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How Nagging Can Kill You

This article is part of the Why Couples Fight Series How Nagging Can Kill You For most husbands, enduring a nagging wife can be quite aggravating. However, new research from Europe tells us that being

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The Problem with Being Defensive

This article is part of the Why Couples Fight Series Defensiveness is marriage one of the most pervasive of Gottman’s four horsemen of the apocalypse. The problem with being defensive is that when

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How to Bicker with Skill

How To Bicker With Skill Revised 1/6/20 We’ve lost the art of bickering. What does bickering mean? Do you know how to bicker with skill? With all this science-based couples therapy floating around,

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Kitchen Sinking and Kitchen Thinking

Kitchen Sinking…The Problem of Old Resentments Revised 12/22/19 Kitchen Sinking is a combative strategy where you throw all the complaints you have about your partner in breathless run-on sentences,

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Relationship Repair in 6 Steps

This article is part of our Why Couples Fight Series How to Repair Your Relationship Repair your relationship by re-building trust. Day by day, interaction by interaction. Devoting the time to get back

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Conflict Avoidant Couples, Marital Complaints and Disco Balls

Can Marital Complaints Lead to Intimacy? revised 12/22/19 Marital complaints are a frequent topic in Gottman couples therapy. How to make them, what they mean, etc., etc. In a recent post, I described

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Gottman Repair Attempts: Love Made Easy

This article is part of the Why Couples Fight SeriesEffective Gottman Repair Attempts: Love Made Easy It's a skill to learn to fight well and repair relationship conflict before they spiral

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Empathy, Sympathy, and Marital Conflict

Why Sympathy Doesn’t Work… but Empathy in Marriage Does. Revised 1/2/20 When our spouse is pleased with us… happy…connected then empathy in marriage is a breeze. But particularly

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The Art of the Apology

This article is part of the Why Couples Fight Series What is the art of the apology?Does science offer any bedrock of data about what constitutes an effective apology between intimate partners?"Love

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How Do You Handle an Angry Man?

Updated 8/12/2018 The Angry Man in the 1960’s…Catharsis or Crapola? What do we know about the fundamentally decent but angry man? It all started when it was Mod to be Mad. If I wanted to be

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