When it comes to your family's wellbeing, traveling to reach help should never be a factor. And now it doesn't have to be with Online Marriage Counseling.
Our online marriage counseling is available as soon as you sense that you could use some help.
It has been called many things: Online couples therapy, online marriage counseling, e-marriage counseling or online relationship counseling, but what exactly is it?
It’s confusing, because what you find in the search results is everything from ebooks and video programs to text-type “therapy” or “coaching.” Costs from $30 a week to $300 a month for “unlimited access.”
Marriage and couples counseling itself is a form of psychotherapy designed to help adults in intimate relationships who are struggling with their communication, sex and intimacy, collaboration, sense of belonging in their relationship, among other issues. When it is done online, it is called “online marriage counseling.”
Online therapy has been demonstrated to be as effective as face-to-face therapy in multiple studies.
Our clients are typically busy professionals. All have enormous time constraints:
…even rural folks find the professional support they need.
Super commuters are people whose jobs are far enough away from home that they must live apart from their families for days, weeks, or even months at a time.
It can also be used to define those who commute 90 miles or more on a daily basis.
New York University’s Rudin Center for Transportation Policy and Management reports that as many as 13 percent of workers in large US cities are currently 'super-commuting.' It’s not just a trend in the USA either; reports show the number of international super commuters is on the rise as well.
Couples who live on rural farmland can be quite remote. It may take you a while to leave your own land!
Especially for the "blended" couple, where one was raised in an agricultural area and another in a city, there are adjustments. One may want frequent "get-aways," while another prefers to stay close to home. Farmers, ranchers, and those living in extremely rural areas raising crops or livestock know the challenges of finding talented therapeutic help close to home.
Our Couples Therapists are specialists in helping troubled relationships. Our Associates have certificate training in at least two approaches to helping troubled couples. Five are former Program Directors of Graduate School, or have taught at a graduate level. We currently have 20 couples therapists, licensed across the USA, in Puerto Rico, in Ireland, South Africa, and in Australia. We also have two post-graduate interns, offering services at a lower fee.
The internet is a wild and wooly world. Online help can be conducted by anyone with an internet hook-up. Many provide a book, a few videos, and a phone call and that’s “Online Help for Couples.”
Other corporations have set up online “platforms” where over 1000+ therapists work in a chatroom anonymously and you pay a monthly fee for the privilege. There is no vetting. Anyone with a professional license to practice and some malpractice insurance can join.
A shocking 80% of therapists are convinced they already know how to do couples therapy. Yet only 12% of these therapists have ever completed a single course in couples therapy!
And a single survey course is hardly enough. Couples therapy online is very challenging and specialized work. And it’s easy to get wrong.
But a true expert has worked with Masters in their field. They’ve received formal training in a particular approach that they’re proud to tell you about.
For us, that means a science-based approach to helping couples. All of our clinicians have at least one formal, evidence-based certificate in couples therapy. Our skilled couples therapists need two or more credentials to be called "Associates."
These intensive classes and exams to demonstrate our knowledge IN couples therapy have happened AFTER our formal training. It’s a specialty.
Then we combine experience actually conducting couples therapy. Our team of couples therapists have over 300 years of combined experience!
We have therapists who have practiced couples therapy for over 30 years, and some as little as 5 years, but all of them have been formally trained, and not in a single “survey course” in graduate school.
We take the time to learn about you, using a unique tool we call: “The BIG BIG Book.” You each complete it online in the privacy of your own home, and we score and analyze your every word. With the help of The BIG BIG Book, you'll be asked finely-tuned questions about your marital issues, and not general questions such as: “What brings you in today?”
We’re a family-owned business, and our President, Dr. Kathy McMahon goes through 1,000 resumes each year, looking for the best-trained couples therapists from around the world. She hand-picks and hires the best, and then we continue this professional support by attending monthly meetings, providing individual and group seminars, peer training and supervision, and case consultations.
We have a Master class of therapists in our organization who train other therapists in couples therapy approaches, and offer us guidance and direction.
You are assured of an exceptionally well-trained couples therapist.
