Nancy St. John

Nancy is a counselor, trainer, and a senior Couples Therapist with an impressive list of credentials.

Intensives are conducted in Tullamore, Ireland.

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Certificate in Children and Loss, HETAC Level 9 (2014) Royal College of Surgeons, Dublin

Professional Certificate in Cognitive Behavioural Therapy (2011) PCI College, Dublin

Higher Diploma in Counselling (Hons), HETAC Level 8 (2010) St. Patrick’s College, Maynooth

Certificate in Counselling Skills, HETAC Level 7 (2006) NUI, Maynooth

Leaving Certificate (1976) Honours in Higher Level English and Economics

I work hard to be the best couples therapist I can be, and do this because I believe relationships are way too important to get wrong.​

Clinical Approach

I work well with those who are going into a new chapter of adjustment and may find themselves struggling with depression, anxiety or crises of past or present trauma. If you are struggling with an experience like this, I can support you as you adjust to these life changes. While I will not make choices for you, I will stay with you and provide guidance and support during important times of decision making and insight development.

As our relationship develops, I may observe some patterns in your life you may not be aware. With respect, and with your permission I will reflect them back to you for your understanding and responses. Together our insight will grow, and I will encourage you to recognise your wisdom, inner strengths and coping skills to face the future with an improved sense of confidence.

Clinical Experience

Nancy has certificates in Mindfulness, Bereavement Counseling, Cognitive-Behavior Psychology, and Psycho-Oncology, but her greatest love is working with couples.

She’s a member of the National Association for Pastoral Counselling and Psychotherapy (MNAPCP), and also serves in a Chair position on the National Executive Council of ACCORD. ACCORD is a well known, and respected agency that has more than 50 years experience working with couples and individuals supporting them in their Marriages and Relationships.


The following are the two leading acreditation agencies in Ireland for counselors:​

Irish Association of Counselling and Psychotherapy (IACP)

National Association for Pastoral Counselling and Psychotherapy (NAPCP),

Evidence-based Treatment Models

Advanced Training

EFT:  5-Day Externship; Core Skills Training; Healing Affairs through Emotionally Focused Couples Therapy

Gottman Certification Map

Advanced Training & Certifications

Nancy come to us with an impressive list of advanced training in Couples Therapy. She has completed training in three models of couples therapy: Imago, Emotionally Focused Couples Therapy and the Developmental Model of Couples Therapy. She is an advanced practitioner of the Developmental Model, having spent five years in studying and working closely with Drs. Ellyn Bader and Pete Pearson; completed advanced training in Emotionally Focused Couples Therapy, and is certified as an Imago Relationship She's completed Level I & II of Gottman Method Couples Therapy. Each approach has enriched her understanding of what it takes to be an effective couples counsellor.

•  The Developmental Model of Couples Therapy The Couples Institute

•  Achieving Clinical Excellence with Difficult Couples The Couples Institute

•  Discernment Counselling Specialist Training Doherty Relationship Institute

•  Certificate in Imago Relationships Therapy Imago Relationships International

•  Brilliant at the Basics Imago Relationships International

•  Externship in Emotionally Focused Couples Therapy ICEEFT

•  Core Skills Training in Emotionally Focused Couples Therapy ICEEFT

•  Healing Affairs through Emotionally Focused Couples Therapy ICEEFT

• Mindfulness-Based Cognitive Therapy Oxford Cognitive Therapy Centre

•  Domestic Abuse Training Relationships Ireland

More Certifications & Trainings


Advanced Level of Training
I am writing to express my/our deep appreciation for Nancy St. John.
We are a married couple of 24 years, and have been actively considering divorce for the past several months.  As a last ditch effort, we let go of our previous marriage therapist and began working with Nancy, first in 3 sessions online, and then an intensive in Ireland. She has been an extraordinary support for both of us.  Her style is both structured and flexible.  She listens exceedingly well.  She brings evidence-based research into the mix. Perhaps most of all, she is optimistic, though not in an unrealistic way. She has been instrumental in helping us develop new patterns of communication and engagement. We are very, very grateful.

- Husband, Recent Couples Therapy Retreat

Speaking Personally

I love working with couples. For me, it is the best job imaginable. Every time I work with a couple, I feel privileged to be allowed to enter their world. I love helping sad, hurt and angry partners understand more about themselves, and to witness their development as individuals and as a couple. I assist them to see that conflict is actually growth trying to happen and show them how to stop fighting and how to begin negotiating effectively.

Working with couples from across the globe is a privilege. I love the diversity of our world, and prioritise hearing about - and understanding - each partner's outlook on life; their sexual orientation, values, ethnicity, culture, and religious and spiritual beliefs, as well as those who society marginalises and who see themselves as disenfranchised.

I work hard to be the best couples therapist I can be, and do this because I believe relationships are way too important to get wrong. I was born in Chicago and grew up in Ireland, where I live today. My own childhood was an unsettled one, with many trips across the Atlantic as my parents tried making a number of fresh starts, until their marriage ended when I was 14.

It was decades later before I realised I had never once seen them argue or fight with each other.

I have been married to my husband David for over thirty years and in this time we have grown and developed as individuals and as a couple. Our children are grown up, and we are now grandparents. As a couples counsellor, I sometimes use examples from my own life, and couples tell me they appreciate my willingness to be open and vulnerable with them.

Childhood was for many of us, an insecure and unpredictable time. I am deeply passionate about supporting couples with children as they create healthy, resilient families. I believe there are patterns and key moments in each of our histories that we can learn from which help us build a better futures for ourselves, and for future generations of our families.

Nancy is that rare and wonderful combination of kind, compassionate, clear and focused.  She is an amazing listener, but simply being heard (with past marriage counselors) has never been enough.

With her as our skillful guide, we were able to each get at core concerns and reach a deeper understanding of what we are bringing to the table. We also felt she was a cheerleader and totally in our corner.  We had a difficult but wonderful weekend and left feeling changed and with new hope for our future together.

- Wife, Recent Couples Retreat Participant

Nancy welcomes you to her home office.

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