I Swear I Can Help Your Marriage

I Swear Couples Therapy Can Be Messy You are in couples therapy to describe your feelings and hopefully, be heard and understood. For many couples, my therapy office may be the only place where they can

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Borderlines in Couples Therapy

Borderlines in couples therapy can be very challenging. Many couples therapists dread working with clients suffering from Borderline Personality Disorder. Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD) is an unfortunately

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Facebook Affairs

Facebook Affairs Facebook Affairs are becoming a very hot topic in social science research. A new study by researchers at the University of Indiana found that Facebook users who are in ostensibly “committed”

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Alexithymia and Marital Conflict

What is Alexithymia? Some people struggle when asked to explain or share and their emotions. This is a personality trait known as alexithymia. People with alexithymia can describe their physiological

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How Do You Define Infidelity?

Define Infidelity? Doesn’t Everyone Know What It Is? How can we define infidelity? Is it just what we decide to do or not do? Or is there a more fundamental issue at stake? Porn. Sexting. Emotional

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My Wife Hates Me…and Took All My Nobel Prize Money!

Intelligence is Not Wisdom “My wife hates me.” This is the lament of many men who call us looking to save their marriage. But you don’t have to be an idiot to mess up your marriage. You

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Dealing With Infidelity…The Twin Tasks of Affair Recovery

Dealing With Infidelity By Undertaking the Twin Tasks of Affair Recovery   When it comes to dealing with infidelity, I think Gottman said it best: “Atonement cannot occur if the cheater insists

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3 Strategies for Surviving Infidelity

Surviving Infidelity Once infidelity is out in the open, couples typically display one of three distinct strategies for surviving infidelity. One of the reasons that affair recovery is such a common presenting

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Mookie Or My Mother-in-Law?

A Funny Story From Our Houston Couples Therapist, Marissa Mundey. My husband and I just celebrated our 20th wedding anniversary.  There are so many things I could say about what has held us together,

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Why Do Women Cheat?

 Why Do Women Cheat? Why do women cheat? I know someone who has an answer. Helen Fisher is an evolutionary anthropologist at Rutgers University. While not a couples therapist, Helen is an intriguing

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