Revised 9/28/2023 In our previous exploration of “Understanding Different Types of Affairs,” we examined how infidelity manifests in various forms, each with distinct patterns and motivations. We delved deeply into Split-Self Affairs, where partners maintain…
Getting married is an exciting milestone, but it’s just the beginning of the journey. Building a strong, healthy marriage takes ongoing effort and commitment from both partners. As a newlywed, there are many things you…
Dr. John Gottman’s extensive research spanning over four decades has intricately categorized couples into five distinct types. Among these, three are considered relatively successful and adaptive—Conflict-Avoiding, Volatile, and Validating—while the remaining two, Hostile and Hostile-Detached,…
Dear Dr. K, I just learned that my husband is still in contact with his affair partner. He promised to stop talking to her but continues to connect. I don’t know if they see one…
Every couple knows that moment – the heated words, the defensive postures, the feeling that you’re trapped in a cycle you can’t escape. As a couples therapist, I’ve helped countless couples struggle to make sense…
Have you ever felt like you’re talking to a brick wall during an argument with your partner? That frustrating sensation when they seem to completely shut down, leaving you feeling unheard and increasingly desperate to…
Views on conflict typically break down into two distinct attitudes. Termed as “The Two Babies,” these attitudes encapsulate the stark contrast between an approach open to growth and change and another steeped in defensiveness and…
This article explores why family mealtimes matter and how to make them work in today’s busy world. You’ll learn about the proven benefits of eating together, from better grades to stronger family bonds, and get…
Discover the fascinating science behind lasting love and how our brains are uniquely wired for deep, enduring relationships. This comprehensive guide explores the interplay between initial attraction and long-term bonding, moving beyond simplistic evolutionary theories…
Living with bipolar disorder in a marriage creates unique challenges that require understanding, patience, and dedicated teamwork between partners. From managing manic episodes and depression to navigating financial decisions and emotional boundaries, couples face a…
Learning better marriage communication tools Good communication is a truism for a happy relationship. Marriage counseling teaches effective marriage communication tools, but you don’t have to spend money to learn. Yet some of the most…
Intimacy avoidance is a common challenge that affects many marriages. It often stems from an insecure attachment style developed in childhood, particularly an avoidant attachment style.1 For simplicity, this article will focus on men with…
In the intricate web of domestic violence, two distinct archetypes emerge—Cobras and Pit Bulls—crafted from the findings of extensive research conducted by Neil Jacobson, Ph.D., and John Gottman, Ph.D. Their groundbreaking work, chronicled in “When…
In the intricate dance of human connections, culture stands as the invisible architect shaping our beliefs, behaviors, and relationships. When delving into the realm of culture, seven distinct dimensions emerge, each illuminating facets that influence…
Introduction You’ve likely heard the age-old question: “What do women want from men?” Well, we’re about to dive into the fascinating world of relationship research and uncover the truth behind the myths. The Allure of…
Spouse or Mate Poaching as a Dramatic and Risky Behavior Let’s talk about a challenging reality in relationships – partner poaching. It’s a pattern where someone deliberately pursues someone already committed to someone else. While…
There are few issues more destabilizing to a marriage than one partner’s inability to feel the hurt and damage their behavior is doing to another spouse–or to care. It is called by different names: selfishness,…
First love doesn’t just pass—it prints itself on us. The intensity, the rush, the drama—it all leaves a mark. For some, it becomes a beautiful memory. For others, it quietly stalks the present, especially when…
Revised 4/19/20 Couples Therapy Inc. offers International Couples Therapy in many languages. We reach the ex-pat American, Chinese, and otherwise international community with help for issues concerning their partner intimacy and adjustment challenges. Many members…
What is a date night? A date night is when a couple plans to spend time together. They do things that help them connect, talk, and be close. It is an opportunity for couples to…
Surviving domestic abuse goes beyond simply spotting red flags – it’s about protecting your children’s future and breaking the cycle of trauma. Every day you take action is a day closer to freedom. This guide…
by Heide Rodrizuez-Ubinas Life Coaching Your Marriage… Is it a Virtue? More than a decade ago, my mentor told me: “Admiration is the most important element in love.” Years later, I learned about Dr. Gottman’s…
My girlfriend avoids conflict at all costs, how can I make her feel safe enough to embrace our problems for what they are? The Hidden Dynamics of Avoiding Conflict Your situation touches on a common…
revised: 9/26/2023 Relationship problems are an inevitable part of married life. Trust issues, sexual problems, or a lack of communication happen occasionally and aren’t red flags on their own. The difference is the extent to…
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