Category Archives for How to Help Couples

The Sound Relationship House Revisited

The Sound Relationship House One Story at a Time What is the Sound Relationship House? It seems that you can’t find a Gottman trained blogger or Gottman “informed” therapist website which

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Marital Complaints and Disco Balls

Can Marital Complaints Lead to Intimacy? Marital complaints are a frequent topic in couples therapy. How to make them, what they mean, etc., etc. In a recent post, I described how learning to repair during

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Introducing the Coming of “Fight Club”

Those who know marketing warned me to pre-sell it, because they "just can't see it." Technical people think the logistics will be a nightmare.But no matter.​You can't keep a good idea down.  As

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Stay Stuck in Couples Therapy in 11 Easy Steps

Couples Therapy is for Chumps. Stay Stuck Instead. Couples Therapy is just a giant pain in the ass. They flat out expect way too much from you and refuse to accept the fact that you are already doing

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Empathy, Sympathy, and Marital Conflict

Why Sympathy Doesn’t Work and Empathy Does. When our spouse is pleased with us… happy…connected then empathy is a breeze. But particularly if you’re male, it’s more challenging

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The Art of the Apology

What is the art of the apology? Does science offer any bedrock of data about what constitutes an effective apology between intimate partners? “Love Means Never Having to Say You’re Sorry“ 

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How Do You Handle an Angry Man?

The Angry Man in the 1960’s…Catharsis or Crapola? What do we know about the fundamentally decent but angry man? It all started when it was Mod to be Mad. If I wanted to be kind, I would say

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I Swear I Can Help Your Marriage

I Swear Couples Therapy Can Be Messy You are in couples therapy to describe your feelings and hopefully, be heard and understood. For many couples, my therapy office may be the only place where they can

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Marriage Counseling Costs

You get what you pay for, as the old saying goes.Marriage counseling costs range widely and doing your research ahead of time, and knowing what you'll be paying for and HOW you'll pay for it, is a wise

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Reframing Your Marital Problem

Reframing Your Marital Problem I don’t care what kind of couples therapy you do, you will be eventually be invited by your therapist to start reframing your marital problem. Why is reframing your

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