One-to-one marriage intensive retreat (whether you're married or not). This is a therapeutic marriage retreat with a skilled doctoral or masters-level couples therapist, not a group educational format.
One couple per couples therapist.
Real, science-based help, with one of 24 experienced couples therapists across the USA or the World.
If you're in emotional pain, because you aren't getting along with the person who once meant the world to you, get the best help possible.
"Don't make the same mistake I did, and allow a perfectly good marriage to go down the drain..."
"Good Couples Therapy doesn’t happen in 45-minute weekly sessions, or by teaching “better communications” skills.
It starts with a thorough assessment, a "State of the Union," and ends with understanding each person as an individual and as part of that couple."
I’m Dr. Kathy McMahon, and I’ve spent my entire professional career helping marriages function better emotionally and sexually, all the while struggling with my own misguided ideas about love. We all did back then, before science put us straight.
If you think that psychologists have just as many problems as the average person, you’d be right.
I’ve had my share.
In fact, these problems led me to divorce a perfectly nice guy, and father of my child, because of a lot of “pie in the sky” ideas I had (supported by current “theories” at the time...) about what makes a marriage work.
Back then, I did what most people do, "used my health insurance," and went to a marriage counselor. But instead of helping, those weekly 45-minute sessions left me feeling even angrier, more hopeless, and totally, totally misunderstood. I did a video on my experiences!
Dr. Ham is affable, very skilled and knows how to push into the deep water. Now, there’s more honesty about where we are, more risk-taking to say what we feel/need/want. More
We were on the brink of divorce and had trust, infidelity, communication, partnership issues. My husband thought we couldn't possibly benefit from just three days. Marisa was down to earth, genuine, kind, nonjudgmental, a good listener, creative, funny, sincere, caring, compassionate. - Houston, Texas Couples Therapist More...
In my own failed marriage, I was told I should practice “good communication skills” to change things around, but I felt like that was all I was doing...yak, yak, yakking without impacting!
Like most women facing divorce, I only went to therapy sessions a few times before becoming totally disillusioned. I thought my marriage was severely, hopelessly damaged, and divorce was the only answer.
I never suspected that the marriage counselor, not my marriage, was to blame.
After a painful divorce and remarriage to a “completely different guy,” these same problems reappeared with my second husband.
I thought to myself: “How could I be so unlucky?”
It has taken me more than 17 years, and five different couples therapy approaches, to fully grasp how to precisely help disillusioned spouses. And it doesn’t happen in 45-minute weekly sessions, or by teaching “better communications” skills. Now I've passed this knowledge on to a select group of couples therapists internationally. It's done in the format of a marriage retreat, an intensive sort of couples counseling, that brings clarity to your relationship challenges and teaches you concrete ways to work on them.
It would have saved my daughter from running between two households and the strain she lived with balancing the expectations of two different sets of parents. If I knew there were marriage retreats near me where I could spend a single weekend to get effective couples therapy?
We have expert couples therapists holding these retreats in most major cities across the USA and Internationally:
BOSTON • WASHINGTON DC • CHICAGO • THE BAY AREA • LOS ANGELES & ORANGE COUNTY • HOUSTON • AUSTIN • KANSAS CITY • LAS VEGAS • CHARLESTON • GREATER VANCOUVER • ASHLAND, OR • ATLANTA • MINNEAPOLIS • THE BERKSHIRES/AMHERST/NORTHAMPTON • BOCA RATON • SAN JUAN • MISSOULA •
DUBLIN • BRISBANE, AU • HERMANUS, SA
Troubled Marriages Need a Total Approach.
Research has demonstrated that a science-based approach is 70-90% effective in helping couples. These retreats equal almost 6 months of conventional therapy held over a weekend. Follow-up online* or continue with your local therapist. We'll consult and assist in that transition.
We provide the "jump start" you need for focused, effective work.
Ways to meet?
You come to us. We meet online. Or we come to you with our "Fly Me" therapy Team.
"Through my journey to heal my own marriage, I learned that marriages, like diamonds, are the toughest “jewels” in the rocky world of relationships. But with a magnifying glass and the right tools, it take only a tap in the right place to make a big impact. Instead of 45-minute weekly sessions, it needs time--intensive time--to sit with the right therapist, and allow them to do their job."
So I put together the equivalent of 6 months of marriage intensive retreat therapy, all in one condensed intensive marriage retreat week-end, that radically stops a couple's fast-moving train to greater misery or divorce.
1:00-5:00 PM - Check-in to your hotel or B&B
6:00-8:00 PM - Begin Your Assessment
9:30 AM - Check-in
9:45 AM - Videotaping Communication Patterns
10:00 AM - 1st Individual Meeting
11:00 AM - 2nd Individual Meeting
12:00 noon - Lunch
2:45 PM - Break
3:00 PM - We begin our work
4:15 PM - Wrap-up and Questions.
9:30 - 4:30 PM - Your personalized therapy continues
Reverend Jim seemed to know exactly what had happened to us and why it happened... how we could crawl our way out of this painful place we were in. He’s a very deep and approachable man. More...
Learn how we help couples like you every day in this marriage intensive retreat format. You'll get a detailed look at exactly what we'll be doing, why we'll be doing it, and how we use science-based assessment for our couples retreat to determine how we can best assist you in getting back together, better than before, over this intensive couples therapy retreats. And just like Gottman's original research, you will have a videotape of one of your disagreements analyzed for a scientific understanding of your relationship dynamics.
My clinical team and I love doing intensive marriage retreats. It has been so rewarding to have couples enter treatment on the verge of divorce, or anxious to get their marriages back on track, and leave with a new sense of commitment, connection, and resolve.
A Private Intensive Marriage Retreat is great for couples who can't find a Gottman Couples Therapist closer to home. They are also perfect for those who don’t want to commute for more traditional weekly sessions.
We can help you find the right therapist, with the expertise and location you need.
Many couples find that they're able to make more progress with an intensive marriage retreat. Being away, surrounded by nature, they have the time to resolve entrenched problematic dynamics. As they relax, it is easier to learn new ways of relating to each other.
Your willingness and interest in improving your marriage is essential for this work to succeed. It takes both of you to be open and willing to change. Please see Discernment Counseling instead, if one of you has little motivation to continue to work on the marriage in a sincere way and is seriously considering divorce.
"This is a science-based one-to-one couples therapy retreat with one skilled couples therapy clinician per couple. No group work. We start with an assessment so we know a lot about you before you arrive..."
Lisa Lund, MFT, The Bay Area, California
Jenny Fang, MS, Orange County, California
Havi Kligfeld, LCSW, Beverly Woods, California
Diane Foy, Psychologist, Minneapolis, Minnesota
James Ramsey, MA, MFT, Missoula, Montana (Master)
Preeminent researcher John Gottman, Ph.D. advises couples to get away 3-4 times a year. A couples retreat could be one of those "just for us" times...
When was the last time you worked on your marriage?
*Additional fees for follow-up 1/2 day, full-day, or online sessions apply.