Category Archives for Mental Health and Marriage

Emotional Abuse and Marital Conflict

A Working Definition of Emotional Abuse Emotional abuse is not the same thing as Domestic Violence. I think of emotional abuse as a combination of two of the Four Horsemen (Contempt and Criticism) standing

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Secure Attachment Poker… What’s in Your Hand?

Secure Attachment Style Poker… What Kind of Hand Were You Dealt? As we mentioned previously, your attachment style is your worldview of how you believe love and intimate relationships work. Attachment

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Stonewalling… the Story and the Science

Stonewalling… How it Begins. Perhaps you’ve had this experience. You are having a spirited debate with your husband. The temperature is beginning to rise. You’re becoming progressively

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Marital Satisfaction… Jagger was Right!

Marital Satisfaction… What is it? The 1990’s was a decade of widespread and impressive marital satisfaction research. I’ve been reading the macro-analytic overview of this decade of investigation

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New Research on Family Dinner

Family Meal Time… from Sacred to “Someday, Maybe….”. The 21st century is increasingly fast-paced and hectic. Strangely, an aspect of family life which was once sacred half a century

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The Best Ability is Availability

How’s Your Availability? The best ability is availability. Bill Parcells Have you ever really thought about your emotional availability? Here are a few questions that I offer for you to think about.

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Bipolar Disorder and Marital Conflict

Bipolar Disorder (BPD) is a brain abnormality that is characterized by extremely wide mood swings.  It has been formally called manic-depression. In a typical Bipolar Disorder, there can be extremely

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Developmental Trauma and Marital Conflict

The Crisis of Developmental Trauma There is no fact of human existence that resonates so profoundly and pervasively through time as Developmental Trauma (aka Complex Trauma). Developmental Trauma is a

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The Dubious Dawn of Couples Therapy

The Dubious Dawn of Couples Therapy I am sometimes asked why science-based couples therapy is so essential. Perhaps as an answer to that question, we can take a brief look at the “bad old days.”

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The Wisdom of a Broken Heart

What Can You Do With a Broken Heart? A broken heart might seem a strange topic for a Christmas Day blog post. But the holidays are a tough time for people with a broken heart. Is there any pain more unbearable? 

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