Dr. McMahon, herself a clinical psychologist board-certified as a sex therapist and certified in the Gottman Method and with training in 4 other approaches to couples therapy, stands behind this Team.
Once upon a time, you could work an 8-hour day and return home to have dinner with the family. In today’s world, work happens 24/7 internationally.
We know. We live in that world.
“International” couples therapy is more than a website with slick copy. It’s a skilled group of clinicians who have actually LIVED internationally, and know the strains of raising kids in Beijing, Frankfurt, or London. Moving from Sydney to Dublin and back again. Vancouver to Taiwan to Los Angeles. Mumbai to Keene to Austin.
They know how important culture is to forming a sense of self, connection to others and establishing intimacy.
They meet across 11-time zones, where our monthly meetings are held at 9AM in New York, 6AM in Los Angeles, and Midnight in Brisbane. Collectively, we speak a dozen languages.
We know it, because we live it.
We’re lived in remote locations where therapists are hard to find.
We travel as a regular feature of our work, a practice we call “Fly Me” Therapists.
An International Couple can be defined in a number of ways. Sometimes each partner is from a different country or culture. Sometimes they are from the same country but live together in a foreign land. Or sometimes the nature of their cosmopolitan lifestyle gives them international sensibilities. A global perspective.
Many students now travel around the world to study and learn. This can strain their relationship, as they learn not only a new language but also new customs.
Maintaining a happy marriage can be a special challenge to the International Couple. They have had to master not only how to live together, but to manage many other issues as well. They've had to grow and change together. They have to be willing and open to engaging in new rituals and practices. They have successfully done many of these things already, in order to be a couple. But sometimes they face a barrier they can’t seem to climb over.
We practice couples therapy with international couples online and have taught cross-cultural sensitivity and ethnic differences to marriage and family therapy graduate students at several schools of psychology. Two of us (Drs. Ham & Meunier) are internationally recognized experts on cross-culturalism.
Working with International Couples from around the world takes special skills and knowledge to be of effective help.
But in reality, all marriages are “cross-cultural,” even if you’ve grown up across the street and live there still. Blending two families through marriage means understanding what true differences actually are and tolerating and offering new insights into that system.
We know how careful we must be to really understanding an International Couple. Using online couples therapy with International Couples also takes special skills.
We are particularly sensitive to couples from two different cultures, perhaps living in a third country. Many of us have lived in other countries or have traveled extensively.
We know the questions to ask to determine:
We avoid pathologizing cultural variations and respect all cultures.
We do not, however, condone violence inside the home, and work hard to assure that individuals get the help that they need to stop it.
The couples we see are busy professionals. They work long hours and juggle many responsibilities. They love their kids and want to spend (dinner) time with them. They work to stay healthy, exercise, and strive to get enough sleep. It's hard to squeeze in an extra few hour to fight rush hour, leave the kids with sitters, or exit work early.
Traveling for work is draining. Maintaining a family, juggling two careers, getting the kids to their sporting events, even eating dinner together is a big challenge. These are issues that drive people apart in the first place. Two exhausted, overworked, busy people struggling to get into the same room at the same time, to sit down and do a counseling session to work on their marriage. Every week. Week after week. And it's hard to make that happen consistently:
With Online Marriage Counseling your schedule just got easier. You go home, eat dinner as a family, put the kids to bed, and sign on to work on your marriage. And because we have marriage counselors in different time zones, it's easy to find a convenient time to meet. Online marriage counseling can happen in your living room, in your office, or even in another state or country. Anywhere you can find an internet connection. Even on a smartphone!
Early morning, mid-afternoon or late night. We'll be there.
Traveling for work or pleasure is no longer a problem. If you have a smartphone, you have access to a session.
Relax. You are in your own private space. Put the kids to bed and curl up on the couch. Step out for lunch and sit in your car. Shut the door to your bedroom. Lock your office and hold the calls. Anyplace can be the right place to interact more naturally in your therapy. A more natural setting means more natural interactions. More natural interaction means more openness and vulnerability. Vulnerability means intimacy, the foundation of good couples therapy.
