Who we are
Couples Therapy Inc. is a team of almost 30 clinicians in three countries devoted to couples therapy. We all have one or more training certificates in science-based couples therapy.
We share a common drive to improve, regardless of how much previous training or expertise we possess.
But that's not enough.
In order to be invited to join Couples Therapy Inc., candidates must yearn for professional connections with other high-achievers like themselves. We also choose kind and thoughtful people. Humility is essential, because it focuses us on what we truly know (and don't) about how to help couples. It keeps us sharp.
Kind and thoughtful people, who are highly credentialed as couples therapist, are a great beginning to a powerful team.
We come together, as a team, monthly to share cutting-edge knowledge and elevate our collective level of wisdom and expertise. It's a strong, never-ending passion for excellence.
We're an international team as well, spanning 19 time zones. Making it to these meetings is a collective challenge! Californians have to get up at 6 am, while the Australian has to stay awake from midnight to 2 am!
We prefer to hire clinicians with some international experience, to broadens our understanding. Love is complicated and we want our team to be able to look at the world of lovers more broadly.
Nine languages are now spoken here.
But our team members not only have to be motivated couples therapist, they have to be kind and thoughtful people...
Teaching at a college or graduate level keeps us up-to-date on research, ethics, and inspires a collegial spirit. Volunteering our time and training our colleagues keeps us connected to our world and our profession.
How we got started
I'm the president and founder of Couples Therapy Inc. And a clinical psychologist.
My own relationship challenges and experience with ineffective couples therapy was a painful one. Like most of you, I blamed my marriage instead of the couples therapy I received.
I then divorced.
Years later, when I learned about science-based couples therapy, I was upset that no one (other than those same institutes...) were talking about how damaging poor couples therapy is.
What passes for therapy with couples continues to this day to be insurance-driven and too often utterly ineffective.
I decided to do something about it.
I began networking with skilled couples therapists and asked them if they'd be willing to devote part of their practice to doing marriage retreats and online couples therapy with me.
I was surprised by the warm reception!
It turns out that they yearned to be part of a true couples therapy team. Most told me it was lonely to be the sole couples therapist among a sea of individual therapists.
Couples Therapy Inc. was born.
Like many of you, I received poor quality couples therapy and quit, believing it was my relationship that failed, not the therapy. And divorced.
I want to see continued improvement in the quality of couples therapy offered in 2020.
It soon became a family affair, as my 2nd husband decided to return to graduate school for his second Masters Degree and become a marriage and family therapist.
He created an internship where he could train as a couples therapist in graduate school. And he's an excellent couples therapist!
He also took over as the Blog Editor and made it award-winning. Check out the many science-based articles there.
We've work alone and together in a weekend couples intensive format. We've also taken the challenge of COVID-19 very seriously, and were one of the first group practices to take our entire organization online. Of course, being international, we were very familiar with the online world.
We've been practicing online, as well as in retreats, for as long as we've been a clinical practice, so the transition has been a relatively easy one.
Values & Beliefs
Ours is a lens that studies loving connections. We examine how bonds get broken and mended. We see people not as a collection of individuals, but as a network of families and friends.
Collectively, we too, represent a connected network.
Each of us form a broad tapestry of ages, ethnicities, cultures, languages, and knowledge, but we all share a passion for working with couples.
Be sure to read these Personal Statements on our Team Page to learn more about each of us.
Our core beliefs and values can be summarized in these four points:
(1) We believe most couples therapy provided today is substandard.
Couples therapy works, but just not in the way that it is traditionally practiced today.
(2) We believe ordinary couples can learn what good couples therapy is and isn't. Then choose a therapist based upon that knowledge.
The dogs of CTI
Helping couples using only a "commonsense" approach falls painfully short.
One of the most recognized couples researchers in the world kept a careful record of his own predictions prior to learning his actual research findings. And he was wrong 60% of the time.
You can't wing-it when it comes to helping troubled marriages. You have to know the science. And you have to practice it routinely, every week, week after week. We suggest at least 50% of a therapist's practice should be spent helping couples.
