I’m Sticking with the Kid…

Why I’m Sticking with the Kid I have discussed the pervasive nature of Developmental Trauma in earlier posts. Because we learn how to be partners from our parent’s example, there are just

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Money Can Buy Happiness!

Can Money Buy Happiness? Money can buy happiness. Let me say that again… Money Can Buy Happiness. Wait a minute. Everyone knows that money can’t buy happiness, and research in the late 1970’s

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Confessions of a Passive-Aggressive Husband

I Confess… I am a Passive Aggressive Husband I have a confession to make. I am a passive-aggressive husband. I am not proud of it.  And, as a couples therapist, I am not particularly comfortable

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Romeo and Juliet in Couples Therapy

Would Romeo and Juliet in couples therapy have a different outcome? We all know the story of Romeo and Juliet, the star-crossed lovers rent asunder by their feuding families. In the play, the escalating

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How to Raise an Angry, Entitled Child in 4 Easy Steps

 Four Steps to Raising an Angry, Entitled Child According to a 2015 study published in the journal Developmental Psychology there are four easy steps to raising an angry, entitled child. This research

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The Grief of the Involved Partner

Ending your Affair…the Grief of the Involved Partner The grief of the “unfaithful” Involved Partner is a very touchy subject in couples therapy. In My last post, I discussed the problem

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Thought-Stopping for Hurt Partners

The Perils of Rumination In an earlier post, I have discussed the idea that obsession and rumination by a hurt partner are the first major stumbling blocks to affair recovery.  In order for Hurt Partners

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Love and Poker

I came across this interesting post by Robert Dewberry at his blog, the Poker Monk.  Robert is a fascinating young man on the threshold of becoming a professional poker player. As a Couples Therapist,

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The Art of the Apology

What is the art of the apology? Does science offer any bedrock of data about what constitutes an effective apology between intimate partners? “Love Means Never Having to Say You’re Sorry“ 

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How Do You Handle an Angry Man?

The Angry Man in the 1960’s…Catharsis or Crapola? What do we know about the fundamentally decent but angry man? It all started when it was Mod to be Mad. If I wanted to be kind, I would say

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