Marital Fight Autopsy…EFT Model

Emotionally-Focused Therapy and the Marital Fight Autopsy When it comes to marital fight dissection, evidence-based Emotionally-Focused Therapy (EFT) is by far the most relational model. At the risk of

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Marital Fight Autopsy…Developmental Model

The Developmental Model and the Marital Fight Autopsy In my internship, I studied a model of Couples Therapy called the Developmental Model. This model was developed during the 1980’s by husband

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Marital Fight Autopsy… Gottman Model

Marital Fight… Autopsy? Yes, I mean Autopsy. Let’s assume Dick and Jane had a marital fight which started on February 13th at 1:06 pm. There was the usual Groundhog Day back and forth that

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Pornography and Marital Conflict

 The Perils of Porn Porn is increasingly understood from the vantage point of neuroscience as a “supernormal stimulus.” Nobel-Prize winning scientist Nikko Tinbergen defines a supernormal stimulus

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Stonewalling… the Story and the Science

Stonewalling… How it Begins. Perhaps you’ve had this experience. You are having a spirited debate with your husband. The temperature is beginning to rise. You’re becoming progressively

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Little Hinges Swing Big Doors

What Do I Mean by Little Hinges? Little hinges are the standard stimulus-response, Protest Polka, Demon Dance, bad communication habits that both of you are trapped in. The conversational door always swings

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What the Research says About How Marriages Fail

Research on Why Marriages Fail John Gottman’s Why Marriages Succeed or Fail is one of Dr. John Gottman’s most accessible and relevant works written for a general audience. It remains one of

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Two Babies

Two Attitudinal Stances When Approaching Conflictual Conversations The Two Babies. When we’re working with a couple in an intensive couples therapy weekend, We sometimes need a quick way to convey

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Marital Satisfaction… Jagger was Right!

Marital Satisfaction… What is it? The 1990’s was a decade of widespread and impressive marital satisfaction research. I’ve been reading the macro-analytic overview of this decade of investigation

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Groundhog Days… the Same Old… Same Old…

Shirley squirmed in her chair and leaned forward, giving me a hard, exhausted look. They’ve been here before. It was Deja Vu all over again…. Groundhog Day. But now they were in couples therapy

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