As a Team, we meet once a month by video-conferencing. We make clinical presentations to each other, and design psycho-educational materials we make available to the general public. We're also in the process of formulating research papers for the therapeutic community focused on the dimensions of love and marriage as seen from the clinical lens of intensive and online work. With nearly 600 years of collective know-how, and an international perspective, our colleagueship helps us to move the field forward, one couple at a time. And we're a proud part of that growing body of work. We've assembled a lively and eclectic team which can vigorously disagree with one another, while maintaining respect and admiration (a goal we hold dear for couples...).
All from a scientific perspective.
We see our work as a continuous process of ongoing clinical practice, consultation and research, publishing, professional presentations, and then more clinical practice! We enjoy sharing our own discoveries in clinical interventions and practices.
Our mission is to educate, as well as heal. Our goal is to provide education to you about couples therapy itself.
Our clients are driven, successful people, like ourselves. We believe that if you, the most powerful among us learn what good science-based therapy is, you'll demand change. The level of formalized training our colleagues consider "adequate" to do what passes for couples therapy today is neither optimal nor even enough.
The good news is that this is slowly changing, thanks to the tireless efforts of well-recognized training institutes like The Gottman Institute (where our own Dr. Wolfe, Dr. McNulty, Stacy Hubbard, and Lisa Lund have trained therapists) and The International Centre for Excellence in Emotionally-Focused Couples Therapy, (where Dr. Marni supervises clinicians) as well as lesser known training institutes like the Midwest's The Doherty Institute (training open to all of our Team members) or California's Couples Institute in Menlo Park.
We took over the Topside Inn (literally, every room...) overlooking the spectacular Boothbay Harbor in Maine. We'd recommend it to any of our couples wanting an escape. Nothing forms a team more powerfully than time away, a spectacular view, delicious food, and marvelous companionship. Mixing business with pleasure was the order of the day over this Thursday-Sunday event. The topic: "How Do We Push the Field of Couples Therapy Forward?" Here are some candid shots below:
Our thanks to Max in Brooklyn, NY for traveling for the photo shoot.
I want to share the lessons I've learned from searching for qualified couples therapists for this practice and finding very few. I want to help you to find a qualified expert. I want you to demand skilled, science-based couples therapy professionals closest to home.
But if you can't, I invite you to attend one of our intensive couples therapy retreats. It's not a group experience. It is an organized clinical offering, just like our Online Couples Therapy, that gives you a thorough look at your marital dynamics and what needs to change.
We'll even help you to find a skilled professional you can continue with at home, and consult with them to 'bring them up to speed' at no charge to you. It's a fabulous jumpstart! Or, if we're legally allowed to do so in your state, we'll do clinical follow-ups online as well. We're even soon to launch an innovative program called "Fabulous Spouse" to be of continued support to our clients during their ongoing healing and skills-building process.
Dinners are happier times, bedtimes are calm and tender. Your children relax. Even a movie is an excuse to just sit cuddling on the couch. And what about the years you've spent together? They count for something. We can help you to clear away the hurts of the past and to move more effectively into the present. It starts with an intensive therapy weekend.
Maybe you haven't been really emotionally connected in a while. It could be that a crisis has sent you both reeling. An illness; a financial setback. Even a regrettable incident, like an affair, that has left one or both of you feeling deeply hurt.
Did you feel taken for granted when your partner made their mark on the world and now you aren't generous?
Or maybe your sexual relationship has become lackluster. Both of you seem too often "tired" or listless when you make love. The love is there, just not the same level of enthusiasm. Enriching a marriage is like vitamins that enrich your body. It keeps both of you sharp and on your toes about what's truly important in life. It's part of the power of teamwork, pulling together to produce great results, just like a well-functioning marriage. We're well-trained, and devoted to helping your marriage work better.
...no matter how distant or angry you've become. And you can 'jump start' that healing process by committing to a single weekend of intensive couples therapy. Learn how to reconnect, face into the wounding, and change around your most painful and destructive patterns. It's private and effective. And you'll learn what to focus on and what is a derivative of the more important stuff.
I want you to be a wise consumer as you seek out couples therapy. Know what to look for in seeking professional help for your relationship.
We've produced a comprehensive online course: Upgrade Your Couples Therapy. You will get full access to it for FREE when you sign up for our email series.