Afarin Rajaei, M.S.

Languages

• Persian/ Farsi (Fluent)

• English (Fluent)

• Arabic (rudimentary)

Education:

• Postgraduate student in Marriage and Family Therapy (MFT) at Antioch University New England. (expected June 2016)

• MS in Clinical Psychology.

• Bachelor Degree in Clinical Psychology.

Association Memberships

• American Association for Marriage and Family Therapy (AAMFT)

• Iranian Psychological Association (IPA)

• Family Psychology Association of Iran (FPAI).

The development of a really good marriage is not a natural process.  It's an achievement.

David & Vera Mace

Post-Masters Graduate Clinical Intern

I find interpersonal interaction riveting. I understand that the human family is in crisis and that all individuals deserve compassion and are capable of it. I see my mission is to reach out to families in order to help create and maintain greater love and health in relationships.

Clinical Experience:

My dual interests are in The Gottman Method and Emotional Focused Therapy. My master’s thesis was about the effectiveness of couple therapy based on Gottman’s method of decreasing emotional divorce, improvement of verbal and non-verbal communication and interpersonal cognitive distortions among conflicted couples; and the results were amazing.

My clinical experiences show that couples suffer a lack of communication skills and emotional attachment issues; and most of the time, Gottman’s method and EFT are immensely effective.

• Primary interviewer at SHahed Counseling Clinic in Mashhad. (2011-2013)

• Play therapist at Talieh Mahdavi (private dormitory for 12 children, 2012-2013)

• An internship at the counseling clinic of Ferdowsi University of Mashhad. Specifically as a couple therapist and visiting individuals with interpersonal conflicts; specially in romantic relationships.

• Utilized a variety of treatment methods (mainly Cognitive Behavioral Therapy) to treat issues such as dark side of relationships or communication conflicts; successfully helped some clients with gaining insights, achieving interpersonal communication skills, defining goals, and planning action to achieve personal, social, and vocational development.

Certificates

• Gottman Method Couples Therapy Levels I & II

• National Congress on Emotional Management in Family. (2014)

• National Congress on Family Pathology. (2014)

• Panel of Professional Divorce intervention. (2014)

• Introduction to Parenting Skills. (2013)

• Advanced Parenting Skills. (2014)

Personally Speaking

As someone who’s moved to the U.S to continue my endless journey of fascination with couple therapy, I know the experience of being an outsider.

I’ve faced various challenges, and done a lot of things in my life that people tried me to discourage me from doing by saying: “You can not do it! That’s impossible!”

I finished my master’s thesis at the same time that I was accepted in a PhD program in the U.S, got married and moved to the U.S.

All of this happened in the same year.

People kept telling me: “You will fail! You’re putting extra responsibilities on your already “full plate.”

But I was willing to take the chance, to explore new opportunities and new experiences in my life. When you enjoy the process– regardless of the results–that creates happiness.

I love this quote: “What you do makes a difference, and you have to decide what kind of difference you want to make.” Jane Goodall

And I am the type of person who wants to make a real effective difference.

Papers

• Rajaei, A. (2015). The effectiveness of couple therapy based on Gottman’s method of decreasing emotional divorce among conflicted couples in Mashhad city. Accepted in First International Conference & Second National Conference on Modern Research in the Humanities, Turkey.

• Kimiaei, A. Kahani Zarei, M. Rajaei. A. Moghadam, H. (2014). Examining the relationship between Styles of Conflict Resolution and Interpersonal cognitive distortions among couples in Mashhad City. Accepted in Ahvaz national congress, Iran.