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How Often Do Couples Fight?

Do You Fight More Often than the Average Couple? It’s not unusual for couples to ask us during their assessment...” do we fight more than we should?… What’s normal?… How often

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Marital Car Fights…and 5 Solid Ways to Prevent Them

Why Do So Many Couples Have Car Fights? Do you ever wonder why you and your partner have so many car fights? Because human beings are so adaptable, we’ve accepted that moving down the road at a high

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The Neuroscience of Perpetual Marital Problems

Personal Priorities, Preferences, and Perpetual Marital Problems One of the outstanding contributions of neuroscience and Gottman’s research is the notion of “perpetual” vs.”solvable

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Emotional Flooding, Externalization, and the Art of the Time Out

This article is part of the Why Couples Fight Series In order to stop fighting with your partner, there are a few things to consider.  While marital conflict is unavoidable, emotional flooding, toxic

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Why Do We Fight in Relationships?

This article is part of the Why Couples Fight Series Constant Fighting in a Relationship Why is conflict, (which is inescapable in our most intimate friendships) so inherently fraught with peril? Why

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Chronic Illness and Marriage Problems

Chronic Illness and Marriage Problems Chronic illness and marriage problems are increasingly on the radar of medical researchers. It’s an axiom of marital research that happily married couples (particularly

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The 1 Conflict Resolution Skill in Marriage Skill Only One of You Needs to Have

What is the Critical Conflict Resolution Skill in Marriage? New research confirms something we sort of already knew. Conflict resolution skill in marriage is essential for success. But because of new research,

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The Health Consequences of Constant Bickering in Marriage

Constant Bickering in Marriage Brings New Meaning to “I’m Sick of You” Researchers at Ohio State University, in the US, found that spouses who engage in escalated, constant bickering

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8 Essential Guidelines to Marriage Arguments

This article is part of the Why Couples Fight Series 8 Approaches to Marital Arguments Fair Fighting in marriage is an essential skill. In this post, I’d like to spell out 8 essential guidelines

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13 Fair Fighting Rules in Marriage

This article is part of the Why Couples Fight Series Fair Fighting Rules for Fighting? Isn’t All Fighting Bad? 13 Rules Any discussion about fair fighting rules in marriage first has to deal with

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