Looking for online relationship courses and eBooks?

You want to know how to make a relationship work...

Let's figure out where to start

  • What are the obstacles that prevent you from having the relationship that you want (and deserve)?
  • Do you have a vision of your ideal relationship?
  • What are some clear steps that you can take now and in the future to start making your relationship work?

At Couples Therapy Inc. we are tirelessly devoted to couples therapy. We study loving connections. We examine how bonds get broken and mended. We see people not as a collection of individuals, but as a network of families and friends.

For nearly a decade couples have come to us to learn one very important thing; how to make a relationship work.

Not just any relationship but their very specific and unique relationship. At some point it just...stopped working...got off track. They come to us to get things running again.


Some of these couples are recovering from infidelity (or other traumas) some have drifted apart or struggle to find common ground. 

Some of the couples that call us (and maybe you are one of them) have struggled for years with these relationship issues. Perhaps they have even tried traditional couples therapy. Yet there is still a lingering dissatisfaction with their relationship. 

Your relationship continues to struggle but you refuse to give up, you refuse to stop working and throw in the towel. Despite all of your motivation and desire to stay together there is still that same underlying question; how can I make my relationship work?


This question is worth examining. It is worth your time and energy to build a relationship with your partner that is satisfying, fulfilling, even glorious!

Our clinicians will tell you: the quality of our relationships is what determines the quality of our life. 

Building a "working" relationship, this is indeed a worthy endeavor.


You deserve to be in a relationship that is healthy, one where you and your partner “get” each other. Your relationship should carry you through good times and through challenging times.


You probably know that, and that’s what brought you to a site like ours. Yet despite knowing how much your relationship matters and despite the hours that you have spent reading through the advice of “experts” we still come back to that question “how do I make my relationship work?” Perhaps even more concerning “how do I fix my relationship?”

Let’s break that down step by step and look at each part

  • What stands in the way of your happily ever after right now?
  • What stands in the way of your happily ever after right now?
  • What do you want your relationship to look like?
  • What are some things that you can do when you are ready to take an even deeper dive?

So, we start at the beginning...

Ask yourself first, what stands in your way? What are the stumbling blocks that are holding you back from having the relationship that you have dreamed of?


As you examine this question you will likely find that some of these stumbling blocks are external and some are internal. Some of the things in the way are within your control and some simply aren’t.


The list can be long but there are two very specific stressors that sit outside of you and your partner and these are important ones to mention. These things are affecting your happiness and your relationship satisfaction but they might not have anything to do with you.


Worse, these things might not be directly within your control. This might sound bleak but hang in there, just because they are outside of your control does not mean you are helpless to their influence.

Relationship stress #1; times are tough!

It’s cliché at this point to say it but we are truly living in extraordinary times. There are more and more strains on our relationships and on ourselves than ever before. These stressors are as diverse as they are pervasive; economic, health, family, politics, social issues and many others that have probably popped into your head. It’s impossible to list them all as they change everyday.

We can’t control many of these things that are happening but we do have some influence over how these tough times hit our relationships. You and your partner can team up against these stressors together. This is your chance to find what your relationship means during tough times, not just when the road is smooth.


Our blog has dedicated pages and pages of research to this very topic. If you feel like your relationship is especially feeling these strains, it’s a great idea to spend some time browsing the topics we’ve covered over these last few months.

Relationship stress #2; family history and a lack of role models.

This one hits a little closer to home (literally.) You, your partner, or maybe both of you may come from homes where relationships weren’t healthy. You might have seen unhealthy fighting, which leaves you insecure whenever there is conflict. Your partner might have seen multiple partners come and go in a seemingly endless loop making your partner unwilling to trust and attach. Maybe there were affairs...lying...substance abuse...mind games.

These kinds of early experiences do not sentence us to a lifetime of unhealthy relationships but they are a signal that we might have a little bit of extra work to do. 


If you suspect that you haven’t had the privilege of seeing a healthy relationship role modeled start to seek them out. Find the people in your life that have loving and supportive relationships and watch what they do, how they speak to one another, and how they talk about their partners (even when that partner is not around to hear it.)


That’s a very early step and your observations should not end there. Educate yourself, seek out books and resources that will help you to “fill in the blanks.” We have resources listed below and there are many more out there, we recommend anything written by Dr. John Gottman, and Sue Johnson has wonderful resources as well. 


Your relationship is an important asset. You deserve to build a happy life with your partner even if no one taught you how to make that work. A professional can help you through that process, you don’t need to build this skill all on your own, our intensives or relationship coaching may be the support that you need.


Those are the stumbling blocks we are going to outline here but you may have some other “relationship obstacles” in your head as well.

What is a healthy relationship anyway?

While there are some nearly universal elements to what defines a healthy relationship, many aspect and qualities will be personal and individual.


Let’s next make sure that you have that vision of what a working, healthy relationship means to you. Review the statements and questions below and jot your initial thoughts down.

How do we celebrate each other?

What are the goals that we are working towards?

What are 2-3 shared family values?

When I am upset I want my partner to _______ .

When my partner is upset I will ________ .

What is intimacy, sex, and physical affection like for us?

Hopefully that gives you an outline of what your ideal relationship looks like and feels like. We are ready to move into that important question now; how do you make your relationship work? How do you bring that relationship vision into your real lived experience?

3 Important steps to making your relationship work

1

Practice gratitude

An “attitude of gratitude,” this is a catch phrase that you may already be familiar with but how does it apply to your relationship? We know that folks that orient themselves towards gratefulness see amazing changes in their lives. How do you find that orientation in your relationship?


If things have been especially tense lately or perhaps things are just completely cooled between you, this might be challenging. But it is there, you are with this human being and there is a reason that you are with them. Make noticing those reasons a habit.


Find a journal page (or even just open up notes on your cell phone) and list out some ways that you are a fantastic partner, now list the ways that your partner is fantastic, finally, list the ways that your relationship is fantastic. These reasons might be very basic and simple, they don’t need to be flowery rom-com style over the top gestures.


Maybe you like that he brings you coffee in bed sometimes. Maybe she wrinkles her nose in a funny way when she’s concentrating and you secretly think it’s adorable. You might share these lists with your partner or you might keep these private for yourself.


If you are going through tough times this list might be short, that’s ok, this might take some practice. Set an intention to grow each of these lists each day. You will train your mind to look for things to appreciate--this is the start of building a habit.


Grow and nurture the strengths and the things that you appreciate about each other and your life together, the big things and the little things.


When times are challenging, like say, during a global pandemic, these items are your touchstones. These are the things that you can offer to your partner, to your relationship, and to yourself. 


In order to grow and nurture these strengths in our relationships, we have to first pay attention. We have to notice. You can’t have your head down on your phone while your partner is doing a goofy butt-shaking dance that almost always makes you laugh. You missed it!

2

Softened-startups

We started by talking about gratitude and positivity, but let’s be honest, we aren’t always there. 


Does having a fabulous relationship mean putting a positive spin on everything until the light shines down from the sky and hearts swirl around your head every time you see your partner? And of course there is never conflict because you complete each other and know each other perfectly. Is that how you know your relationship is working?


This is (luckily) not the standard that your relationship needs to meet in order to work.


Your partner probably does things that irritate the heck out of you. Some of those things maybe they’ve stopped doing over the years other things you might have stopped caring as much about (if at all,) and some things...still...ugh. 

Conflict or disagreement isn't always a bad thing. Anyone reading this can think of a time where strife led to something greater. 


Sometimes you need to talk about something that's not working for you and honest communication is very important in a healthy relationship. Communication that is compassionate and effective is also critical. After all, honesty without compassion is cruelty. 


When there is something on your mind and it needs to be said your approach matters. Folks that are experts in the field talk about using “soft startups” to make sure that your message is heard. We created a walkthrough of how you and your partner can become experts in softened startups and effective conversations.

3

This is between the four of you??

Here’s the thing, when there is conflict (and even when great things happen) there is an exchange happening between four of you.


There’s you and there is your partner, and that makes two. Then there is the partner that is in your head and the version of you that’s in your partner’s head.

That's four different people in the mix and that's too big of a crowd when it comes to conflict!


You are an expert on the partner in your head, in fact, you know exactly why they did what they did and what they’re going to say when you confront them. In fact, you may even tell yourself that you don’t need to confront them because you “already know how it will end.”


Have you ever told yourself that? We are all guilty of it from time to time. The reality is you are only an expert on the partner that’s in your head and not the actual living breathing human in front of you.


That person has feelings and thoughts. And because that person is a human, they have a nervous system and are going to react when you engage with them. This is why our work with soft startups is so important--watch that video again if this is an area where you struggle! We want to speak with that human being in the most effective and compassionate way possible.


What if you aren’t the person to start the discussion? What if your partner hasn’t read this guide and has started the conversation in a less-than-soft manner. 

You might really resent the way that your partner spoke to you, or what they said, or maybe even, what they didn't say.


Notice what is happening in your body and in your mind. As human beings, we are designed to defend ourselves from attack, and that’s a very helpful instinct in some instances! But this is your love and not a bear attack. Entering into a state of fight, flight or freeze is not going to be helpful in your quest to make your relationship work.


