Note: Before deciding if this Marriage Retreat is right for you, please be sure to read this page. We want to make this unique Intensive Marriage Retreat available to couples who can really get maximum benefit from it. This page includes a list of issues not appropriate for a Marriage Retreat, as well as a description of those most likely to benefit from attending. It also includes a detailed description of every element of the schedule and other important topics...
This two-day, one evening clinical marriage retreat is for all couples, (not just those who are legally married...) If you are in a relationship that you're invested in making better, this intensive marriage retreat provides the time to work in specific areas that are problematic for you, and develop and refine skills for new ways of relating. Whether you're recovering from an affair, have fights that last for days at a time, or are just cold and distant, (and have been for years), you can benefit from this Marriage Retreat. We even accept couples where one partner has filed for divorce, but want to give it a sincere "last shot" at reviving their bond.
This 2.5 day Marriage Retreat is equivalent to SIX MONTHS of sessions in 45-minute marriage counseling.
6 months of couples therapy.
This is your time to be together and enjoy one another.
Make the most of this special time alone.
Most couples prefer to arrive earlier on Friday. This gives them time to settle in, and not feel rushed after a long distance travel. After you register, we will provide you with a list of excellent accommodations for your week-end get-a-way. This marriage retreat is to focus on your relationship, your partner, and yourself. When you create a strong marital bond, you create a strong family.
You'll arrive mid- to late afternoon and settle into your hotel or bed and breakfast. Your 'Friday-night Warm-up' session is schedule for a 2 hour session.
The first portion of our work consists of learning more about your goals, and information-gathering about your marriage or relationship, with a structured interview called "The Oral History Interview." The Friday Night session gives both of you a chance to "warm up" for the week-end to come.
The Oral History Interview focuses on the time you were most attached to each other -- most in love-- and leaves most couples feeling more hopeful and positive about their relationship, and it is a good way to begin your evening together during this most intimate Couples Retreat.
Haven't made dinner plans for the week-end? Make your reservations now for a Saturday night dinner. Our 4-5 star restaurants fill up quickly! We'll also provide you with a list of excellent places to dine in advance.
Videotaping Communication Patterns
Good Morning! You've already completed the Oral History Interview, and we begin our day with a check-in, and a 10-minute videotaping to study your communication style and micro-expressions.
Next, one of you (Partner A) will have an individual session with your therapist. This is a chance to get to know you as an individual, your background and family of origin, and any other issues you'd like to discuss.
For Partner B:
Break: We'll offer you a place to relax for the hour. Settle into a comfortable spot to grab a cup of tea or coffee, make a call, check your email, or just hang out for a while. There's a cafe close by we'll suggest to you.
Partner B returns and complete an hour with your couples therapist. Partner A has a break.
12:00-1:30 pm Lunch Break
Your couples therapist will take a break for lunch, and process the information provided, to include in the Feedback Session. You'll both have time to talk, eat, and be together.
"The Oral History Interview focuses on the time you were most attached to each other -- most in love-- and leaves most couples feeling more hopeful and positive about their relationship..."
We'll talk to you about you, your relationship, and the strengths and areas of improvement.
Your couples therapist will provide you with their insights gathered during the assessment process. Couples are often surprised by how much information we've integrated about their family situation, and how this guides the way we plan to proceed:
We invite your own insights and feedback as well.
We begin our work.
Here is where the treatment begins. We will begin to focus specifically on the issues that brought you here, in a way that enables you to stay calm, alert, and focused.
First Day Wrap-up and Questions.
Your questions are important to us. We take the time to make sure you understand the process. For online help, we provide you with an extensive Knowledge Base that can act as a refresher for all that you are learning.
Couples Therapy has moved from "theory" to "scientific findings." Your ability to understand and apply this knowledge is crucial to our success...and yours.
We focus on issues in a way that enables you to stay calm, alert, and focused, to express your feelings.
Our goal for this first day is to help you to understand the elements in your marriage or intimate relationship that need to shift, and to provide a framework that helps you to understand the steps needed to have a more functional, intimate (sexually and emotionally), and adaptive relationship.
Starting the second day, you will have already been introduced to a number of key concepts in becoming the "Masters of Marriage" rather than the "Disasters of Marriage."
Don't worry if you didn't catch all the ideas. We'll introduce them again to you, if they're relevant to your particular relationship dynamics. The important focus now is for each of you to talk from the heart in a way that maximizes your chance to be heard, and resolve resentments and regrettable incidents.
Our clinicians are trained in a variety of approaches, both evidence-based and clinically-based and will use the interventions that are best suited to your situation.
Most couples feel relieved and hopefulness after this intensive marriage retreat.
Unlike most couples work or traditional marriage counseling, the Gottman approach does not promote a stressful environment for couples, and Johnson's evidence-based work in Emotionally Focused Couples Therapy helps both of you remember why you want to be close and intimate again.
Remember why you got married in the first place.
What's this Marriage Retreat Like? Marriage Retreats in the Movies.
Hollywood seldom does more than create in us impressions, feeling states, of what real therapy is all about. In Hope Springs, Kay (played by Meryl Streep) and Arnold (played by Tommy Lee Jones) are living separate lives. Every night he falls asleep in his lounger while watching a golf show on TV. She wakes him and they head off to separate bedrooms. Every morning she greets him with bacon, eggs, forcing a bright smile. He doesn't notice. Through her smile, you can tell that Kay is dying inside emotionally. Kay is determined to change her marriage for the better, and makes an appointment with an Intensive Marriage Retreat therapist Dr. Feld (Steve Carell) with her own money, and buys both of them a plane ticket. Arnold is not impressed, demanding she come to her senses. The movie brings us through uncomfortable scenes as Dr. Feld tries to explore the sex lives of this couple, married 31 years.
The discomfort of these scenes feels real to us.
What is also real about this movie, is how brave two people who love each other need to be, to revitalize the most important relationship of their lives: their marriage. And we do see that courage every day in our offices. Watch it for free here: Hope Springs
To learn more contact our Intake Coordinator Daniel at extension 2: