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Read about couples who spent the time and invested their resources and got practical, tangible change. Our former clients describe how they became friends and lovers once again.


My husband has always been reluctant to participating in counseling and we had communication difficulties among other issues.


Berkshire Couples Retreat - Daniel Dashnaw

Daniel quickly assessed our core issues and addressed them head on. He provided tools and methods for us to engage each other on a deeper and more intimate level. We appreciated his knowledge and professionalism. Dan alerted us to things about ourselves that we were unaware of. He used data-based references to come to conclusions that were helpful and enlightening while providing references for us to explore. We felt that he adapted the counseling session to meet our specific needs. We enjoyed Dan's rapport and the immediate connection that we felt. Wonderful!

We are very pleased that we chose to participate in this couples therapy program. We learned to hear more of the underlying feelings of each other and how to respond in more positive ways. We have expanded our vocabulary in ways that are more beneficial and productive. We have a better understanding of why we as individuals behave the way we do. We've learned how to listen, respond and communicate more effectively. We've learned to appreciate the many positive aspects of our relationship.

We liked this approach to couples therapy and we would personally recommend our therapist.

I was really dreading it, but came out feeling much better not only with my marriage, but about myself...


Houston Texas Couples Retreat - Marisa Mundey

Thank you so much Marisa!! I can’t stop taking about how good our session was with you!! It’s already made a big difference!! Thanks again for your great advice and suggestions! I was really dreading it, but came out feeling much better not only with my marriage, but about myself.

t was truly a great experience! Thank you for all your suggestions and helping us “reconnect” with each other. It’s nice to know we are “normal” and hearing good things goes a long way!

Being a “words of affirmation” guy, believe me, it goes A LONG WAY!!!!

I would recommend Dr. McMahon without hesitation.


Berkshire Retreat - Dr. K

Our relationship was positive and in recovery, but we still struggled with deep attachment wounds we had individually and later, between us. We are both earnest and comprehensive in the life we are seeking together. We have many new tools to work through together. We are learning how to communicate amygdala-to-amygdala. The Gottman practical skills are also a useful framework for day-to-day conflict. We are still internalizing bigger messages about our own development and how that fits into our marriage.

Who was your couples therapist? Excellent. We appreciated Dr. McMahon's direct approach, breadth of knowledge and ability to see our situation from a new and fresh perspective.

Most: She knows what she is doing in complicated situations and has the confidence to address issues she sees in a direct way. Least: We needed more time to digest in pieces.

The weekend format was great and is likely the best format for couples that need very intensive and consistent intervention. However, the BEST format for us would be 3 hours every two weeks for 12 weeks or something like that. Our issues are intense, but we are not in crisis. I think we do best when we can work intensely, close that down, break for several days/week, process, distil our questions down to one or two and then come back to answer those. We fatigued, but I think the issues still have energy. Our issues were marathons - not sprints.

What changes resulted?

1. A fresh perspective on our unique issues. 2. New skills to practice and utilize tailored specifically to our relationship. 3. Hope.

What follow-up services would be helpful?

A summary of Dr. McMahon's impressions for each individual and then the couple/marriage. Three paragraphs of her straight impressions and advice. No nonsense. Big picture. Summary.

I would recommend Dr. McMahon without hesitation.

My husband thought we couldn't possibly benefit from just three days....


Houston Texas Couples Retreat - Marisa Mundey

We were on the brink of divorce and had trust, infidelity, communication, partnership issues. My husband thought we couldn't possibly benefit from just three days. Marisa was down to earth, genuine, kind, nonjudgmental, a good listener, creative, funny, sincere, caring, compassionate. I feel like she was truly partnering with us to save our relationship. She showed that she cared about us early on and seemed to have a vested interest in seeing us succeed together and to learn to love each other better than we ever thought was possible.

I was afraid that if my husband got upset or hurt I would feel terrible...


Berkshire Couples Retreat - Daniel Dashnaw

We tried couples therapy before, briefly. It was terrible.

We had one issue of my sexuality turning into a sticking point (polyamory...) We loved Dan! Mostly, the fact that he participated. Not just a cheerleader or as he would say, a "powder puff."

I have hope. I want to stay. I feel calmer. We have a new understanding of each other. We are having different, better conversations.

The sheer amount of time you get to devote to the marriage is valuable. The scientific approach made sense as well.

Very positive experience.

We had an extremely distressed relationship.


Berkshire Retreat - Daniel Dashnaw

There was tremendous amount of emotional absence in the relationship and unproductive communication styles. The brief hour long sessions with other couples therapists were a waste of time for someone like us. We needed intensive training and work.

I was hesitant that like other couples therapists we’d been to, Daniel would not get the gist of our relationship and also not get the smaller more specific issues in our relationship. But Daniel immediately got the gist and every single issue was understood by him, and he addressed it with specific suggestions and also was direct about how to handle it. There was no beating around the bush. He just “got it” and addressed it very quickly and effectively. He’s amazing!! I’ve never seen a therapist that gets it so fast, doesn’t waste time, and addresses things in a direct but empathetic way. I highly recommend him.

​After the intensive, my husband started working on specific issues that he minimized in the past and I started feeling like someone was getting it and addressing it. Also, I started to notice my own reactions better. I understood my own situation better, my husband could not be in denial anymore, he started understanding what changes he needed to make, which never happened with other couples therapists as they could not bring this level of specific suggestions and expertise and training. Daniel gave real tools.

Also, I felt really heard and confident that someone had our back, and was not doing it just as a “therapist”. I loved his expertise, training and statistics which made everything he said more comprehensive as it was backed by evidence and research and this really spoke to me.

This is truly an effective method which is meant to get to issues quickly. What would need months took 2.5 days.

We had an affair.


Berkshire Retreat - Daniel Dashnaw

After our intensive with Daniel, we came home with great hope that we could have a stronger relationship…but different from the first. We are able to communicate easier, and we have tools to have a calmer disagreement and express OUR feelings.

We liked Daniel’s knowledge and approach... we feel that he has helped us immensely.

I was concerned that my husband would not respect the therapist.


Berkshire Retreat - Dr. K

We were in dire straits. I wanted the verbal abuse to cease and I was concerned that my husband would not respect the therapist. We had been to couples therapy before, and it was not successful in teaching us tools that we could use. I liked the fact that Dr. K was not afraid to take on our strong personalities even when it was uncomfortable.

Would you recommend Couples Therapy Inc?

Yes, a million times.

What changes resulted?

  1. Renewed hope

  2. Plan of action

  3. Clarity

We are both hopeful and we have a plan.

My partner and I were completely stuck on the core issue of sex (or absence of) in our relationship.


Berkshire Retreat - Daniel Dashnaw

How would you describe your relationship before you called Couples Therapy Inc.?

My partner and I were completely stuck on the core issue of sex (or absence of) in our relationship. We had tried repeatedly through the past several years to heal this. We were unable to do that through traditional marriage counseling or through numerous discussions between the two of us.

What hesitation did you have about starting couples therapy with us?

The only hesitation was financial. We were otherwise very eager to try anything for help.

What changes resulted in your marriage/relationship from your work with Couples Therapy Inc.?

Dan changed the entire context of the conversation. Dan brought my husband and I to an entirely new space and allowed us to communicate around this issue in a brand new way. It was truly transformational.

Had you considered or tried couples therapy before? If so, how successful or unsuccessfully was it?

Yes. Very unsuccessful.

What specific qualities did you like most and least about working with this therapist?

I loved Dan's bluntness. He was direct and concise. Dan understood me and my issues in a way no therapist ever has before. I have had years of individual therapy - no one had come close to figuring me out the way Dan did. I loved his knowledge. He is so well read and provided an abundance of scientific research to back up his comments.

Would you recommend your couples therapist and Couples Therapy Inc? If so, why?

Yes. Absolutely. I would say you could condense 10 years of therapy into a weekend. I would especially recommend Dan for people with Developmental Trauma.

I would especially recommend Dan for people with Developmental Trauma.

What three benefits resulted from working with Couples therapy Inc?

I understood that the husband in my head is not the same person as the husband who I am married to. I learned how my childhood trauma is impacting my ability to connect with my husband. I learned that my husband loves me.

We needed therapy to resolve issues that were problematic...


Los Angeles California Couples Retreat - Jenny Fang

What hesitation did you have about starting couples therapy with us?

Not much, it was geographically close. We hadn't tried couples therapy before. We had no personal referrals. But we needed therapy to resolve issues that were problematic with this relationship. My husband's former wife and the direction of the relationship were core issues we wanted to resolve.

What specific qualities did you like about this therapist?

Partner One: We like Jenny from the introductory phone call. She was warm, insightful, and made some great interpretations that opened things up as a couple.

