If you aren't getting along with the person who once meant the world to you, there is startling new information you need to know.
A way of intervening that stops your fast-moving train into greater marital misery or divorce.
You'll exit the 'divorce super-highway.'
Imagine no more endless bickering or cold-shoulder bedtimes.
Or vacations and romantic evenings that end in disaster.
Don't make the same mistake I did, and let a perfectly good marriage go down the drain.
"My own marital failure drove me to invest 20 years of study, and learn 5 different models of couples therapy. The results?"
Dr. Kathy McMahon is the Founder and President of Couples Therapy Inc. A clinical psychologist, she is one of a handful of Certified Gottman Couples Therapists on the planet who is also an AASECT Board-certified Sex Therapist. She is a Clinical Fellow of the American Association of Marriage and Family Therapists, and has also trained in both Emotionally-focused Couples Therapy and The Developmental Model of Couples Therapy.
Do you harbor misguided notions about love and marriage? Most couples do. Even many THERAPISTS do. I know I did when my own marriage had problems...
As a clinical psychologist I worked with couples, but these very misguided notions not only limited my impact as a couples therapist, they destroyed my own marriage.
If you think psychologists have just as many problems as the average person... you'd be right.
I've had my share.
Ask my ex-husband.
I divorced a perfectly nice guy and the father of my child. Oh, I had my reasons. And most of them were a bunch of "pie in the sky" ideas I got from theories I learned while in graduate school. They were wrong-headed notions about why marriages fail and how to fix them.
There are still plenty of these myths out there.
Like how about THIS MYTH:
"The severity of your problems predicts the likelihood of divorce."
Nope. Wrong. False.
Back then, I did what most people do, "I used my health insurance," and went to a counselor.
But instead of getting help, those weekly 45-minute sessions left me angrier, more hopeless, and totally, totally misunderstood. And we left each session more upset than when we arrived!
If you've see a therapist for your troubled marriage, you were probably told to practice “good communication skills."
I thought that's all I was doing...yak, yak, yakking without impacting!
Like most women facing divorce, it only took a few sessions before I became totally disillusioned.
I thought we were 'broken.'
I went through a painful divorce.
It cost me big time, not only economically, but emotionally, too, and everything got a lot more complicated. Two houses. Two mortgages. A daughter running between families. Two different sets of rules.
Divorce is one of the most stressful events in an adult's life, according to research. Even worse on children, despite the media hype.
“Divorce is costly, not just financially, but emotionally too. It costs your kids, as well as your future security. Preventing it is well worth the effort..."
Later on, I remarried a “completely different guy.” And guess what?
These same problems reappeared!
I thought to myself: “How could I be so unlucky?”
But it wasn't a matter of "luck" at all.
I was the same person...
...with the same problematic way of relating to my intimate partner.
I could divorce my ex- but not "myself."
As Aimee Mann says: "It's not going to stop 'til you wise up..."
And you know what? She's right.
Leaving a marriage, when you don't know what you're doing wrong (...or just blaming your spouse..) means it's not going to stop for you, either.
Unless you figure out what you're doing wrong in your marriage and fix it, you're doomed to repeat it.
Don't give up! Wise up!
(Let one of our Master Trainers teach you how to become a "Master of Marriage" too!)
"This was our first time in couples therapy. We were hesitant because we thought that it would be a "bash the husband" session.
We were wrong.
Since our work with Couples Therapy Inc. we are talking again and connecting daily about the little things. Three benefits that we have experienced; communication, love life, and addressing the issues we both had.
Marisa was fantastic!
She was very bi-partisan and listened to both of our issues. She gave great suggestions on how we can improve our marriage. Marisa is a great therapist and really helped both of us get through this rough patch.
We are very, very grateful."
“My work in Houston conducting Couples Retreats has taught me one thing..." Houston couples can get faster results over a weekend... sometimes even BETTER results, than in weekly couples counseling."
Like a diamond, your marriage is the hardest “jewel” in the rocky world of relationships. But with a magnifying glass, precision skill, the jeweler's tap brings out the luster. Many marriage are rough stones with hidden brilliance. Just waiting to shine.
