“dis·cern·ment coun-sel-ing:” noun – A marital approach increasing your ability to judge your marital options well.
Has your unhappy spouse said things like:
Yes, we know. We’ve heard it all before.
Want to learn a way to suggest getting help that won't 'corner' your reluctant or hopeless spouse?
You don’t have to be convinced that you want a divorce. There is no pressure to commit to any given path. Many people need the time, space, and an objective, supportive therapist to provide a place to thoughtfully consider all of their options.
It lasts from one, to a maximum of five counseling sessions, meeting both individually and as a couple during each session.
The goal is to reflect upon, and consider the best course of action for you:
If we’re successful in helping you, hey, you might want to see one of us, or see someone who lives closer to you, but either way, you’ll be on your way to figuring out how to keep it together, when it’s all falling apart.
The advice we will offer will work whether you divorce or not.
We’ve helped quite a few partners get a “walk-away spouse” to slow down and consider what they’re doing.
Discernment Counseling doesn’t require both people to agree to “work on the marriage.” In fact, it actually is designed for those who are actively doubtful that marital therapy will do any good.
You can run away from your spouse, but you can’t run away from yourself.
You’ll always bring that person into the next relationship.
And doing the same thing, but expecting different results is the definition of insanity.
There’s a lot to be learned about what makes a marriage really horrible, and how to change it around. Forty-two years of research, studying real couples with real problems.
Either way, you'll be put in the absolute best position to move forward with greater confidence.
They can’t get out of the marriage fast enough. They are in so much pain, they believe divorce is the absolute only solution. Michelle Weiner Davis calls women in this situation “walk-away wives.”
Check out the video below:
“Walk Away Wife?” with Michelle Weiner Davis.
Discernment Counseling can save thousands of dollars spent in marital counseling that is destined to fail.
Dr. McMahon, Nancy St. John, Angela Voegele, and Daniel Dashnaw has been trained by Dr. William Doherty. Drs. Ham and Gorman Max Yusim, Jack O'Leary and Tehilla Luttig are training now.
Nancy St. John and Angela Vogele, have been certified in this approach.
It's an elite group of professionals with advanced training.
They’re approved to conduct his work by the Couples on the Brink Project, the group that originated this groundbreaking approach.
Discernment Counseling helps the couple, individually, to decide if counseling is really the way to go. About 30% of couples who come into couples’ therapy are what we call “mixed agenda” couples where one person is “leaning out” of the marriage and the other is hopeful that with help, the marriage can work.
This “leaning out” spouse will sometimes “agree” to couples therapy, but often does so hardheartedly. Secretly, they may be utterly convinced that “nothing will help.” Sometimes this is because they are involved in an undisclosed, ongoing extra-marital affair, that they are not willing to reveal. At other times, they may be so depressed, they are unable to devote their full energies to the process.
Not surprisingly, marital therapy at that point, is of no help. This leaves the “leaning out” spouse even more convinced that divorce is the only viable option.
For this reason, Discernment Counseling can save thousands of dollars spent in marital counseling that is destined to fail.
We emphasize the importance of each partner recognizing their own contribution to the problems, and considering all of the possible solutions, not just marriage counseling. Even if you do decide to divorce, knowing what part you’ve played in your marital troubles will be very useful to you in your future relationships."
Discernment Counseling is considered successful when partners have clarity and confidence in their decision.Once you’ve gained clarity and direction, you can decide with confidence, on your next step. To learn more about discernment counseling, read this article in the
Wall Street Journal.
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