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If you aren't getting along with the person who once meant the world to you, there is important new information you should know.
It's a way of intervening that stops your fast-moving train into greater marital misery or divorce.
You'll exit the 'divorce super-highway.'
No more endless bickering or cold-shoulder bedtimes.
Or vacations and romantic evenings that end in disaster.
Don't make the same mistake I did, and let a perfectly good marriage go down the drain.
"We have seen numerous therapist over the last three years and Angela has, by far, exceeded all of our expectations. I got there on Friday with a lot of anger over our situation. By the time we left Sunday afternoon I felt free...
She had a very nice way of not taking sides, yet giving good strong comments and thought-provoking scenarios. She absolutely knew us when we got there and often referred to our history. She was extraordinarily easy to talk to and also has a nice sense of humor.
She gave us practical tools to use when I was very upset and we left with a new vision of our future and tools to use to improve our communication.
I was skeptical heading into the weekend but now I am so glad that we did it.”
“My own marital failure drove me to invest 20 years of study, and learn 5 different models of couples therapy. The results?"
Dr. Kathy McMahon is the Founder and President of Couples Therapy Inc. A clinical psychologist, she is one of a handful of Certified Gottman Couples Therapists on the planet who is also an AASECT Board-certified Sex Therapist. She is a Clinical Fellow of the American Association of Marriage and Family Therapists, and has also trained in both Emotionally-focused Couples Therapy and The Developmental Model of Couples Therapy. She designed this Couples Retreat after 20 years of study.
Do you harbor misguided notions about love and marriage? Most couples do. Even many THERAPISTS do. I know I did when my own marriage had problems...
As a clinical psychologist I worked with couples, but these very misguided notions not only limited my impact as a couples therapist, they destroyed my own marriage.
If you think psychologists have just as many problems as the average person... you'd be right.
I've had my share.
Ask my ex-husband.
I divorced a perfectly nice guy and the father of my child. Oh, I had my reasons. And most of them were a bunch of "pie in the sky" ideas I got from theories I learned while in graduate school. They were wrong-headed notions about why marriages fail and how to fix them.
There are still plenty of these myths out there.
Like how about THIS MYTH:
"The severity of your problems predicts the likelihood of divorce."
Nope. Wrong. False.
Back then, I did what most people do, "I used my health insurance," and went to a counselor.
But instead of getting help, those weekly 45-minute sessions left me angrier, more hopeless, and totally, totally misunderstood. And we left each session more upset than when we arrived!
If you've see a therapist for your troubled marriage, you were probably told to practice “good communication skills."
I thought that's all I was doing...yak, yak, yakking without impacting!
Like most women facing divorce, it only took a few sessions before I became totally disillusioned.
I thought we were 'broken.'
I went through a painful divorce.
It cost me big time, not only economically, but emotionally, too, and everything got a lot more complicated. Two houses. Two mortgages. A daughter running between families. Two different sets of rules.
Divorce is one of the most stressful events in an adult's life, according to research. Even worse on children, despite the media hype.
“Divorce is costly, not just financially, but emotionally too. It costs your kids, as well as your future security. Preventing it is well worth the effort..."
Later on, I remarried a “completely different guy.” And guess what?
These same problems reappeared!
I thought to myself: “How could I be so unlucky?”
But it wasn't a matter of "luck" at all.
I was the same person...
...with the same problematic way of relating to my intimate partner.
I could divorce my ex- but not "myself."
As Aimee Mann says: "It's not going to stop 'til you wise up..."
And you know what? She's right.
Leaving a marriage, when you don't know what you're doing wrong (...or just blaming your spouse..) means it's not going to stop for you, either.
Unless you figure out what you're doing wrong in your marriage and fix it, you're doomed to repeat it.
Don't give up! Wise up!
(Let one of his Master Trainers teach you to be a "Master of Marriage" too!)
"Angela was a wonderful therapist and truly advocated for both of us, and our relationship, throughout the weekend intensive. Her approach was thoughtful, logical and easy to follow. She listened to our concerns and organized the weekend in a meaningful way to cover many of our needs. The feedback she provided was constructive and professional. I really feel a great sense of relief after our Couples Retreat weekend with Angela. The follow up work and reading she gave us provides the framework we need to continue the work on our own.