Careful assessment is our "magnifying glass." "The BIG BIG Book" (which included a Gottman Assessment and a lot more...) allows us take a closer look at you as an individual in your marriage. It's an online tool. Completing it out will have a huge impact on you, too. Our couples tell us it was the start of their marriage retreat therapy.
This online assessment is scored, and your words are carefully read and analyzed, side-by-side with your partner's tome. We do this before we even meet.
When you arrive at this couples retreat, we'll explore your early relationship history, "The Story of Us," and with your therapist, you'll work collaboratively, constructing your most critical relationship goals during our time together.
With the help of The BIG BIG Book, you'll be asked finely-tuned questions about your marital issues.
Instead of seemingly endless weekly "45-minute sessions," you'll spend a solitary weekend--just the two of you...alone. Relaxed. Away from the hassles of your everyday lives.
A stand-alone Marriage Retreat weekend is a lot to absorb over a short amount of time. You'll appreciate the availability of 1/2 - full day follow-up sessions (specially priced separately). Voiced your hopes and dreams? Now solidify your learning as you practice in day-to-day life.
And yet, this is challenging and specialized work. Easy to get wrong.
And then your whole world blows up...
Have you tried marriage counseling in the past and failed? Do you believe that your marriage is severely, and hopelessly damaged? Your overly-confident and poorly-trained therapist might be to blame.
In contrast, our therapist are some of the most highly trained couples therapists available today.All have at least two levels of formal, evidence-based certificate in couples therapy. Most have advanced training. Many have doctoral degrees.
You entrust us with your marriage and family.
And we take that responsibility seriously.
What you people do truly matters.
Marriage counseling and therapy is so TABOO --- and it should not be. It horrified me to know that no one talks openly about this with friends and family --- like you must be some freak of nature if you have marriage problems you can't work through on your own. I have zero shame in saying that we needed help badly --- and because of being willing to get help before it was too late we are both going to be able to have personal satisfaction and happiness, joy, love, and a spirit that this is my life --- I only have one life --- I am not going to sit back and waste it!!
"Thank you so much Marisa!! I can’t stop taking about how good our session was with you!! It’s already made a big difference!! Thanks again for your great advice and suggestions! I was really dreading it, but came out feeling much better not only with my marriage, but about myself.
Thanks so much Marisa! It was truly a great experience! Thank you for all your suggestions and helping us “reconnect” with each other. It’s nice to know we are “normal” and hearing good things goes a long way!
Being a “words of affirmation” guy, believe me, it goes A LONG WAY!!!!
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"We were looking to improve on conflict resolution and to improve our communication skills on subjects where there is disagreement.
Marisa was very professional, very approachable and disarming. We immediately felt at ease and comfortable talking to her. I really can't think of a criticism of her.
What changes resulted in your marriage from the work you did?
It was a powerful weekend - that we both enjoyed. We both came away with a fresh perspective on each other. We have a deeper understanding of why each of us reacts the way we do on certain issues. I believe we will have a stronger relationship due to the weekend and be better at resolving conflicts without anger. We were very pleased.
We left with: 1) better perspective on each other's positions and why we are like we are on certain topics 2) better communication techniques on areas of disagreement. 3) we learned how damaging anger can be and how to avoid it.
For us - it was exactly what we needed. it was an intense, weekend, but very very helpful. I thought the time allowed was great - the one on one sessions were very good and beneficial. Marisa was really good - we identified with her. She is very affirming, warm and sincere. the whole weekend exceeded our expectations.
Absolutely would recommend.
Thank you so much for all that you offered us. This has been such a great experience!!! I have implemented your ideas and it has been a blessing to us and fun too. I realized how much I had a guard up and how it was effecting both of us.
Thanks again, you are an angel!
There are less expensive alternatives...
Don't ignore your relationship problems and hope they go away.
Contact our Operations Manager, at [email protected] Therapy Inc.
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Send us three that would work for you and we'll do our best to accommodate you.
For guidance, contact our Intake Coordinator, Cindy, at 844-926-8753 extension 3.
Evidence- and Science-based couples therapy has been demonstrated to be effective with 75% - 90% of all couples completing treatment.
Check with your insurance provider. Most do not. Flexible Spending Account (FSA) likely will. See your benefits administrator at your place of employment.
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