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How Should I Act Toward My Cheating Spouse?
How should I act toward my cheating spouse now that I’ve discovered their affair? I hear this question from hurt partners regularly. I am currently taking a new training with Michele Weiner Davis,
Continue readingCouples Counseling…5 Ways You’ll Know You’re Ready to Start
Are You Ready to Start Couples Counseling? Thinking about couples counseling? When intimate bonds fray, it’s typical for couples to tough it out without help for years. Only about 19% of distressed
Continue readingThe Grief of the Involved Partner
Ending your Affair…the Grief of the Involved Partner The grief of the “unfaithful” Involved Partner is a very touchy subject in couples therapy. In My last post, I discussed the problem
Continue readingThought-Stopping for Hurt Partners
The Perils of Rumination In an earlier post, I have discussed the idea that obsession and rumination by a hurt partner are the first major stumbling blocks to affair recovery. In order for Hurt Partners
Continue readingThe Art of the Apology
What is the art of the apology? Does science offer any bedrock of data about what constitutes an effective apology between intimate partners? “Love Means Never Having to Say You’re Sorry“
Continue readingFacebook Affairs
Facebook Affairs Facebook Affairs are becoming a very hot topic in social science research. A new study by researchers at Indiana University found that Facebook users who are in ostensibly “committed”
Continue readingHow Do You Define Infidelity?
Define Infidelity? Doesn’t Everyone Know What It Is? How do you define infidelity? Is it just what we decide to do or not do? Or is there a more fundamental issue at stake? Porn. Sexting. Emotional
Continue readingDealing With Infidelity…The Twin Tasks of Affair Recovery
Dealing With Infidelity By Undertaking the Twin Tasks of Affair Recovery What to do when dealing with infidelity? When it comes to dealing with infidelity, I think Gottman said it best: “Atonement cannot
Continue reading3 Strategies for Surviving Infidelity
Surviving Infidelity Once infidelity is out in the open, couples typically display one of three distinct strategies for surviving infidelity. One of the reasons that affair recovery is such a common presenting
Continue readingReframing Your Marital Problem
Reframing Your Marital Problem I don’t care what kind of couples therapy you do, you will be eventually be invited by your therapist to start reframing your marital problem. Why is reframing your
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