Hi, I'm Dr K. Our couples counselors and doctoral psychologists provide science-based help for troubled marriages. A single weekend can teach you essential skills that can change around your relationship. If you are looking for a couples therapy retreat New England, read about our Team.
Not all "retreats" are the same! Some teach you general information in large groups. Others focus on religious principles. Some are held in exotic places led by people with no credentials as all! And almost none do assessment before you come. They only learn about you while you're there!
If you're asking yourself: "Could we work again with the right therapist?" the answer is a resounding "YES!"
One wife agreed to come to the Marital Retreat only after I promised not to 'push her into staying' in her marriage. They had been to over 4 counselors in the past 18 years, and none of them had helped.
Family and friends told them they just weren't "suited for each other." (...of course HIS friends sided with him, and HER friends sided with her...)
But everyone agreed: "You two should divorce!" (...except their kids...)
They were in Divorce Mediation when they arrived. I told her "You should really know how to stand up to him, or you probably shouldn't be in mediation." So her goal for the marriage retreat was to learn to stand up to a man who she described as "a big bully."
In their State of the Union Assessment they told me their early love story. It was full of trials and tribulation, like most of our couples. But it also was full of passion! These two were survivors, personally, and as a couple. Horrors of ex's, financial setbacks, kids' problems, you name it...and through it all, they had stayed together...until now.
Their previous therapists would listen and try to give them advice. But no one had taught them how to act differently or why: "Here's what you are doing, and if you keep doing it, the science says that it will be hard to exit this divorce highway. Let's work on how to change things around..."
"Looking back, do you wish you and your ex-spouse had tried harder to work through your differences?"
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Dr. Kathy McMahon (Dr. K) is the President of Couples Therapy Inc. She is a board-certified sex therapist, a Fellow of the American Association of Marriage and Family Therapists, and a Gottman-certified couples therapist. She also has advanced training in Emotionally-focused couples therapy and the Developmental Model of couples therapy.
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Dr. Maryanna Ham is a Fellow in the American Psychological Association. This is a distinction bestowed for outstanding lifetime achievement in the field. Her professional books and articles are required reading in the field of Marriage & Family Therapy. She has Gottman Training and is a Master Therapist with Couples Therapy inc.
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Dr. Patricia Gorman is a published scholar and a prior Director of two Marriage and Family Therapy Programs. She currently serves as an Executive Board member for the Massachusetts Association for Marriage and Family Therapy. She has Gottman Training and advanced training in Emotionally Focused Couples Therapy.
Our hesitation about starting couples therapy with Couples Therapy Inc. was primarily the cost. And that we would invest all the time and money in the therapy and it wouldn’t “work”.
I feel like our work with Couples Therapy Inc. turned us around. I think we have understanding, tools, etc we didn’t have before. I think we can move forward positively.
Dr. Gorman was very professional. That was good.
How would you describe your relationship before you called Couples Therapy Inc.? What were the core issues you wanted to improve?
I was hesitant about spending a substantial amount of money with no results. However, our relationship was almost over. We had poor communication and high-stress levels.
This was more of a scientific approach. Dr. K was very neutral and explained things very well. It's only been a week but our relationship has definitely improved. We have better communication and understanding each other better and the stress level between us has also decreased.
I had no hope before going to see Kathy. Now I know we've got a chance to mend our relationship.
I would definitely recommend Couples Therapy Inc.
How would you describe your relationship before you called Couples Therapy Inc.?
We were in trouble. We weren't communicating that effectively. We both needed to reflect on our method of dealing with difficult topics, understand how our partner responds to our style and learn tools to get the most effective means of dialogue going. We were concerned that the therapist would take sides or use theoretical concepts that wouldn't work in practice. Instead, we learned a lot more about each other, how to communicate more effectively, and tools to avoid slipping into old destructive habits. What we left with:
--Understanding your partner's response to stress - tough topics
--Understanding how to communicate effectively given these long-held response mechanisms, and
--Leaving with a feeling of optimism for our future IF we continue the hard work done over the intensive weekend.
I liked all aspects of Dr. Gorman's approach to us individually and as a couple. Her sense of humour and balanced approach in listening and guiding were exactly what we needed. She is a gem.
Bottom line: The intensive approach, although difficult and exhausting, is the best way to get on track. I can't imagine trying to do what we did over several weeks of one hour sessions.
