Category Archives for Infidelity / Affairs

Narcissism and Infidelity

Narcissism and infidelity are twins separated at birth. It was back in the 80’s when researchers were developing the notion of Narcissistic Personality Disorder. Men always scored higher on narcissism…until

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Machiavelli, Mate Poaching and Permissive Environments

Mate Poachers abound. Infidelity research has expanded to the thankless task of deconstructing hussies and home wreckers. We now suspect that the many workplace mate poachers are high on the Dark Triad

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Why Married Men Cheat

So You Want to Know Why Married Men Cheat? When I researched this question, I discovered lots of useless opinions and dubious surveys. I thought our readers might want to learn what some new higher quality,

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The Grief of the Involved Partner

Ending your Affair…the Grief of the Involved Partner The grief of the “unfaithful” Involved Partner is a very touchy subject in couples therapy. In My last post, I discussed the problem

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Thought-Stopping for Hurt Partners

The Perils of Rumination In an earlier post, I have discussed the idea that obsession and rumination by a hurt partner are the first major stumbling blocks to affair recovery.  In order for Hurt Partners

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Facebook Affairs

Facebook Affairs Facebook Affairs are becoming a very hot topic in social science research. A new study by researchers at Indiana University found that Facebook users who are in ostensibly “committed”

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How Do You Define Infidelity?

Define Infidelity? Doesn’t Everyone Know What It Is? How can we define infidelity? Is it just what we decide to do or not do? Or is there a more fundamental issue at stake? Porn. Sexting. Emotional

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Dealing With Infidelity…The Twin Tasks of Affair Recovery

Dealing With Infidelity By Undertaking the Twin Tasks of Affair Recovery   When it comes to dealing with infidelity, I think Gottman said it best: “Atonement cannot occur if the cheater insists

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3 Strategies for Surviving Infidelity

Surviving Infidelity Once infidelity is out in the open, couples typically display one of three distinct strategies for surviving infidelity. One of the reasons that affair recovery is such a common presenting

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Why Do Women Cheat?

 Why Do Women Cheat? Why do women cheat? I know someone who has an answer. Helen Fisher is an evolutionary anthropologist at Rutgers University. While not a couples therapist, Helen is an intriguing

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