I offer a caveat here.
This post is a very general overview of an otherwise complex topic.
In future posts, I will be writing in greater detail about many of the issues presented here.The Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders-V (DSM 5) doesn’t list sex addiction as a diagnosable state at this point, but new neuroscience research suggests otherwise. Sex addiction is a behavioral or “process addiction.”
Process addictions are highly problematic, repetitive behavioral patterns involving the relentless pursuit of compulsive, pleasurable activities such as gambling, spending, eating…even ostensibly “healthy” activities such as sex, exercise or working. All addictions involve the dopamine neural response in the reward center of the brain.
Neuroscience has allowed us to compare and contrast the brain scans of cocaine addicts and sex addicts. They are remarkably similar in neural imaging scans.
In other words, drug addiction is a dependency on mood-altering substances. Sex addiction is a dependency on mood-altering experiences.
Sex addiction and porn addiction aren’t exactly the same illness. Addiction to pornography is regarded as a form of sex addiction and will manifest itself differently than other forms of sex addiction.
Like “sex addiction,” “porn addiction” isn’t an official diagnosis in the DSM 5 yet either.
Nevertheless, an addiction to pornography often leads to negative consequences and serious misery in many facets of life.
Sex Addiction may come in a variety of behavioral subtypes, including dependency on:
There are behavioral signs that can indicate whether someone is hooked on sex. These are apt to be physical or psychological. Also, it’s important to be aware of the debilitating aftereffects of sexual addiction. The sex-addicted brain has trained the dopamine response to gravitate toward sexual acting out as a way of self-medicating and coping with stress, or emotional pain.
You probably lack healthy boundaries if you suffer from a sex addiction. Sex addicts become readily involved with individuals sexually, regardless of how well they know or understand them.
They might remain in relationships that aren’t healthy because most sex addicts fear abandonment, or tend to jump from relationship to relationship. When alone, they may feel incomplete or empty. They may additionally sexualize feelings like loneliness, guilt or concern.
Physical Outward Indications of Sex DependenceAlthough pornography or sex addiction can create many physical negative effects, few physical outward indications of this illness exist.
On the other hand, a sense of paralysis and compulsivity can leave the sex addict feeling immobilized due to psychological or sexual compulsions.
The aftereffects of a sex addiction may be serious.
Sex addiction can have profound psychological effects, like feelings of inadequacy, shame, and mental misery. It may lead to, or originate from, comorbid psychological disorders like:
It’s best to talk to a healthcare professional for an assessment of your sex dependence. But it would be a good start to reflect on your life choices. Take a look in the mirror:
It may be time to find sex dependency treatment if you’re showing some of those symptoms.
Get Help For Sex DependenceIt is necessary to know that although porn and sex addiction aren’t “officially” diagnosable, neuroscience tells us that these conditions exist, and frequently present with elevated rates of misery, guilt, mental chaos and profoundly negative consequences.
What Are The Causes Of Sex Addiction?Sexual addiction, like porn addiction, can grow due to variables that encompass all areas of a person’s life. These comprise:
Biological:You might possess a genetic predisposition to impulsivity, mental dysregulation, or sense-seeking behavior. It’s also possible to possess a predisposition to other characteristics that can aggravate a tendency toward sexual addiction, such as depression or stress.
As one might expect, higher rates of sex hormones like estrogen or testosterone can profoundly influence libido. If you are inclined towards behavior that is impulsive, and also evidence elevated rates of sex- hormones, you probably will be more prone to take part in excessive sexual activities. Some sex-addicted clients disclose taking Dopa-testosterone and other libido enhancing substances for no apparent medical reason. They are literally fueling their sex addiction with high-octane sex hormone.
Early-life environmental factors, including adverse events like childhood sexual abuse, or vulnerability to content that is sexual, can lead to several of the inherent features that drive behavior that eventually becomes hypersexual.
Depression, personality disorders, poor impulse control, and stress may be concurrent problems that one fights with alongside sex addiction. Mental illness can often be an aggravating factor. For example, it is estimated that just under 40% of people who are dealing with Bipolar Disorder show a tendency toward states that are sexually manic, and are more prone to take part in high-risk or excessive sexual activity that is characteristic of sex addiction.
Rejection: in societal groups and relationships may lead to often unhealthy means to pursue sexual gratification.
Social isolation: Social isolation can raise the likelihood of seeking improper means of pursuing sexual gratification. In addition, it results in a bunch of other issues, such as anxiety and depression.Societal learning: The act of observing others execute a behavior, or “modeling,” is one way to understand something new–specially when you “enjoy “ or ” identify” with that individual. Having a buddy, or several pals, who take part in pornography screening or excessive sexual activities can influence your habitual sexual choices you in an extremely subtle, yet powerful way.
Sex addiction involves a loss of control over addictive sexual behavior… even as the addict experiences increasing negative and costly life consequences.
Daniel is a Marriage and Family Therapist. He currently sees couples at Couples Therapy Inc. in Boston, Massachusetts, three seasons in Cummington (at the foothills of the Berkshires...) and in Miami during joint retreats with his wife, Dr. Kathy McMahon. He uses EFT, Gottman Method, Solution-focused and the Developmental Model in his approaches.
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