Last Shot Marital Therapy – Couples on the Brink? Stop Divorce.

Have you made plans to leave, consulted an attorney, or even filed for divorce, but hope “one last shot” of couples therapy might stop divorce?

Every day at Couples Therapy Inc. we help couples who have almost given up on their marriages. Whether or not you've spent money on attorneys, you maybe be asking yourself:

 "Could it…Could we work again, with the right therapist?”

Yes. The answer is a resounding yes you can stop divorce.

Why stop divorce? Because you can.

Spend a weekend in a Couples Retreat. Just the two of you and one highly skilled therapist.

You may have tried weekly couples therapy, like so many of our clients. You’ve suffered for an average of six long years (1) with serious problems. Maybe a lot longer.

Fights about Nothing have made doing the simplest things together impossible.

Coldness.  Contempt.  Disdain.

Learn to get along and resolve your differences & resentments.  We can help.

Among those who rated their marriages as "very unhappy," almost 8 out of 10 who didn't divorce were happily married five years later.

And here's another kicker: There is no scientific evidence that divorce will make you happier.

Which Describes Your Situation?

We are both willing to try,
but it's going to take a miracle...

Keep reading...

Can we help you stop divorce?

There is a very good chance that we can, yes.  We do "miracles" like that every day.

We hold private intensive couples retreats all over the USA and in Ireland and in New South Wales in Australia for couples who have given up hope.

These are offered by highly skilled specialists at helping couples.

We call it: "Last Shot Couples Therapy."

And here's another surprise:

While there is a general cultural bias that now favors divorce when an individual is in an unhappy marriage…in a careful analysis of nationally representative data with extensive measures of psychological well-being, researchers could find no evidence that divorce or separation typically made adults happier than staying in an unhappy marriage.”

Severe Problems Don't Predict Divorce.

No matter how bad it is, you can find marital happily again.

Isn't that a shocking fact?

There is No Evidence That Divorce Makes You Happier.

Research reveals that the severity of your marital troubles has very little to do with how likely you are, in the end,  to be happily married. Even marriages with serious problems survive and eventually prosper.

Relationships where there is ongoing physical violence are exceptions. But even in these extreme cases, 8% of violent couples radically changed the way they relate to one another, and ended up happily married 5 years later.

As the researchers wrote:

"Many currently happily married spouses have had extended periods of marital unhappiness, often for quite serious reasons, including alcoholism, infidelity, verbal abuse, emotional neglect, depression, illness, and work reversals. Why did these marriages survive where other marriages did not? The marital endurance ethic appears to play a prominent role. Many spouses said that their marriages got happier, not because they and their partner resolved problems but because they stubbornly outlasted them.With time, they told us, many sources of conflict and distress eased. Spouses in this group also generally had a low opinion of the benefits of divorce, as well as friends and family members who supported the importance of staying married."

We can help you learn how to get the needed support from friends and family to stay together, and work out your problems. We'll teach you how to draw on your friends and relatives for marital support, and not take sides.

And don't stop divorce, only "for the sake of the kids" (which most of us disagree with). Stay for your ultimate happiness, as well.

...researchers could find no evidence that divorce or separation typically made adults happier than staying in an unhappy marriage...

Few couples give Couples Therapy a try

Only 25% of divorcing couples had sought out professional help of any kind to rescue their relationship. The ones that did only saw a therapist an average of 4 sessions. This is not giving the marriage a "fair shot," for couples about to divorce. What's worse, like me, many found "All Purpose Therapists" who saw them for 50 minutes...just enough time to get them fighting, but not enough time to help them move through it. That's not evidence-based treatment.

While there is a general cultural bias that now favors divorce when an individual is in an unhappy marriage, researchers couldn't find the evidence.

"I regret not trying harder..."

That's what 66% of currently divorced couples told researchers when they asked:  "Looking back, do you wish you and your ex-spouse tried harder to work through your differences? (4)  

"Yes, I do," they replied.

What a real shame, considering the damaging impact divorce has on families.

However, it does tell another sad story:

That means 75% never gave their marriage a chance (3)​

And even those who did, seldom go to a skilled couples therapist who uses evidence-based treatment methods.

"Evidence-based" means it works. Methods that have been Proven Effective.

Sadly, research also confirms (2) that 25%-30% of divorcing individuals who finished court-required classes, answered "Maybe" or "Yes" to the question:

"Could my marriage be saved?"

66% of currently divorced couples in a prominent study answered "Yes" to the question: "Looking back, do you wish you and your ex-spouse had tried harder to work through your differences?"

We won't waste your time.

This work is scientifically-based. It involves an extensive assessment before treatment even begins.

More stats:

"What about my affair partner?  They makes me happy..."

  • There's a 3% chance that it will be a long-term relationship.
  • If you're one of the 3% that marry, there's a 70% chance that you'll end up divorced.
  • Every divorce increases the odds of another divorce.

"But I've already moved out..."

That means the need for help should be fast-tracked. Don't put it off. Moving costs can be paid again. Real marital happiness is priceless. Take a weekend, and get the right help about how to proceed.

Moving out doesn't mean it's over, unless that's what you want it to mean.

Daring to hope. The courage to ask to try... again.

You can stop divorce.

Men often ask for Last Shot Couples Therapy, at twice the rate of divorcing wives. The same is true at Couples Therapy Inc.