Check out this explanation of something called flooding as Dr. K talks about the couples she works with.

You may be able to think of a time when you have experienced this kind of emotional response; perhaps with your partner, at work, even just driving in traffic. It is a natural human response to a threat but I am sure you can see how it is not a good state to be in when discussing something with a loved one. 


This is particularly relevant if one (or both of you) have been through trauma that triggers this response more readily.


Take Dr K’s advice, learn to recognize when this is happening to you and take a time out. This time out is a full 20 minutes of going for a walk, taking some deep breaths, singing--whatever it takes for you to reset your nervous system.


After you have reset, face this problem as a problem between the two of you that you will resolve together.

And the real secret...

What does it really take to make a relationship work? Keep trying. Don’t give up on your relationship, don’t give up on your partner. Approach the difficulties that you are having as challenges to be faced and opportunities to grow together.


Perhaps you didn’t have the privilege of seeing committed, healthy relationships in your up-bringing. This is all the more reason to educate yourself.

Divorce-proof your marriage by seeking advice and support from trusted authorities.

The tips above are just to get you started, when you are ready to dive deeper we have some great study-at-home options as well as live, private relationship help from our professionals.


We are here to help, just tell us what you need!

Start strengthening your relationship now...

Self-guided RELATIONSHIP HELP

Now it's time to present your offer as the perfect solution to everything you've been talking about so far in your story.

While we were holding back before, it's now time to be very specific. Talk about your product, what it is, what your customer gets when they purchase. At this point, after all the buildup, your readers really want to know what you have to offer, so don't hold back.

Making a relationship work...

Find a topic and dig in a little deeper. Our eBooks and courses explore the topics that matter most in healthy relationships and are available immediately after purchase. 

Some of the topics that we cover...

Infidelity; How You Can Heal and Move On

A guide to help you both heal from Couples Therapy Inc therapist, Daniel Dashnaw.

Military Families

Delve into the  common dynamics families experience before, during and after deployment and learn how you and your family can thrive.

Spirituality

Integrate simple spiritual practices into your daily life and experience greater positive feelings and a higher overall sense of satisfaction with life.

ADHD

Learn about how ADHD may show-up in your marriage and what strategies may work to overcome any of the associated challenges.

Upgrade your couples therapy (coming soon)

Find all of the resources that you need to get the most out of an online intensive weekend with Couples Therapy Inc. To get the most out of your time, start here.

Conflict, Communication, and a Chance to Connect (coming soon)

Having issues with communication and conflict? Well, good news (really, it’s good news) conflict is inevitable, so let us help you learn to do it effectively!

Our clinicians are adding new topics regularly, if you don't see something you want email us!

If you want more structure and accountability

Schedule an intensive weekend with our RELATIONSHIP EXPERTS

What people have said about working with Couples Therapy Inc.

We got ideas and a plan to solve conflict

Our relationship was overwhelming with constant fighting. unappreciation with poor conflict management.

Had you considered or tried couples therapy before? If so, how successful or unsuccessful was it?

yes. It was unsuccessful. It was not a good fit for us.

(from the second partner)

We were fighting too much and not communicating well. We needed a reset.

We had consulted with two local counselors for about 6 hour-long sessions. We needed a data-based process and more than just an occasional conversation.

What made you choose Couples Therapy Inc.?

It is science-based. We know about Dr. Gottman method by reading his books

What hesitation did you have about starting couples therapy with us?

Price. Think is very expensive

What changes resulted in your marriage/relationship as a result of your work?

It is continuous work. Slow progress but we had used the information we got to resolve conflict.

What specific qualities did you like most and least about working with this therapist?

Dr. Powell is academic knowledgeable, respectful and reliable. I think Dr. Powells is a good Therapist. I just was expecting somebody with more experience to manage some issues in this kind of therapy and for this amount of money. For instance, we - not the therapist- identified a core issue that affected both of us but we were stuck on ideas of how to solve it. She really did not provide help here. This is an issue that is very common among couples. I think a more experienced Therapist would have been able to provide more help.

(from the second partner) Dr. Powell was not always effective at diffusing a tense situation. Need to get to the results of the data much sooner. The Friday get-to-know-you is OK and I see the purpose of trying to get us to remember why we got married in the first place, but this can be condensed. The individual sessions were helpful to get things off my chest that I didn't want my wife to hear but much of my background was not pertinent, my individual thoughts were not incorporated later (so why ask), and we thus wasted of valuable time. Accordingly, Saturday morning has to be condensed so as to get to the Big Book results quicker. It is only after getting to the data do we know where to work. Because of wasted time, we did not get through all of our most important issues.

