lot of contributing factors rather than spreading the time out over months. We both have a better idea of our partners’ experiences and how they influence their reactions. We both have better tools for communicating more effectively.

The best and most important aspect of the retreat was that we were able to address our issues without distractions and under the careful guidance of our counselor.


Boston / Berkshire Couples Retreat - Daniel Dashnaw

Daniel was very encouraging when we were working out issues and very blunt about calling it as he saw it. We were encouraged to speak freely about very hard issues with guidance and compassion, we were able to recognize each other’s feelings and begin to rebuild open communication and we were given the opportunity to address what first brought us together, where the relationship broke down and what strategies we can use to build a stronger marriage going forward.

The best and most important aspect of the retreat was that we were able to address our issues without distractions and under the careful guidance of our counselor. We were able to concentrate on ourselves and each other openly, honestly and emotionally in an environment which felt safe and secure and were able to discuss very painful issues with respect and understanding with a focus on healing together instead of separately.

Would you recommend your couples therapist and Couples Therapy Inc?

I would recommend both if couples truly want to dig in and work on the core issues of the relationship...

Marriage counseling is so TABOO


Houston Texas Couples Retreat - Marisa Mundey

You completely saved my marriage. What you people do truly matters.

Marriage counseling and therapy is so TABOO --- and it should not be. It horrified me to know that no one talks openly about this with friends and family --- like you must be some freak of nature if you have marriage problems you can't work through on your own. I have zero shame in saying that we needed help badly --- and because of being willing to get help before it was too late we are both going to be able to have personal satisfaction and happiness, joy, love, and a spirit that this is my life --- I only have one life --- I am not going to sit back and waste it!!

I was hoping for some sort of a transformative experience and I got that.


Washington DC Retreat - Angela Voegele

Our relationship was strained with the weight of resentment towards each other and we were each considering that relief would come in the form of divorce. The core issue was that I felt I wasn't heard or understood and as a result wasn't motivated to be intimate with my husband, which was his chief complaint.

We tried couples therapy with a psychotherapist and it was unsuccessful.

The idea that an intense retreat, in which we could delve deep into our issues with guidance from an experienced therapist (in both couples and sex therapy), could provide us with the desperate relief our relationship needed? I just wasn't sure how effective it would be and whether it would help resolve our issues.

I liked how the administration and coordination of the therapy was handled. It was very organized, professional, and communication via email kept us informed from beginning to end. We were particularly impressed with Daniel. It was really our phone conversation with him that diminished our doubts about whether to move forward with the therapy because he was knowledgeable, articulate, and friendly. He made us feel comfortable.

Angela Voegele was an excellent therapist. She was a good listener, showed empathy and support for each of us as individuals and as a couple (meaning she didn't favor one person over the other, but instead validated each of our feelings and helped the other to understand them), and she has a wonderful demeanor, which strikes a great balance between being warm and open, but also firm and direct when necessary.

Angela's approach is effective, and the therapy can be life-changing if one is receptive to it and puts in the work. I was hoping for some sort of a transformative experience and I got that.

Couples Therapy Inc. provided us with a cleansing of our issues. Although the work was draining, in the end, we were rewarded. I felt heard, understood, and emotionally healed afterward. It was as if a re-start button was pushed and we could begin again as a couple. Our hope was renewed.

It planted several seeds in me that I can now reference in my mind to help me have a new perspective on a recurring situation, and create a shift not only in the dynamic between my husband and me but in the relationship I have with myself.

It provided relief from the heavy weight of anger, hurt, and resentment my husband and I were carrying; we felt lighter afterward.

It gave us hope that we could succeed as a couple.

What would you say to couples that are considering working with Couples Therapy Inc.?

The therapy is hard work and pricey, but it's absolutely worth your time and money. Like anything in life that's of high quality and true great value, it comes at a cost.

I would have described our relationship as brittle. Lots of fighting and anger.


Amherst MA Couples Retreat - Dr. Gorman

Our hesitation about starting couples therapy with Couples Therapy Inc. was primarily the cost. And that we would invest all the time and money in the therapy and it wouldn’t “work”.

I feel like our work with Couples Therapy Inc. turned us around. I think we have understanding, tools, etc we didn’t have before. I think we can move forward positively.

Dr. Gorman was very professional. That was good.

I was desperate to save my marriage.


Washington DC Retreat - Angela Voegele

Our relationship was very close to ending. Our core issue involved intimacy and the ability to communicate about intimate feelings. I was desperate to save my marriage.

Years ago we tried traditional couples therapy and were frustrated at the length of time invested and the lack of success.

My wife chose your organization mainly because of the intensive weekend format and the direct approach. You are also well regarded by other counselors.

