If you aren't getting along with the person who once meant the world to you, there is startling new information you need to know.
A way of intervening that stops your fast-moving train into greater marital misery or divorce.
You'll exit the 'divorce super-highway.'
Imagine no more endless bickering or cold-shoulder bedtimes.
Or vacations and romantic evenings that end in disaster.
Don't make the same mistake I did, and let a perfectly good marriage go down the drain.
Dr. Kathy McMahon // is the Founder and President ofCouples Therapy Inc. A clinical psychologist, she is one of a handful of Certified Gottman Couples Therapists on the planet who is also an AASECT Board-certified Sex Therapist. She is a Clinical Fellow of the American Association of Marriage and Family Therapists, and has also trained in both Emotionally-focused Couples Therapy and The Developmental Model of Couples Therapy.
Our marriage had little trust and poor communication.
Marisa Mundey had a good sense of our moods. She was able to get us to open up. She didn’t not discuss one major issue that exists in our marriage.
We got an understanding of how we both feel about that state of our marriage, we understand the reasons why our marriage has failed, we learned ways to improve our marriage. We’ve been taught communication tools. It’s up to us to implement them.
What would you say to couples that are considering working with Couples Therapy Inc.?
Be open and honest when completing the Big Big Book.
We were on the brink of divorce and had trust, infidelity, communication, partnership issues. My husband thought we couldn't possibly benefit from just three days. Marisa was down to earth, genuine, kind, nonjudgmental, a good listener, creative, funny, sincere, caring, compassionate. I feel like she was truly partnering with us to save our relationship. She showed that she cared about us early on and seemed to have a vested interest in seeing us succeed together and to learn to love each other better than we ever thought was possible.
This was our first time in couples therapy, we were hesitant because we thought that it would be a “bash the husband" session.
Since our work with Couples Therapy Inc. we are talking again and connecting daily about the little things. Three benefits that we have experienced; communication, love life, and addressing the issues we both had.
Marisa was fantastic!
She was very bi-partisan and listened to both of our issues. She gave great suggestions on how we can improve our marriage. Marisa is a great therapist and really helped both of us get through this rough patch.
We were looking to improve on conflict resolution and to improve our communication skills on subjects where there is disagreement.
Marisa was very professional, very approachable and disarming. We immediately felt at ease and comfortable talking to her. I really can't think of a criticism of her.
What changes resulted in your marriage from the work you did?
It was a powerful weekend - that we both enjoyed. We both came away with a fresh perspective on each other. We have a deeper understanding of why each of us reacts the way we do on certain issues. I believe we will have a stronger relationship due to the weekend and be better at resolving conflicts without anger. We were very pleased.
We left with: 1) better perspective on each other's positions and why we are like we are on certain topics 2) better communication techniques on areas of disagreement. 3) we learned how damaging anger can be and how to avoid it.
For us - it was exactly what we needed. it was an intense, weekend, but very very helpful. I thought the time allowed was great - the one on one sessions were very good and beneficial. Marisa was really good - we identified with her. She is very affirming, warm and sincere. the whole weekend exceeded our expectations.
Absolutely would recommend.
Many Houston couples can get faster effective results over a weekend. Sometimes even BETTER results than weekly marriage counseling."
Marisa Mundey, LMFT// Licensed in Texas # 201375. Practicing for Couples Therapy Inc. in Houston, Texas.
From the President of Couples Therapy Inc.:
Do you harbor misguided notions about love and marriage? Most couples do. Even many THERAPISTS do. I know I did when my own marriage had problems...
As a clinical psychologist I worked with couples, but these very misguided notions not only limited my impact as a couples therapist, they destroyed my own marriage.
If you think psychologists have just as many problems as the average person... you'd be right.
I've had my share.
Ask my ex-husband.
I divorced a perfectly nice guy and the father of my child. Oh, I had my reasons. And most of them were a bunch of "pie in the sky" ideas I got from theories I learned while in graduate school. They were wrong-headed notions about why marriages fail and how to fix them.
