Category Archives for How to Help Couples

How to Make a Marriage Work

So you want to know how to make a marriage work. First, we need to establish goals and collaborate on mutual goals. That is why Gottman’s emphasis on careful clinical assessment has been so significant.

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Emotionally Unavailable Men…the Science

The Problem of Emotionally Unavailable Men What is the science behind emotionally unavailable men?  Some thought leaders have endorsed the idea that gender is only a social construct. Supporters of this

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Getting Remarried To Your Ex

Harold Holland and Lillian Barnes are getting marry (again) in two weeks. Their first marriage was 50 years ago. It's a love story that's been picked up all over the world. Here is a marriage counselor's

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How To Feel Understood

Why Don’t I feel Understood? One thing I have come to look upon as almost universal is that when a person realizes he has been deeply heard, there is a moistness in his eyes. I think in some real

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Ten Relationship Issues

A New Way to Look At Relationship Issues I’m always interested in new ways to look at relationship Issues. ACT has been around as an individual mode of therapy for a while. Now Acceptance and Commitment

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Infidelity Impacts Your Legacy and Echoes Through Time

Infidelity impacts your legacy and echoes through time. New research tells us that a tendency toward infidelity runs in families. When children of Infidelity are aware of parental infidelity, they are

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In Praise of Integrated Behavioral Couples Therapy

The ICBT Model is Evidence-Based Integrative Behavioral Couple Therapy (IBCT) was a promising approach to couple therapy that was developed by the late Neil S. Jacobson, who was a clinical psychologist,

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The Meaning of “We-ness”

What is we-ness? Robert Taibbi, in his important book, Doing couples therapy: Craft and creativity in work with intimate partners describes a shift in consciousness from an individual awareness of what

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What a Rabbi in WWII Japan Can Teach Us About Couples Therapy

Rabbi Kalisch and Rabbi Shatzkes had a serious dilemma. The Nazis were pressing their allies for a global “final solution” to the Jewish problem. Six months earlier, Japan had participated

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How To Fall In Love With a Perfect Stranger in 45 Minutes

Love with a Perfect Stranger Is it possible to fall in love with a perfect stranger in 45 minutes? Apparently so. Husband and wife psychologists, Arthur and Elaine Aron are experts who investigate close

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