The specific issue causing our problems was confronted immediately. Both of us were assisted with a way to discuss the problem and come up with a plan of action. I am confident that we are moving forward together as a couple.

Angela was extremely easy to talk to about the most intimate of issues. She offered frank caring advice. She is an extremely considerate person.

The format allows a couple to “get down to business” and quickly focus on the problems. Angela has great expertise and provides practical advice.

I feel closer to my wife, there is virtually no tension when we talk, and we made passionate love.

I think my wife has finally forgiven me for things I did ten years ago...


Washington DC Retreat - Angela Voegele

We had intimacy problems - No Connection. Angela detected the problem very early on and worked on overcoming this problem. She has given us tools to succeed, and I would say we are almost > than 50% there. I and my wife feel very relieved. Angela was encouraging, empathetic. It solved the problem for us.

What three benefits resulted from working with Couples Therapy Inc?

1. The wall created by my wife between us is down or will come down, as long as I continue following the advice.
2. We are both relieved
3. We are looking forward enthusiastically for a happily ever after life

Thank U Folks For Helping Me, My Wife & My Family

This was perfect because it was intensive and in one shot.


Boston / Berkshire Couples Retreat - Daniel Dashnaw

Our relationship was good overall but needed to bring more balance in decision making and better connection/communication

We had considered other couples therapists before but honestly, we don't have the time to go for an hour a week every week. This was perfect because it was intensive and in one shot.

Daniel was very insightful and direct in his approach. He also brought some perspectives I had not really considered as part of our issues (higher intelligence/processing speed and the impact that has on our interactions). He was appropriately confrontative without being harsh. He was able to quickly assess our primary issues and help us work on them.

We are definitely more aware of my approach to managing everyone in the house. We are trying to focus on slowing down and finding more moments of connection. We have prioritizing connection, better communication with each other and the kids, and feeling like we have some tools if things start to slip

Would you recommend your couples therapist and Couples Therapy Inc?

Yes. I do wonder how it works with couples who are in more distress, given there is so much pressure to be appropriately interactive during the therapy. But overall, I do think that the approaches used would help any couple who was committed to trying to implement the techniques.

It is the missing piece in our relationship and I'm very excited for the future...


Austin, Texas Couples Retreat - Jennifer Elkins

How would you describe your relationship before you contacted Couples Therapy Inc.?

We had a good relationship with closely aligned goals and desires.

Had you considered or tried couples therapy before? If so, how successful or unsuccessful was it?

We kinda did but was more focussed on my depression, my husband attended once separately but never together. Not sure why or what happened.

What made you choose Couples Therapy Inc.?

Good reviews and I listened to my intuition.

What hesitation did you have about starting couples therapy with us?

Opening old wounds and having to face them in order to move forward.

What changes resulted in your marriage/relationship resulted from your work with Couples Therapy Inc.?

We have been given direction and tools, and essentially a plan to integrate intimacy back into our relationship. We have learned how and why our attempts in resolving our intimacy issues have failed previously and made new commitments that are achievable. We also have new possible causes for many of my personal relationship failings, including those with myself.

Who was your couples therapist here at Couples Therapy Inc.?

Jennifer Elkins

What specific qualities did you like most and least about working with this therapist?

Jennifer created an easy atmosphere, approached the difficult subjects respectfully head-on. Opened up about her own experiences that helped to put aspects of my life, relationships and future into perspective and I think this may have also contributed to a little confusion at one point 🙂 I felt I had developed a trusting relationship with Jennifer in the short time we spent with her, which must be so important to discuss such personal areas of our relationship. The room we worked in was the perfect setting and created the right ambiance to be vulnerable and open.

Would you recommend your couples therapist and Couples Therapy Inc.? If so, why? If not, why not?

Yes. For so many reasons. Our relationship was far from bad or in trouble. But by taking these steps to explore our intimacy issues, we have had professional support in recognizing areas of our personality, past experiences and family circumstances that will be impacting our relationship now and are in the process of reconnecting with ourselves and each other. It is the missing piece in our relationship and I'm very excited about the future as our relationship will only grow and strengthen from this experience. We will also be teaching our daughter how to identify with intimacy in a healthy way.

What three benefits resulted from working with Couples Therapy Inc.?

Personal areas mental aspects to explore, a clear system and plan to work with in order to build the intimacy we were lacking and an understanding of our behaviors and/or habits of communication that will have contributed to distance and discomfort in the past.

What would you say to couples that are considering working with Couples Therapy Inc.?

If you can face your fears and be honest with and about yourself, you will heal the relationship with yourself and the person you choose to share your life with.

Anything else you’d like to add?