Partner Two: Jenny was pleasant and knowledgeable and was able to get to some areas of discussion which were hidden to us before.

What changes resulted in your marriage from the work you did?

Partner One: It's a little early to tell but we seem more patient with each other. We have more patience and we're expressing more emotions.

We received tools and had an opportunity to use one.

He seemed to genuinely want us to stay together...


The Berkshires - Daniel Dashnaw

Dan's most admirable quality as our therapist was that he seemed to genuinely want us to stay together and work to fix our marriage. I never felt like he was just coldly and indifferently going through the academic motions of a therapist.

His input felt more like a family member with a lot of training and wisdom advising us on how to better communicate, understand each other, and unpack our various individual and joint issues. Dan had a genuine humility, which made his at times challenging demands of us much more palatable. I never felt bullied or obligated to do anything.

I was anxious going into the weekend knowing it would be a difficult one, and it was...


Amherst MA Couples Retreat - Dr. Gorman

Dr. Gorman, I wanted to thank you again for this past weekend. I was anxious going into the weekend knowing it would be a difficult one, and it was. But I don't think we could have selected a better therapist. You put me at ease from the first evening we were together. I appreciated how thorough you were going through our Big Big Book. I am amazed at how many times you referenced something we said or a family member we talked about by name.

Your genuine interest/concern for us came through very clearly to me. It made me feel very comfortable and able to express the things I haven't been able to previously. I learned a lot about myself and how I chose the path I did (even though sub-consciously in many ways).

I am also grateful for the tools you gave us to help communicate more effectively. I do believe that my partner and I have both tried really hard and we are both good people. Although he and I are still struggling with how to act around one another, I am hopeful we will work together to improve that.

Our departure on Sunday from your office felt very sudden (although I knew our time was winding down). We were also so emotionally drained at that point, I didn't feel I gave you a proper goodbye. I really want you to know how much I appreciate everything you did for us.

My husband and I both agreed on our ride home (regardless of the outcome of our relationship/marriage) that we were glad we went.

​For a long time, I had so many doubts as to whether we could make this work...


The Berkshires of Western MA Couples Retreat - Dr. K

I spent most of my marriage not knowing it could be as rich as this last month as been. I felt the "switch," over this last month, and it's felt like living in sunshine instead of shadows. My husband and I haven't had a fight in months, even while navigating normally very tense waters including dealing with our families, and even buying a house! They've turned into discussions....

Dr. K, I'm not kidding, it's been the sweetest month I've ever had in our marriage. I know that we'll hit plenty of bumps ahead, but for the first time in a long time, it feels like my teammate, my partner, has shown up.

So this email is simply to say "thank you." Thank you for giving us the tools, and the hope that things would change if we wanted them to. Thank you from the bottom of my heart. Thank you for giving me my husband back, and for listening when we were at our rock bottom."

I was reluctant to open up to a total stranger....


The Berkshires of Western MA Couples Retreat - Daniel Dashnaw

My main hesitation was just opening up and telling someone about the personal issues we were dealing with and some of the root causes for our problems. We had considered couples therapy before, but this was the first time we ever met someone to discuss our issues.

I was reluctant to open up to a total stranger.

Daniel was very understanding of our problems. He spoke to us in a way we could easily relate to. He didn't judge our mistakes but gave us tools as to how to correct and avoid them in the future. Dan helped us remember how great our marriage and relationship was at one point and taught us how we can get back to that place or even a better place in the future.

We've been more connected, our communication has been much better than before, and we are better at addressing one another if we disagree.

Our physical connection and closeness has also improved tremendously. Our sex life is much more active.

Dan was amazing. My wife and I have both said how much he helped us, and that we may not have been able to save our marriage without his help.

For that, it's been worth the time and money spent...

His knowledge and insight will follow me for the rest of my life.

I had no direction. I could not bring myself to be intimate with my partner.


Washington DC Retreat - Angela Voegele

We have tried couples therapy before and it helped in improving our relationship to a certain extent. But it was heading nowhere. I was not sure how to continue with the relationship, I had no direction. I could not bring myself to be intimate with my partner.

Results? Angela had some good methods & tools that helped us to understand and communicate with each other better. She was also good at identifying the underlying issue in the preliminary session itself. I came aware of some deep rooted issues/disappointments that I wasn't aware of before the therapy. Understanding those issues made a lot of difference in improving our relationship.

1. I could see what the core issues were for me. 2. I no longer feel angry towards my partner. 3. I see potential for my relationship with my partner to improve.

Would you recommend? Yes, I would recommend it to couples who are at stumble block with their direction in their relationship. Those who don't know why they want to stay or leave the relationship.

However, unlike my other therapist, Angela did not pay much attention to how uncomfortable we were during the sessions. It is very important that certain ambiance is created for a 2-day continuous therapy session. Comfortable seating is very important as I was uncomfortable with the furniture and as a result, I was getting agitated at certain points. The room, though was a small space could have been decorated to ease the mood of the participants. It was very bare and wasn't very inviting for therapy.


NOTE FROM ANGELA: "The continued comfort of my clients is extremely important to me. Couples Therapy Inc. and I invite comments like these and encourage all of our clients to speak up immediately in session whenever they are unsettled, so we can enhance their comfort. Heating and cooling needs vary from client to client. However, I've made changes to my office seating (replacing the Italian leather loveseat with a full-sized sofa) in response to this comment, and I invite this client to contact me to allow me to make amends for any physical discomfort he/she endured during their time with me..."

For the first time in many years, I feel like we are headed in a good direction.


Las Vegas, Nevada Couples Retreat - Dr. Scott Wolfe

[From a recent client to Dr. Wolfe]

I just wanted to say thank you again for a really good weekend. For the first time in many years, I feel like we are headed in a good direction. I feel more at peace and I believe my partner does too. We have had a few good days since we left and feel grateful for your guidance.

We were in a very bad way.


Washington DC Retreat - Angela Voegele

Not communicating with each other, fighting over little things, resenting one another, making up but not resolving our feelings so things quickly turned negative again and another fight and retreating to ourselves ensued. I honestly thought a divorce was a better option/alternative than to living as unhappy as I was. And we were fearful that our problems were too big to even begin to resolve in a weekend couple's therapy retreat.

What changes resulted in your marriage/relationship from your work with Couples Therapy Inc.?

Honest, open, patient, and supportive communication. We both have issues that we need work on individually and we discussed them openly and honestly with each other. We also learned techniques to better communicators with each other. We are enjoying spending time together again and it is so rewarding.

Had you considered or tried couples therapy before? If so, how successful or unsuccessfully was it?

We have participated in weekly couples counseling before 3 different times over the past 23 yrs. It was good at times, but we defaulted back to our old ways of behaving.

Angela Voegele is an excellent therapist. She listened and was able to see through to what our real issues were. She was nonjudgmental. She confronted us when we defaulted to the four horsemen behavior, she made us accountable to each other for what we did well and what we did to make our communication unhealthy and non-productive. She related well to us and we felt comfortable sharing with her in a non-threatening way. She had our best interest at heart and was genuine in her advice, sharing of personal information and our goal setting for our future. My only regret was that we didn't have more time with Angela.

Would you recommend your couples therapist and Couples Therapy Inc? If so, why? If not, why not?

Yes. Angela and Couples Therapy Inc. was a true gift to us and our relationship and I would recommend her to anyone who is experiencing marital discord, uncertainty about divorce, and or to just jump-start a long-term marriage.

I have learned to be a more effective listener, to be vulnerable about my shortcomings and to own them as being part of who I am, and that it is empowering to be a more accepting and forgiving communicator with my husband.

We met with Angela and it was a life-changing experience that I am so grateful we participated in it. It has given us and our marriage a second chance. I am hopeful for the first time in a long time and I am in love with my husband again and it feels wonderful. Thank you.

Developmental trauma explains so much about the dynamics within our relationship...


The Berkshires of Western MA Couples Retreat - Dr. K

Dr. K When I looked in the mirror on Monday morning, I saw, for the first time, a loved and lovable woman looking back at me. The woman looking back at me was not defective, not broken, not crazy. I didn't, until that moment, realize how much contempt I felt for myself all these years. Imagine the joy I felt! And the gratitude!

There are no words to adequately express how grateful I am for the weekend my husband and I spent with you. You provided invaluable insight that, with time and practice, will help us navigate our marriage as well as our relationships with our children and extended family in a loving, supportive way. I walked away with so much hope, to the point of bursting with it. The concept of developmental trauma explains so much about the dynamics within our relationship, and still has us reeling when we think about the impact it has had not only on us but on so many other people. I can only imagine the difference it would make if it were more widely recognized."

The relationship was not in good shape. There were issues with trust and anger.


