When trust is broken, everything can feel uncertain — but healing is possible. In this section, we share insights, strategies, and real-world guidance for couples navigating the painful aftermath of affairs. Whether you’re rebuilding trust, processing betrayal, or deciding how to move forward, you’ll find tools and understanding to help you reclaim connection — one honest step at a time.
She found the messages by accident. It started with a calendar reminder that didn’t make sense—a date night on a Wednesday afternoon, marked with just a single first name. She dismissed it. But then came…
You’ve just discovered their affair Discovering your partner’s infidelity can shatter your world in an instant. The flood of emotions—shock, betrayal, anger, and profound grief—can be overwhelming. During this critical time, the actions you take…
She didn’t realize she’d dropped the iPad until she heard it strike the floor. That’s how discovery happens – not with dramatic confrontations, but with small sounds that divide your life into before and after. …
Introduction Emotional affairs represent one of the most insidious threats to committed relationships. Unlike physical affairs with their clear boundaries, emotional infidelity develops gradually, making it difficult to identify exactly when a line has been…
Dear Dr. K, I recently found out my husband was in a sexual relationship for 11 years. I cannot get the visions of them together out of my head. He and I are seeing separate…
Dear Dr. K, Every time my boyfriend kicks me out of his house, I find things when I go back that belong to a girlfriend of mine, and he denies it. He doesn’t know how…
Dear Dr. K, My partner and I met almost 2 years ago and moved quickly into a serious relationship and were soon living together. The sex slowed down very quickly and a lot of life…
Emotional affairs (EAs) have become an increasingly common problem in relationships, particularly among men. While often overlooked or dismissed as harmless friendships, these intimate emotional connections can slowly erode the bond between committed partners. Recent…
Infidelity can be one of the most devastating experiences for a relationship. The betrayal, loss of trust, and intense emotions that follow can feel overwhelming for the Hurt Partner. Intrusive thoughts and rumination about the…
Editor’s Note: This article brings together personal, clinical, and neuroscientific perspectives on the impact of compulsive sexual behavior in marriage. At Couples Therapy Inc., we are not a sex addiction treatment center. However, we work…
This post outlines Dr. John Gottman’s three-stage model for helping couples heal from infidelity. For a broader understanding of emotional affairs and recovery, see our Introduction to Affair Recovery. If you’re working through the aftermath…
Introduction As internet pornography has become ubiquitous, more couples are grappling with its impact on their relationships. While porn use isn’t always problematic, the latest psychology research suggests it can negatively affect marital satisfaction and…
When an affair shatters the sanctity of a relationship, deciphering the path forward becomes a daunting challenge. As you grapple with the emotional aftermath of infidelity, it is essential to recognize specific markers that can…
by Dr. Eliane Herdani Infidelity is the act of being unfaithful in a committed relationship. The long-term psychological effects of infidelity compare to those of many other traumas. In this post, we will look at…
Discovering that your husband has had an affair is a devastating betrayal. In the aftermath, it’s natural to wonder if he still has feelings for the other woman and whether your marriage can survive. While…
An earlier version of this post was recently featured on a podcast episode of Optimal Living Daily.Listen now! I’m married and having an affair. Can my marriage survive infidelity? Yes, couples can recover from an…
A recent meta-study of 60 independent research studies on deception by Dr. R. Edward Geiselman and his team has uncovered a classic set of behaviors that indicate a pattern of deception. Dr. Geiselman is one…
Once a cheater, always a cheater? Well, not always, but the risk does rise, according to some recent research. Prior infidelity can triple the chance of cheating on a current partner. But it turns out that…
The article delves into the intricate process of navigating emotional triggers and fostering empathy after infidelity in couples therapy. Key themes include managing triggers, understanding the complexities of empathy and emotional connections, and the significance…
Conflict-avoidant affairs are a common but often misunderstood type of infidelity that occurs when couples struggle to face their problems directly. At Couples Therapy Inc., we’ve seen how these affairs typically happen in younger marriages…
Originally published September 23, 2018. Infidelity is one of the most devastating experiences a couple can face, shattering trust and often leading to the demise of the relationship. While there are many factors that can…
Most hurt partners I’ve worked with have asked me how they can get past intrusive thoughts about the affair. They want to stay in their marriages and also want to feel better. Before they come…
The allure of a new relationship can be intoxicating, especially when your current marriage feels unfulfilling. But before you make the leap from spouse to affair partner, consider this sobering statistic: over 75% of marriages…
Navigating an emotional affair at work can feel like walking a tightrope; it’s hidden, alluring, and dangerously easy to stumble into. Recognizing the situation is the first crucial step if you’ve found yourself entangled in…
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