What is Affair Recovery? What is affair recovery? Is it possible to recover from infidelity? How do you begin to address such a profound breach of trust? Healing from infidelity is possible. But it requires
Continue readingHow should I act toward my cheating spouse now that I’ve discovered their affair? I hear this question from hurt partners regularly. I am currently taking a new training with Michele Weiner Davis,
Continue readingAre You Ready to Start Couples Counseling? Thinking about couples counseling? When intimate bonds fray, it’s typical for couples to tough it out without help for years. Only about 19% of distressed
Continue readingEnding your Affair…the Grief of the Involved Partner The grief of the “unfaithful” Involved Partner is a very touchy subject in couples therapy. In My last post, I discussed the problem
Continue readingThe Perils of Rumination In an earlier post, I have discussed the idea that obsession and rumination by a hurt partner are the first major stumbling blocks to affair recovery. In order for Hurt Partners
Continue readingWhat is the art of the apology? Does science offer any bedrock of data about what constitutes an effective apology between intimate partners? “Love Means Never Having to Say You’re Sorry“
Continue readingFacebook Affairs Facebook Affairs are becoming a very hot topic in social science research. A new study by researchers at Indiana University found that Facebook users who are in ostensibly “committed”
Continue readingDefine Infidelity Doesn’t Everyone Know What It Is? How do you define infidelity? Is it just what we decide to do or not do? Or is there a more fundamental issue at stake? Porn. Sexting. Emotional
Continue readingDealing With Infidelity By Undertaking the Twin Tasks of Affair Recovery What to do when dealing with infidelity? When it comes to dealing with infidelity, I think Gottman said it best: “Atonement cannot
Continue readingSurviving Infidelity Once infidelity is out in the open, couples typically display one of three distinct strategies for surviving infidelity. One of the reasons that affair recovery is such a common presenting
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