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Gaslighting and Marital Conflict

What is Gaslighting? Gaslighting is a less subtle form of emotional abuse that seeks to control a partner through a pattern of over the top criticism and reality distortion. The term “Gaslighting”

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How Do You Handle an Angry Man?

The Angry Man in the 1960’s…Catharsis or Crapola? What do we know about the fundamentally decent but angry man? It all started when it was Mod to be Mad. If I wanted to be kind, I would say

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Emotional Abuse and Marital Conflict

A Working Definition of Emotional Abuse Emotional abuse is not the same thing as Domestic Violence. I think of emotional abuse as a combination of two of the Four Horsemen (Contempt and Criticism) standing

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The Problem of Contempt in Couples Therapy

Contempt is the Worst of the Four Horsemen In previous posts, I have elaborated on four marital behaviors that John Gottman describes with the biblical metaphor, the Four Horsemen. They are Criticism,

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