Jennifer has helped with far more than our relationship. Thank you

Give it a shot


Houston Texas Couples Retreat - Marisa Mundey

Before CTI we were a 4 out of 10. After the intensive, we're at about a 7 out of 10 now with hope for even better.

Marissa Mundey was great we have a better understanding of each other.

I'd say 'Give it a shot.'

Don't question this, just do it!


Washington DC Retreat - Angela Voegele

Prior to our intensive, our relationship was extremely rocky due to problems with communication. My husband thought I was always blaming or attacking him when I was trying to communicate my needs and desires to connect. He would shut down rather than engage in effective communication because he misunderstood the importance of reflective listening and relationship building. And I was concerned that my husband would not participate in the sessions.

But the scientific research behind the methods of relationship building appealed to us. I knew it was important for us to learn concrete communication skills or we would never be able to get out of the argument loop we were stuck in.

Angela was great at pacing the conversation and finding the right moments for de-stressing and teaching. She is very comfortable to work with because she made us feel at ease and gave us a lot of encouragement. There were difficult issues from both of our childhoods and our previous divorces that came up during our retreat and Angela handled them in ways that helped us learn to recognize our triggers and communicate our needs.

Our communication has improved dramatically! My husband listens, turning towards me and focuses on what I am saying when I speak. He is doing the little things, like taking care of chores I mention and making sure I am comfortable, without the previous drama which made me feel like an irritating roommate rather than someone he loves. These changes have brought us back to being a team again and we are much closer.

Our relationship is stronger because we know we are both committed to our marriage. We are both invested in continuing to build our skills using the Gottman resources and regular counseling, further reinforcing our long-term commitment to each other. Last, but not least, we are finally out of the cycle of having the same arguments over and over! Amazing!

I would highly recommend Angela Voegele and Couples Therapy, Inc.. If you are serious about changing your relationship, the science behind the skills you will learn will improve your marriage.

Don't question this, just do it! If you are at the end of your rope, book a couples intensive weekend. It may seem like a lot of money, but it is so much better to have a dedicated period of time without distractions to concentrate on your relationship.

Do it, without hesitation.


Evanston & Highland Park, Illinois Retreat - Dr. Mike McNulty

Our relationship was distant, and no longer felt like a partnership. I wanted to find our way back to each other, if possible.

The ability to have an intensive weekend was attractive, as I didn't think we could get to the core issues with a once-a-week format.

I was eager but anxious about the weekend format, as I knew it would be emotionally intense. Having said that, I knew the long sessions would be better because we could really get to the issues and not have to stop after 50 minutes.

Dr. Mike McNulty was able to really communicate an understanding of each person in the couple, and I felt great support during the sessions. He notices complex dynamics between people, especially nonverbal, and addresses them in a very helpful way.

He is kind, very sharp and creates a safe space for communication.

I was able to express myself to my spouse in ways that I hadn't been able to before and I'm glad about that.

The Big Big Book helped me better understand our relationship - even before the weekend started. I was able to express myself to my spouse better than I have in years. I felt supported by everyone I've encountered at CTI, from the initial phone call to the scheduler to the therapist.

What would you say to couples that are considering working with Couples Therapy Inc.?

Do it, without hesitation. Even though I don't know how things will end up relationship-wise, it was absolutely worth the financial, emotional and time commitment.

Neither of us were happy unless it was at the emotional expense of the other...


Boston / Berkshire Retreat - Dr. K

Before we contacted Couples Therapy Inc., we did not know how much longer it would be beneficial for us to be a couple. We knew that something needed to change because most of the time neither of us were happy unless it was at the emotional expense of the other. The core issues we needed to improve included differences in religious belief, sexual issues, and ideal lifestyle.

We had tried couples therapy once before and found it less than satisfying. We only had one session, but we knew right away that the therapist was not a good fit for us. We felt that he would be unable to truly connect with us and understand our situation.

My husband found your services online. He was familiar with Dr. McMahon and felt that she could best serve us based on her previous work.

The only hesitation we had about starting couples therapy with CTI was the price: $5800 was a big investment for us, and if we were going to pay it we wanted to be sure that the therapy would be helpful in our situation.

The biggest noticeable change has been in the way we have discussions (what some may call disagreements, arguments, or fighting). We are much better at regulating each other and keeping the discussion within a reasonable time period (from about four hours at a time on the weekends to daily 20-minute sessions for check-in, to keep on top of potential conflict or issue).

This was only our second time working with a couple's therapist, but we found her effective and invested. The qualities I liked most about working with our therapist included her knowledge about some of the topics we were struggling with specifically, and her support when discussing difficult subjects.

Having a therapist that "eats, breathes, and sleeps" your case provides a lot of hope to struggling couples.