Would you recommend your couples therapist and Couples Therapy Inc.? If so, why? If not, why not?

No. I think it was too expensive for what we got. There were issues mentioned in the big book and our individual sessions that never were brought up, so what is the point to have them.

What three benefits resulted from working with Couples therapy Inc.?

We got ideas and a plan to solve conflict, learned about each other more and have a plan to continue feeding our relationship.

(from the second partner) We got our reset and are committed to working on our marriage.

What would you say to couples that are considering working with Couples Therapy Inc.?

hope it works for them. we are trying the best we can for us.

Hope we get the 2 follow-ups with Dr. Powells -3 and 6 months - we were promised by her.

Note from Dr. K:

Thank you for taking the time to write this review. I wanted to address a few issues that you pointed out as problems with Dr. Powell so that people reading this will be able to choose wisely. The Saturday time spent in assessment seemed like a "waste of time" to you, but that's not the experience for the therapist targeting a complicated case such as yours. Without knowing your private thoughts about the relationship, we're in the dark about what feedback to give you! The full assessment is an important aspect of our work, and every Gottman therapist spends time alone with each of you, as directed by Gottman himself.

You mentioned that you, as a couple, identified a core issue that affected both of you. You think Dr. Powell should have done that for you. Here's another take on that: Dr. Powell is a solution-focused therapist, and the questions she asked may have had more to do with helping you to solve your own issues than you may give her credit for. That's by design. Dr. Gottman points out that couples that solve their own problems in our work will have more lasting change than the solutions that the therapist offers to them. So congrats on that one!

You also mentioned that "there were issues mentioned in the big book and our individual sessions that never were brought up."
I'm also glad you also mentioned this. None of our therapists will reveal the information you provide in the BIG BIG Book (BBB) unless you initiate. I'll give you an example: One person discusses a painful betrayal in the BBB, and with the therapist privately, but they simply don't mention it in session. None of our therapists will assume that they've simply "forgotten" to bring it up.
We'll respect the partner's decision about when and how to address it with their spouse.

Most of our couples have multiple issues to resolve, and it sounded like you tackled many important ones, but not all of them. I'm also delighted that you got ideas and a plan to solve conflict, that you've learned more about each other and have learned how to feed your relationship. You are also motivated to continue your work with Dr. Powell in follow-ups. It sounds like, despite your cost reservations, you believe she's a better fit than your former therapist. You'll be continuing with her. I applaud you both for putting your full efforts into making a better marriage.

We'll try to do a better job on our website to help couples like you celebrate your victories in coming up with your own solutions. It's great that you were able to do that successfully and that you're continuing to work together. Keep up the good work!

Atlanta Georgia Couples Retreat - Dr. Alisha Powell

I did not know if I could continue in the marriage

I did not know if I could continue in the marriage. Kent MacEachern provided the guidance I needed to work toward resolution, and the understanding if it does not work, it was worth the effort to try. Kent was unbiased, down to earth, compassionate, commanded knowledge of the materials and method given his years of experience.

I gained insight into programs, theories, and realities of staying married vs. divorce. I am attempting to remove detachment and create a new, stronger bond. The therapy provided my wife a better understanding of where I am based on the support of Kent and his application of his knowledge. This will help both me and my wife understand how to proceed to work on necessary changes to how we think and act upon the issues we have.

Mt. Pleasant (Charleston), South Carolina Retreat - Kent MacEachern

I liked everything about Jenny Fang.

Our relationship was volatile and unstable. Disconnected. I wanted to make some sense out of it more than anything and attempt to reconnect with my partner. I wanted to establish mutual respect between us. I had hesitation due to the price. Also a deep-seated mistrust of therapists. We hadn't been in couples therapy before.

What changes resulted in your marriage/relationship resulted from your work with Couples Therapy Inc.?

There is now mutual respect and greater understanding between us which I hope will last. More respect, dignity, and compassion for my partner.

Who was your therapist? What specific qualities did you like most and least about working with this therapist?

Jenny Fang. I liked everything about Jenny. She was thoughtful, intuitive and caring yet firm. She was great to work with.

Would you recommend your couples therapist and Couples Therapy Inc.? If so, why? If not, why not?

I'm not sure. I am suffering from a lot of anxiety and depression as a result of this I fear. I am a little confused and wondering what to do next. I wish I was able to consult my therapist about the after effects of this as part of this package.

What three benefits resulted from working with Couples therapy Inc.?

Respect , dignity, and compassion for my partner

What would you say to couples that are considering working with Couples Therapy Inc.?

