Sexual Desire Differences: Different Sex Drives in Marriage

Different Sex Drives in Marriage for most couples, reminds me of this joke:Two guys are walking out of a restaurant, and one turns to the other, and in a complaining voice says: “The food in that restaurant

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Negative Sentiment Override: Why it all feels so Hopeless

  Remembering “The Good Times.” For many of my couples, there was once a time when it was peaceful and natural. When doing the simplest things together brought joy or comfort. Do you remember

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Upcoming Professional Presentation: AS/HFA & NT Relationships

Couples that include a partner with Asperger’s Syndrome (AS), now called High Functioning Autism (HFA) can be a confusing conundrum clinically. Many with AS/HFA were already adults when, in 1994, the

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Marriage in the Movies: Boyhood

Hopefully, some time soon, you will go out and see an almost 3 hour movie about nothing in particular, and everything that’s meaningful to being human. “Boyhood” took 12 years to make,

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Portrait of a Marriage ~ Wounds that Won’t Heal

In relationships, sometimes the way a couples relate is the problem, and the therapist’s job is to help the couple modify their interactional styles (i.e.: teaching them how to “communicate

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Novel Experiences in Marriage: Always Stressful?

Studies have shown that novel experiences can actually stimulate the production of the neuro-chemicals dopamine and norepinephrine, which show up in the brain in the early, blissful stages of a relationship.

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When Life Imitates Art – A Child’s Doodle and Mother’s Letting Go

Those things you hold so dear cannot change and grow and expand unless you loosen your grip on them a little.  In sharing my artwork and allowing our daughter to be an equal in our collaborations, I helped

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3 Marital Mistakes You’re Probably Making Right Now

“Happy Families are all alike; every unhappy family is unhappy in its own way.” —Leo Tolstoy, Anna Karenina, Chapter 1, first line, Russian mystic novelist (1828-1910) It turns out that

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Defensiveness in Marriage: “It’s not my fault, it’s YOUR FAULT!”

Updated 2/11/2019DefensivenessWe are all guilty of defensiveness and it is often seen in even the best of relationships.Partners raises an issue with us they would like us to address, and it shoots straight

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Emotional Distance in Marriage

​Emotional Neglect in MarriageEmotional distance in marriage also called emotional neglect in marriage is a painful dynamic. It's a lack of emotional support, or feeling emotional intimacy with their

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