And that intimacy continues when we log off. You don’t have to speed off in two separate cars to pick up dinner and retrieve the kids. You can naturally continue the conversation about the meaningful topics we’ve discussed. Or just take a hot shower or take private time to journal your thoughts.
More comfort means better emotional relating, an easier time opening up and sharing, and a greater sense of team effort and purpose.
We know it takes regular practice to get good at any new skill. The same is true for couples therapy. Even more so.
Not only do you have to recognize what a change in your negative cycle looks like, you have to know what your triggers are. It all can make perfect sense when you’re in an office in front of a professional. But when you go home, and your buttons get pushed, those skills can fly out the window. You tell yourself: “That might work for other couples, but our problems are too severe!”
Athletes know that a great coach helps them perfect their work. Practice makes it perfect. A master couples therapist can also know both of you well, and know those triggers, to help you break those negative patterns.
We encourage couples to come weekly for 6-12 weeks before spreading out their sessions. It keeps those new ideas you are learning fresh in your mind and breaks old, destructive patterns. Those first 6-12 sessions lay down the foundation for a new way of relating.
We even offer discounts to couples purchasing their sessions in 6-week packages.
Online means it doesn’t matter where in the world you are at the time of your appointment. If you have a smartphone and a door to close, you’re available.
Devote this time and break the negative cycle. Then spread out your sessions and take longer to practice between consultations.
Bad marriage problems have a shelf life. Fix it soon and you go on to enjoy many happy years together. Let it fester and distance and resentments build. Showing commitment to couples therapy demonstrates the willingness to put your partner first. To take their complains seriously. Make it happen before the willingness to change has faded.
Re-establish emotional safety quickly and know how to respond effectively to the most challenging situations. Rebuilding trust and commitment can have enormous long-term benefits.
Imagine several common scenarios in weekly face-to-face couple therapy:
You had a fight on Saturday night. You were scheduled to see the couples therapist on Monday. On Sunday you don't "feel so good," so you cancel that appointment 24-hours in advance so as not to incur a cancellation fee. You have a sniffle. Or the kids have stayed home from school with a fever. There's a lot of good reasons not to go to couples therapy when you've just had a fight and are angry or resentful. And so one week turns into two, and two into three. You start to wonder if you are really making strides, when you aren't really attending many sessions. And maybe your marriage is to blame.
We work with some of the most successful couples in the world. Many don't want to be seen in a therapist's waiting room. Some are therapists themselves who don't want to go to known colleagues. Online work allows you to experience the best in couples therapy with a specialist from wherever you are. And in the privacy and comfort of your own home or office.
It all starts with an extensive assessment. This lays down a treatment blueprint. You’ll complete a questionnaire we call: “The BIG BIG Book of Intimate Relationships.”
Most couples need to learn concrete skills involving:
One of you may be having a very intimate, personal problem of a sexual nature. Perhaps you can’t imagine sitting in front of another person in a clinical office.
But you need to have it resolved.
You can sit together, in a private place of your choosing, and talk to one of our skilled experts in sex therapy, using your computer…through videoconferencing.
Intimacy problems require specialized training from clinical professionals with the highest ethical standards. Board-certified, peer supervised. Find them here.
While online therapy itself is becoming increasingly common, it requires more than a fast internet connection and a willingness to join an online platform. Using a secure video-conferencing program is more than technology. It is knowing how to combine couples psychotherapy, in evidence-based lengths, with online therapy techniques, to get the best results.
A therapist should have formal training not only in their area of expertise (in this case couples therapy) but should also know the limitations of online work. That’s why we’ve studied online psychotherapy AND couples therapy extensively.
Many do not.
There are also licensing issues within the United States which are a puzzling and ever-changing array of confusing laws, allowances, or in some cases, no guidelines at all. This varies from state to state. And these laws don’t disappear when a professional labels what they do “coaching.” Your license dominates over the name you give your services.