[Three benefits from your work with CTI:] Regulation of each other and time management of discussions, a therapist that understands and was able to discuss a difficult topic with my spouse that he has felt entirely alone on, and help to move forward on issues I have been struggling with regarding sexuality.

What would you say to couples that are considering working with Couples Therapy Inc.?

I would encourage them to do so. It is amazing how much difference it makes when couples are able to communicate respectfully and effectively. We felt for the longest time that we were going "going in circles" during our discussions and never made any meaning.

Thank you for investing in our relationship. It means the world to us. Thank you for your dedication to couples everywhere.

My husband thought we couldn't possibly benefit from just three days....


Houston Texas Couples Retreat - Marisa Mundey

We were on the brink of divorce and had trust, infidelity, communication, partnership issues. My husband thought we couldn't possibly benefit from just three days. Marisa was down to earth, genuine, kind, nonjudgmental, a good listener, creative, funny, sincere, caring, compassionate. I feel like she was truly partnering with us to save our relationship. She showed that she cared about us early on and seemed to have a vested interest in seeing us succeed together and to learn to love each other better than we ever thought was possible.

Past therapy seemed to have only caused more problems...


Las Vegas, Nevada Couples Retreats - Dr. Scott Wolfe

What core issues did you want to address?

My Intimate Relationship with my spouse.

What hesitations did you have, if any?

Cost, given the value of our past therapy. Past therapy seemed to have only caused more problems.

What changes resulted in your marriage/relationship from your work with Couples Therapy Inc.?

It gave us exactly what we needed to address, we resolved issues verses fighting about them.

Had you considered or tried couples therapy before? If so, how successful or unsuccessfully was it?

Common therapy prior was unsuccessful. This therapy with Couples Therapy Inc. was successful and effective.

Dr. Wolfe was excellent. He did an outstanding job.

What did you like most and least about your therapist?

Most, facing my issues. Least, facing my issues.

Results?

We have better intimacy, regular relationship, and overall feeling of closeness. The ability to discuss verses arguing.

Overall, it was excellent and effective. Our therapist was excellent and high quality.

I had no direction. I could not bring myself to be intimate with my partner.


Washington DC Retreat - Angela Voegele

We have tried couples therapy before and it helped in improving our relationship to a certain extent. But it was heading nowhere. I was not sure how to continue with the relationship, I had no direction. I could not bring myself to be intimate with my partner.

Results? Angela had some good methods & tools that helped us to understand and communicate with each other better. She was also good at identifying the underlying issue in the preliminary session itself. I came aware of some deep-rooted issues/disappointments that I wasn't aware of before the therapy. Understanding those issues made a lot of difference in improving our relationship.

1. I could see what the core issues were for me. 2. I no longer feel angry with my partner. 3. I see the potential for my relationship with my partner to improve.

Would you recommend? Yes, I would recommend it to couples who are at stumble block with their direction in their relationship. Those who don't know why they want to stay or leave the relationship.

However, unlike my other therapist, Angela did not pay much attention to how uncomfortable we were during the sessions. It is very important that certain ambiance is created for a 2-day continuous therapy session. Comfortable seating is very important as I was uncomfortable with the furniture and as a result, I was getting agitated at certain points. The room, though was a small space could have been decorated to ease the mood of the participants. It was very bare and wasn't very inviting for therapy.


NOTE FROM ANGELA: "The continued comfort of my clients is extremely important to me. Couples Therapy Inc. and I invite comments like these and encourage all of our clients to speak up immediately in session whenever they are unsettled, so we can enhance their comfort. Heating and cooling needs vary from client to client. However, I've made changes to my office seating (replacing the Italian leather loveseat with a full-sized sofa) in response to this comment, and I invite this client to contact me to allow me to make amends for any physical discomfort he/she endured during their time with me..."

It will be the best money you've ever spent.


Boston / Berkshire Retreat - Dr. K

We were in a 25+year marriage with no real communication. After years of multiple stressors, one partner felt ending the marriage would be best. We were confronted with loving the other person, but not feeling "in love." There was a lot of emotional isolation and distancing. One partner's work had become more important than the marriage.

We were hesitant about revealing personal, very personal truths to a stranger. We were both anxious about hearing the status of our marriage from a professional.

Dr. K is personable, funny, and impartial. We never felt like she was taking anyone's side. She is highly intelligent and insightful. After the first few moments of speaking with her, we both felt very comfortable.

We heard new "truths" about each other. We began to understand how our childhood experiences played a key role in our roles of husband and wife. We let ourselves finally be vulnerable. Instead of pursuing a legal separation, we are now committed to working on building our marriage into something fun and amazing.

