How Do You Define Infidelity?

Define Infidelity? Doesn’t Everyone Know What It Is? How can we define infidelity? Is it just what we decide to do or not do? Or is there a more fundamental issue at stake? Porn. Sexting. Emotional

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My Wife Hates Me…and Took All My Nobel Prize Money!

Intelligence is Not Wisdom “My wife hates me.” This is the lament of many men who call us looking to save their marriage. But you don’t have to be an idiot to mess up your marriage. You

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Dealing With Infidelity…The Twin Tasks of Affair Recovery

Dealing With Infidelity By Undertaking the Twin Tasks of Affair Recovery   When it comes to dealing with infidelity, I think Gottman said it best: “Atonement cannot occur if the cheater insists

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3 Strategies for Surviving Infidelity

Surviving Infidelity Once infidelity is out in the open, couples typically display one of three distinct strategies for surviving infidelity. One of the reasons that affair recovery is such a common presenting

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Mookie Or My Mother-in-Law?

A Funny Story From Our Houston Couples Therapist, Marissa Mundey. My husband and I just celebrated our 20th wedding anniversary.  There are so many things I could say about what has held us together,

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Why Do Women Cheat?

 Why Do Women Cheat?Why do women cheat? I know someone who has an answer. Helen Fisher is an evolutionary anthropologist at Rutgers University. While not a couples therapist, Helen is an intriguing

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Emotional Abuse and Marital Conflict

A Working Definition of Emotional Abuse Emotional abuse is not the same thing as Domestic Violence. I think of emotional abuse as a combination of two of the Four Horsemen (Contempt and Criticism) standing

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Marriage Counseling Costs

You get what you pay for, as the old saying goes.Marriage counseling costs range widely and doing your research ahead of time, and knowing what you'll be paying for and HOW you'll pay for it, is a wise

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Reframing Your Marital Problem

Reframing Your Marital Problem I don’t care what kind of couples therapy you do, you will be eventually be invited by your therapist to start reframing your marital problem. Why is reframing your

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Male Marriage Counselor: Does Gender Matter?

The Male Marriage Counselor: Does Gender Matter? Should you get a male marriage counselor? Does it matter? It is widely understood that in the broad scheme of human interaction, women do tend to be more

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