One partner, often the wife, is usually more hesitant to enter couples therapy, when it is: "Last Shot Couples Therapy." These reluctant wives say: "I asked him to get help and he refused!"

Then she stopped trying, got her own life in order, and now threatens or initiates divorce. Michelle Weiner Davis calls it the "Walkaway Wife Syndrome." Watch her video below, or watch more on my Knowledge Base Page. They believe, deep down, that if anyone is going to stop divorce in their marriage, it will now be their husband's turn.

It takes courage and goodwill to try again.

Many wives tell me they feel too scared, too vulnerable to try again and risk another rejection. A wife will sometimes tell her husband: "You have the problem. You go get help!" But the truth is, it takes two to kill a relationship and it takes two to heal one.

Consult with our Marriage and Family Therapist Intake Coordinator Daniel.

If your spouse has refused your invitations for couples therapy, we offer as many as three free phone consultations on how to try again.

Just give call at 844 - 9 - COUPLE. and speak to Daniel. He's a Marriage & Family Therapist and our Clinical Intake Coordinator.

But you also know that if you don't give it an honest try, you will no longer remain married.  It's as simple as that.

25%-30% of divorcing individuals in a court-required classes, answered “Maybe” or “Yes” to the question:

“Could your marriage be saved?”

Don't second-guess yourself when it is already too late. Be confident in your decision-making.

These are serious decisions, despite the media hype singing:  "I've gotta be me, without you..."

These couples are facing the end of a relationship that was uniquely special to them.
They once meant everything to each other.
They know a lot is riding on their capacity to work it out. If they have already separated, they now realize that this doesn't suddenly fix everything. Living apart presents its own unique challenges.

It is so painful to be an a relationship that is cold and distant. Or one that is filled with anger and animosity. It feels hopeless and futile to expect things to change.

And science tells us why.  It's called "Negative Sentiment Override."  Learn more about why it feels so hopeless. More... couples learn they can heal a relationships damaged by infidelity.
A dying marriage is like a person close to death. There is a lot of soul-searching.

Divorce involves enormous emotional, parenting, and economic consequences.

Unfortunately, your health insurance won't pay for the intensive work needed to help your troubled marriage.

Girls are particularly impacted by divorce as
they become adults & marry themselves.

And we won't waste your time. It all starts with an assessment, a: "State of the Union" assessment.

After a careful review, you will be provided with clear feedback about whether you can stop divorce, and exactly how.

We'll give you a treatment plan to consider.

Then you decide whether to move forward.

Few therapist choose to work with severely troubled couples. You might ask, why do we specialize in it?

Because I saw a need no one was filling. Most therapists didn't believe couples would pay for evidence-based treatment, so they settled for doing 45-minute insurance-based work.  

That horrified me.  

I'd say: "But 45-minutes does more damage than good."

One therapist stunned me by saying:

"Ya, but I gutta eat..."  

I believe in the Hippocratic Oath to "First Do No Harm," and 45 -minute sessions were hurting marriages according to research findings.

Dr. Kathy McMahon (Dr. K) is the President and CEO of Couples Therapy Inc.  She's a Clinical Psychologist, Certified Sex Therapist and among a few hundred Gottman Certified Therapists worldwide.
We have 5 Gottman Certified Therapists in all. That's remarkable, given how few there actually are in the world."

So I decided to do things differently.  I searched (and continue to look) worldwide to find the most talented couples therapists on the planet.

These are clinicians who believed that doing good work matters and should be rewarded. They are paid well for their services as they set their own fees. You won't find the least expensive therapists working here.  You'll find the best.

I go through hundreds of resumes and thousands of websites owned by psychotherapists claiming that they can do couples therapy. But few have credentials to prove it. It's a specialized skill, and I look for someone with a passion to do this tough job, and credentialing that tells me they've put time, effort, and their own financial resources toward becoming the best at helping couples.

Every day our skilled clinicians see real progress. Couples who were about to divorce starting to work together. They identify highly problematic patterns in the way they were relating, and do things differently. And science tells us how big a difference that can make. 70-92% effective.  

Can we help you, too?

Why stop divorce?

Because you can.  And it matters if you do.  Relationships matter.

It's very, very doable with the right help. And the consequences are severe if you don't stop it. It impacts not only you, but your children's likelihood for marital stability. If you have two minutes, watch the video about why I'm so deeply devoted to hiring only the most expert help in couples therapy.  (P.S. It has to to with my own divorce...)

Not sure if you are ready for Couples Therapy at all?

Then try Discernment Counseling

Do you need help in deciding whether marital therapy, even "Last Shot Couples Therapy," is the best course of action for your marriage? You can get help deciding here and save thousands of dollars that would be otherwise wasted.  Learn More

Do you know what the costs are of living in a bad marriage? Learn more.

Time to try something completely different?

Why not give it "One Last Shot?" Now accepting clients online and in Intensive Couples Retreats.

Marriage takes work and developing the skills to live well within it. Remember, the person you bring into your next relationship is yourself. Figure out what went wrong in this one, before you move on.


1. Doss, Simpson, & Christensen, 2004, p. 608; Notarius & Buongiorno, 1992, as cited in Gottman & Gottman, 1999.

2. William Doherty and the "Couples on the Brink" project. See

3. Albrecht, Bahr, & Goodman, 1983; C. A. Johnson et al., 2001

4. Minnesota Family Institute. 1998. Minnesota Marriage Report. Minneapolis, MN: Minnesota Family Institute