Others argue that state licensing laws do not trump an informed consumer’s right to choose the professional of their choice. Choosing a professional outside of your state can, in some states, limit your recourse. However, this is increasingly resolving itself as licensing laws provide consumers with recourse against unethical therapists, even if the consumer doesn’t live in their therapist’s state.
Nevertheless, there remains much debate and there is no final word.
Couples Therapy Inc. soon have clinicians licensed in over 23 states in the USA, nationally and Internationally practicing marriage counseling across 19 time zones.
In addition, while most insurance companies will cover “telehealth” sessions, few insurance companies cover couples therapy. Those that do typically have a firm cap on the number of sessions they allow, before requiring that the professional label one or both parties with a mental illness.
If you are looking for evidence-based couples therapy, in all likelihood you will be paying out of pocket. We offer a six-month “same as cash” plan to assist in financing your treatment.
If you have an undiagnosed mental illness, you will need help from a skilled individual therapist and/or psychiatrist. In addition, chronic physical violence between partners is inappropriate for couples therapy.
Clients who work best in an online format are able to manage their emotional reactivity, are not substance addicted, suicidal or homicidal, and are both interested in making a sincere effort to improve their relationship (or alternatively, seek our Discernment Counseling format).
It's not magic, and your commitment to the process is absolutely essential. However, if you are not 100% satisfied with the clinical expertise and effort brought to your relationship through our unique Online Couples Therapy, contact Dr. McMahon personally so that she can make it right.
Online. With a click of a button.
And with the same level of security credit card companies use.
Pay online too, with Paypal.
Ask about 6 months same as cash.
English, Spanish, German, French, Mandarin, Taiwanese, Cantonese, Japanese, Hindi & Tamil, Afrikaan. Languages spoken by almost half the people in the world!
Ask about our "Commitment to Change" Online Marriage Counseling Program
We provide real emotional incentives (financial incentives, too...) to show up for the first six weeks, when most of the work and healing takes place. It gives you the traction you need to start talking (and fighting...) more effectively, and feel better about your relationship in general.
Booking and attending six or twelve weeks in a row gives even the most troubled couple a real shot at having a happier, more satisfying intimate life. Ask about our "Commitment to Change" plan when you contact us. It will save a lot more than money. It might save your marriage.
Contact us and discuss your situation. We’ll help you to decide if this service delivery technology will help your relationship. It isn’t appropriate for every couple.
Schedule a No-Charge 15 minute Introductory phone Meeting.
• Set up a no-charge “Get Acquainted” Meeting
• Schedule an appointment for Marriage Counseling Online
• Receive an email invitation, with a link
• Click on the link to download a small program
• Your therapist will dial you, and you'll hear a ring. Just answer it. • A window appears to your couples therapy!
• Controls are a click of a button away.
• Works on computers, tablets, even smartphones!
• Mac and PC compatible.
• Dr. Rodriguez conducts her sessions in English and Spanish.
• Angela Voegele conducts her sessions in German, English, and conversational French.
• Dr. Meunier conducts her sessions in English, Hindi and Tamil.
• Jenny Fang conducts her sessions in English, Mandarin, Japanese and Taiwanese.
• Tehilla Luttig conducts her sessions in English and Afrikaan.
This is the same technology used in medical facilities all over the world. More than ever before, Marriage Counseling Online is now within reach.
Online marriage counseling work is new, and legislation changes professional practice laws and requirements. These laws are ever-changing. We may be able to see you, depending upon the state you live in. Licensing in your States may restrict you from taking advantage of ongoing couples therapy. The laws vary state by state. We're happy to let you know if your state allows you to work online with the therapist of your choice.
Please contact us directly, to discuss your situation in more detail.
Are you an International Couple in need of expert help with your marriage? At Couples Therapy Inc., we welcome International couples and English- Spanish- German- French- Afrikaan-Hindi- Tamil-Chinese-Cantonese or Chinese Mandarin speaking couples from all over the world. One of our team members speaks conversational Japanese and Taiwanese. Another, rudimentary Polish.
We work with those in traditional arranged marriages, as well as Western “Love” marriages. We are truly an international team, respectful of all traditions.