Trust and commitment are two important guiding principles in committed relationships. Unmarried long-term couples and committed long-term couples are two different relationships entirely.
Trust and Commitment matter. So does managing inconsolability. These are the Twin-Tasks of Affair Recovery.
If you want to buy into the notion that if people cheat, they always will cheat, you are likely to perceive your partner as forgivable.
Inconsolability blocks a couple’s ability to rebuild trust and for the hurt partner to learn how to trust again. Trust and commitment tend to put the brakes on infidelity.
That implies that there was some level of trust and loyalty in the first place.
The answer is complex. But when couples have little or no trust or commitment from the get-go, it’s more likely. These couples experience the highest rates of infidelity.
The study was published in the journal Archives of Sexual Behavior (Knopp et al., 2017).
Daniel is a Marriage and Family Therapist. He is the Blog Editor. He currently works online seeing couples from Massachusetts at Couples Therapy Inc. He uses EFT, Gottman Method, Solution-focused and the Developmental Model in his approaches.