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If you aren't getting along with the person who once meant the world to you, there is important new information you should know. It's a way of intervening that stops your fast-moving train into greater marital misery or divorce.
You'll exit the 'divorce super-highway.'
No more endless bickering or cold-shoulder bedtimes.
Or vacations and romantic evenings that end in disaster.
Our approach has a 70-90%(1) success rate for distressed marriages. Meanwhile, 38% of couples who receive traditional marriage counseling end up divorced within a few years. (1)
Do you harbor misguided notions about love and marriage? Most couples do. Even many THERAPISTS do. I know I did when my own marriage had problems...
As a clinical psychologist I worked with couples, but these very misguided notions not only limited my impact as a couples therapist, they destroyed my own marriage.
If you think psychologists have just as many problems as the average person... you'd be right.
I've had my share.
Ask my ex-husband.
I divorced a perfectly nice guy and the father of my child. Oh, I had my reasons. And most of them were a bunch of "pie in the sky" ideas I got from theories I learned while in graduate school. They were wrong-headed notions about why marriages fail and how to fix them.
There are still plenty of these myths out there.
Like how about THIS MYTH:
"The severity of your problems predicts the likelihood of divorce."
Nope. Wrong. False.
Back then, I did what most people do, "I used my health insurance," and went to a counselor.
But instead of getting help, those weekly 45-minute sessions left me angrier, more hopeless, and totally, totally misunderstood. And we left each session more upset than when we arrived!
I'm Kathy McMahon, a clinical psychologist with over a quarter century of experience. And I divorced. My own marital failure drove me to invest 20 years of study, and learn 5 different models of couples therapy.
Later on, I remarried a “completely different guy.” And guess what?
These same problems reappeared!
I thought to myself: “How could I be so unlucky?”
But it wasn't a matter of "luck" at all.
I was the same person...
...with the same problematic way of relating to my intimate partner.
I could divorce my ex- but not "myself."
As Aimee Mann says: "It's not going to stop 'til you wise up..."
And you know what? She's right.
Leaving a marriage, when you don't know what you're doing wrong (...or just blaming your spouse..) means it's not going to stop for you, either.
Unless you figure out what you're doing wrong in your marriage and fix it, you're doomed to repeat it.
Don't give up! Wise up!
As a last ditch effort, we let go of our previous marriage therapist and began working with Nancy, first in 3 sessions online, and then in an intensive. Nancy has been an extraordinary support for both of us. Her style is both structures and flexible. I appreciated that she listened exceedingly well. She brings evidence-based research into the mix. Perhaps most of all, she is optimistic, though not in an unrealistic way. This couples retreat has been instrumental in helping us develop new patterns of communication and engagement. We are very, very grateful.
Nancy St. John
Senior Couples Therapist
Like a diamond, your marriage is the hardest “jewel” in the rocky world of relationships. But with a magnifying glass, precision skill, the jeweler's tap brings out the luster. Many marriage are rough stones with hidden brilliance. Just waiting to shine.
Careful assessment is our "magnifying glass." "The BIG BIG Book" (which includes a Gottman Assessment and a lot more...) allows us take a closer look at you as an individual in your marriage. It's an online tool. Completing it will have a huge impact on you, too. Our couples tell us it was the start of their couples retreat therapy.
This online assessment is scored, and your words are carefully read and analyzed, side-by-side with your partner's tome. We do this before we even meet.
When you arrive at this couples retreat, we'll explore your early relationship history, "The Story of Us," and with your therapist, you'll work collaboratively, constructing your most critical relationship goals during our time together.
With the help of The BIG BIG Book, you'll be asked finely-tuned questions about your marital issues.
Instead of seemingly endless weekly "45-minute sessions," you'll spend a solitary weekend--just the two of you...alone. Relaxed. Away from the hassles of your everyday lives.
And then your whole world blows up...
Have you tried couples therapy in the past and failed? Do you believe that your marriage is severely, and hopelessly damaged?