Be careful this may mess with your head. It is definitely worth it however.

Anything else you’d like to add?

I am confused and a little lost.

___________________________________

Some clients need ongoing support, even after an intensive retreat, as this client does. Please don't hesitate to ask if additional services are needed. We'll gladly help.

Orange County California Couples Retreat - Jenny Fang

Just truly amazing—thank you for dedicating your lives to something that helps other lives.

Before the retreat our relationship was horrible!!! We tried other couples therapy and it was not successful at all...y'all offered something drastic and different and that is what we needed.

We have a better understanding of managing the gridlock and when to step back and deal with certain emotions that are not productive. We have understanding, patience, and acceptance when we don’t agree.

We walked away laughing and having such a great time!!! We are dedicated to our marriage and Alisha Powell gave us the tools we needed to stay dedicated. I hate knowing people aren't aware of Couples Therapy Inc. before divorce papers are signed. This system can save marriages and it can prevent marriages from happening.

Just truly amazing—thank you for dedicating your lives to something that helps other lives.

Atlanta Georgia Couples Retreat - Dr. Alisha Powell

Past therapy seemed to have only caused more problems...

Past therapy seemed to have only caused more problems. We were concerned about the cost, given the value of our past therapy. But I wanted to improve my intimate relationship with my spouse.

This therapy was successful and effective. It gave us exactly what we needed to address, we resolved issues verses fighting about them. We have better intimacy, regular relationship, and overall feeling of closeness. The ability to discuss verses arguing. Dr. Wolfe was excellent.

Overall, it was excellent and effective. Our therapist was excellent and high quality. He did an outstanding job.

Dr. Scott Wolfe - Las Vegas, Nevada

He seemed to genuinely want us to stay together...

Dan's most admirable quality as our therapist was that he seemed to genuinely want us to stay together and work to fix our marriage. I never felt like he was just coldly and indifferently going through the academic motions of a therapist.

His input felt more like a family member with a lot of training and wisdom advising us on how to better communicate, understand each other, and unpack our various individual and joint issues. Dan had a genuine humility, which made his at times challenging demands of us much more palatable. I never felt bullied or obligated to do anything.

The Berkshires - Daniel Dashnaw

Our New Year is filled with hope and love.

We were on the brink of divorce. Barely speaking. I was afraid there was no hope and couples therapy would solidify that. I had brought my partner to my individual therapist. It was not successful. I found it hard to talk about my past. Dr. Gorman was amazing, nonjudgmental, and was able to help us open up and be honest with each other in safe environment. We are able to understand the other person better and have new tools to keep us from attacking when we are angry or withdrawn.

My husband and I are able to identify the triggers in our relationship, we can communicate without fear and we now have options to help us calm down and focus on what is important. Thank you, Dr. Gorman. You are a wonderful person and the best therapist we have ever met. I am so grateful for your expertise and patience. Our New Year is filled with hope and love.

Amherst MA Couples Retreat - Dr. Gorman

I am feeling positive about the future.

I was close to accepting that our relationship was over. We were not getting anywhere and needed intervention.

The intensive mode was preferable and in a safe place away from our home town. My husband told me the research showed the intensive mode was more successful than ongoing therapy.

Jack was fabulous and was very knowledgeable. He challenged us both and was professional at all times. I felt very safe with him.

I feel much more on track and able to have better discussions with my husband. My husband has also accepted some responsibility for aspects of the problems so I am feeling positive about the future.

It was extremely worthwhile and got our relationship back on track.

What three benefits resulted from working with Couples therapy Inc.?

  • Better communication
  • Clear strategies to improve communication
  • Honesty with each other

New South Wales, Australia - Jack O'Leary

It is the best $ we have invested for our family!!!

Before working with Couples Therapy Inc. we felt disconnect and trouble communicating our needs. Jack O’Leary made us think and helped us to go within and find the answers ourselves! He created a gentle safe space. He listened and was able to always be objective whilst remaining sensitive to us. I loved his empowering solution-based approach.

We were hesitant to start because of the big financial investment. However, now we both remembered how much we love each other and how amazing our marriage can be. I became a lot more aware of my need to communicate my own needs clearly to my husband. I felt I could ask myself "what is this anger/frustration telling me about my needs and how can I clearly and lovingly communicate that."

It is the best $ we have invested for our family!!! I felt reconnected to and loved by my husband again. I felt I could communicate my needs to him better. I felt hope, optimism and enthusiasm about remaining married to my husband.

New South Wales, Australia - Jack O'Leary

Jack O’Leary was honest and direct.

