Hi, I'm Dr K. Our couples counselors and doctoral psychologists provide science-based help for troubled marriages. It's a remarkable fact that a single weekend dramatically impact your relationship.
"Loving well is an art. Perfecting it is a science."
These findings span 40+ years of research with over 3,000 couples. They've taught us remarkable things...like a predictable pattern of marital decline. We'll motivate you to take action, focus on what's wrong, and show you how to change it FAST. It's personally tailored to just you two. It makes a huge difference to the way you love.
Here's how we do it: We think it's more respectful to get a lot of information from you before you come. Then, our skilled couples therapists can score and interpret your every word to know what to ask when they see you.
Have you made plans to leave, consulted an attorney, or even filed for divorce? If you keep hoping that maybe “one last shot” of couples therapy with someone who knows what they've doing might make a difference, you're right. It really could.
If you're asking yourself: "Could we work again with the right therapist?" the answer is a resounding "YES!"
We see it all the time. We work with hostile couples, ones that keep separate bedrooms, have moved out, or have stopped talking to one another. Marriages with little babies or grown children. Even newlyweds, engaged couples or those with no intention of ever getting married. Sometimes our clients are approaching retirement, but can't take it anymore... If nothing changes, they aren't prepared to stay unhappy like this 'until death do us part.'
The severity of your problems don't predict divorce. It's a proven fact. No matter how bad it is, you can be happily marriage again, according to the research. The marital endurance ethic plays a big role. These are couples who stubbornly outlast their problems. Five years later, many sources of conflict and distress have eased.
One wife agreed to come to the Marital Retreat only after I promised not to 'push her into staying' in her marriage. They had been to over 4 counselors in the past 18 years, and none of them had helped.
Family and friends told them they just weren't "suited for each other." (...of course HIS friends sided with him, and HER friends sided with her...)
But everyone agreed: "You two should divorce!" (...except their kids...)
They were in Divorce Mediation when they arrived. I told her "You should really know how to stand up to him, or you probably shouldn't be in mediation." So her goal for the marriage retreat was to learn to stand up to a man who she described as "a big bully."
In their State of the Union Assessment they told me their early love story. It was full of trials and tribulation, like most of our couples. But it also was full of passion! These two were survivors, personally, and as a couple. Horrors of ex's, financial setbacks, kids' problems, you name it...and through it all, they had stayed together...until now.
Their previous therapists would listen and try to give them advice. But no one had taught them how to act differently or why: "Here's what you are doing, and if you keep doing it, the science says that it will be hard to exit this divorce highway. Let's work on how to change things around..."
It's more than a year later, and The Bully and the Bride who were "doomed to divorce" are happy together again. She moved back in, and is delighted to be there. Their family and friends don't talk badly about their spouse anymore, because they don't allow it! They're a team. And they still do have fights. A fair number of them.
Both know how to fight without escalating it. She sets limits. He accepts influence. They work collaboratively because they know what they are doing and why when they disagree. And now it doesn't get out of control.
Or you can condense that time into a single intensive marriage retreat week-end. Like The Bully & The Bride, we'll start with a thorough assessment we call a "State of the Union." It's done online and then in person. It will take you hours to complete. We will give you the "the good, the bad, and the ugly" news about your relationship.
And it's expensive because after spending your valuable time on it, and our therapist's valuable time reading it, it works.
Their job is to help you end it. Ours is to help you mend it.
Most marriages can go in either direction when they are in trouble. Are you ready to mend it with the help of an expert?
In one prominent study, 66% of currently divorced couples answered "Yes" to the question:
"Looking back, do you wish you and your ex-spouse had tried harder to work through your differences?"
According to John Gottman, only 10% of divorcing couples seek out professional help of any kind to rescue their relationship. The ones that do, go an average of only 4 sessions. Even worse, it's most likely that they saw an "All Purpose Therapist" for a 50 minute session... just long enough to start a fight, but not enough time to move through it.
That's not evidence-based treatment...
We're a group of 30+ couples therapists - some of the best trained across the USA (..and in Europe, South Africa, and Australia too...). Clinical master trainers of therapists. Academicians. Authors. Supervisors. Many have 25-40 years of experience.
Our passion is helping couples.
Our licensed therapist holding retreats in Maryland, Virginia, and DC Angela Voegele is top in her field, and speaks three languages.
We totally immerse ourselves in understanding you and your marriage. We feel it is more respectful to thoroughly understand you both, before we intervene. And our powerful credentials let you know we really get it.
Our couples therapists have written for professional journals, books, or articles for the general public. Three of us have run graduate programs...and our couples therapist in Maryland carries the rare distinction of "Gottman Certified Couples Therapist" AND Sex Therapist.
Angela Voegele, M.S.W. is one of our most popular Couples Therapists. She enjoys the rare distinction of being one of a handful of professionals worldwide who is both a Gottman Certified Couples Therapist and a Board-Certified Sex Therapist. In addition to English, she is fluent in German and conversational in French. Her couples rave about her results. See the testimonials below.
