Category Archives for How to Save a Marriage

When Does Couples Therapy Fail?

When Does Couples Therapy Fail? When does couples therapy fail? What are the fluttering red flags that tell us there is trouble ahead? Couples therapy can help you communicate with skill, understand and

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Couples Counseling…5 Ways You’ll Know You’re Ready to Start

Are You Ready to Start Couples Counseling? Thinking about couples counseling? When intimate bonds fray, it’s typical for couples to tough it out without help for years. Only about 19% of distressed

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Love at First Fight

Love and Repair What do I mean by “Love at First Fight?” Learning to fight well and repair with skill is a fundamental undertaking in science-based couples therapy. When Gottman Institute researchers

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Money Can Buy Happiness!

Can Money Buy Happiness? Money can buy happiness. Let me say that again… Money Can Buy Happiness. Wait a minute. Everyone knows that money can’t buy happiness, and research in the late 1970’s

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Love and Poker

I came across this interesting post by Robert Dewberry at his blog, the Poker Monk.  Robert is a fascinating young man on the threshold of becoming a professional poker player. As a Couples Therapist,

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Dr. Wolfe Tells Us….What Best Predicts Marital Satisfaction?

What Predicts Marital Satisfaction? In a previous post, I discussed how the question of “what predicts marital satisfaction?” has been carefully researched and analyzed. One of the most comprehensive

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Marital Fight Autopsy…EFT Model

Emotionally-Focused Therapy and the Marital Fight Autopsy When it comes to marital fight dissection, evidence-based Emotionally-Focused Therapy (EFT) is by far the most relational model. At the risk of

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Marital Fight Autopsy…Developmental Model

The Developmental Model and the Marital Fight Autopsy In my internship, I studied a model of Couples Therapy called the Developmental Model. This model was developed during the 1980’s by husband

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Marital Fight Autopsy… Gottman Model

Marital Fight… Autopsy? Yes, I mean Autopsy. Let’s assume Dick and Jane had a marital fight which started on February 13th at 1:06 pm. There was the usual Groundhog Day back and forth that

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Tough Times Never Last… But Tough Couples Do!

You are Married for BETTER or Worse. Not BITTER and Worse. Tough Couples know that every marriage has difficult times. They see these times as an invitation for their best selves to show up. Bitter or

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