My relationship was in a state of chronic crisis. I wanted to improve our communication and have an opportunity for a therapist to help guide our conversations so they could be productive. We tried couples therapy last year but only had 2 sessions as my husband was not willing to talk with a counselor.

I was looking for something close to Brisbane or Toowoomba in Queensland and the price was reasonable compared to other similar intensive counseling services in the area.

I had no hesitations. I was eager to move forward.

Jack O’Leary was honest and direct. He told us he's not here to tiptoe around issues and he will call out our bad behaviour and address things that need addressing. I really liked that and is exactly what we needed and why we came for the weekend.

The intensive weekend is a great way to kick start the therapy process and breakdown those initial barriers.

No major changes resulted, it was more of a discernment weekend. I suppose the one change is that my husband agreed to couples therapy going forward.

What would you say to couples that are considering working with Couples Therapy Inc.?

Absolutely do it, I have no regrets.

New South Wales, Australia - Jack O'Leary

These sessions opened my eyes to many of the marriage issues between us.

I appreciate very much Angela's efforts with my spouse and I during this past week. These sessions opened my eyes to many of the marriage issues between us and I believe they helped deepen our love and commitment to one another.

Also, the sessions were not as hard as I expected them to be.

Angela is that reason. Her patience, softness and her understanding helped to bring us together and enabled us to see for ourselves what is most important in our lives and marriage.

Washington DC Retreat - Angela Voegele

I am really so relieved that we don't have to give up.

Tehilla, If you are wondering why I became silent and withdrawn during our session, it's because I was crying from joy internally. I am really so relieved that we don't have to give up, but that we can work on building up after a past that we had no control over. You have no idea what it meant to me that he who is sometimes so stubborn, agreed to individual counselling. You make it worthwhile to keep going with the way that you do things. I see a little light at the end of the tunnel.

Thank you so much for your help and the nice way you handle things. We are already taking better steps forward.

Hermanus, Western Cape, South Africa - Tehilla Luttig

The dark cloud over our marriage seems to be clearing.

Before we contacted Couples Therapy Inc. our relationship was contentious and bordering on a separation.

We had tried couples therapy before but it was somewhat unsuccessful, I don't think we ever found a good match of a therapist.

We chose Couples Therapy Inc. because of the online reviews and the ability to concentrate significant work into a short period of time.

Angela was extremely prepared and stuck to her program without idle chatter. There really isn't anything negative to say other then it's a long day. It was overall very intense but rewarding. We already seem to be communicating better, and surely have a deeper understanding of techniques to help us grow more together.

We have a better understanding of trust, openness, and honesty in our relationship. Our intimacy has returned. The dark cloud over our marriage seems to be clearing.

Angela knows her profession extremely well, and the intensive design of the program really gets to the core of whatever issues you may be experiencing in a timely, efficient manner.

What would you say to couples that are considering working with Couples Therapy Inc.?

JUST DO IT!

Washington DC Retreat - Angela Voegele

My husband thought we couldn't possibly benefit from just three days....

We were on the brink of divorce and had trust, infidelity, communication, partnership issues. My husband thought we couldn't possibly benefit from just three days. Marisa was down to earth, genuine, kind, nonjudgmental, a good listener, creative, funny, sincere, caring, compassionate. I feel like she was truly partnering with us to save our relationship. She showed that she cared about us early on and seemed to have a vested interest in seeing us succeed together and to learn to love each other better than we ever thought was possible.

Houston Texas Couples Retreat - Marisa Mundey

Angela was excellent and very good at listening and understanding.

Our relationship was a disaster, lack of communication and trust. Our previous therapy was completely unsuccessful. Angela was excellent and very good at listening and understanding. We have more understanding of; our behavior, that we are both at fault, and how to communicate with each other.

What would you say to couples that are considering working with Couples Therapy Inc.?

BEST CHOICE YOU CAN MAKE.

Washington DC Retreat - Angela Voegele

We feel confident in our new tools and skills that Dr. Doug has taught us.

Dr. Doug Burford was very kind and easy to talk with. He was great at promoting spiritual involvement without feeling preached to. He was absolutely great. We feel confident in our new tools and skills that Dr. Doug has taught us. And we feel stronger that we can face future challenges together as a team. We feel we are now capable of continuing healing and communicating without hurting each other. We don’t fear a potential conflict. We know each other on a deeper level that we never knew existed and now we can pursue getting stronger.

We had an amazing experience with Couples Therapy Inc. The whole process has helped us so much.

Overland Park, Kansas Couples Retreat - Dr. Burford

We were worried that it would be as ineffective as other therapy.

Our marriage was very troubled. We had trouble communicating and resolving issues.

