Children of Infidelity

Children of Infidelity One of the greatest social fallacies of family life is what I call the Fallacy of Parental Omniscience. Parents often debate about what children should be told about sensitive issues,

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Split-Self Affairs

Split-Self Affairs… a Familiar Pattern in Popular Culture There have been many names given to Split-Self Affairs in research literature; Double-Life Affair, Divided-Self Affair, etc. This is an archetypal

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The Intimacy-Avoidance Couple Affair

Intimacy-Avoidance Couple Affair…Connecting through Conflict The Intimacy-Avoidant Couples Affair resembles the Conflict-Avoidant Couples affair in that the problem is inherently systemic. The overarching

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The Exit Affair

Exit Affair…Exit Stage Right? Either partner can engage in an “Exit Affair.” Like the Conflict Avoidant Couple Affair, the Involved Partner, in many cases, has an unconscious wish to

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Conflict Avoidant Couple Affairs

What is a Conflict Avoidant Couple Affair? At Couples Therapy Inc., we help many couples recover from affairs. Sometimes we see a type of couple known as Conflict Avoidant couples. This is the first in

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Relationships from Hell

First, the Anxious-Preoccupied Relationships from Hell The Important thing to remember is that we are all struggling to gain mastery over our childhood attachment injuries. We select partners who we feel

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Secure Attachment Poker… What’s in Your Hand?

Secure Attachment Style Poker… What Kind of Hand Were You Dealt? As we mentioned previously, your attachment style is your worldview of how you believe love and intimate relationships work. Attachment

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Attachment Styles and Couples Therapy Intensives

Why Is Our Attachment Style So Important? In the last post I wrote about the importance of attachment styles, and how the science of human attachment is helping couples therapy to achieve an effectiveness

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Attachment Theory and Couples Therapy

Attachment Theory Brief Overview  Attachment Theory has become a deeply researched area of couples therapy. The fundamental premise of Attachment Theory is that we learned how to be a husband, or

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Why Is My Husband So Angry?

I Have an Angry Husband…Why? Why is my husband so angry? Here’s the bottom line. Men are different. When men are in a conflictual situation, they tend to get overwhelmed more easily than women,

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