I would definitely recommend Angela to others looking for couples counseling."
Like a diamond, your marriage is the hardest “jewel” in the rocky world of relationships. But with a magnifying glass, precision skill, the jeweler's tap brings out the luster. Many marriage are rough stones with hidden brilliance. Just waiting to shine.
Careful assessment is our "magnifying glass." "The BIG BIG Book" (which included a Gottman Assessment and a lot more...) allows us take a closer look at you as an individual in your marriage. It's an online tool. Completing it will have a huge impact on you, too. Our couples tell us it was the start of their couples retreat therapy.
This online assessment is scored, and your words are carefully read and analyzed, side-by-side with your partner's tome. We do this before we even meet.
When you arrive at this couples retreat, we'll explore your early relationship history, "The Story of Us," and with your therapist, you'll work collaboratively, constructing your most critical relationship goals during our time together.
With the help of The BIG BIG Book, you'll be asked finely-tuned questions about your marital issues.
And yet, this is challenging and specialized work. Easy to get wrong.
And then your whole world blows up...
Have you tried couples therapy in the past and failed? Do you believe that your marriage is severely, and hopelessly damaged?
Your overly-confident and poorly trained therapist might be to blame.
You entrust us with your marriage and family.
And we take that responsibility seriously.
We'll Work Fast
Forget 6 months of 45-minute sessions that stop at the height of your fight... "See you next week!" Science says:"Not enough time!"
These aren't generic “communication skills training" with 5-250 other couples. Our approach is precise and intimate.
Not someone's biased 'personal opinions.' This help is based upon 40+ years of research with over 3,000 couples.
We hold our Couples Retreat in 15 attractive locations: Three in Massachusetts, and in Washington DC / Maryland; Atlanta, Georgia; Sarasota, Florida; Indianapolis, Indiana; Old San Juan, Puerto Rico; Oahu, Hawaii; Austin & Houston, Texas; Las Vegas, Nevada; Denver, Colorado; Marin County and Los Angeles County, California. In Europe? Visit us in Ireland.
A Couples Retreat is designed for those in mild, moderate or severe relationship distress.
Couples who are actively willing to work on their marriage/relationship.
Couples who are emotionally dysregulated (loud fighting, shouting, emotional outbursts, crying)
Couples struggling with an affair who have had time to process the implications.
Couples who are disconnected, distant, asexual, or cold.
Marriages in which one partner is selfish, bossy, irresponsible, or self-absorbed.
Those who are unhappily living together, separated, legally married or not.
Couples who have good reasons to stay married, but are ambivalent.
We cannot accept couples who engage in regular and ongoing physical violence.
Where one partner is actively drug or alcohol addicted and requires in-patient care.
When an active and untreated mental illness is destroying your marriage.
When an affair was discovered within the last week. Fresh disclosures are too stressful for immediate intensive work.
When having an undisclosed affair (see us for Discernment Counseling, instead...)
Where one partner refuses to complete the assessment prior to the retreat.
When one partner is unwilling to put genuine effort into changing their marriage. If the motivation is to "check the box" or "let their partner down easy," this is not for you.
Our couples retreats are in high demand. They book quickly.
There are less expensive alternatives...
Don't ignore your relationship problems and hope they go away.
Couples Retreat Outline:
Before You Attend You Will:
After Your Couples Retreat:
A Complete, One-to-One, Private Retreat conducted by a Couples Therapist of your choice.
Participate in TWO Online follow-ups over the next 12 months
At NO CHARGE
Enroll in Dr. K's weekly informative: "The Science of Relationships."
to reinforce your learning.
We regret that we cannot accept reservations without payment.
Once registered, we'll send you a list of of places and restaurants that previous couples have enjoyed.
Send us three that would work for you and we'll do our best to accommodate you.
For guidance, contact our Intake Coordinator, Daniel, at 844-926-8753 extension 2.
Evidence- and Science-based couples therapy has been demonstrated to be effective with 75% - 90% of all couples completing treatment.
Check with your insurance provider. Most do not. Flexible Spending Account (FSA) likely will. See your benefits administrator at your place of employment.
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A Brief, Weekly Update on the Science of Couples Counseling.