Berkshire Couples Retreat - Daniel Dashnaw

Daniel was very experienced, knowledgeable and showed a lot of empathy. He provided a safe environment to discuss our issues, he provided a lot of feedback and tools to assist with our communication skills. He helped us understand how important our marriage was to us.

We didn't know if we could make it one more week together.


Berkshire Retreat - Dr. K

We hadn't been to couples therapy before and this was extremely helpful. We loved Dr. K and wish she was closer. She was compassionate, articulate, understood us, and easy to speak with.

We didn't know if we could make it one more week together. I was praying it was going to help us. However, there is always a certain amount of anxiety with something new.

Results? Well, we are still working on our core issue, but we realize through the therapy what we had, and that our marriage wasn't hopeless. My husband was humbled by it, and he has made many changes that were recommended. She made him see things from a different perspective that I couldn't. He was not sharing with his therapist what he needed to in order to grow and become a better person. He was self-destructive. He now is working on that - which gives me and us hope. We have the skills for coping when I get crazy angry. We are talking better. Also, that how you speak to someone makes a difference in the results you get. I realize if I criticize him he's only going to get defensive so I use my words carefully! We use the results of how well we know each other and where we scored as a couple to help us also in seeing that we still have enough left in this relationship to work on it.

I already have recommended Couples Therapy Inc and Dr. K. Alot of married couples lose what they have over the years and take each other for granted.
They'll invest money in a house or car, when their relationship is most important.

Well, we have a few more sessions with her and I'm looking forward to that. We also set ourselves up with a therapist here.

I just wish we had one more day.

I was so unhappy...


Houston Texas Couples Retreat - Marisa Mundey

What changes resulted in your marriage from the work you did?

Life changing, earth shattering, amazing changes -- I am not kidding when I say this absolutely hands down saved our marriage, saved our lives... I was so unhappy and I am now looking at the world differently, knowing I have a partner with me in this life that I once felt so alone in... We have a lot of work to do -- but we are both committed to this and following through with the changes ... I cannot believe that this had such an immediate impact on us and I am forever, forever grateful. I will be recommending you to any of my friends or family that ever is faced with some serious relationship troubles...

Marriage counseling is so TABOO


Houston Texas Couples Retreat - Marisa Mundey

You completely saved my marriage. What you people do truly matters.

Marriage counseling and therapy is so TABOO --- and it should not be. It horrified me to know that no one talks openly about this with friends and family --- like you must be some freak of nature if you have marriage problems you can't work through on your own. I have zero shame in saying that we needed help badly --- and because of being willing to get help before it was too late we are both going to be able to have personal satisfaction and happiness, joy, love, and a spirit that this is my life --- I only have one life --- I am not going to sit back and waste it!!

Husband: I feel that this was a one-sided therapy... Wife: I loved his directness and expertise, knowledge.


Berkshire Couples Retreat - Daniel Dashnaw

Wife: On the brink of divorce. Emotional control and domination on my husbands part.
Husband: Had more communication issues with my spouse.

Wife: I was hesitant about spending the money not knowing if it would make a difference.
Husband: I had no hesitation.

Changes?

Wife: It's only been 10 days it's hard to know if the change is permanent but we are using the tools in how to better communicate and express my feelings without making my partner feel threatened.
Husband: Listen, be patient hear your spouse.

Had you tried couples therapy before?

Wife: Traditional marriage counseling once a week for 6 months. Things just seemed to get worse.
Husband: No we had not heard of couples therapy (inc?).

Who was your therapist? What did you like most/least?

Wife: Daniel. I loved his directness and expertise knowledge. I felt heard, known, seen and understood.
Husband: Upfront and forward. I feel that this was a one-sided therapy and that it looked at the individual that was hurt the most. No effort to determine if the other person had any validity. I can see why this was done but the other person also needs some listening to.

Would you recommend your couples therapist and Couples Therapy Inc?

Wife: Absolutely!
Husband: Yes

What benefits resulted?

Wife: Better communication skills. Anger under control. A better understanding of my emotional state.
Husband: I feel we are closer and my spouse has put some walls down, is willing to let go some of the past behind us, although she still wants to know why. We never discussed the root causes and she wants closure.

More?

Wife: It was a very productive and enjoyable experience. I would have easily welcomed another 1/2 or full day.

I believe that we have a deeper appreciation for one another as individuals now...


Atlanta Georgia Couples Retreat - Dr. Alisha Powell

We were arguing over everything so effective communication was the primary goal. Now, we both have taken a closer look at our beliefs and experiences and how they shape our own reactions. I believe that even just completing the BIG BIG Book questionnaire was helpful. It forced us to examine so many facets of our relationship on our own.

Who was your couples therapist here at Couples Therapy Inc.?

Dr. Alisha Powell. Her neutrality was very impressive. I felt like she really was very objective.

What specific qualities did you like most and least about working with this therapist?

She was very professional.

Would you recommend your couples therapist and Couples Therapy Inc? If so, why? If not, why not?

Yes probably. I believe the intensive questionnaire and in person weekend really help focus on a lot of contributing factors rather than spreading the time out over months. We both have a better idea of our partners’ experiences and how they influence their reactions. We both have better tools for communicating more effectively.

A man of wisdom..


The Berkshires of Western MA Couples Retreat - Daniel Dashnaw

I just wanted to thank you for providing me with the opportunity to work with Daniel Dashnaw. It has been a wonderful experience for me and a true source of joy during a very difficult time in my life. He is a man of wisdom and I truly enjoyed the learning adventure he so skillfully crafted with me.

We briefly tried couples therapy before.


Austin, Texas Couples Retreat - Jennifer Elkins

We were tense before we came. We briefly tried couples therapy before. Before we even started the counseling, I was slightly concerned about the quality...It's a lot of money to be spending, so I wanted every assurance that it was a polished, professional program!

Jennifer Elkins left us with a better understanding of what caused the problems, we're better able to work through them. I loved it that she could relate to my ADHD issues and had a clear understanding of the stress it causes. She was warm and empathetic, and we BOTH felt an immediate and sustained connection. She was easy to trust on every level. We left understanding the causes, tools to get out of the immediate conflict, and renewed commitment. Obviously my experience was a good one in the end, but I was uncertain in the beginning.

Not knowing if therapy would truly help us at this stage in our marriage, we were reluctant.


Berkshire Couples Retreat - Daniel Dashnaw

We tried couples therapy several years ago, but it was not successful. Not knowing if therapy would truly help us at the stage we were in - in our marriage, we were reluctant. The core issue of our marriage was discovered and we were able to shed light on it and are now able to approach the issue together. Us against the issue. Daniel approached things head on (with care) - in a way we both could understand and there was no room for doubt on what the issue was and how we need to overcome it. Daniel made us feel comfortable and left us with the feeling of truly being able to take on whatever comes our way.

Daniel is very knowledgeable in his area of expertise and knows the most appropriate way to communicate an action plan and build encouragement. 1) We walked away knowing we should not face things as us against each other, but rather us against the problem. 2) I got my best friend back. 3) Vulnerabilities were revealed, but I feel safe in them now.

Thank you for helping me communicate my vulnerabilities and not feel ashamed of them or concerned I will come across as a weak person for having vulnerabilities. Thank you for pointing out our incredible strengths together. Thank you for being such an incredible part of our healing process.

You have made such a difference in our lives


Berkshire Couples Retreat - Daniel Dashnaw

The only reason I am writing today is to say thank you. [My partner] and I are doing really really well. You have made such a difference in our lives - with helping us understand ourselves and each other as well as with helping us to communicate with each other. We are very happily married 🙂

I hope you are doing well. I'm so grateful for the insight and help you were able to provide. Thank you again.

I had given up… I didn’t know if we were fixable, and didn’t want to put any more effort into something that wasn’t good.


Berkshire Retreat - Daniel Dashnaw

I was ready for divorce, even though I never wanted that. I just couldn’t take what our marriage had become. I didn’t know if we were fixable, and didn’t want to put any more effort into something that wasn’t good. I had given up. But I actually feel hope now! I feel like I was listened to for the very first time...ever!

I liked everything about Daniel! He really got us and was very no nonsense with his advice. I believe Daniel has saved our marriage. At least he’s given us the tools to save our marriage. Now the work is up to us.)

I understand my husband better. I understand myself better. I am learning to become more assertive for myself.

I am so grateful for this type of therapy. I believe the science based aspect is what makes it so good. This WILL help us if we are BOTH willing to do the work. Thank you!

I would have described our relationship as brittle. Lots of fighting and anger.


Amherst MA Couples Retreat - Dr. Gorman

Our hesitation about starting couples therapy with Couples Therapy Inc. was primarily the cost. And that we would invest all the time and money in the therapy and it wouldn’t “work”.