We had tried couples therapy several times, and it was a waste of time and money. We were worried that this therapy would be as ineffective as that other therapy we tried. Jenny Fang was well researched, intuitive, and positive. She helped us focus on building a better future rather than arguing about the past. Now we are more appreciative of each other and able to engage in effective communication, I have a better understanding of where we each come from and how that affects how we, each, perceive the world. I also have a better appreciation of the goodness in my partner. For a couple in trouble this has been the best experience.

Orange County California Couples Retreat - Jenny Fang

We had done couples therapy several times with varying degrees of success. 

We had done couples therapy several times with varying degrees of success. We have communication and trust issues, particularly my partner’s willingness to commit.

Dr. Maryanna Ham is affable, very skilled and knows how to push into the deep water. Now, there’s more honesty about where we are, more risk-taking to say what we feel/need/want.

Northampton, MA Couples Retreat - Dr. Ham

We didn’t know how a short weekend could help us address the things that were going on...

We were argumentative and in despair. Reverend Jim Ramsey was nonjudgmental, accepting, wise, discerning, and strategic. He had lots of practical tools, created a peaceful environment, offered tons of life experience, and practiced gentle truth telling. With him, we processed a lot of pain and misunderstanding. I felt the heaviness lift off of my soul. Reverend Jim seemed to know exactly what had happened and why and how we could crawl our way out of this painful place we were in. He’s a very deep and approachable man. I would definitely recommend him to others. He is very gentle and kind but seems to be someone who does practice what he preaches and that’s why what he’s talking about is all real.

Missoula Retreat - Jim Ramsey

It was a great marriage retreat weekend and we are so grateful for all you did for us!

Thanks Dr. R! It was a great marriage retreat weekend and we are so grateful for all you did for us! We will get on our homework and schedule a follow-up soon.

Again, many thanks for helping us with your approach and care!

San Juan Puerto Rico Couples Retreat - Dr. Rodriguez

It is life changing!

We were very close to separation, the major issue related to an affair, but this led to some very poor patterns of communication.

We chose Couples Therapy Inc after a review of the evidence base, along with the fact that it was 1:1 and very rigorous pre-counseling assessments. I had concerned it would be the final nail in the coffin for our marriage.

Jack O’Leary was genuine, challenging, caring and flexible. We have much better patterns of communication and a resolution of some very core issues. And more admiration and affection to one another and finally, better individual health. He saved my marriage and my life (work, wellbeing, etc).

What would you say to couples that are considering working with Couples Therapy Inc.?

Do it - it is life changing! You both have to be ready to reflect and change - if you are ready, it can help.

New South Wales, Australia - Jack O'Leary

I can't express how impressed my wife and I are with Havi.

Our relationship was cold and icy. We didn't fight much, if at all, and we lived our lives like roommates and had a difficult time opening up and getting past the boredom and dullness of a 7 year marriage with kids. Havi Klifeld was amazing! I felt very comfortable with her from the start - like I've known her my entire life or like she could be a best friend. She was very warm and inviting and really took the time to listen to my partner and I. Havi is very professional and she knows her material well. Other therapists my wife and I visited tried to teach us material from Gottman, but it wasn't presented well and it was lost on us. Havi is an excellent teacher. Couples Therapy Inc, in many respects, was our last effort to repair our relationship. However, it should have been our FIRST choice. If we had led with Couples Therapy Inc, we would have repaired our marriage years ago and with much less pain and suffering. I can't express how impressed my wife and I are with Havi. She's really amazing!

Los Angeles Couples Retreat - Havi Kligfeld

The intensive allowed for a deeper dive.

We needed to work on trust and intimacy. We were concerned, however, that an Intensive would be too much. Instead, the intensive allowed for a deeper dive, instant practice on repairing with each other, and a chance to start the earnest repair sooner than we would have. It was easy to organize and a good investment in their relationship.

We learned techniques for improving our connection.

Angela was fine. She was very good at getting to the root of our problems.

Washington DC Retreat - Angela Voegele

Neither of us could leave until the day was over and the therapist was there as a referee.

Our relationship was terrible, core issues were trust and communication. We did therapy a couple of years ago, it was not successful. We chose CTI because we wanted consecutive sessions as to not lose track of topics by going to weekly therapy. There haven’t been any changes as of yet.

Angela was calm and direct which was appreciated. I’m not certain that I would recommend it [CTI]. It was helpful to get everything out in a faster manner however you think of additional topics that could have been spoken about afterward [when you get home]. I believe there could have been a bit more one-on-one time with the therapist as well as one-on-one time on the last day of the retreat.

