Stay Stuck in Couples Therapy in 11 Easy Steps

Couples Therapy is for Chumps. Stay Stuck Instead. You want to stay stuck in couples therapy but you don’t know how? Let’s face it. Couples Therapy is just a giant pain in the ass. They flat

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Love at First Fight

Love and Repair What do I mean by “Love at First Fight?” Learning to fight well and repair with skill is a fundamental undertaking in science-based couples therapy. When Gottman Institute researchers

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Mindful Practice in the Rain

Mindful Practice does not discriminate. It cools hot tempers and restores awareness. Rain does not discriminate either. It cools, refreshes and restores everyone. “RAIN” is also a well-known

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Empathy, Sympathy, and Marital Conflict

Why Sympathy Doesn’t Work and Empathy Does. When our spouse is pleased with us… happy…connected then empathy is a breeze. But particularly if you’re male, it’s more challenging

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Sexless Marriage – Changing Our Dynamic

Old habits die hard.  Even painful ones.  Especially destructive habits that you've perfected with another person. Like your intimate partner.One of those bad habits is living in a sexless marriage.

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I’m Sticking with the Kid…

Why I’m Sticking with the Kid I have discussed the pervasive nature of Developmental Trauma in earlier posts. Because we learn how to be partners from our parent’s example, there are just

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Money Can Buy Happiness!

Can Money Buy Happiness? Money can buy happiness. Let me say that again… Money Can Buy Happiness. Wait a minute. Everyone knows that money can’t buy happiness, and research in the late 1970’s

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Confessions of a Passive-Aggressive Husband

I Confess… I am a Passive Aggressive Husband I have a confession to make. I am a passive-aggressive husband. I am not proud of it.  And, as a couples therapist, I am not particularly comfortable

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Romeo and Juliet in Couples Therapy

Would Romeo and Juliet in couples therapy have a different outcome? We all know the story of Romeo and Juliet, the star-crossed lovers rent asunder by their feuding families. In the play, the escalating

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How to Raise an Angry, Entitled Child in 4 Easy Steps

 Four Steps to Raising an Angry, Entitled Child According to a 2015 study published in the journal Developmental Psychology there are four easy steps to raising an angry, entitled child. This research

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