What are your hours?
We span 19 time zones. For one of our therapists, it’s 6 am, another 9 am, a third midnight. Our therapists work different hours, some early mornings, some afternoons, or later in the evening. Some of them are available for evening or weekend appointments as well. If you are in need of a specific time of the day, our office can let you know which therapists on our team can see you. You can also email us at [email protected]
You provide different services. How do I know which one is best for me?
Do you have very specific problems you'd like to solve and want to get started right away? Choose Coaching. Are your relationship problem more complex or long-standing? Do you want your therapist to have a thorough understanding of the issues? Chose marriage counseling.
Coaches work with people anywhere in the world. Couples Therapist work within the states where they are licensed for residence of the USA.
How long are the sessions?
Our retreats are two hours on the first evening, and 9:30 am - 4:30 pm on the following two consecutive days. You can also choose to do an assessment head of time and have more flexible hours on the two other days.
Our couples therapy online work is hour 20 minutes, as evidence-based training suggests. Learn more about what are evidence-based session lengths.
How much does Couples Therapy cost?
See our Fees page for more details. During the pandemic, we have set three price points: $119, $159, and $199 per typical session.
How do I pick my clinician?
You've got a great team to pick from. Even our newest clinicians have advanced training in several models of couples therapy. Many are certified in a particular approach, and some are Master Trainers and Supervisors of these science-based approaches. You can't choose "wrong" when you choose a coach.
In the USA, pick a therapist who is licensed to practice mental health in your state using our drop-down menu.
If affordability is a concern, pick a therapist in the $119 coaching group. Consider 6 months same as cash from Paypal. Or schedule a “meet and greet” session with a particular therapist from your state.
Do you have a sliding scale?
We don’t have a sliding scale, but there is a significant range of prices charged by our clinicians.
What if I can't afford your services?
If you can’t afford our services, you can also find low fee therapists at your local Family Service or Mental Health Departments. They are listed in the front of your telephone book by county, or you can search online. We're also offering educational relationship courses. You can also check out our Knowledge Base and Videos pages for a lot of useful information about couples and couples therapy
Do you take insurance?
No. With rare exception, couples therapy isn’t covered by insurance companies. Our billing statements is unlikely to facilitate your reimbursement and we are not affiliated with any HMOs or PPOs. We also do not accept payments from insurance companies. We recommend that you check with your insurance company to see what services your policy covers. Learn more
What states in the USA are you licensed to provide Couples Therapy?
Currently our therapists are licensed in Alaska; Arizona; Alabama; Alaska; California; Colorado; Connecticut; Florida; Georgia; Hawaii; Idaho; Illinois; Kansas; Maryland; Massachusetts; Michigan (pending); Minnesota; Montana; Nevada; New Jersey; New York; North Carolina; Oregon; Pennsylvania; Puerto Rico; South Carolina; Texas; Utah; Virginia; Washington DC & Washington State. Some states may restrict telemental health to therapists inside their state boundaries. Others limit you seeing out of state therapists a specific number of days per year. Check with your particular state.
Where do you provide services Internationally?
In 2019 our clients have come from European countries including France, Germany, England, Ireland, Sweden, Switzerland; Middle Eastern Countries such as Israel, Qatar, UAE, Bahrain, and Iraq; Asian countries including Australia, South Korea, China, Thailand and Malaysia; South American countries such as Belize, Columbia and Brazil; African countries such as South Africa, Cameroon, and Zimbabwe, and several Caribbean countries. The list expands daily.
We have couples therapists in Australia on the Gold Coast, and Hermanus, South Africa and for several months a year, in Ireland.
Couple Therapy Retreat FAQ
How are Intensives different from weekly couples therapy?
They’re a lot different. Many of our couples have tried weekly therapy unsuccessfully. Intensives offer the opportunity to complete 6 months of traditional 45-minute sessions in a week-end. But it isn’t just the volume of sessions, but the impact that doing an intensive has on the couple attending. We already know a lot about you when you first attend through The BIG BIG Book.
We have two and a half full days to get to know each of you, as well as your marriage, intimately. Our work is intensive, not just “more of the same.” Think of the difference between espresso and a cup of coffee. Espresso is more than “strong coffee,” and an Intensive is more than “many therapy sessions combined.” You have the time to really reflect on your life, your goals, and your relationship. For many couples, it is transformational, and for others, the weekend allows the couple to make difficult decisions with more clarity and conviction.
My spouse and I are on the verge of divorce. We've even contacted a divorce attorney or mediator. Do you think you can still help?
What's your success rate?
If only intimate relationships were all alike, we could give you a conclusive answer. Unlike buying a toaster, the Intensive Couples Therapy Retreats and Intensive Couples Sex Therapy Intensives come with no guarantees. But we can give you some guidelines for who benefits from them the least and the most:
There is one element that every couples therapist knows they are helpless to change: Motivation. We can help you remember why you got together. We can help you appreciate your partner’s better side. We can help you to get to know one another more intimately again, and strengthen your Fondness and Admiration system. But goodwill, forgiveness, and a willingness to give it another chance or a “Last Shot,” is something only each of you can decide to do.
And that’s the mystery that remains in all of this science, and we’ve seen it:
Why does this perfectly functional marriage appear to crumble when all it takes is a bit of goodwill?
Why does this “disaster” of a relationship succeed when all they have going for them is goodwill?
I think our marriage is great. The only problem is sex.
We see this from time to time: A happy marriage, but the sex doesn’t work… As for the Sexuality Retreat and if, after reviewing The BIG BIG Book we think you could benefit from an Intensive Couples Therapy Retreat, we’ll let you know.
I've picked a clinician. How do I know what dates are available?
Contact us to set up a brief phone screening and to get available dates. It’s on a “first-come-first-serve” basis…even if you’ve received an invoice from us. Paying your invoice secures your date.
How much do Intensive Couples Therapy Retreats cost?
The fees for intensives, after paying and completing the assessment start at around $2500 in the USA. Fees depend upon the therapist’s license and years of experience. Arrange a Meet & Greet with a specific therapist you’d like to see for their current rates, subject to change, usually at the start of the new year. These prices reflect lower pandemic pricing.
I would like to attend an Intensive Couples Therapy Retreat. How do I learn more?
Learn more about it here. This first workshop includes a complete Gottman Method Couples Therapy Relationship Assessment and sexuality assessments.; Malcolm Gladwell’s bestseller “Blink” discusses Dr. Gottman’s work, and you can read an excerpt here. To learn more about The Gottman Method Couples Therapy approach in an intensive format, click here. Want to ask about available dates for your Intensive Couples Retreat, or discuss your situation? Contact Us.
What airport do I fly into?
We aren't offering in-person retreats until authorities tell us it is safe to do so. However, when that happens, we send you explicit instructions on where to fly in, suggestions about where to stay, and great places to eat.
I have more questions. How can I get them answered?
Write them down and request a telephone consult or email us at [email protected]
Have general questions or to understand how this works? Email us to schedule a time to speak to the clinician of your choice.