I feel like our work with Couples Therapy Inc. turned us around. I think we have understanding, tools, etc we didn’t have before. I think we can move forward positively.

Dr. Gorman was very professional. That was good.

I felt I was on the last thread of a rope that tied my marriage together.


Washington DC Retreat - Angela Voegele

My core issues included: trust, communication, abusive behaviors.

Angela was calming for our situation. She understood many things and was able to help my husband and I put emotions into words. She provide nice and comfortable venue for the sessions. I was able to open up with her and felt comfortable.

Since our work with Couples Therapy Inc. our communication has improved, I don't hold things in and I am trying to stop my "stonewalling". We share more positive comments and "thank you's" are given. I'm not on the computer/phone as much. All drinking has stopped in my other half.

We were hesitant about spending the money and not getting the results we wanted.


Houston Texas Couples Retreat - Marisa Mundey

We had tried other couples therapy many years ago for several sessions but did not have any success. In contrast, I would recommend Marisa and CTI because I feel she helped put us on the right track. We were troubled, and needed to improve communication, trust and boundaries and we learned better ways to communicate, we learned to focus on improving the future more than worrying about the past, and we now have hope for our future.

Marisa is wonderful and is able to make everyone feel comfortable and listened to.

Now we have better communication and better understanding of each other’s feelings. The things I liked the most is that Marisa had a genuine interest in our lives and that she did not rush us and made sure we were satisfied before ending any sessions

I would recommend anyone to use Couples Therapy Inc.


Atlanta, GA Couples Retreat - Dr. Powell

The core issues we wanted to improve were communication and understanding but we were hesitant about the price. We went to another therapist together instead but it went poorly.

What changes resulted from your work with Couples Therapy Inc?

I thought the intensive weekend was very helpful. I liked Dr. Powell’s even approach and focus on Gottman methods. We still have challenges, but the weekend was a great way to make deposits into each other’s emotional bank account. We have much better ways to communicate. We’ve slowed down our discussions so they don’t spiral out of control. We identified some core conflicts and helped to “declaw” them. We have better communication, better understanding and empathy towards each other and better skills moving forward.

I discovered that my husband had been unfaithful in the marriage that left me feeling devastated, alone, betrayed, angry, confused, and aggrieved.


Berkshire Couples Retreat - Daniel Dashnaw

Issue: Infidelity—I discovered that my husband had been unfaithful in the marriage that left me feeling devastated, alone, betrayed, angry, confused, and aggrieved. I was not sure how to handle the situation on my own. Reaching out to an experienced therapist was my only and most valuable recourse. I did not have any hesitation or reservations. I had talked to Daniel a couple of times over the phone before deciding on therapy sessions with him and had an instant connection with him as a very able therapist.

Daniel served as a supportive listener as each of us expressed our emotions regarding the infidelity and helped us determine our needs and future goals for the relationship, whether we choose to maintain or end it. It is too early to say that changes have happened but I am using his guidance and assistance to discover my level of commitment to the relationship, the possibility of repairing trust, and most importantly healing.

Dan's qualities I liked the most; his empathy, trustworthiness, flexibility, ability to explain symptoms, willingness to continue working with us and his unconditional positive regard for us both. He provided hope, optimism and encouragement.

I feel very grateful to him for being a patient listener.

Past therapy seemed to have only caused more problems...


Dr. Scott Wolfe Las Vegas, Nevada

What core issues did you want to address?

My Intimate Relationship with my spouse.

What hesitations did you have, if any?

Cost, given the value of our past therapy. Past therapy seemed to have only caused more problems.

What changes resulted in your marriage/relationship from your work with Couples Therapy Inc.?

It gave us exactly what we needed to address, we resolved issues verses fighting about them.

Had you considered or tried couples therapy before? If so, how successful or unsuccessfully was it?

Common therapy prior was unsuccessful. This therapy with Couples Therapy Inc. was successful and effective.

Dr. Wolfe was excellent. He did an outstanding job.

What did you like most and least about your therapist?

Most, facing my issues. Least, facing my issues.

Results?

We have better intimacy, regular relationship, and overall feeling of closeness. The ability to discuss verses arguing.

Overall, it was excellent and effective. Our therapist was excellent and high quality.

It takes a lot of work but it is worth it in spades.


Amherst MA Couples Retreat - Dr. Gorman

Our marriage was in dire straights. We had trust and communications problems. We had tried couples therapy before, but very successfully. And I was concerned that my wife would not be an active participant...

However, vital issues were cleared up. We have better communication and more trust.

Dr. Gorman was our couples therapist. She asked pertinent and vital questions. Was able to direct the sessions in the right direction for constructive results. We got very positive results. Our intensive prevented a divorce, increased communication, and we're able to enjoy each other again.

I would recommend it. It takes a lot of work but it is worth it in spades.

We were concerned that the therapist would use theoretical concepts that won't work in practice.


Amherst MA Couples Retreat - Dr. Gorman

How would you describe your relationship before you called Couples Therapy Inc.?

We were in trouble. We weren't communicating that effectively. We both needed to reflect on our method of dealing with difficult topics, understand how our partner responds to our style and learn tools to get the most effective means of dialogue going. We were concerned that the therapist would take sides or use theoretical concepts that wouldn't work in practice. Instead, we learned a lot more about each other, how to communicate more effectively, and tools to avoid slipping into old destructive habits. What we left with:

--Understanding your partner's response to stress - tough topics

--Understanding how to communicate effectively given these long-held response mechanisms, and

--Leaving with a feeling of optimism for our future IF we continue the hard work done over the intensive weekend.

I liked all aspects of Dr. Gorman's approach to us individually and as a couple. Her sense of humour and balanced approach in listening and guiding were exactly what we needed. She is a gem.

Bottom line: The intensive approach, although difficult and exhausting, is the best way to get on track. I can't imagine trying to do what we did over several weeks of one hour sessions.

My husband wanted a divorce and to end the relationship immediately...


Washington DC Retreat - Angela Voegele

I wanted to see if we could save the marriage; my core goal was to stay together. We had tried some therapy sessions with local therapists but it was not really very helpful and I think it actually pushed my husband in the other direction.

We both loved Angela because she was extremely detail-oriented, pushed in the right places and discussed the things that we did not want to discuss, but had to. She was amazing really. She showed us how to talk to one another and see the other person's point of view based on their perspective and why they are coming from that point of view. I learned more about my husband in those 2.5 days than I had in our 11 years together.

The weekend opened both of us up to have conversations that in the three prior years we were not able to have so we were able to work things out between us. Ultimately it seems like after couple’s therapy my husband has become a completely different person. He is much happier after opening up and telling me the truth. He decided he wants to work on our relationship after all and that there is hope for us.

We would recommend Angela and Couples Therapy Inc. Angela was very thorough; she was not on either one of our sides, very neutral. She as extremely intelligent, sensitive and ultimately probably saved our marriage.

We were worried that it would be as ineffective as other therapy.


Los Angeles California Couples Retreat - Jenny Fang

Our marriage was very troubled. We had trouble communicating and resolving issues.

Had you considered or tried couples therapy before? If so, how successful or unsuccessfully was it?

Several times, it was a waste of time and money. We were worried that this therapy would be as ineffective as that other therapy we tried.

Jenny Fang was well researched, intuitive, and positive. She helped us focus on building a better future rather than arguing about the past. Now we are more appreciative of each other and able to engage in effective communication, I have a better understanding of where we each come from and how that affects how we, each, perceive the world. I also have a better appreciation of the goodness in my partner.

For a couple in trouble this has been the best experience.

Our underlying issues of her distrust and anger as a result of my actions continue...


Berkshire Couples Retreat - Daniel Dashnaw

Our relationship was in a state of crisis. It is still in a state of crisis. Although we have many moments of joy, the underlying issues of her distrust and anger as a result of my actions have continued. That said, the intensive with Dan was very productive. He provided very useful research on relationships, and as we requested, tied that to our faith's religious writings naturally.

The hesitation was in whether my wife remained committed enough to the relationship to justify the time.

Results? We have gained some skills for communicating during conflict. we have made use of Dan's evening prayer thanking God for each other. We have taken the time for longer prayer with each other (at times, although not consistently...). We have defused conflict at times using Dan's suggested methods.

Dan is a very thoughtful guy. He met us where we were. He is direct. He weaved in scientific studies and our religious writings with great skill. We very much enjoyed working with him and did not have any notable negative feedback.

Like I said above, I think it has given us some good skills for dealing with conflict. I also think that the information about the consequences of contempt in the relationship, and harsh words generally, was eye opening. We continue to struggle with that, as my wife remains very hurt and angry. It is a struggle. But knowing the science behind the results of harsh words has better enabled me to deal with it and keep it moving forward.

