My sister just pulled off a “Disney wedding” in Florida. With Christmas coming soon, she feels the usual pressure of hosting our family’s annual party in her spacious home. As I watch her juggle the…
Dear Dr. K, I am verbally abusive to my wife. I have explained to her that name-calling or remarks are only words that I say when I get angry, and they mean nothing. She feels…
Dear Dr. K, My husband has been cheating on me with escorts and women from random unknown places. He has admitted to having a threesome with two females who he never met before. In our…
Dear Dr. K, I recently found out my husband was in a sexual relationship for 11 years. I cannot get the visions of them together out of my head. He and I are seeing separate…
As a couples therapist and dog owner, I often hear this question from clients. Those cute faces, cuddles, and adorable yawns – I mean, your spouse may be pretty cute, but how can they compete…
Originally published Jan 13, 2017Updated Dec 23, 2024 The holiday season brings twinkling lights, festive music, and cherished traditions – but for many couples, it also ushers in a unique set of challenges that can…
Dear Dr. K, My boyfriend has been a widower for 8 years. I asked him if he could please put his wife’s pic in the living room with the others or anywhere besides the bedroom….
Dear Dr. K, I really like the idea of working intensively, but my partner has ADHD; I’m concerned that he wouldn’t be able to stay focused for an entire weekend and that shorter, weekly sessions…
Dear Dr. K, My wife wants a divorce. She said I don’t respect her and don’t listen to her. She says all I want her for is to cook, clean, care for the kids, and…
Dear Dr. K, I’m feeling very neglected by my mate lately. We started dating in May 2000. He has been very secretive about most of his life, i.e., phone calls, who and where he’s been……
For LGBTQIA+ couples, the relationship itself often isn’t the hardest part. It’s everything else. It’s the stares when you hold hands. The silence after coming out. The hesitation before saying “my partner” at work. Homophobia…
Last week, Stephanie sat in my office during her intensive individual meeting, tears streaming down her face as she described her husband’s reaction to her recent promotion opportunity. “He didn’t say ‘don’t take it,’” she…
“I was afraid he wouldn’t open up,” Ginny told me. We’d been there for a full day and a half, and she now knew how to talk directly. “It sounds like you want to tell…
Today, we’re diving into the fascinating world of blended families, spotlighting stepmothers. We’re about to challenge some long-held myths and explore eye-opening research. The Stepmother Stereotype: Time for a Reality Check Let’s face it: stepmothers…
I’ve seen my fair share of heated arguments and emotional meltdowns. They seem impossible to slow down or stop. But what if I told you that the key to calming down after a marital spat might be…
After thirty years of working with couples facing intimacy challenges, I’ve observed one consistent pattern: couples who can’t talk openly about sex often struggle with their intimate relationships. When couples don’t talk about sex explicitly,…
Last week in my office, a client broke down while describing the emotional neglect in her marriage. “Everything looks perfect on paper,” she said. “We don’t fight, we share the chores, we parent well together….
The Sleep-Relationship Connection In my years as a relationship counselor, I’ve witnessed many couples grappling with problems seemingly unconnected to their sleep habits. Yet, one of several recent studies has pointed to an intriguing link…
Over the years, I’ve encountered numerous relationship challenges in my work with couples. One particularly complex issue that often arises is displaced aggression when one partner redirects their frustrations onto people close to their significant…
Dear Dr. K, Why can’t I leave or tell him to leave. My husband lies, cheats and takes lots of money. He still sees his affair partner but denies it. What is wrong with me?…
When your partner refuses to attend couples therapy, it can feel like hitting a wall in your relationship. Let’s explore why someone might resist therapy and provide practical solutions to address their concerns. Whether your…
As a clinical psychologist specializing in couples therapy, I often see partners struggling with the balance between intimacy and independence. A fascinating new study by Hughes et al. (2024) sheds light on how our attachment…
Dear Dr. K, How do I go about getting my spouse to make steps to stop drinking and stop spending lots of money on alcohol? For example what do I start saying and what do…
Dear Dr. K, We are 3 months before the wedding. How do I deal with a soon to be spouse who can’t make marriage decisions before and has no excitement because he is super emotionally…
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