Benefits were the consecutive hours to try and work things out, neither of us could leave until the day was over and the therapist was there as a referee.

What would you say to couples that are considering working with Couples Therapy Inc.?

Go into it knowing that the therapist is there for those couple days but to carry on the lessons is extremely difficult without someone being the referee.

Washington DC Retreat - Angela Voegele

Our relationship was almost over...

I was hesitant about spending a substantial amount of money with no results. However, our relationship was almost over. We had poor communication and high-stress levels. This was more of a scientific approach. Dr. K was very neutral and explained things very well.

It's only been a week but our relationship has definitely improved. We have better communication and understanding each other better and the stress level between us has also decreased. I had no hope before going to see Kathy. Now I know we've got a chance to mend our relationship.

I would definitely recommend Couples Therapy Inc.

Boston / Berkshire Retreat - Dr. K

Dr. Mike McNulty was an intensive listener.

Our relationship was AT RISK. We were in "regular" [traditional] couples’ therapy but the frequency was inadequate (1x 5-6/weeks)

Dr. Mike McNulty was an intensive listener and had a surprising ability to control the room. I had a personal breakthrough on a childhood issue and some realization of wife's childhood issues. We now have an appreciation for one another, an agreement to move forward on a defined path, and an agreement to continue individual therapy and switching to Gottman couples therapy.

Evanston & Highland Park, Illinois Retreat - Dr. Mike McNulty

She didn't make me feel like the "bad guy" or baby my partner for being the "victim.”

Our relationship was very rocky because of a recent affair, which had my partner wanting to leave me.

We never tried couples therapy before.

Angela was very honest and understanding of both of our sides but didn't baby us. She didn't make me feel like the "bad guy" or baby my partner for being the "victim.” She gave us concrete tools to work on our marriage. We would have liked even more "scenarios" to test out different techniques of discussing conflicts, etc.

It worked to get my partner in the mindset to work on things. There is more understanding and willingness on my partner's part to work on things.

My partner is open to working on the marriage, she understood why I had the affair and we felt positive about our marriage after the therapy.

What would you say to couples that are considering working with Couples Therapy Inc.?

Do it.

Washington DC Retreat - Angela Voegele

About Couples Therapy Inc.

Couples Therapy Inc. is a team of two dozen clinicians practicing in three countries devoted to couples therapy. We all have one or more training certificates in science-based couples therapy.

Ours is a lens that studies loving connections. We examine how bonds get broken and mended. We see people not as a collection of individuals, but as a network of families and friends.

Let us help you make the right choice for your relationship

Many of us are at home now, with more time to be with each other. And in these uncertain times, it's even more important that you support each other, interact together with greater warmth, and develop a deeper connected than ever before. 


You may feel like both of you are too distant, with too much baggage and damage done to save your marriage. But you owe it to yourselves and your family to try and improve your marriage one more time. It's now more easily online.

What can I really get out of self-guided relationship help?

Our courses have been created by the relationship experts at Couples Therapy Inc. to give you and your partner the support that you need.

Your schedule! Our courses and Ebooks can be done week by week or you can access them all at once. Either way you will have lifetime access to your materials.

Your style! Each course supports a variety of learning styles. Inside each you will find videos, articles, exercises, printables, and more. Our Ebooks all come with an audio book option as well as a variety of supportive materials.


We know that you will enjoy the resources that we offer and if you don't, your purchase is protected by our 100% Satisfaction-Guarantee. 

Where should you start?

Either option gives you access to our relationship experts.

Self-study is right for you if...

  • You want to focus on a single topic
  • You and your partner wish to move through a topic slowly and at your own pace
  • You want to get to know Couples Therapy Inc a little better before your weekend intensive
  • You've worked with us in the past and are looking to explore a subject in a little more depth
  • You are looking for an inexpensive way to start your relationship work and you want to get started immediately

Working with our professionals is right for you if...

  • You and your partner have had a significant incident or trauma
  • You want personalized relationship support
  • You want access to The Big Big Book
  • Your life feels a little chaotic right now and you are worried that you won't be able to schedule time on your own
  • You've tried a course, book, or webinar and you are ready to take a deeper dive into your relationship

100% Satisfaction Guarantee

You are fully protected by our 100% Satisfaction-Guarantee. If our online courses and eBooks don't deliver on our promise to you after 100 days, just let us know and we'll send you a prompt refund.


P.S. Are you a "scroller?" You came to the bottom of the page to get the bottom line, here it is: relationship help can be affordable, digestible, and just a click away. Follow the link below to find eBooks and courses on topics that affect couples like you created by the relationship experts at Couples Therapy Inc.