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The Grief of the Involved Partner

Ending your Affair…the Grief of the Involved Partner The grief of the “unfaithful” Involved Partner is a very touchy subject in couples therapy. In My last post, I discussed the problem

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Thought-Stopping for Hurt Partners

The Perils of Rumination In an earlier post, I have discussed the idea that obsession and rumination by a hurt partner are the first major stumbling blocks to affair recovery.  In order for Hurt Partners

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The Art of the Apology

What is the art of the apology? Does science offer any bedrock of data about what constitutes an effective apology between intimate partners? “Love Means Never Having to Say You’re Sorry“ 

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Facebook Affairs

Facebook Affairs Facebook Affairs are becoming a very hot topic in social science research. A new study by researchers at the University of Indiana found that Facebook users who are in ostensibly “committed”

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How Do You Define Infidelity?

Define Infidelity? Doesn’t Everyone Know What It Is? How can we define infidelity? Is it just what we decide to do or not do? Or is there a more fundamental issue at stake? Porn. Sexting. Emotional

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Dealing With Infidelity…The Twin Tasks of Affair Recovery

Dealing With Infidelity By Undertaking the Twin Tasks of Affair Recovery   When it comes to dealing with infidelity, I think Gottman said it best: “Atonement cannot occur if the cheater insists

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3 Strategies for Surviving Infidelity

Surviving Infidelity Once infidelity is out in the open, couples typically display one of three distinct strategies for surviving infidelity. One of the reasons that affair recovery is such a common presenting

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Reframing Your Marital Problem

Reframing Your Marital Problem I don’t care what kind of couples therapy you do, you will be eventually be invited by your therapist to start reframing your marital problem. Why is reframing your

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Should I Keep My Affair Secret?

Should I Keep My Affair Secret?…Maybe In therapy, Involved Partners  sometimes ask “Should I keep my affair secret?” It’s fashionable for untrained all-purpose couples therapists

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3 Things You Probably Don’t Know About Forgiveness After an Affair

Forgiveness After an Affair Some all-purpose therapists have pretty quaint notions about forgiveness after an affair. They think that if an affair is disclosed or discovered, the Involved Partner must

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