Gay Relationships and Marital Conflict

What Makes Gay Relationships Succeed or Fail? Gay relationships have unique strengths and challenges. One of the questions Dr. Gottman and his research team were curious about was whether or not there

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Couples Counseling…5 Ways You’ll Know You’re Ready to Start

Are You Ready to Start Couples Counseling? Thinking about couples counseling? When intimate bonds fray, it’s typical for couples to tough it out without help for years. Only about 19% of distressed

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Kitchen Sinking and Kitchen Thinking

Kitchen Sinking…The Problem of Old Resentments Gottman’s research tells us that effective complaining is a learned skill. There is one verbal habit that comes naturally that we need to correct

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Postpartum Depression and Marital Conflict

Postpartum Depression… What is it? Postpartum Depression is a serious mood disorder that may occur in the first few months after giving birth. It has also been known to happen after a miscarriage

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Repair Your Relationship in 6 Steps

How to Repair Your Relationship Repair your relationship by re-building trust. Day by day, interaction by interaction. Gottman’s research tells us the quality and resilience of the Friendship System

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The Sound Relationship House Revisited

The Sound Relationship House One Story at a Time What is the Sound Relationship House? It seems that you can’t find a Gottman trained blogger or Gottman “informed” therapist website which

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Marital Complaints and Disco Balls

Can Marital Complaints Lead to Intimacy? Marital complaints are a frequent topic in couples therapy. How to make them, what they mean, etc., etc. In a recent post, I described how learning to repair during

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Introducing the Coming of “Fight Club”

Those who know marketing warned me to pre-sell it, because they "just can't see it." Technical people think the logistics will be a nightmare.But no matter.​You can't keep a good idea down.  As

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Adult Children of Divorce

Adult Children of Divorce Adult Children of Divorce suffer too. There is a robust cultural belief that adult children, once successfully launched, are relatively unimpacted by their parent’s divorce.

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Gaslighting and Marital Conflict

What is Gaslighting? Gaslighting is a less subtle form of emotional abuse that seeks to control a partner through a pattern of over the top criticism and reality distortion. The term “Gaslighting”

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