Dr. K is passionate about her work and her enthusiasm is infectious. It is an amazing experience to feel such desire to not simply "save" what you had but to make it rich with love and respect.

We both felt our "stories" were validated. Our childhood experiences are relevant and with Dr. K's help, we were able to see each other in a new light. For the first time in our 26 years of marriage, we are putting ourselves first.

What would you say to couples that are considering working with Couples Therapy Inc.?

It is a leap. Forget all the worry and the questions and just do it. You will not have any regrets. It will be the best money you've ever spent.

Given the failures of past therapy, I was concerned about cost—thinking our relationship was just hopeless…


Boston / Berkshire Retreat - Dr. K & Daniel Dashnaw

Before, our relationship could be described as toxic, angry, petty and stressful. Weekly therapy that we had in the past was a failure; it was not successful at all.

We wanted to improve communications, unresolved issues, and to start to like each other again.

Dr. K and Dan were our therapists; I liked their knowledge and experience on the process. They provided examples to connect the science and delivered it simply.

Now I have a better connection to my wife by understanding her adult child. We have fewer escalations in fights and this clarified our decision that we absolutely want to stay together. We’ve learned when and how to have disagreements, when and how to stop escalations and how to deposit in our partner’s emotional bank.

I would gladly recommend Dr. K and Mr. Dan and Couples Therapy Inc. I think the science behind relationships is something necessary for all marriages.

Lisa Lund's knowledge and skill sets were fantastic.


Northern California Couples Retreat - Lisa Lund

Our relationship was/is good, but we are struggling with some issues. We wanted to improve our communication and address some past traumas.

We had made several connections with couples therapy in the past and predominately found them lacking. The skill of the past therapists was a real issue, and conducting the therapy sessions in one-hour increments was also a problem for us.

The track record of our therapist [Lisa Lund] was significant, and the intensive weekend, full day structure was very important to us. The Gottman Institute philosophy seemed promising as well.

Before starting, we had two concerns. One was the investment cost of the commitment, though considering the many hours our therapist worked with us, as well as the staff that supported the treatment center, it didn't seem particularly unreasonable. The second concern was whether we'd agree with the philosophy of the institute and if it was really fact-based. We seriously didn't want something that referred to a religious or spiritual philosophy in this setting. Thankfully CTI didn't.

We got a better understanding of some past traumas in our relationship, as well as some very solid tools for communicating with each other that I believe will be very helpful going forward.

Lisa Lund's knowledge and skill sets were fantastic. We feel that (unfortunately) the majority of therapists we've been exposed to in the past did not have obvious skills to be particularly helpful, nor did it feel they were doing much more than just listing to us talk. Lisa Lund was actively engaging with us with ease and skill.

I would recommend CTI to others, with the consideration of whether the expense of it was possible for them to manage. We are grateful that we were able to make it work, but it is unfortunate that this kind of one-on-one therapy is limited to those who can afford it.

We had the opportunity to have personal therapy and couples therapy, and we received tools to improve our relationship going forward. It was also nice to be in a fun city like the Bay Area for the off hours in-between our sessions.

What would you say to couples that are considering working with Couples Therapy Inc.?

This is a great opportunity to improve your relationship, and to help you get very helpful perspectives on your personal challenges.

I was afraid that if my husband got upset or hurt I would feel terrible...


Berkshire Couples Retreat - Daniel Dashnaw

We tried couples therapy before, briefly. It was terrible.

We had one issue of my sexuality turning into a sticking point (polyamory...) We loved Dan! Mostly, the fact that he participated. Not just a cheerleader or as he would say, a "powder puff."

I have hope. I want to stay. I feel calmer. We have a new understanding of each other. We are having different, better conversations.

The sheer amount of time you get to devote to the marriage is valuable. The scientific approach made sense as well.

Very positive experience.

Angela was personable, professional, direct, open, supportive and gave specific information and examples.


Washington DC Retreat - Angela Voegele

There were some basic areas of communication and disconnect between us. Listening to each other, hearing each other, understanding each other and most of all accepting, appreciating and respecting our differences. And for me, plain and simple areas of care, compassion, affection, closeness and intimacy. There were areas of anger, pain, hurt and significant disconnect for both of us.

We considered couples therapy before and actually talked with one therapist talking through his approach and decided not to do that process. We did attend the Gottman Art and Science of Love weekend. The weekend gave a good overview of the research and Gottman approach which then led us to do the couple's retreat with Angela.

Angela was personable, professional, direct, open, supportive and gave specific information and examples.

Within the sessions, I was able to express my questions, areas of need and Angela Voegele was great about listening, asking clarifying questions and giving direct responses, helpful information and she shared video examples and other resources.

