Marriage in the Movies: Boyhood

Hopefully, some time soon, you will go out and see an almost 3 hour movie about nothing in particular, and everything that’s meaningful to being human. “Boyhood” took 12 years to make,

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Portrait of a Marriage ~ Wounds that Won’t Heal

In relationships, sometimes the way a couples relate is the problem, and the therapist’s job is to help the couple modify their interactional styles (i.e.: teaching them how to “communicate

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Novel Experiences in Marriage: Always Stressful?

Studies have shown that novel experiences can actually stimulate the production of the neuro-chemicals dopamine and norepinephrine, which show up in the brain in the early, blissful stages of a relationship.

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When Life Imitates Art – A Child’s Doodle and Mother’s Letting Go

Those things you hold so dear cannot change and grow and expand unless you loosen your grip on them a little.  In sharing my artwork and allowing our daughter to be an equal in our collaborations, I helped

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3 Marital Mistakes You’re Probably Making Right Now

“Happy Families are all alike; every unhappy family is unhappy in its own way.” —Leo Tolstoy, Anna Karenina, Chapter 1, first line, Russian mystic novelist (1828-1910) It turns out that

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Defensiveness in Marriage: “It’s not my fault, it’s YOUR FAULT!”

We are all guilty of it. Defensiveness is often seen in even the best of relationships. Our partner raises an issue with us they would like us to address, and it shoots straight into our hearts. Instead

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Emotional Distance in Marriage

Camilla partially blames herself, because the emotional distance in marriage was just too upsetting to her. She says, “I should leave him alone more, like he asks, but I just can’t. I’m

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Sexless Marriage & the Politics of Wanting

This is the third in a series of post on Profiles in MarriageTina and Bill* have been married 22 years. They have one son in college, and another finishing High School this year. If you met them, you would

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International Couples Advice

Often international couples advice often sees difference and novelty as a stress in these marriages.  But does it have to be? In reality, studies have shown that novel experiences can actually stimulate the

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Sex Tips for Mature Couples

No one assumes sexuality is a right for those over 50. You have to grab it. Here are three sex tips for mature couples you can use today. Viagra alone is no promise for a satisfying, intense sexual relationship.

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