Marriage and Alcohol: How to Talk About Drinking With Your Spouse
Dear Dr. K, How do I go about getting my spouse to make steps to stop drinking and stop spending lots of money on alcohol? For example what do I start saying and what do…
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Navigating Pre-Wedding Challenges: Overcoming Family Influence and Emotional Uncertainty
Dear Dr. K, We are 3 months before the wedding. How do I deal with a soon to be spouse who can’t make marriage decisions before and has no excitement because he is super emotionally…
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Parenting Together: How Collaborative Problem-Solving Can Revitalize Your Relationship
by Sierra Kehoe Are you struggling with parenting conflicts in your relationship? You’re not alone. Many couples find that raising children together can strain their partnership. Approaches to discipline can vary, as can parenting priorities….
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Beyond the Affair: Rebuilding Trust When ‘Hot Sex’ Isn’t the Real Problem
Dear Dr. K, My partner and I met almost 2 years ago and moved quickly into a serious relationship and were soon living together. The sex slowed down very quickly and a lot of life…
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Virtual Reality: A New Frontier for Long-Distance Relationships
As a clinical psychologist specializing in couples therapy, I’ve seen firsthand how challenging long-distance relationships can be. Maintaining a strong connection has become increasingly difficult with more couples living apart due to work, education, or…
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When Marriage Becomes an Empty Shell: The Cost of Silent Compliance
Dear Dr. K, I married my husband after dating for five months because I was pregnant and felt like it was the right thing to do. I was codependent with him for the first 15-18…
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Navigating Verbal Abuse and Blame in Relationships
Emotional abuse doesn’t need a frequent flyer card to be real. Once is already too much. Dear Dr. K, I appreciate your article on verbal/emotional abuse, especially the “20 minute cooling off” period. I would,…
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Navigating a Marriage with an Emotionally Dysregulated Spouse
It’s not unusual for couples to argue. But when one partner frequently escalates—gets impatient, uses a harsh tone, overreacts to everyday problems—and then expects everything to be forgotten by morning, the dynamic becomes much more…
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Reviving a Loveless Marriage: Is It Possible to Rekindle Lost Passion?
I reader wanted me to know that she was in a sexless marriage and “I do not love my husband.” My answer might surprise some. I would not ask you if you love your husband…
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Is Flirting Without Physical Contact Cheating?
My husband is attractive and likes attention from other women. All nonverbal attention. Nothing physical occurs that I’m aware of. It feels to me that he builds relationships with them by meeting them at the…
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Gottman Retreat: Transforming Relationships Through Science
Are you and your partner looking to revitalize your relationship? A Gottman Couples Retreat might be the transformative experience you need. Dr. John Gottman’s groundbreaking research forms the basis for these intensive therapy sessions. There…
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You’re useless. I’m telling the neighbors…
I received three similar inquiries: Is it ok for one to call one’s spouse “useless” in any context? Is it normal for my man to call me a lazy pig? My husband calls me names,…
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Not the Dad He Had to Be: How Masculinity Is (Finally) Changing
For generations, masculinity was measured by distance: stoicism, strength, silence. A “good man” was one who worked hard, didn’t complain, and provided—often at the cost of emotional presence. But something is shifting. And if you’re…
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Redefining Motherhood: Challenging Traditional Expectations and Embracing Equitable Care
In the flurry of Mother’s Day celebrations, it’s easy to lose sight of the deeper meaning behind honoring motherhood. Beyond the flowers, cards, and breakfast in bed lies a complex web of expectations, responsibilities, and…
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The Sound Relationship House: Building a Strong Foundation for Lasting Love
What makes a relationship last? To know the difference between folklore and science is necessary for a science-based couples therapist. According to Drs. John and Julie Gottman, who have studied couples for over 40 years,…
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The Perils of Suppressed Conflict in Marriage: Insights from a Couples Therapy Retreat
Conflict is inevitable in any relationship, and how couples handle it can make or break their marriage. While it may seem counterintuitive, research by psychologist John Gottman suggests that avoiding conflict and maintaining a constantly…
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Reflecting on a decade of Couples Therapy Inc.
Couples Therapy Inc. is proud to unveil its newly redesigned website, which reflects its decade-long journey as an innovator in couples counseling. What began in 2013 as a dream to “change the face of couples…
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Eight ways that make a couples therapy retreat non-religious
Many couples are looking for a nonreligious marriage retreat that isn’t sponsored by a Christian organization or a nondenominational one for personalized work with a therapist. Some couples don’t care if the retreat’s facilitator is, themselves, a…
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The Vital Role of Curiosity and Drive in a Thriving Marriage
“People can help you in many ways throughout life, but there are two things nobody can give you: curiosity and drive. They must be self-supplied. If you are not interested and curious, all the information…
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Dr. Sue Johnson, Pioneer of Emotionally Focused Therapy, Passes Away at 76
On April 23, 2024, the world of psychology lost a trailblazer and innovator with the passing of Dr. Sue Johnson, the co-creator of Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT). Dr. Johnson’s groundbreaking work revolutionized the field of…
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Mending the Ties That Bind: How to Heal Attachment Wounds in Your Relationship
Our closest relationships have the power to hurt us deeply – but they also offer profound opportunities for healing. According to psychologist Stan Tatkin’s PACT (Psychobiological Approach to Couple Therapy) theory, the wounds we carry…
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What is Financial Compatibility?
When it comes to sustaining a happy, long-term romantic relationship, many factors come into play—mutual respect, shared values, open communication, and, of course, love and attraction. But one area that often gets overlooked, despite being…
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Laughter in Love: Cultivating Humor for a Happier, Healthier Romantic Relationship
In the midst of life’s daily stresses and challenges, it’s easy for romantic partners to forget the power of laughter, especially within their intimate relationship. Humor, when shared between partners, can be a transformative force,…
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Age Difference in Marriage: Navigating Significant Age Gaps
When it comes to age gaps in marriage, love may be blind to birthdays, but relationships with substantial age differences face unique challenges. As a clinical psychologist, I’ve seen firsthand how these couples must navigate…
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