Category Archives for How to Help Couples

Marriage Counseling Costs

You get what you pay for, as the old saying goes.Marriage counseling costs range widely and doing your research ahead of time, and knowing what you'll be paying for and HOW you'll pay for it, is a wise

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Reframing Your Marital Problem

Reframing Your Marital Problem I don’t care what kind of couples therapy you do, you will be eventually be invited by your therapist to start reframing your marital problem. Why is reframing your

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Male Marriage Counselor: Does Gender Matter?

The Male Marriage Counselor: Does Gender Matter? Should you get a male marriage counselor? Does it matter? It is widely understood that in the broad scheme of human interaction, women do tend to be more

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Relationships from Hell

First, the Anxious-Preoccupied Relationships from Hell The Important thing to remember is that we are all struggling to gain mastery over our childhood attachment injuries. We select partners who we feel

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Attachment Theory and Couples Therapy

Attachment Theory Brief Overview  Attachment Theory has become a deeply researched area of couples therapy. The fundamental premise of Attachment Theory is that we learned how to be a husband, or

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Why Is My Husband So Angry?

I Have an Angry Husband…Why? Why is my husband so angry? Here’s the bottom line. Men are different. When men are in a conflictual situation, they tend to get overwhelmed more easily than women,

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Why Is My Wife So Angry?

I Have An Angry Wife…Why? Research shows that if you have an angry wife, it’s probably a fight about nothing, but serious issues of power, fairness, and responsibility may lurk under the surface.

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Startling Differences Between Men and Women

Startling Differences Between Men and Women There are startling differences between men and women. There was a study conducted at the Behavioral Health Science Department at the University of California,

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The Story of Dr. John Gottman and Science-Based Couples Therapy

The Science of Data and Predictable Patterns in Couples Therapy In an earlier post, I described the dubious dawn of couples therapy before John Gottman and science-based couples therapy. In this post,

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A Modest Proposal on Valentine’s Day

“Let Valentine’s Day be the beginning of you showing love in a new way, don’t let it be a one-day thing,”                                                                                                                              

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