"Past therapy in the past was slightly helpful but not providing useful tools to solve the problem.
It was recommended to us that we try the Gottman Method. We looked for a therapist with full training in the Gottman system, and we chose Angela Voegele.
We feel that Angela provided us with an extremely beneficial 2-day "total immersion" which was much more effective than piecemeal 50-minute therapy sessions. In the retreat, Angela provided us with practical, immediately usable tools that we could practice with her and then use on our own. Even after just two days, we feel that our relationship is stronger and better because we discovered techniques to avoid anger and fighting in ways that we didn't know before.
Angela is gentle, warm, fair, and knowledgable. She inspires confidence. She knows the Gottman tools well and was very skillful in putting them into practice with us.
We now have better confidence in our relationship, practical tools to use anytime, and comfort in knowing that we can come back to Angela if we need to.
What would you say to couples that are considering working with Couples Therapy Inc.?
The Gottman Method is excellent and Angela is an excellent practitioner of it.
“IOur core issue was mainly to learn how to deal with conflict. Previous therapy experience was not successful. A psychologist recommended Couples Therapy Inc.
We finished the Couple's Retreat 4 days ago and we are already seeing changes!
Angela Voegele is excellent, very experienced and very understanding of the issues that needed to be tackled. I would be very glad to recommend Angela Voegele not only because she is an effective therapist but because she is also an expert in the Gottman Method for couples. Her training, experience, and skills to deal with problems is remarkable! I have never seen a therapist that was so skillful and strategic in dealing with difficult people.
My husband and I know more about each other now. We learned real tools to help us to deal with anger and also to find solutions. I have never run into a therapist of this category. Angela is an excellent, sensitive and awesome therapist! After doing the 2-day Retreat, I have hope again in my marriage.
What would you say to couples that are considering working with Couples Therapy Inc.?
I wish I would have done it before. You will not regret it.
I am writing to express my/our deep appreciation for our work with our therapist at Couples Therapy Inc. We are a married couple of 24 years, and have been actively considering divorce for the past several months. As a last ditch effort, we let go of our previous marriage therapist and began working with you, first in 3 sessions online, and then in an intensive. Our therapist has been an extraordinary support for both of us. Her style is both structured and flexible. I appreciated that she listened exceedingly well. She brings evidence-based research into the mix. Perhaps most of all, she is optimistic, thought not in an unrealistic way. She has been instrumental in helping us develop new patterns of communication and engagement.
We are very, very grateful.
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"I review over 1,000 resumes each year, searching the globe for the most qualified couples therapists. It's remarkably hard to find exceptional talent. Many therapists (80%) believe they are already skilled at providing couples therapy.
The reality is alarming: less than 12% who claim to be "couples therapists" have taken even a single course in couples therapy. I look for certifications and specialized training before I hire, and a dedication to helping couples. Certifications mean proven
We don't do generic, educationally -oriented group training for a crowd of couples. But our team does and they've great for happy couples or those in mild distress. Our intensive work is 'one couple at a time.' And we learn as much as we can about you before you come. Your time will never be wasted in our face-to-face work.
We want you to be fully informed about the vast number of option available to you in a retreat format. The reason is simple: We believe we offer the best Marriage Retreat available for moderately- to highly-distressed couples. These are designed to be impactful, turn-around retreats, not generic advice. Sign up for our Science of Love newsletter and get our six-paged Definitive Guide to Couples Retreats right away.
Our retreats held in Maryland with Angela Voegele are under (Virginia and Washington DC retreats are a bit more...). But this is not just a financial investment. We expect a lot from you. This includes the time and energy you'll devote to completing the online diagnostic evaluation we call: "The BIG BIG Book." We do our part, but you must also do yours to get the most out of this experience. If you aren't willing to put effort into this extensive assessment process, then we're not for you...
These retreats, run by expert psychologists and couples counselors, target particular couples:
We usually need a minimum of 3 weeks lead time to allow you time to complete your BIG BIG Book. Contact us for "emergency" retreats.
You both need to complete your own version of The BIG BIG Book, and make travel and lodging accommodations (we'll send you our favorites...) The Berkshires is a vacation destination, so we encourage you to book early.
Absolutely. Call or email our office to schedule a mutually convenient time.
Not likely. Few insurance companies pay for couples therapy. However, Flexible Savings Accounts (FSA's) may. Ask your Accountant or Compensation and Benefits Administrator if you qualify for FSA's.
You can fly into Ronald Reagan National Airport. We're also about a 45 minute drive from Washington, D.C.
You can our intake coodinator at 212-519-7523 (New York or International Callers) or Toll Free: 844-926-8753, extension 2.
P.S. These retreats are in high demand and offered on a first come, first reserved basis. We can't hold your retreat without payment.
Could this make a huge difference in your marriage?
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Speak to our trained Intake Coordinator, Cindy, in your time zone with the scheduler below. She will listen to you, ask you questions and help you to decide if this is right for you. Learn more about how marriage retreats Maryland couples use to heal and repair their relationship from anywhere in the world. Helping troubled couples our specialty!