There are still plenty of these myths out there.
Like how about THIS MYTH:
"The severity of your problems predicts the likelihood of divorce."
Nope. Wrong. False.
Back then, I did what most people do, "I used my health insurance," and went to a counselor.
But instead of getting help, those weekly 45-minute sessions left me angrier, more hopeless, and totally, totally misunderstood. And we left each session more upset than when we arrived!
If you've see a therapist for your troubled marriage, you were probably told to practice “good communication skills."
I thought that's all I was doing...yak, yak, yakking without impacting!
Like most women facing divorce, it only took a few sessions before I became totally disillusioned.
I thought we were 'broken.'
I went through a painful divorce.
It cost me big time, not only economically, but emotionally, too, and everything got a lot more complicated. Two houses. Two mortgages. A daughter running between families. Two different sets of rules.
Divorce is one of the most stressful events in an adult's life, according to research. Even worse on children, despite the media hype.
“Divorce is costly, not just financially, but emotionally too. It costs your kids, as well as your future security. Preventing it is well worth the effort..."
Later on, I remarried a “completely different guy.” And guess what?
These same problems reappeared!
I thought to myself: “How could I be so unlucky?”
But it wasn't a matter of "luck" at all.
I was the same person...
...with the same crappy way of relating to my intimate partner.
I could divorce my ex- but not "myself."
As Aimee Mann says: "It's not going to stop 'til you wise up..."
And you know what? She's right.
Leaving a marriage, when you don't know what you're doing wrong (...or just blaming your spouse..) means it's not going to stop for you, either.
Unless you figure out what you're doing wrong in your marriage and fix it, you're doomed to repeat it.
Don't give up! Wise up!
(Let one of our Master Trainers teach you how to become a "Master of Marriage" too!)
Like a diamond, your marriage is the hardest “jewel” in the rocky world of relationships. But with a magnifying glass, precision skill, the jeweler's tap brings out the luster. Many marriage are rough stones with hidden brilliance. Just waiting to shine.
Careful assessment is our "magnifying glass." "The BIG BIG Book" (which included a Gottman Assessment and a lot more...) allows us take a closer look at you as an individual in your marriage. It's an online tool. Completing it out will have a huge impact on you, too. Our couples tell us it was the start of their marriage retreat therapy.
This online assessment is scored, and your words are carefully read and analyzed, side-by-side with your partner's tome. We do this before we even meet.
When you arrive at this couples retreat, we'll explore your early relationship history, "The Story of Us," and with your therapist, you'll work collaboratively, constructing your most critical relationship goals during our time together.
With the help of The BIG BIG Book, you'll be asked finely-tuned questions about your marital issues.
Instead of seemingly endless weekly "45-minute sessions," you'll spend a solitary weekend--just the two of you...alone. Relaxed. Away from the hassles of your everyday lives.
And then your whole world blows up...
Have you tried marriage counseling in the past and failed? Do you believe that your marriage is severely, and hopelessly damaged?
Your overly-confident and poorly trained therapist might be to blame.In contrast, our therapists are among the most highly trained couples therapists available today.All have at least one formal, evidence-based certificate in couples therapy. Many have doctoral degrees.
You entrust us with your marriage and family.
And we take that responsibility seriously.
We'll Work Fast
Forget 6 months of 45-minute sessions that stop at the height of your fight... "See you next week!" Science says:"not enough time!"
These aren't generic “communication skills training" with 5-250 other couples. Our approach is precise and intimate.
Not someone's biased 'personal opinions.' This help is based upon 40+ years of research with over 3,000 couples.
How would you describe your relationship before you called Couples Therapy Inc? What were the core issues you wanted to improve?
Troubled. Daily interaction, joint purpose, joy, sex.
What hesitation did you have about starting couples therapy with us?
Concern that it would be difficult without positive outcome.