We made good progress and need more help and support. We are in the midst of major transition and are just now about to purchase a new home, yet it has major challenges attached and throws us into significant financial continued stress. I am concerned. We know we have the ability to communicate. We have the information to do more. We are committed to each other and love each other. We need more opportunities to learn and grow. I hope we can create ways to live up to our "decisions and commitments" made in our sessions. WE have a long way to go. Thanks for what Angela has done to support us...and all she does and thanks to the Gottman Institute for what you are doing.

We didn’t know how a short weekend could help us address the things that were going on...


Missoula Retreat - Jim Ramsey

We were argumentative and in despair.

Reverend Jim Ramsey was nonjudgmental, accepting, wise, discerning, and strategic. He had lots of practical tools, created a peaceful environment, offered tons of life experience, and practiced gentle truth telling.

With him, we processed a lot of pain and misunderstanding. We came away with some practical tools to implement and to continue the healing. We both felt very heard by our therapist and I felt the heaviness lift off of my soul.

The process of being able to share heart-to-heart in an in-depth away with another person has really brought a lot of perspective in healing into our relationship. We have already been divorced and remarried to each other so we know what to do but we had gotten stuck in terrible patterns due to pain, confusion and exhaustion.

Reverend Jim seemed to know exactly what had happened and why it happened and how we could crawl our way out of this painful place we were in. He’s a very deep and approachable man and he has a wonderful and beautiful life that resonates with receiving truth from him.

I would definitely recommend him to others. He is a deep fountain of knowledge but completely approachable and very accepting of where ever you are at or what process you bring into the therapy. He has so much life experience. He is not cynical but he is realistic, is also very pragmatic but very intuitive at the same time. He is very gentle and kind but seems to be someone who does practice what he preaches and that’s why what he’s talking about is all real.

Maybe a little more time practicing some of the tools would have been good. But I believe we’ll put into practice the tools and strategies that we tried here. It has really brought a lot of perspective in healing into our relationship.

However difficult this past year has been for my husband and I, one thing is for certain...


The Berkshires of Western MA Couples Retreat - Daniel Dashnaw

Daniel, It would have been much more difficult if we did not have your support. While it wasn't until later in life you chose this path, I am grateful that you did! From our very first encounter, I could tell you were genuine, kind, and best of all, down-right blunt! Those qualities are just what I needed to help guide me down the path of self-reflection....

Thank you for giving us a safe place to talk, cry, laugh and in my case, shut down. Our time spent with you has had a tremendous impact on our relationship and has helped us both take the time to reflect on what we need to focus on going forward.

Your support and guidance this past year will have a lasting impact on me throughout my life...I believe in my heart you were put on this earth to help people and I am genuinely grateful I was among those people.

Words cannot express how thankful I am for everything.

Even after just the two days we feel that our relationship is stronger and better.


Washington DC Retreat - Angela Voegele

Therapy in the past was slightly helpful but not providing useful tools to solve the problem

It was recommended to us that we try the Gottman Method. We looked for a therapist with full training in the Gottman system, and we chose Angela Voegele. We consulted with her and decided to do the two-day retreat with her.

We feel that Angela provided us with an extremely beneficial 2-day "total immersion" which was much more effective than piecemeal 50-minute therapy sessions. In the retreat, Angela provided us with practical, immediately usable tools that we could practice with her and then use on our own. Even after just two days, we feel that our relationship is stronger and better because we discovered techniques to avoid anger and fighting in ways that we didn't know before.

Angela is gentle, warm, fair, and knowledgable. She inspires confidence. She knows the Gottman tools well and was very skillful in putting them into practice with us.

We now have better confidence in our relationship, practical tools to use anytime, and comfort in knowing that we can come back to Angela if we need to.

What would you say to couples that are considering working with Couples Therapy Inc.?

The Gottman Method is excellent and Angela is an excellent practitioner of it.

Thank you just doesn't seem good enough...


Washington DC Retreat - Angela Voegele

What an amazing and life changing weekend. Angela, you must be exhausted!

My wife and I are forever in your gratitude for how you helped us learn more about ourselves and each other. You have renewed my faith in counseling. The materials, visual aides, environment and your calm, professional approach were exactly why this weekend was so impactful... and special to us. Thank you just doesn't seem good enough to express how grateful we are to you and the program.

We have a lot of new things to incorporate in our daily lives, and it's been a wonderful beginning for us.

We are feeling hopeful and moving forward.


Houston Texas Couples Retreat - Marisa Mundey

Marisa Mundey was well-prepared, well-spoken and compassionate. She did absolutely NOTHING wrong. We are feeling hopeful and moving forward.