One example of this "commonsense" proven wrong is that your level of marital distress doesn't predict the effectiveness of couples therapy. It feels horrible when your relationship is in trouble, but those feelings don't mean couples therapy won't be effective.
"We believe that only through science can we learn how to repair broken relationships and help people heal. It’s not easy. But over time, we’ve become better at it, mostly through failure.
"In fact, I’ve kept track of my own hypotheses about love relationships over the years, and I’ve been wrong 60% of the time. If we didn’t do research, we would think we were right 100% of the time." - Dr. John Gottman 12/12/2018
(3) We believe a thorough assessment is essential.
(4) We believe concentrated blocks of time, like a weekend, are more effective.
Findings are still being collected but clinical opinion agrees that we can accomplish much more over a weekend* than we can in an equal period spread out over months. But if you attend weekly couples therapy, it should be in 80-90 minute sessions or longer.
Seeing you over longer blocks of concentrated time allow us to know the two of you in a deeper way. We get to observe repeating patterns of relating. We videotape interactions, especially during fights, to understand these patterns more precisely.
We are trained to notice things like tone, volume, and pacing of your words. We concentrate on observing nonverbal gestures or facial expressions. This requires training in things like micro-expressions and neuroscience.
Our finely tuned observations are passed on to you. We help you to notice how these interactional patterns impact your nervous system and your partner's nervous system. We help you both change these destructive patterns, all without assigning needless blame.
*due to COVID-19, we have suspended all in-person retreats until further notice. We are conducting couples therapy in an intensive "block of time" format.
Our Typical Couple
While no two couples are alike, we most often work with couples who are as invested in being successful in their personal lives as they are in their careers, education, or changing the world.
You are the 'Shakers and Movers' of the world. You may run your own successful business, or lead a large corporation. You may be in IT, an app developer, an inventor, an engineer, or in academia, medicine, or law.
You may be in the public eye, either in sports, entertainment, or in your own therapeutic communities, as a therapist, yourself. You seek out the privacy that only a remote clinical office can provide.
Our international clients are often government employees, diplomats, NGO's or CEO's in multi-national corporations stationed overseas or international teachers. Many travel extensively.
Our Main Office
Our home office is in Boston, Massachusetts.
Couples Therapy Inc. began in a little town that time forgot, called Cummington, Massachusetts and we still hold retreats* in this lovely place three seasons of the year. If you live in the cities of New York, Hartford or Boston, and you go to the Berkshires for an intensive, you'll be impressed by the beauty year-round. It's an idyllic natural setting.
Cummington brags it has the best foliage in New England. That claim, however, cannot be proven!
But Boston is our home. The place we grew up and home to our extended family. We relocated our main office to Boston in 2018. We're delighted to offer a retreat location that's 15 minutes from Logan International Airport!
Couples Therapy Inc., as a family-owned business, has deep New England roots. Massachusetts has a reputation for excellence in couples therapy. And Boston demands a science-based approach that we're known for.
We have a large number of colleges and universities in New England as well. Many of Couples Therapy Inc. clinicians teach as well as maintain private practices and work here.
We're proud to be a part of that tradition.
*due to COVID-19, we have suspended all in-person retreats until further notice.
Our Clinical Style
We're also active in our work with you because research shows that active therapists produce the best results.
In our sessions, you'll get the practical tools you need to support the quality of life and relationship you want. You'll discover how to become calm, even under stress. You'll learn by "doing," not just by "saying." You'll participate in intelligent, engaging, and structured interactions. Our work will stress the science behind the practical information we'll be applying.
Through honest feedback, down-to-earth stories, and even humor, you will develop your capacity to meet your relationship challenges that have, up to now, seemed insurmountable. All in an understandable context.
People are surprised how open they can be with us about the most delicate of subjects, even men and women struggling with sexual integrity issues. You will find each of us candid, caring, and collaborative.
But it's not magic. It requires a sincere effort by each of you, and not all issues respond well to these methods.
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