Had you considered or tried couples therapy before? If so, how successful or unsuccessfully was it?
On occasion in distant past. Overall, unsuccessful.
What specific qualities did you like most and least about working with this therapist?
Our Couples Therapist was Marisa Mundey Extremely favorable review of Marisa. Strong yet gentle direction during activity practice. Able to steer and focus both partners.
Would you recommend your couples therapist and Couples Therapy Inc? If so, why? If not, why not?
Yes. While I think ongoing therapy will be needed and beneficial, it was much more effective than a traditional once a week approach.
My marriage was on the verge of divorce before couples therapy. We wanted to learn how to disagree in a calmer way. I was willing to try anything to help improve and save my marriage. We tried couples therapy once before and it was unsuccessful (probably because we only attempted one session).
Marisa Mundey was patient and had actually used our pre-work to help move straight to our problems. We finally got a chance to address a few of our top issues. After the sessions were over, however, I felt as if the therapist was relieved and ready to move on. She was extremely nice, but there was no immediate follow-up or opportunity to schedule more sessions (and I asked).
The programs and material are good, but one weekend isn't long enough for all couple situations. It was a lot of money and we somewhat practiced the therapy skills for about 2 - 3 days following. Then our relationship resumed its bad habits and continued as if couples therapy never happened.
As of now, I am making arrangements to separate from him and possibly divorce.
I would recommend this therapist but not Couples Therapy, Inc. I was hesitant about spending so short amount of time, to help improve 8 years of built up relationship issues. Although we spent 2.3 days discussing our relationship issues, it was nowhere near enough time to divulge as deep as we needed on more specific issues. Also, not enough time to practice various scenarios of the couple exercises.
I would not recommend this treatment. I'd suggest couples find a therapist and schedule ongoing sessions. This way they have the ability to continue working on their issues with that particular therapist.
From Dr. K: To clarify for this client, Marisa does, in fact, schedule regular ongoing follow-up with couples in Texas. Relapse prevention is an important part of science-based couples therapy. In addition, if our couples prefer to work with a local therapist in weekly work, we contact the couples therapist of your choice and provide guidance, based upon the work you've accomplished with us, and feedback to this new therapist, to help you accomplish your long-term goals. Our Intensives are a "jump-start," and don't promise to be an end solution for every client. Please contact Marisa for either ongoing online work, or for help finding a local weekly therapist.
What hesitation did you have about starting couples therapy with us?
Not knowing what to expect and discussing openly topics which are private.
What three benefits resulted from working with Couples therapy Inc.?
Open conversation, closer physically, and developing trust.
Marissa Mundey, she seemed to understand us and our situation and adjust to it. I enjoyed her guidance and understanding.
You completely saved my marriage. What you people do truly matters.
Marriage counseling and therapy is so TABOO --- and it should not be. It horrified me to know that no one talks openly about this with friends and family --- like you must be some freak of nature if you have marriage problems you can't work through on your own. I have zero shame in saying that we needed help badly --- and because of being willing to get help before it was too late we are both going to be able to have personal satisfaction and happiness, joy, love, and a spirit that this is my life --- I only have one life --- I am not going to sit back and waste it!!
Our couples retreats are in high demand. They book quickly.
There are less expensive alternatives...
Don't ignore your relationship problems and hope they go away.
Marriage Retreat Outline:
We regret that we cannot accept reservations without payment.
Contact Ted, our Operations Manager at [email protected] or
Call Cindy at 844-926-8753 x 2
Once registered, we'll send you a list of of places and restaurants that previous couples have enjoyed.
Send us three that would work for you and we'll do our best to accommodate you.
For guidance, contact our Intake Coordinator, Cindy, at 844-926-8753 extension 2.
Evidence- and Science-based couples therapy has been demonstrated to be effective with 70% - 90% of all couples completing treatment.
Check with your insurance provider. Most do not. Flexible Spending Account (FSA) likely will. See your benefits administrator at your place of employment.
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