Supervisor: Nancy Knudsen, M.S., LMFT
M.A. Antioch University New England. Marriage and Family Therapy. (2016).
M.S. University of Massachusetts, Amherst. Labor Studies. (2008) Cum Laude
My co-worker and friend Nancy St John says that "working with couples from across the globe is a privilege."
I also love the diversity that comes with who we love and why. I want to understand each partner's outlook on life; their sexual orientation, values, ethnicity, culture, and religious and spiritual beliefs, particularly those clients who society tends to marginalize, or who may experience themselves as disenfranchised to some degree.
In stressful situations, people say that I voice the words that others are thinking, but are fearful or uncertain how to express. I'm pragmatic. I will use whatever tools are at hand to help my clients. I want to find out what is going to work for you, especially if it is different than what you imagine might be effective. I know marriages take work, and I'm not afraid to use examples from my relationship to demonstrate this.
I'm an entrepreneur, a husband, a father, a grandfather. I was also a foster parent to three troubled teens over the years.
My wife, Dr. Kathy McMahon, has been helping troubled couples over the last 30 years. I'm proud to join her, doing individual and husband-wife retreats.
I have a particular interest in the special challenges of business owners in their marriages. I started, developed, and grew a business over 12 years, so I know from personal experience that entrepreneurs are primarily reliant on the ecology of their mind and emotions.
And men can have a particularly hard time expressing emotions or asking for help. That is why when trouble strikes, I know that timely support for entrepreneurs is crucial in making a difference.
I've always been interested in the dynamics of working life. I have both an undergraduate and graduate degree in Labor Studies from the University of Massachusetts at Amherst. I graduated Cum Laude in 2008.
Completing a Masters Program in Marriage and Family Therapy program at Antioch New England Graduate School was a continuation of that interest. Sigmund Freud once said that the challenge in life is balancing love and work. I've becoming an active student studying both.
"I was not sure that my wife could be real with me or herself.
After 37 years and two marriages, I was able to be heard! I also learned how I added to our problems with the way I communicated. I learned how to communicate in a positive way. I feel like a new person, partner, friend and husband. I feel that we will be happy with each other and get closer to each other again. Our marriage will start to grow as we implement what we learned!
I was heard which made me look at our marriage in a totally different and positive way. I learned that we had a great marriage but had to learn to communicate in a much better way."
I have a passion for couples therapy, and I'm eclectic theoretically.I've completed Levels I, II, and III of the Gottman Method Couples Therapy and an Externship in Emotionally Focused Couples Therapy. I've also recently completed the advanced EFT Core Skills training.
I've training in Discernment Counseling and completed a year-long internship working with distressed couples using the Bader-Pearson Developmental Model. This is in addition to my work at Couples Therapy Inc.
In fact, I've "officially" completed over 1000 hours helping couples over the last two years for my training, although unofficially I have done much more.
In 2013, I attended the Gottman/Johnson Summit in Seattle. I've also completed training with Dan Wile, Ph.D., a clinician John Gottman calls: "the greatest living marital therapist."
I see individuals and couples at Couples Therapy Inc., under the supervision of Nancy Knudsen, M.S., LMFT. Nancy is the former President of The Massachusetts Association of Marriage and Family Therapy, and an Approved Supervisor for Emotionally Focused Couples Therapy.
I also focus on working with couples suffering the impacts of the "pervasive traumas" of life: childhood sexual abuse, car accidents, physical and domestic violence, family alcoholism, serious illness, a sudden death of a loved one, sudden job loss...etc. I am a member of the International Society for Traumatic Stress Studies.
I just wanted to thank you for providing me with the opportunity to work with Daniel Dashnaw. It has been a wonderful experience for me and a true source of joy during a very difficult time in my life. He is a man of wisdom and I truly enjoyed the learning adventure he so skillfully crafted with me. I am going to miss our interesting discussions, but his knowledge and insight will follow me for the rest of my life.- Recent Individual Client
I believe that the example of intimate relationships you display to your children will echo through time, resonating far into the future. You are right now, every day, interaction by interaction, modeling and shaping the pattern of how your family loves, or struggles to love, their intimate partners for generations to come. Your joy or misery will echo through time.
I look forward to working with you.
However difficult this past year has been for my husband and I, one thing is for certain - it would have been much more difficult if we did not have your support.While it wasn't until later in life you chose this path, I am grateful that you did! From our very first encounter I could tell you were genuine, kind, and best of all, down-right blunt! Those qualities are just what I needed to help guide me down the path of self-reflection....Thank you for giving us a safe place to talk, cry, laugh and in my case, shut down. Our time spent with you has had a tremendous impact on our relationship and has helped us both take the time to reflect on what we need to focus on going forward.Your support and guidance this past year will have a lasting impact on me throughout my life...I believe in my heart you were put on this earth to help people and I am genuinely grateful I was among those people. Words cannot express how thankful I am for everything.- Recent Couples Therapy Participant
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