Would you recommend your couples therapist and Couples Therapy Inc? If so, why? If not, why not?

Yes. I already have recommended it. It is the science-based approach that really makes it worthwhile.

It was in crisis due to a long term affair.


Berkshire Retreat - Daniel Dashnaw

Hesitations? I really had none. I wanted to save my marriage and I had no other good options at the time. We tried couples therapy in the past and it was unsuccessful. Our marriage was in crisis due to a long term affair. The core issues we wished to determine if we both wished to work to save our marriage, to gain a more clear understanding of why and how the affair started and problems existed in our marriage before the affair that made it possible. We gained some understanding on how and why the affair started and we were both able to make a commitment to work to save our marriage. Daniel was knowledgeable, direct with us, able to connect with us both; he was sincere, caring, empathetic and understanding. I could not have asked for anyone more helpful than he.

Benefits? An understanding of how and why my affair happened, an understanding of how to be more helpful to my spouse to promote healing, how to deal with anger. I believe I will wish to have additional ongoing sessions after the two included, to ensure we are on the right track, to help us through difficult problems as they develop, and answer questions we have.

I would recommend CTI and Daniel to anyone needing therapy for Marital issues, especially an intensive which I found very helpful.

Thanks for being there.


Recent Client Reports

1. I am a better communicator with my wife
2. I know when to disengage from overheated situations
3. I have a deeper understanding of why I have done the things I've done.

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"Feeling heard, having tools, trusting each other more..."

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"We have the skills for coping when I get crazy angry. We are talking better. I realize if I criticize him he's only going to get defensive so I use my words carefully! Also, that how you speak to someone makes a difference in the results you get. We use the results of how well we know each other and where we scored as a couple to help us also in seeing that we still have enough left in this relationship to work on it."

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"My husband has torn down the walls of defensiveness, combativeness, and manipulation. We are working on re-establishing trust, connecting through different communication tools, and have a common goal of wanting to have a marriage worth our happiness. I feel free. We both feel like we don't have to pretend or hide anymore - We have been able to talk about any and everything this week and it feels so freeing."

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1) We walked away knowing we should not face things as us against each other, but rather us against the problem.
2) I got my best friend back.
3) Vulnerabilities were revealed, but I feel safe in them now.

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(1) I have hope; (2) I have real tools to use, and; (3) a structured strategy to work on our marriage.

We had previously worked with at least three different therapists, but achieved only limited success...


Ireland European Couples Retreat - Nancy St John

We first started working with Nancy in August of 2016, at a point in time when our 12-year marriage was in real trouble. Our relationship had deteriorated to the point where divorce was a likely outcome.

Initially, Nancy helped us focus on some of the positive aspects of our relationship. We then moved to a discussion of the sources of conflict and discord. Those sessions, including an intense three-day working session with Nancy in Ireland, were difficult. But with Nancy’s guidance and encouragement, we began to work through the difficult issues and started to realize progress in our relationship. Now, fifteen months later, our relationship has improved dramatically.

While there are still struggles and moments of conflict, we feel we are on much stronger footing and our relationship is growing not deteriorating. We would not have achieved this level of growth and progress without Nancy’s thoughtful intervention and dedicated work with us. We find her delightful personally, unfailingly supportive, and always professional.

We think the world of Nancy – she is a credit to your organization, and just a fabulous marital counselor.

Given the failures of past therapy, I was concerned about cost—thinking our relationship was just hopeless…


Berkshire Retreat - Dr. K & Daniel Dashnaw

Before, our relationship could be described as toxic, angry, petty and stressful. Weekly therapy that we had in the past was a failure; it was not successful at all.

We wanted to improve communications, unresolved issues, and to start to like each other again.

Dr. K and Dan were our therapists; I liked their knowledge and experience on the process. They provided examples to connect the science and delivered it simply.

Now I have a better connection to my wife by understanding her adult child. We have fewer escalations in fights and this clarified our decision that we absolutely want to stay together. We’ve learned when and how to have disagreements, when and how to stop escalations and how to deposit in our partner’s emotional bank.

I would gladly recommend Dr. K and Mr. Dan and Couples Therapy Inc. I think the science behind relationships is something necessary for all marriages.

As a last ditch effort, we let go of our previous marriage therapist and began working with Nancy...


Ireland European Couples Retreat - Nancy St John

I am writing to express my/our deep appreciation for Nancy St. John. We are a married couple of 24 years and have been actively considering divorce for the past several months. As a last ditch effort, we let go of our previous marriage therapist and began working with Nancy, first in 3 sessions online, and then an intensive in Ireland. She has been an extraordinary support for both of us. Her style is both structured and flexible. She listens exceedingly well. She brings evidence-based research into the mix. Perhaps most of all, she is optimistic, though not in an unrealistic way. She has been instrumental in helping us develop new patterns of communication and engagement.

We are very, very grateful.

We were on our way to divorce and wanted to understand how we got there...


Berkshire Retreat - Dr. K

We are getting a divorce, but I wanted to understand how we got there and figure out how to move forward.

I feel like it's not all my fault that our relationship failed, now. I'm dealing with my childhood issues. We also have points of reference from our weekend that help us communicate better for sake of kids.

We communicate better now. I am working on my stuff.

I liked her toughness, depth of knowledge and challenges to us. I liked her working with us even though we were not both on the same page.

Would you recommend Couples Therapy Inc.?

Yes, it helps to get away and focus on your stuff. I learned a lot about us.

Dr. K, I'm glad we worked with you. It was inspiring and comforting to know what good help is available if you don't wait too long to seek it out.

We didn’t know how a short weekend could help us address the things that were going on...


Missoula Retreat - Jim Ramsey

We were argumentative and in despair.

Reverend Jim Ramsey was nonjudgmental, accepting, wise, discerning, and strategic. He had lots of practical tools, created a peaceful environment, offered tons of life experience, and practiced gentle truth telling.

With him, we processed a lot of pain and misunderstanding. We came away with some practical tools to implement and to continue the healing. We both felt very heard by our therapist and I felt the heaviness lift off of my soul.

The process of being able to share heart-to-heart in an in-depth away with another person has really brought a lot of perspective in healing into our relationship. We have already been divorced and remarried to each other so we know what to do but we had gotten stuck in terrible patterns due to pain, confusion and exhaustion.

Reverend Jim seemed to know exactly what had happened and why it happened and how we could crawl our way out of this painful place we were in. He’s a very deep and approachable man and he has a wonderful and beautiful life that resonates with receiving truth from him.

I would definitely recommend him to others. He is a deep fountain of knowledge but completely approachable and very accepting of where ever you are at or what process you bring into the therapy. He has so much life experience. He is not cynical but he is realistic, is also very pragmatic but very intuitive at the same time. He is very gentle and kind but seems to be someone who does practice what he preaches and that’s why what he’s talking about is all real.

Maybe a little more time practicing some of the tools would have been good. But I believe we’ll put into practice the tools and strategies that we tried here. It has really brought a lot of perspective in healing into our relationship.

My husband became aware of his sex addiction...


Berkshire Retreat - Dr. K & Daniel Dashnaw

We were going through a difficult time. I wasn't completely sure what to expect from the weekend. My husband became aware of his sex addiction. Now he is being treated for it.

I liked how Dr. K & Daniel worked as a team. Yes, they did a great job.

Would you recommend them?

Yes, they did a great job.

Goals met?

  1. Desire to work on our marriage,

  2. Knowledge of addiction, &

  3. Accepting treatment for it

I was not sure that my wife could be real with me or herself.


Berkshire Retreat - Daniel Dashnaw

At first, I was hesitant because of my wife's pill use. I was not sure that she could be real with me or herself. I told Daniel to hold no punches, that our marriage depended on him! We had tried just regular therapy. Nothing like this. I would do this again if needed!

He held no punches! Dan did what was needed to save our marriage!

I wanted us to get along with each other. To be able to communicate with each other without fighting. I wanted to improve our intimacy with each other.

After 37 years and two marriages, I was able to be heard! I also learned how I added to our problems with the way I communicated. I learned how to communicate in a positive way. I feel like a new person, partner, friend and husband. I feel that we will be happy with each other and get closer to each other again. Our marriage will start to grow as we implement what we learned!

I was heard which made me look at our marriage in a totally different and positive way. I learned that we had a great marriage but had to learn to communicate in a much better way, the way we communicated sucked!

Would you recommend your couples therapist and Couples Therapy Inc? If so, why? If not, why not?

Yes!! When couples have problems like we had, this would be the only way to correct them. Seeing someone for 45-minutes once a week would not work.

Jennifer used her personal experience..


Austin, Texas Couples Retreat - Jennifer Elkins

So I would describe our marriage as troubled but not in crisis.