I love feeling like I’m not holding a secret


Las Vegas, Nevada Couples Retreat - Dr. Scott Wolfe

Our relationship was tense, constrained. I had become involved In an abusive extramarital relationship and I felt so alone and powerless. I wanted my marital partnership back, the strength we once knew that had just gone away.

My experience with previous therapy was that it temporary feel good. But I also felt like a basket case and was not empowered.

You [CTI] looked like the real deal. Professional, intelligent, honest. You looked trustworthy and like real people who live in the real world. The price was comparatively good.

I had some concern for being judged “guilty” but I figured I’d work that out for myself. Or learn, grow, transform it or have a breakthrough from it. I had a concern that the model you (any psychotherapy) used would dominate a feeling that you were connected with me. I have had that experience and I have hated it. Waste of MY time and money.

Scott Wolfe’s compassion and ability to create an environment that was safe to express were my favorite qualities. Even his clothes were appropriate for creating himself as the background. It was great to have his maturity and experience as a contribution.

This is weird and did not Interfere in the therapy but it bothered me a little that he considered me a Christian when I wrote about my humanist upbringing. Definitely NOT a Christian upbringing. Traditions only. I thought I’d made it obvious and that he’d know enough about different religions for me to not have to explain my religious beliefs. That was just a little strange to me.

I snuggle with [my partner] in bed. I still come to bed late but I approach and snuggle now. This morning I woke up in the position I fell asleep in...in his arms. This has NEVER happened before.

I’m honest. Honest about what I’m doing and honest about what I’m thinking. I share what I’m working through for myself or at least THAT I’m working something through and I need some space for reflection. I feel safe with my husband vs. neglected or ignored or one of us feeling agitated I love feeling like I’m not holding a secret and that I can tell him anything. I’m contributing more to the house. I’m cooking again. About half.

[My partner] had an emergency and All I wanted was to take care of him. New for me. I made a schedule of fun things we could do together. I was anxious to start NOW in a little fear we’d never do them.

I absolutely would recommend Scott Wolfe. I think any therapist can disconnect with their patients by over-relying on a technique or a model. Scott did not sacrifice any of his relatedness to us or his professionalism. He was true to his course and I felt known.

What would you say to couples that are considering working with Couples Therapy Inc.?

Do it!

I felt I would be singled out as the bad guy; all fingers would point towards me.


Boston / Berkshire Couples Retreat - Daniel Dashnaw

Our relationship was strained. We wanted to improve communications, work toward acceptance or forgiveness of infidelity. I hesitated to start with CTI because I felt I would be singled out as the bad guy; all fingers would point towards me.

We sought couples therapy but never spoke to a therapist that specialized in couples therapy as Daniel does. His insight and experience were exceptional. Daniel's couples therapy experience was second to none. He was blunt and straight to the point yet understanding and did not choose sides of who is right or wrong. He used the science of the human body to explain why we have the feeling we have during different situations and how they affect our brains and emotions. We were provided with tools to address anger, doubt, and trust. With these tools, we could rebuild our home.

I would definitely recommend Couples Therapy Inc even under the most difficult situations. We are all human and we all make mistakes. Understanding the science of emotion and how it relates directly to the human body places emphasis on the root cause of why we do things that hurt our partners, intentional or not.

Three benefits from attending the Private Intensive Couples Retreat session were; one, the private setting with no outside distractions. All focus was on us, good or bad. Two, there was no escaping the emotion. The eight hour days brought out a lot of emotion which really felt invigorating for both of us. Three, a path forward on working toward a result based on the tools provided and the lessons learned from the discussions.

Daniel was wonderful. The setting was very private and my partner and I had a memorable time. I' like to thank Daniel again for his insight and passion for helping couples work together to reach their goal.

I was really dreading it, but came out feeling much better not only with my marriage, but about myself...


Houston Texas Couples Retreat - Marisa Mundey

Thank you so much Marisa!! I can’t stop taking about how good our session was with you!! It’s already made a big difference!! Thanks again for your great advice and suggestions! I was really dreading it, but came out feeling much better not only with my marriage, but about myself.

It was truly a great experience! Thank you for all your suggestions and helping us “reconnect” with each other. It’s nice to know we are “normal” and hearing good things goes a long way!

Being a “words of affirmation” guy, believe me, it goes A LONG WAY!!!!

I have never seen a therapist that was so skillful and strategic in dealing with difficult people.


Washington DC Retreat - Angela Voegele

Our core issue was mainly to learn how to deal with conflict. Previous therapy experience was not successful. A psychologist recommended Couples Therapy Inc.

We finished the Couple's Retreat 4 days ago and we are already seeing changes!

