Category Archives for Divorce

Should I Keep My Affair Secret?

Should I Keep My Affair Secret?…Maybe In therapy, Involved Partners  sometimes ask “Should I keep my affair secret?” It’s fashionable for untrained all-purpose couples therapists

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How Could He Do This To Me?

How Could He Do This To Me?…The Crisis of the Hurt Partner In the aftermath of the disclosure or discovery of an affair, most couples are overwhelmed by pain, rage, and guilt. As one of the intake

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Children of Infidelity

Children of Infidelity One of the greatest social fallacies of family life is what I call the Fallacy of Parental Omniscience. Parents often debate about what children should be told about sensitive issues,

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The Exit Affair

Exit Affair…Exit Stage Right? Either partner can engage in an “Exit Affair.” Like the Conflict Avoidant Couple Affair, the Involved Partner, in many cases, has an unconscious wish to

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Emotionally Focused Couples Therapy and The Protest Polka!

Emotionally Focused Couples Therapy As I mentioned in my last post, it is attunement, the capacity for emotional responsiveness, that is the key factor in trust and emotional connection. There have been

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Five Styles of Co-Parenting After Divorce

Several research studies over the last 30 years have uncovered 5 primary styles of co-parenting after divorce. The first 3 are considered to be more or less functional, all things considered. The first

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Help Your Kids Survive Divorce

Help Your Kids Survive Divorce Model Self-Care During the Divorce and After the Divorce. The Holmes-Rahe Stress Inventory finds that divorce is the second most stressful life event, second only to the

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Children of Divorce

 Impact of Divorce on Children of Divorce by Age Group Children go through predictable responses to their parent’s divorce, according to research.  Knowing these differences can help you to anticipate

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Kids and Divorce

Kids and Divorce As intake coordinator at Couples Therapy Inc., I am often asked about kids and divorce. Wives ask me “do you think I should stay in a miserable marriage just for the sake of my kids?” This

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