Communications, interactions, sex were issues. I think there was an immediate bounce (in relating), and unless one stays on focus, things can become troubled again... Jennifer used personal experience to highlight her point. Three benefits from working in this retreat?

  1. Finding reasons for why we are who we are;

  2. learning more about each other; and

  3. learning to feel what the other is feeling...

I'd absolutely recommend Jenn and Couples Therapy Inc.

It was well done and would do it again...

Our relationship was almost over...


Berkshire Retreat - Dr. K

How would you describe your relationship before you called Couples Therapy Inc.? What were the core issues you wanted to improve?

I was hesitant about spending a substantial amount of money with no results. However, our relationship was almost over. We had poor communication and high-stress levels.

This was more of a scientific approach. Dr. K was very neutral and explained things very well. It's only been a week but our relationship has definitely improved. We have better communication and understanding each other better and the stress level between us has also decreased.

I had no hope before going to see Kathy. Now I know we've got a chance to mend our relationship.

I would definitely recommend Couples Therapy Inc.

I was afraid there would be no resolution and tension for the entire weekend...


Washington DC Retreat - Angela Voegele

We had trust and intimacy issues. I was afraid there would be no resolution and tension for the entire weekend.

Instead, we have hope, a restored trust, and a plan.

Angela was patient and just very effective at getting us to recognize issues.

I'd like to have refresher weekends on an annual basis.

However difficult this past year has been for my husband and I, one thing is for certain...


The Berkshires of Western MA Couples Retreat - Daniel Dashnaw

Daniel, It would have been much more difficult if we did not have your support. While it wasn't until later in life you chose this path, I am grateful that you did! From our very first encounter, I could tell you were genuine, kind, and best of all, down-right blunt! Those qualities are just what I needed to help guide me down the path of self-reflection....

Thank you for giving us a safe place to talk, cry, laugh and in my case, shut down. Our time spent with you has had a tremendous impact on our relationship and has helped us both take the time to reflect on what we need to focus on going forward.

Your support and guidance this past year will have a lasting impact on me throughout my life...I believe in my heart you were put on this earth to help people and I am genuinely grateful I was among those people.

Words cannot express how thankful I am for everything.

I saw myself on video and that impacted how I will now communicate.


Washington DC Retreat - Angela Voegele

Before I called Couples Therapy Inc. the relationship was over for me. The issues to be resolved were my partners lies, lack of accountability, and a few others. I was done with the relationship, although I cared for him, and so I thought doing the therapy would be a waste of time and money.

The change was actually dramatic. I opened up and am allowing him to prove himself to me, which was his goal for the therapy. My partner and I now have some useful tools for connecting; I remembered my love for him again.

I loved the warm environment. I really liked that Angela soaked up and was involved in our discussions. There wasn't anything I didn't like, or liked least, except I didn't want it to end because I learned so much. Angela was great! I would only want to see her again. It was like she's known us for years.

I already have recommended Couples Therapy Inc. to others because it's not just talk or a tagline. The intensive therapy gets into that which you wouldn't for months, if at all, with traditional 1-hr long therapy.

We were hesitant about the expense and fear of the unknown. Fear of what might happen.


Berkshire Retreat - Dr. K

We had become very distant from each other, very little communication or intimacy. We were at a decision point of whether to stay together or separate.

What hesitation did you have about starting couples therapy with us?

Expense, fear of the unknown. Fear of what might happen.

What changes resulted in your marriage/relationship from your work with Couples Therapy Inc.?

Mutual understanding and concern for my husband's concrete communication tools, education on communication styles and practice. Open communication about sex and intimacy.

Had you considered or tried couples therapy before? If so, how successful or unsuccessfully was it?

Yes, for many years and was unsuccessful at getting to the root of the problem.

What specific qualities did you like most and least about working with this therapist?

Dr. Kathy McMahon was very personable and genuinely interested and caring. She provided education in communication skills and allowed us to practice what we learned. I loved that she shared examples and stories to illustrate a point. She was flexible and worked with us on whatever topic came up in the exercises and made it easier to talk about difficult subjects.

Would you recommend your couples therapist and Couples Therapy Inc? If so, why? If not, why not?

Yes, definitely. It was not only "talk therapy" but educational, with proven methods and educational materials with lots of practice and support in those techniques. I developed a new understanding of my husband and his point of view. Understanding the role that trauma has played in my life and in my relationships has helped him to understand this too. This retreat has opened the door to open and honest communication for us.

Using my husband's words, this weekend helped us more than 3 years of couples therapy did! We were amazed at what was accomplished in such a short time. We are so thankful that we took the leap and did this, it helped us immensely. We have renewed sense of understanding, care and love for each other that would not have been possible otherwise. Thank you Dr. K!

My real fear was that it wouldn't work or my husband would be uncooperative.  


Berkshire Retreat - Daniel Dashnaw

Our relationship was in real trouble. We were disconnected from each other and didn't know how to bridge the gap. Hesitations? My real fear was that it wouldn't work or my husband would be uncooperative.

Therapist: Daniel Dashnaw. Where to start? He was AWESOME. We appreciated his candor, honesty, kindness, sensitivity, practical - solutions based approach. Would you recommend him and Couples Therapy Inc? ABSOLUTELY.

Practical Outcome? We have a much better understanding of each other and were given a set of tools that put us on the path to recovery. 1- We got to the root of our troubles, 2- we know how to repair our relationship, 3- I learned how to address my own challenges.

Not sure, how else to be helpful. Additional follow-ups as/if needed.

I am truly, deeply grateful.

I thought our problems were too big to even begin to resolve in a weekend couple's therapy retreat.


Boca Raton, Florida - Dr. Marni Feuerman

How would you describe your relationship before you called Couples Therapy Inc.? Terminal.

What were the core issues you wanted to improve?

Communication

What changes resulted in your marriage/relationship from your work with Couples Therapy Inc.?

Improved tremendously

Had you considered or tried couples therapy before? If so, how successful or unsuccessfully was it?

Yes, but not an intensive. Intensives should be the norm. Marni was excellent, she caught everything and didn’t let us not reveal issues between us. She was attentive and candid. She kept us to point. We now have improved communication, a greater understanding of my spouse issues and tools to make our relationship better.

We will definitely use Marni again. She is great!!!

We were troubled. We wanted to improve; daily interactions, joint purpose, joy, sex.


Houston Texas Couples Retreat - Marisa Mundey

How would you describe your relationship before you called Couples Therapy Inc? What were the core issues you wanted to improve?

Troubled. Daily interaction, joint purpose, joy, sex.

What hesitation did you have about starting couples therapy with us?

Concern that it would be difficult without positive outcome.

Had you considered or tried couples therapy before? If so, how successful or unsuccessfully was it?

On occasion in distant past. Overall, unsuccessful.

What specific qualities did you like most and least about working with this therapist?

Our Couples Therapist was Marisa Mundey Extremely favorable review of Marisa. Strong yet gentle direction during activity practice. Able to steer and focus both partners.

Would you recommend your couples therapist and Couples Therapy Inc? If so, why? If not, why not?

Yes. While I think ongoing therapy will be needed and beneficial, it was much more effective than a traditional once a week approach.

Our marriage was very distant and cold, we wanted to improve communication


Houston Texas Couples Retreat - Marisa Mundey

This was our first time in couples therapy, we were hesitant because we thought that it would be a “bash the husband" session.

Since our work with Couples Therapy Inc. we are talking again and connecting daily about the little things. Three benefits that we have experienced; communication, love life, and addressing the issues we both had.

Marisa was fantastic!

She was very bi-partisan and listened to both of our issues. She gave great suggestions on how we can improve our marriage. Marisa is a great therapist and really helped both of us get through this rough patch.

It has been a blessing...and fun too.


Houston Texas Couples Retreat - Marisa Mundey

Thank you so much for all that you offered us. This has been such a great experience!!! I have implemented your ideas and it has been a blessing to us and fun too. I realized how much I had a guard up and how it was effecting both of us.

Thanks again, you are an angel!

I was skeptical heading into the weekend...


Metro Washington DC - Angela Voegele

We thought it might be nice for you to get some feedback on our retreat with Angela. Both my husband and I thought she was excellent. We have seen numerous therapist over the last three years and she by far exceeded all of our expectations. I got there on Friday with a lot of anger over our situation. By the time we left Sunday afternoon I felt free. She had a very nice way of not taking sides yet giving good strong comments and thought-provoking scenarios. She absolutely knew us when we got there and often referred to our history.

