When the average person thinks about Christian marriage counseling, they often think of a church pastor. Many couples wanting help with their troubled marriages are increasingly turning to Christian Marriage Retreats to receive intensive help. The leader of these retreats may or may not be a pastor.
84% of pastors rank marital problems as among the top five problems they address. However, most American seminaries don't provide coursework in marital counseling. They focus instead on the many educational requirements of a Master of Divinity (M.Div.) to become an ordained minister. Many courses that are offered in Divinity schools are only survey courses.
Without focused coursework in marital counseling, your pastor may struggle to help you with your marital problems.
In contrast, according to one report, Christian counselors are about twice as likely to have an advanced degree in counseling as pastors (2). Pastoral counselors focus on the truth of God’s Word, presumably as their particular denomination sees it.
At Couples Therapy Inc. we don't believe you have to choose between secular, science-based counseling and Christian Marriage Counseling. All three of our Christian Counselors are either Ministers with a vast amount of experience and/ or have advanced training in Christian theological approaches as well as advanced science-based education in helping couples.
These privately held retreats are one-couple per counselor for the entire weekend. The focus is to bring back the love, devotion, passion, and intentionality of your marriage and prevent divorce. These retreats are held all over the USA. Christian focused retreats are offered in the Mountain State of Montana (Missoula) and in the Midwest in Kansas City and in the South in South Carolina (Charleston).
Rev. Jim Ramsey has been blending principled guidance using the highest levels of training provided by the respected Gottman Institute.
Jim Ramsey's training allows him to help the couple identify their own religious truth as seen through their own eyes. He helps them understand the impact of marital strife in their own lives and in the lives of their families.
Do you have irreconcilable differences? These don't have to result in painful arguments, according to Rev. Ramsey. You can empathize and support each other, even when you don't see eye to eye. You don't have to persuade your partner to think and act as you do. Nor do you have to prove that you are right and they are wrong. You can learn to see things through each other's perspective and learn valuable lessons from each other.
However, Jim's work is also informed by the latest thinking in neuroscience as one of the rare certified Gottman Method Couples Therapists worldwide.
Some counselors can have strong religious beliefs. Others have excellent therapeutic training. Jim's training enables him to weave these two threads together. He offers exceptional couples therapy to all couples, regardless of religion.
However, he can also help couples with a strong Christian faith integrate their religious tradition within their marital lives. He's well-equipped to do just that.
A highly-trained couples therapist who is able to integrate the biblical teachings of Jesus Christ.
"Sex is depicted as exciting outside outside of marriage and boring or non-existent within." Dr. Doug Burford
Dr. Doug Burford works with couples who have engaged in practices that were accepted in popular media but turned out to be damaging to relationships and left wounds. He believes these wounds can be healed, and the truth behind the joys of married intimacy discovered or restored.
A healthy marriage is also about valuing instead of invalidating the ways we are different. We can have different ideas about our shared lives and still help each other be our best selves.
Dr. Burford is an ordained minister through the Christian and Missionary Alliance at Colorado Springs, Colorado and obtained a Master of Divinity from Princeton Theological Seminary, Princeton, NJ.
He held three Presbyterian pastorates in very different settings, adding breadth to his experience.
Christian Marriage Retreats through Couples Therapy Inc. combine almost 6 months of weekly sessions, into one intensive retreat.
Beginning traditionally on Friday nights for two hours, these retreats continue from 9:30 am - 4:30 pm on Saturday and Sunday.
Christian Marriage Retreats offer the opportunity to be with someone who is knowledgeable about biblical teachings, as well as highly trained in the neuroscience of couples therapy.
You no longer have to choose.
Do you value a Christian perspective?
Were you looking for Christian Marriage Retreats held by expert professionals?
Pick from the week-ends Jim Ramsey has currently available in his Missoula Montana office. Doug Burford holds his retreats in Overland Park, Kansas near Kansas City, Missouri. We also have a marriage and family therapists, Kent MacEachern, who is trained in biblical counseling and has advanced training in Couples Therapy working from his office in Charleston, South Carolina.
LEARN MORE about the format of these Christian Marriage Retreats.
1. Everett Worthington Jr. and Jennifer Ripley, “Christian Marriage and Marital Counseling,” Ch. 20 in Timothy Clinton and George Ohlschlager, eds., Competent Christian Counseling, Volume One: Foundations and Practice of Compassionate Soul Care. WaterBrook Press, 2002. P. 459.
2. Joshua Hook, The Effectiveness of Religiously Tailored Couple Counseling. 2009. Retrieved from vcu.edu. on April 26, 2012. P. 51.