Angela Voegele is excellent, very experienced and very understanding of the issues that needed to be tackled. I would be very glad to recommend Angela Voegele not only because she is an effective therapist but because she is also an expert in the Gottman Method for couples. Her training, experience, and skills to deal with problems is remarkable! I have never seen a therapist that was so skillful and strategic in dealing with difficult people.

My husband and I know more about each other now. We learned real tools to help us to deal with anger and also to find solutions. I have never run into a therapist of this category. Angela is an excellent, sensitive and awesome therapist! After doing the 2-day Retreat, I have hope again in my marriage.

What would you say to couples that are considering working with Couples Therapy Inc.?

I wish I would have done it before. You will not regret it.

She was able to get us to open up


Houston Texas Couples Retreat - Marisa Mundey

Our marriage had little trust and poor communication.

Marisa Mundey had a good sense of our moods. She was able to get us to open up. She didn’t not discuss one major issue that exists in our marriage.

We got an understanding of how we both feel about that state of our marriage, we understand the reasons why our marriage has failed, we learned ways to improve our marriage. We’ve been taught communication tools. It’s up to us to implement them.

What would you say to couples that are considering working with Couples Therapy Inc.?

Be open and honest when completing the Big Big Book.

It's so frustrating and disappointing. We are not having sex.


Washington DC Retreat - Angela Voegele

How would you describe your relationship before you contacted Couples Therapy Inc.?

Our relationship was in distress. We were not connected, not relating well, and not having sex.

Had you considered or tried couples therapy before? If so, how successful or unsuccessful was it?

We tried couples therapy for a couple sessions before, and also did a Gottman relationship workshop.

What made you choose Couples Therapy Inc.?

We needed intensive counseling and had met with Angela before (she led the Gottman workshop) and heard about this. I liked that there was a detailed assessment prior to the workshop, so that we could think about and communicate to the therapist complex issues and feelings so she would know something about our problems ahead of time.

What changes resulted in your marriage/relationship resulted from your work with Couples Therapy Inc.?

Nothing. We are back to where we started from. It's so frustrating and disappointing. We are not having sex. My husband is still checked out/withdrawn, and I am still frustrated. We went to see Angela twice after the intensive, but she was very passive and we gained nothing from the sessions.

Who was your couples therapist here at Couples Therapy Inc.?

Angela Voegele.

What specific qualities did you like most and least about working with this therapist?

I liked that she was pleasant and unbiased. I did not like that she was very passive and did not help us to work through our major issues. With all of her certifications (Gottman, Couples therapy, sex therapist, etc), I had high hopes that she would be skilled in helping us to address complex issues and help us to shift our dynamic. She gave no clear guidance, no homework for us to work on, and we are STILL stuck in the same patterns as before.

Would you recommend your couples therapist and Couples Therapy Inc.? If so, why? If not, why not?

No. Why? Because, we have not seen results.

What three benefits resulted from working with Couples therapy Inc.?

none.

Anything else you’d like to add?

We spent literally days writing our assessments before the intensive. I cannot understand why you would not provide a copy of this to each of us so that we could continue to reference it as a road map for our ongoing growth. This should be provided to each couple. We took a LOT of time to write down our issues and goals, and should be able to reference them easily again.

From Dr. K

I'm sorry that you didn't get help from this retreat and the two additional sessions you had with Angela. It's heartbreaking that these problems remain between you, but clinically not surprising. Sexual issues, especially low desire issues, are complicated, difficult and retractable. One weekend and 2 sessions would be very quick change, and you may consider working with a clinician over a longer period of time.

For those reading this, I want to emphasize again that the scores and analysis of the BIG BIG Book are for the clinician’s use and are not intended to be given to clients. The results are to be interpreted in the context of all the other information obtained about the couple during the assessment process including joint and individual interviews and clinical observations. The results of the questionnaires do not stand alone, nor will they ever be an ongoing roadmap for growth. A second reason it isn't handed out to clients is that each partner is encouraged to answer questions openly and honestly, free of concern about what their partner may think about their answers.

Angela discussed the results of the entire assessment with both of you and suggested a treatment plan for improving and strengthening your relationship based on all the assessment information you provided. These assessments require sensitivity as well as clinical wisdom to use them to provide a helpful therapeutic roadmap. We outline this fact clearly at the start of every BIG BIG Book. Please reach back out to Angela if you'd like clarity regarding those areas of growth for both of you.

“It is not a lack of love, but a lack of friendship that makes unhappy marriages.”   - Friedrich Nietzsche


A successful marriage requires falling in love many times, always with the same person.        ---Mignon McLaughlin

Dr. Kathy McMahon & Daniel Dashnaw, MS, MA, MFT
Husband/Wife Clinical Team & Owners
Couples Therapy Inc.

The Berkshires of Western Massachusetts

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