We had become very distant from each other, very little communication or intimacy. We were at a decision point of whether to stay together or separate.
What hesitation did you have about starting couples therapy with us?
Expense, fear of the unknown. Fear of what might happen.
What changes resulted in your marriage/relationship from your work with Couples Therapy Inc.?
Mutual understanding and concern for my husband's concrete communication tools, education on communication styles and practice. Open communication about sex and intimacy.
Had you considered or tried couples therapy before? If so, how successful or unsuccessfully was it?
Yes, for many years and was unsuccessful at getting to the root of the problem.
What specific qualities did you like most and least about working with this therapist?
Dr. Kathy McMahon was very personable and genuinely interested and caring. She provided education in communication skills and allowed us to practice what we learned. I loved that she shared examples and stories to illustrate a point. She was flexible and worked with us on whatever topic came up in the exercises and made it easier to talk about difficult subjects.
Would you recommend your couples therapist and Couples Therapy Inc? If so, why? If not, why not?
Yes, definitely. It was not only "talk therapy" but educational, with proven methods and educational materials with lots of practice and support in those techniques. I developed a new understanding of my husband and his point of view. Understanding the role that trauma has played in my life and in my relationships has helped him to understand this too. This retreat has opened the door to open and honest communication for us.
Using my husband's words, this weekend helped us more than 3 years of couples therapy did! We were amazed at what was accomplished in such a short time. We are so thankful that we took the leap and did this, it helped us immensely. We have renewed sense of understanding, care and love for each other that would not have been possible otherwise. Thank you Dr. K!
We had done couples therapy several times with varying degrees of success. We have communication and trust issues, particularly my partner’s willingness to commit.
Maryanna Ham is affable, very skilled and knows how to push into the deep water. Now, there’s more honesty about where we are, more risk-taking to say what we feel/need/want.
Our marriage was in dire straights. We had trust and communications problems. We had tried couples therapy before, but very successfully. And I was concerned that my wife would not be an active participant...
However, vital issues were cleared up. We have better communication and more trust.
Dr. Gorman was our couples therapist. She asked pertinent and vital questions. Was able to direct the sessions in the right direction for constructive results. We got very positive results. Our intensive prevented a divorce, increased communication, and we're able to enjoy each other again.
I would recommend it. It takes a lot of work but it is worth it in spades.
Dr. Gorman, I wanted to thank you again for this past weekend. I was anxious going into the weekend knowing it would be a difficult one, and it was. But I don't think we could have selected a better therapist. You put me at ease from the first evening we were together. I appreciated how thorough you were going through our Big Big Book. I am amazed at how many times you referenced something we said or a family member we talked about by name.
Your genuine interest/concern for us came through very clearly to me. It made me feel very comfortable and able to express the things I haven't been able to previously. I learned a lot about myself and how I chose the path I did (even though sub-consciously in many ways).
I am also grateful for the tools you gave us to help communicate more effectively. I do believe that my partner and I have both tried really hard and we are both good people. Although he and I are still struggling with how to act around one another, I am hopeful we will work together to improve that.
Our departure on Sunday from your office felt very sudden (although I knew our time was winding down). We were also so emotionally drained at that point, I didn't feel I gave you a proper goodbye. I really want you to know how much I appreciate everything you did for us.
My husband and I both agreed on our ride home (regardless of the outcome of our relationship/marriage) that we were glad we went.
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These retreats, run by expert psychologists and couples counselors, target particular couples:
We usually need 3-6 weeks lead time to allow you time to complete your BIG BIG Book. Contact us for "emergency" retreats.
You both need to complete your own version of The BIG BIG Book, and make travel and lodging accommodations (we'll send you our favorites...) The Berkshires is a vacation destination, so we encourage you to book early.
Absolutely. Call or email our office to schedule a mutually convenient time.
Not likely. Few insurance companies pay for couples therapy. However, Flexible Savings Accounts (FSA's) may. Ask your Accountant or Compensation and Benefits Administrator if you qualify for FSA's.
You can fly into West Hartford, Albany, or Boston. We're also about a 4.5 hour drive from Manhattan.
You can call Daniel at 212-328-1162 (New York or International Callers) or Toll Free: 844-926-8753, extension 2.
P.S. These retreats are in high demand and offered on a first come, first reserved basis. We can't hold your retreat without payment.
Don't put it off.