She gave us practical tools to use for when I was very upset which included meditation, favorite songs, my partner holding me tight (with a safe word if I did not want that), breathing devices and apps to download. We had struggled with much pain and anger for almost 10 months and by the time we left we felt almost normal again with a new vision of our future and tools to use to improve our communication. Her own experience and having gone through a similar situation was also nice for me in particular. She was extraordinarily easy to talk to and also has a nice sense of humor.

I was skeptical heading into the weekend but now I am so glad that we did it.

Thank you just doesn't seem good enough...


Washington DC Retreat - Angela Voegele

What an amazing and life changing weekend. Angela, you must be exhausted!

My wife and I are forever in your gratitude for how you helped us learn more about ourselves and each other. You have renewed my faith in counseling. The materials, visual aides, environment and your calm, professional approach were exactly why this weekend was so impactful... and special to us. Thank you just doesn't seem good enough to express how grateful we are to you and the program.

We have a lot of new things to incorporate in our daily lives, and it's been a wonderful beginning for us.

Not knowing the therapist or the program - we were uncertain if it would be a fit.


Houston Texas Couples Retreat - Marisa Mundey

We were looking to improve on conflict resolution and to improve our communication skills on subjects where there is disagreement.

Marisa was very professional, very approachable and disarming. We immediately felt at ease and comfortable talking to her. I really can't think of a criticism of her.

What changes resulted in your marriage from the work you did?

It was a powerful weekend - that we both enjoyed. We both came away with a fresh perspective on each other. We have a deeper understanding of why each of us reacts the way we do on certain issues. I believe we will have a stronger relationship due to the weekend and be better at resolving conflicts without anger. We were very pleased.

We left with: 1) better perspective on each other's positions and why we are like we are on certain topics 2) better communication techniques on areas of disagreement. 3) we learned how damaging anger can be and how to avoid it.

For us - it was exactly what we needed. it was an intense, weekend, but very very helpful. I thought the time allowed was great - the one on one sessions were very good and beneficial. Marisa was really good - we identified with her. She is very affirming, warm and sincere. the whole weekend exceeded our expectations.

Absolutely would recommend.

We had done couples therapy several times with varying degrees of success. 


Northampton, MA Couples Retreat - Dr. Ham

We had done couples therapy several times with varying degrees of success. We have communication and trust issues, particularly my partner’s willingness to commit.

Maryanna Ham is affable, very skilled and knows how to push into the deep water. Now, there’s more honesty about where we are, more risk-taking to say what we feel/need/want.

Everything about Jack was positive


New South Wales, Australia - Jack O'Leary

Our relationship was broken. The trust was gone. We were hesitant to commit the time, money & the stress of having to deal with the issues, not knowing there’d be a result.

Jack was amazing! I'd definitely recommend him. He really simplified everything so we could both see the core issues. Everything about Jack was positive. We always felt heard and understood by him. We are now open and honest and have hope for the future.

Jennifer Elkins was very positive, supportive, and non-judgmental.


Austin, Texas Couples Retreat - Jennifer Elkins

We had a solid, committed relationship with some difficulty communicating needs and wants.

We were hesitant, concerned that we would fail and lose all of that money we invested.

After working with CTI we would recommend Jennifer Elkins to others. We realized how flooding impacts our communication and how to break the negative feedback loop.

Heading to divorce.


Berkshire Retreat - Daniel Dashnaw

Our only hesitation was just the cost. It is not cheap and I imagine many cannot afford it. We were heading to divorce, and it definitely helped a lot. It improved our relationship significantly. We tried some local people, who were pretty bad and seemed to only make things worse.

Daniel is very direct. He also is clearly knowledgable about the science. He has two tactics for doing solution- and action-oriented steps to solving things, and getting them off the 'plate'. We got (1) more insight into the issues we were having; (2) We got some solutions for improving things, and; (3) We have an improved outlook.

I'd suggest the possibility of on-going therapy, at some cost, say, each week or two weeks. We began to backslide since we just went to the one weekend and had nothing more after.

Couples Therapy Inc. helped me cope with the situation.


Washington DC Retreat - Angela Voegele

I had just found out my husband wanted to leave…I was trying to save our marriage.

Our marriage retreat turned into divorce planning. He is/was unwilling to work to reconcile the marriage. I found out he was having an affair. He was finally honest with me; I didn't know there was a problem until he told me he was leaving. At that point he was unwilling to work on our relationship.

Angela was easy to talk with and she made me feel comfortable. She was supportive, and able to change her focus once it was clear that my husband had no intention of reconciliation.

I gained better communication skills once I found out the truth.

Would you recommend your couples therapist and Couples Therapy Inc? If so, why? If not, why not?

Yes, because I like the Gottman method, it was easy to coordinate, insightful, very responsive and affordable.

I'm not sure I have the words to convey my gratitude.


Berkshire Retreat - Daniel Dashnaw

Before we called Couples Therapy Inc. our relationship could be described as having dwindling trust, an Inability to come together to resolve issues selflessly, lovingly or respectfully. Rapid and immediate escalation hindered any chance of understanding let alone creating a win-win outcome.

From the moment he spoke I found Dan open and approachable—even on the phone. I enjoyed his perfect blend of professionalism and warmth. He was relentlessly fair and reliably direct. He was tireless. He was thorough, kind, and reassuring throughout. I liked Dan instantly. I felt very fortunate that he would be our counselor. I'm beyond grateful for Dan's ability to relate to my husband as well.

The repair and healing started when we locked in our weekend and shared via the assessment. Not knowing what to expect, I sensed I could trust the level of expertise combined with what seemed to be a down to earth approach to getting down to business. I found comfort in Dan's unwavering integrity, and his commitment to staying true to his "no nonsense" approach.

We were able to let go of the resentment. We started fresh. We stopped being hyper reactive to perceived injustices and were once again able to appreciate and accept our differences. I'm relaxed. I feel respect for my husband again. We can love one another through issues.

I would absolutely recommend Dan and Couples Therapy Inc. to others. I already have and will continue to do so. Because too many couples give up instead of standing up!

We were trying to figure out if we would divorce.


Las Vegas, Nevada Couples Retreat - Dr. Scott Wolfe

Our relationship was very bad. We were trying to figure out if we would divorce.

After this intensive we have now reached an agreement on how to be with each other. We communicate better. We have a clear idea what to do. The weekend provided structure for us and some good tools to use when we argue.

We have a good plan for the next six months.

I was ready to end the relationship, I had even told him to leave.


Berkshire Couples Retreat - Daniel Dashnaw

The core issue for me was no trust in the relationship, I didn't even realize how the constant jabs at me had just worn me out.

We had tried other couples therapy for a short time. We stopped going when the therapist was unable to offer any type of assistance, or even ideas of things to try, or think about in any area. It was very disappointing.

Daniel Dashnaw was our therapist at Couples Therapy Inc. I loved that he was able to word things in a way we could each understand, specifically out of our fumbling attempts to say what we were thinking. I also loved that he was willing to call it as he saw it. Him being blunt and therefore understandable took a lot of stress off worrying that we wouldn't have a clue what he was talking about. We really needed help with understanding and stopping some long term negative behaviors that were driving us apart. He had to both point out, and step in to stop the "negative jabs." I appreciated his ability to do this and in addition the important part of teaching us why it’s not helpful, and how to correct the problem.

We now we have a much deeper understanding of how a person’s past really does affect their present way of doing things. It allows a lot more empathy. We are now struggling to learn new ways of communicating and giving needed positive feedback that are much better for both of us. I am willing to keep trying and not give up entirely.

As Daniel said often, neither of us ever had a chance to learn how a normal relationship works. We both need we-ness to feel better and to overcome our past. Burying the past doesn't work it keeps seeping into relationships and making them a mess.

What are three benefits from working with Couples Therapy Inc.?

(1) We are still together, it was so bad I almost ended the relationship before making it there. I told him to call and cancel it a week before the appointment.

(2) I have hope. Because we have specific loving and kind patterns to replace our horrible patterns we could turn into one of those wonderful couples you see who are really happy with each other. And even when we disagree we are kind and respectful to each other.

(3) We each came away with several big understandings on what we do, or fail to do, and the effect they have on each other. We have been each trying hard to implement what Dan taught us, which is instantly beneficial. I understand how important hearing compliments are to my honey that I am making a point to give much more freely, and when he does those awful negative jabs at me, not even realizing it, I have a tool to ask him to re-word and state how bad they make me feel. He has been putting a huge effort to word things in much nicer ways.

I would recommend both our therapist and Couples Therapy Inc to anyone having issues. I learned more in two days than I had ever learned in all the classes and reading I had ever had about how to actually have a lasting, loving relationship, and what a relationship even is, or even how to communicate.

For someone to explain "why" and give you the tools to communicate effectively with understanding of your own personal weaknesses and strengths is priceless. It may be a generic pattern that is helpful to anyone, but without guidance and practice under supervision it just doesn't make sense. Plus without the 3rd party to referee, couples like us would just miss the whole point and continue to argue we are right without even realizing we never even heard the problem.

