Recover from the pain of infidelity and become stronger than before.

A guide to help you both heal.

Learn how an affair can be more than a marriage killer. It could be a crisis that transforms your marriage into a  deeper, more honest bond.

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About the Author

Daniel P. Dashnaw, MS, MA, MFT is a marriage and family therapist and specializes in the "pervasive traumas of life": painful affairs, developmental trauma, sex addictions and angry, fighting couples. He conducts his couples therapy online and in an intensive retreat format.

He has advanced training in The Gottman Method, Emotionally Focused Couples Therapy, and the Developmental Model of helping couples.

He is Editor of an award-winning  Blog and is an Intake Coordinator ​at Couples Therapy Inc.

Course Content


In this ebook you will learn
  • Chapter 1

  • CHAPTER 2

  • CHAPTER 3

  • chapter 4

  • chapter 5

  • CHAPTER 6

  • CHAPTER 7

Chapter 5:  Surviving infidelity

Contrary to popular belief, most couples stay married in the aftermath of an affair.

Once infidelity is out in the open, couples typically display one of three distinct strategies for surviving infidelity.

This chapter goes through each and discusses the problematic aspects and adaptive solutions.​

One of the reasons that affair recovery is such a common presenting problem in science-based couples therapy is that 2 of these 3 strategies are naturally occurring and tend to be somewhat problematic in the long -run.

Learn how to avoid these "default" adaptations.​

According to one leading expert, the Supplicant Style of affair recovery is extremely common. With this strategy, the wound from the betrayal never really heals.

Learn why.