Your overly-confident and poorly trained therapist might be to blame.In contrast, our therapists are among the most highly trained couples therapists available today. All have at least one formal, evidence-based certificate in couples therapy. Most have advanced training in the prestigious Gottman Method of Couples Therapy.
You entrust us with your marriage and family. And we take that responsibility seriously.
We'll Work Fast
Forget 6 months of 45-minute sessions that stop at the height of your fight... "See you next week!" Science says: "Not enough time!"
These aren't generic “communication skills training" with 5-250 other couples. Our approach is precise and intimate.
Not someone's biased 'personal opinion.' This help is based upon 40+ years of research with over 3,000 couples.
I told Daniel to hold no punches, that our marriage depended on him! We had tried just regular therapy. Nothing like this. Dan did what was needed to save our marriage! I wanted to get along with each other. To be able to communicate with each other without fighting. I wanted to improve our intimacy.
After 37 years and two marriages, I was able to be heard! I also learned I added to our problems with the way I communicated.
I feel like a new person, partner, friend and husband. I feel that we will be happy with each other and get closer to each other again. Our marriage will start to grow as we implement what we learned!
Would you recommend your couples therapist and Couples Therapy Inc? If so, why? If not, why not?
Yes. When couples have problems like we had, this would be the only way to correct them. Seeing someone for 45-minutes once a week would not work.
Daniel Dashnaw, MA, MS, MFT
"We have seen numerous therapist over the last three years and you have, by far, exceeded all of our expectations. I got there on Friday with a lot of anger over our situation. By the time we left Sunday afternoon I felt free...
She had a very nice way of not taking sides, yet giving good strong comments and thought-provoking scenarios. She absolutely knew us when we got there
and often referred to our history. She was extraordinarily easy to talk to and also has a nice sense of humor. She gave us practical tools to use when I was very upset and we left with
a new vision of our future and tools to use to improve our communication.
I was skeptical heading into the weekend but now I am so glad that we did it.”
Angela Voegele, LICSW
Our couples retreats are in high demand. They book quickly for the clinician and dates you want.
"For a long time, I had so many doubts as to whether we could make this work. I spent most of my marriage not knowing it could be as rich as this last month as been. I felt the "switch," over this last month, and it's felt like living in sunshine instead of shadows. My husband and I haven't had a fight in months, even while navigating normally very tense waters including dealing with our families, and even buying a house! They've turned into discussions."
Dr. Kathy McMahon // President, Couples Therapy Inc.
Dr. Gorman asked pertinent and vital questions. Was able to direct the sessions for constructive results. I would recommend it. We got very positive results. Our intensive prevented a divorce, increased communication, and we're able to enjoy each other again. Her sense of humor and balanced approach in listening and guiding were exactly what we needed. She is a gem. It takes a lot of work but it is worth it in spades.
Dr. Patricia Gorman // Senior Couples Therapist,
Marisa was very professional, very approachable and disarming. We immediately felt at ease and comfortable talking to her.
It was a powerful weekend - that we both enjoyed. We both came away with a fresh perspective on each other. We have a deeper understanding of why each of us reacts the way we do on certain issues. I believe we will have a stronger relationship due to the weekend and be better at resolving conflicts without anger. We were very pleased.
For us - it was exactly what we needed. it was an intense, weekend, but very very helpful. I thought the time allowed was great - the one on one sessions were very good and beneficial. Marisa was really good - we identified with her. She is very affirming, warm and sincere. the whole weekend exceeded our expectations.
Absolutely would recommend.
Marisa Mundey, MFT // Couples Therapist
There are less expensive alternatives...
Don't ignore your relationship problems and hope they go away.
Contact Ted, our Operations Manager, at [email protected] Therapy Inc. or Call Daniel at 844-926-8753 x 2
Evidence- and Science-based couples therapy has been demonstrated to be effective with 70% - 90% of all couples completing treatment.
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Check with your insurance provider. Most do not. Flexible Spending Account (FSA) likely will. See your benefits administrator at your place of employment.
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A Brief, Weekly Update on the Science of Couples Counseling.