Why Is My Wife So Angry?

I Have An Angry Wife…Why? Research shows that if you have an angry wife, it’s probably a fight about nothing, but serious issues of power, fairness, and responsibility may lurk under the surface.

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Dr. Wolfe Tells Us….What Best Predicts Marital Satisfaction?

What Predicts Marital Satisfaction? In a previous post, I discussed how the question of “what predicts marital satisfaction?” has been carefully researched and analyzed. One of the most comprehensive

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Gottman Research Describes 5 Kinds of Couples

Gottman’s Research…Which Couple are You? Dr. John Gottman has been conducted research on couples for over 40 years. As a result of Gottman’s research in the love lab, he has categorized

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Startling Differences Between Men and Women

Startling Differences Between Men and Women There are startling differences between men and women. There was a study conducted at the Behavioral Health Science Department at the University of California,

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When Your Husband Won’t End His Affair

When Your Husband Won’t End His Affair He said he would. Why won’t my husband end his affair? I seem to have been receiving an epidemic of phone calls from wives whose husbands have promised

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The Story of Dr. John Gottman and Science-Based Couples Therapy

The Science of Data and Predictable Patterns in Couples Therapy In an earlier post, I described the dubious dawn of couples therapy before John Gottman and science-based couples therapy. In this post,

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A Modest Proposal on Valentine’s Day

“Let Valentine’s Day be the beginning of you showing love in a new way, don’t let it be a one-day thing,”                                                                                                                              

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Marital Fight Autopsy…EFT Model

Emotionally-Focused Therapy and the Marital Fight Autopsy When it comes to marital fight dissection, evidence-based Emotionally-Focused Therapy (EFT) is by far the most relational model. At the risk of

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Marital Fight Autopsy…Developmental Model

The Developmental Model and the Marital Fight Autopsy In my internship, I studied a model of Couples Therapy called the Developmental Model. This model was developed during the 1980’s by husband

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Marital Fight Autopsy… Gottman Model

Marital Fight… Autopsy? Yes, I mean Autopsy. Let’s assume Dick and Jane had a marital fight which started on February 13th at 1:06 pm. There was the usual Groundhog Day back and forth that

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