Is Once a Cheater Always a Cheater True? What’s the Science?

Is Once a Cheater Always a Cheater True? Is Once a Cheater Always a Cheater True? Well…not always. However, according to new research, prior infidelities can triple the chance of cheating on a

Continue reading

What You Can Learn in Breakup Bootcamp

What You Need to Know in the Breakup Bootcamp I’ve noticed that some “relationship coaches” who have no credentials in couples therapy or mental health whatsoever regularly attempt to

Continue reading

The 5 Essential Tasks to Achieving Forgiveness in Marriage

Why is Forgiveness in Marriage So Hard? Is there an attachment science of forgiveness in marriage? What is forgiveness in marriage? Is it possible…or even desirable? In this post, I’m going

Continue reading

The 5 Tell-Tale Signs of a Clinically Covert Narcissist Husband

The Clinical Covert Narcissist Husband What is a Covert Narcissist Husband? We have a mistaken notion that narcissism is always characterized by a larger than life expansive grandiosity. But there is another

Continue reading

13 Crucial Rules for Fighting Fair in Marriage

Rules for Fighting Fair? Isn’t Fighting Bad? Any discussion about rules for fighting fair in marriage first has to deal with the question “why fight at all? Isn’t fighting a sign of a

Continue reading

Christian Couples Counseling in a Secular Therapy World

Christian couples get a raw deal in secular couples therapy. Psychotherapy has never been particularly curious about religious faith of any kind. Most modern therapists do not tend to describe themselves

Continue reading

3 Important Ways That Your Couples Therapist Relationship is Unique

The couples therapist relationship is complex because your couples therapist has a unique and important role. Choose carefully. The therapeutic alliance is the most important factor in couples therapy.

Continue reading

Choosing a Life Partner…Science…or Sexy Story?

Choosing a life partner is an important decision. Because of that fact, there’s been a lot of research both good and bad that explore how we decide who we want to spend our lives with. Some of this

Continue reading

3 Top Reasons to Leave a Marriage

Couples therapists hear all kinds of reasons to leave a marriage. But a new research study by Professor Samantha Joel says that while 23 separate reasons were given by study participants, 3 dominant issues

Continue reading

7 Ways Your Depressed Husband Shows Up In Couples Therapy

Your Depressed Husband and Couples Therapy We have been studying men like your depressed husband in couples therapy for more than twenty years. Many researchers now believe that a depressed husband acts

Continue reading