It was a physical distance to travel...


Ireland European Couples Retreat - Nancy St John

What problems brought you to Couples Therapy Inc?

Frequent frictions were cooling the relationship. Wanted to improve communication and anxiety. New hope for our future together.

Had you been to couples therapy before?

Yes. We tried couples therapy once 3 years ago, with some partial results.

Benefits?

Self-discovery, understanding of empathy, issues diagnostics.

Partner One: We spent quite a bit of time talking about what we learned at the retreat... It's very often a part of our breakfast discussions! I learned so much and I am thankful that Nancy reminded us of our strengths as I think we focused too much on the issues before we arrived. I think we are staying "balanced" more often and getting out of those quadrants that were so distressing. Our communication is much better and I can really see the effort my partner is making especially when we are making decisions and have different views. I think I am able to get back to the center much faster than before and that is a big relief for me.

Yesterday we identified how we aspire to be in our relationship... FUN, LOVING AND SUPPORTIVE.

We have stickies around the house to remind us so we can make sure we behave this way. My partner actually said the word fun and that was such a breath of fresh air for me. I now see our relationship being more like the one when we first met...I guess we are moving forwards in the relationship continuum and that gives me hope for a great future together.

Partner Two: Just wanted to echo [my partner's] feeling of a more natural flow of our relationship after our intensive. I have a sense of better stability (boundaries reset?) and feel a lower drive to establish my point of view /opinion in a firm and urgent way like I used to do ( grandiosity down-titration?).

I feel more centered particularly towards the little challenges of house life that now do not seem important anymore. Our frictions have diminished in frequency and in intensity, probably not yet at a level we would be fully satisfied with, but certainly giving us much more room to breathe and open up to each other in a safe environment. I think the path to self-actualization is open for both of us and I sense I have much less anxiety thinking about us doing different things sometimes, just to allow mutual inter-dependence to flourish.

Interestingly, I have less tension in dealing with stressful situations also outside of the house, and I stopped biting my nails since I came back from Ireland.

Nancy had transparency, integrity, and empathy. I am looking forward to our next session.

Would you recommend her and Couples Therapy Inc?

Yes, in fact, I already did. It is a powerful combination of science-based insight and personal, tailored approach.

We had a difficult weekend and left feeling changed...


Ireland European Couples Retreat - Nancy St John

Nancy is that rare and wonderful combination of kind, compassionate, clear and focused. She is an amazing listener, but simply being heard (with past marriage counselors) has never been enough. With her as our skillful guide, we were able to each get at core concerns and reach a deeper understanding of what we are bringing to the table. We also felt she was a cheerleader and totally in our corner. We had a difficult but wonderful weekend and left feeling changed and with new hope for our future together.

I think my wife has finally forgiven me for things I did ten years ago...


Washington DC Retreat - Angela Voegele

We had intimacy problems - No Connection. Angela detected the problem very early on and worked on overcoming this problem. She has given us tools to succeed, and I would say we are almost > than 50% there. I and my wife feel very relieved. Angela was encouraging, empathetic. It solved the problem for us.

What three benefits resulted from working with Couples Therapy Inc?

1. The wall created by my wife between us is down or will come down, as long as I continue following the advice.
2. We are both relieved
3. We are looking forward enthusiastically for a happily ever after life

Thank U Folks For Helping Me, My Wife & My Family

Just truly amazing—thank you for dedicating your lives to something that helps other lives.


Atlanta Georgia Couples Retreat - Dr. Alisha Powell

Before the retreat our relationship was horrible!!! We tried other couples therapy and it was not successful at all...y'all offered something drastic and different and that is what we needed.

We have a better understanding of managing the gridlock and when to step back and deal with certain emotions that are not productive. We have understanding, patience, and acceptance when we don’t agree.

We walked away laughing and having such a great time!!! We are dedicated to our marriage and Alisha Powell gave us the tools we needed to stay dedicated. I hate knowing people aren't aware of Couples Therapy Inc. before divorce papers are signed. This system can save marriages and it can prevent marriages from happening.

Just truly amazing—thank you for dedicating your lives to something that helps other lives.

It was a great marriage retreat weekend and we are so grateful for all you did for us!


San Juan Puerto Rico Couples Retreat - Dr. Rodriguez

Thanks Dr. R! It was a great marriage retreat weekend and we are so grateful for all you did for us! We will get on our homework and schedule a follow-up soon. Again, many thanks for helping us with your approach and care!

My husband and I had already filed for divorce


Washington DC Retreat - Angela Voegele

Before we called Couples Therapy Inc, our relationship was on its last shot. We had trust issues and we hadn't been connecting for a long time. There was also a lack of intimacy.

We had tried couples counseling for a couple years before we filed for divorce and it seemed to do more harm than good. It seemed like we went in expecting the therapist for advice on how to change our unhealthy patterns with each other and would just get stuck in the fight of the week and leave worse off than when we came. We were worried this was going to be the same way and we would waste our money.

We worked with Angela and she was amazing.

She understood the core issues in our marriage and we spent the time focusing on those. So far there has been more communication and empathy in our relationship. We are working through the trust and intimacy issues using exercises and tools she gave us.

When we showed up, Angela already understood what our main issues were. We didn't waste time going back through the details. She took the time to make sure she understood what both of us were looking to get out of the retreat. She never let us get caught in a fight and instead stopped us and guided us through how we should be handling our issues. She gave us tools and exercises to do (things we had begged our previous therapist for for years). She was engaged and warm and seemed to genuinely want to help us. She made us talk about and deal with and have the tough conversations that we had been avoiding or were never able to have constructively. She is also a sex therapist so she was able to give us great advice on how to increase our intimacy.

She was just amazing.

I would absolutely 100% recommend Angela. She exceeded my expectations and we left with the tools we needed to succeed.

What three benefits resulted from working with Couples therapy Inc?

1) We were able to repair old wounds and move on 2) We have more communication and a stronger connection 3) We have tools to increase our intimacy

I would just like to emphasize how much we got out of the retreat. The exercises and ways to communicate with each other were things that we had been looking for and asking our previous therapist for for years. She seemed to know exactly what we needed and made sure we left with the things we needed. She gave us a bunch of resources to refer to after we left so it didn't just feel like the end of the road when the retreat was over. She was so warm and understanding and comfortable to talk to. This retreat was worth every penny and I am so glad my husband and I made the choice to go.

I read Daniel's blog posts and knew he would get us...


Berkshire Retreat - Daniel Dashnaw

Before we called Couples Therapy Inc. we were distressed. The core issue was healing from infidelity. This was our first time in counseling after 31 years together.

We are now in baby steps mode in learning how to better communicate. But we will need more time with Daniel to help heal some things that went unaddressed due to time constraints.

I loved how direct he (Daniel Dashnaw) was and that he knows the science behind the work.

I felt that some (not all) of the research statistics and educational part of the therapy took away from some valuable time that could have been spent on our actual issues. I would have like more time to be able to effectively voice my hurt directly to my husband with Daniel's calm guidance.

I would recommend Daniel. I like his no BS style and he has a real knack for gathering information and making it applicable and understandable.

What three benefits resulted from working with Couples therapy Inc?

  1. Learned some valuable tools to take the heat out a conversation.
  2. I learned that my trauma is real, but more importantly, so did my husband.
  3. We both learned that recovery from infidelity is going to take a long time.

We will be coming back soon for at least one follow up. I was really glad to find Daniel because my husband is very averse to any sort of mental counseling.

I really feel a great sense of relief...


Metro Washington DC Couples Retreat - Angela Voegele

Angela was a wonderful therapist and truly advocated for both of us, and our relationship throughout the weekend intensive. Her approach was thoughtful, logical and easy to follow. She listened to our concerns and organized the weekend in a meaningful way to cover many of our needs. The feedback she provided was constructive and professional.

I really feel a great sense of relief.

The follow-up work and reading she gave us provided a framework we need to continue the work on our own.

I would definitely recommend Angela to others looking for couples counseling.

It has worked for us. . . It's that simple.


Online Couples Therapy - Daniel Dashnaw

This would be an option I'd highly recommend to anyone who needs couples therapy, especially in our situation as expats living outside of the USA."


“It is not a lack of love, but a lack of friendship that makes unhappy marriages.”   - Friedrich Nietzsche


A successful marriage requires falling in love many times, always with the same person.        ---Mignon McLaughlin

Dr. Kathy McMahon & Daniel Dashnaw, MS, MA, MFT
Husband/Wife Clinical Team & Owners
Couples Therapy Inc.

The Berkshires of Western Massachusetts