Brief Agenda for the Marriage Retreat

This two- and one-half day clinical marriage retreat is for all couples who are invested in making their relationship better.

It provides the time to work in specific areas that are problematic for the both of you, and develop and refine skills for new and more productive ways of relating.

In evidence-based couples therapy retreats, we bring Gottman's 40 years of research alive in our work with troubled relationships.  We work to improve the most challenging of relationship problems.

It's equivalent to six months of weekly sessions.

Whether you’re recovering from an affair, have day-long fights, or are just cold and distant, you can benefit from this Couples Retreat.

Take the time to reconnect.

Friday Evening - Day 1

  • Check into your room. Rest up for your late afternoon or evening marriage retreat.
  • Begin your personalized retreat. Check with Couples Therapist for starting time. (2 hour session)

Clinical Focus: Your goals and an overview of your relationship using the Oral History Interview.

Saturday Morning - Day 2.

  • Morning Check In.
  • Videotape of Communication Patterns.
  • Individual Meetings

Starting the second day, you will have already been introduced to following concepts, and have started to formulate answer to the following elements:

  • Relationship strengths.
  • Areas to focus on during the Couples Retreat.
  • Your insights and comments.
  • Clinical work begins.

Saturday Afternoon - Feedback Session

In this session you'll learn:

  • Your relationship’s problematic Relational Dynamics.
  • A basic understanding of the over 40 years of research findings with over 3,000 couples.
  • How it relates to you.
  • We'll discuss tomorrow’s clinical goals.

Sunday - Day 3.

Your personalized therapy continues.

Starting the third day, you will begin to formulate answers to the following questions:

  • What behaviors do we exhibit that have been shown to cause marital dissolution? How do we change these destructive patterns?
  • What are our specific relationship strengths and vulnerabilities?
  • What has happened in our lives that have created problems for us?
  • What is the “demon dance” both of us engage in, despite our best intentions?
  • How do we rebuild our friendship if we’ve grown distant and lonely? What are the “hinges” that swing the big doors that cause feelings of isolation and loneliness?
  • How can we make our fighting less heated and more productive?
  • How good are we at soothing ourselves and each other? Why is that a worthy goal?
  • To what extent do we each have a “chip on our shoulder” that contributes to our problems? How is this like a light switch?
  • What is the proper ratio of “salt” (positive interactions) to “pepper” (negative interactions) in happy couples?
  • How are the behaviors of men and women in a relationship different? What specific skills do women and men each need to develop? How are these different? 
  • How to we develop hopefulness when we're had these troubles for so long?

We hold our Couples Retreat in many attractive locations: Three in Massachusetts, and in Washington DC / Maryland; Atlanta, Georgia; Sarasota & Miami, Florida; Old San Juan, Puerto Rico; Oahu, Hawaii; Austin & Houston, Texas; Las Vegas, Nevada; Denver, Colorado; Missoula, Montana; The Bay Area and Los Angeles County, California. In Europe? Visit us in Ireland.  Australia or South Africa too.  

Nothing convenient?  We can fly a therapist to you.  See our Team page for available members.