Your heart is broken. You can't talk without starting a fight. Or you've discovered an affair. Tempers flare. Calmly talking is a challenge.
It all feels chaotic and out of control.
Now imagine taking a single weekend and focusing on your marriage. Deciding you'll learn concrete tools allowing you to talk effectively from your heart. Focusing on what you need, not what's lacking.
Escaping the rush of life, spending time recalibrating your bond. Relaxed. Unhurried. Committing to practicing strategies that will breathe new life into your old patterns. Then applying these skills right then and there. Discussing issues that matter in a focused, calm setting.
A heart-wrenching affair?
Consider using it as a trestle that built a new and unshakable domestic amour. Allow that painful history to become a distant memory. Something that hurt but strengthened and ultimately made you an unbreakable team no one could divide.
Becoming experts at disagreements that enhance mutual understanding and add to your collective wisdom. Pushing you forward toward being a more effective family.
Stop the blame and learn to recognize those feelings as cues to both of you that it's time to ramp up novelty, passion, and fun. A 'hit of dopamine' they call it in neuroscience.
Our retreat settings provide the energized context you need to get perspective. Space and time to envision and adopt a preferable intimate mindset. A commitment to work at love instead of settling for bitter resignation.
You've done it in the rest of your life, why not in your marriage?
There's an inspiration that results from gaining greater clarity about what you want. It opens up a new level of confidence and ease just being together. In this weekend, you'll practice essential relationship skills, one-on-one with a skilled professional. You'll know what to do and what to avoid doing, and you'll find motivation to act differently.
We've taken to heart the lessons science has taught us about what makes a relationship great and how to heal intimate wounds. We'd like to help you to make your marriage into a love affair once again. Choose from 18 highly skilled couples therapists worldwide. Each of us have unique skills and training, but all of us share a passion for expertise in couples therapy.
Every year, we take 255 couples to work with individually and teach them how to blend science and the art of loving well effectively together.
We want you to be one of them.
The odds are good we can help yours, as well. The tools we use predict divorce with over 90% accuracy in research studies.
These science-based findings span 40+ years with over 3,000 couples. In that time, we've learned remarkable things.
Things like how there's a predictable pattern of intimate relationship deterioration. It's like water flowing over a waterfall.
Think your relationship has hit the rocks?
I think my wife has finally forgiven me for the things I did ten years ago.
We had intimacy problems - No connection. Angela detected the problem very early on and worked on overcoming this problem. She has given us tools to succeed. It solved the problem for us. I and my wife feel very relieved. Thank you, folks, for helping me, my wife & my family. ~ Recent Retreat Couple. More...
I spent most of my marriage not knowing it could be as rich as this last month as been.
Dr. K, I'm not kidding, it's been the sweetest month I've ever had in our marriage. I know that we'll hit plenty of bumps ahead, but for the first time in a long time, it feels like my teammate, my partner, has shown up. Thank you for giving us the tools and the hope that things would change if we wanted them to." Retreat Couple
Dr. Gorman, I wanted to thank you for this past weekend. I was anxious going into the weekend knowing it would be a difficult one, and it was. But I don't think we could have selected a better therapist.
You put me at ease from the first evening we were together. ~ Recent Retreat Couple More...
Wondering if there's any reason to hold on? Let's find out. Complete our Assessment and find those answers. Across the USA (yep, California to New England), in Europe and in Australia, too. And a dozen languages are spoken here.
Peruse our science-based, fact-filled articles in our Blog. There's a lot to learn about the science of love and healing troubled marriages.
The more you learn, the better able we are to help you.
So stay a while.
My husband has torn down the walls... and we have a common goal of wanting to have a marriage worth our happiness. I feel free. We both feel like we don't have to pretend or hide anymore - We have been able to talk about any and everything this week and it feels so freeing." More
I had so many doubts as to whether we could make this work in a weekend." more
Our two Intake Coordinators, Daniel & Nancy, are available to describe our process in detail and answer any questions you might have. Daniel is a marriage and family therapist. Nancy is our Senior clinician in Europe, certified with advanced training in a number of clinical models. Both are part of our 18-member worldwide clinically-trained team and can help you to choose a service or clinician who's right for you.
Check out our Team Page to learn more about the rest of our highly-skilled couples therapists. On that page, you can click on the names or photos to read the personal profiles for all 18 of us. Our Master category accept 8 couples per year. The rest of our team accepts 15 couples a year on a first-come-first-serve basis. It's tough work and we give our all to each and every couple.
Most of our couples travel over 1000 miles to choose the therapist who's exactly right for them. But you don't have to. We are located within 300 miles of most USA major cities, and a smartphone and internet connection away from everyone else.
Max made excellent decisions about how to get past our personal resistances. He showed great insight into the linchpin issues. I believe we have much better ways to resolve issues now, and I have much better hope for our future as a couple. We're very happy we undertook the program. We were lucky to have an excellent therapist... We're grateful. More
We were on the brink of divorce...My husband thought we couldn't possibly benefit from just three days. Marisa..." More
We were legally separated and had filed for divorce and living in separate residences..."
We were heading to divorce, and it definitely helped a lot. It improved our relationship significantly. We tried some local people, who were pretty bad and seemed to only make things worse.
I was not sure how to continue with the relationship, I had no direction. I could not bring myself to be intimate with my partner.I came aware of some deep rooted issues/disappointments that I wasn't aware of.
All of us are required to have at least Level I & II of Gottman Method Couples Therapy. Two of us are board-certified sex therapists. Two of our Master Therapists have been part of the original six who trained professionals in the Gottman Method through their Institute. Three others have Level III training or are on the "Certification Track." Another is an ordained minister with over 40 years of couples therapy experience. That's an astounding set of credentials and achievements for one team to have!
Include 12 languages that we collectively speak, provide services over 19 time zones (offering tremendous availability) and our indisputable credentials, and you've found a clinical practice devoted to couples therapy which is unlike any other practice in the world!
See our Introduction for more details about what makes us unique.
Nancy, you've been instrumental in helping us develop new patterns of communication and engagement. We are very, very grateful." ~ Couples Retreat Participant, Europe. More
He weaved in scientific studies and our religious writings with great skill...It is a science-based approach that really makes it worthwhile. - Retreat Participants USA. More
My wife and I learned so much about each other and ourselves while attending.
Dr.V was amazing!!
Thank you and the Couples Therapy Team for all the hard work and dedication. Now, my wife and I have a foundation to repair our marriage, and we can’t thank you enough. ~ Retreat Participant, Austin, Texas More
Working with relationships is like working with rough-cut diamonds. It takes skill and precision, and mistakes are costly. The work you choose to do with any particular couple is a clinical judgment call, of course, but one that should be informed by science. No one should be whacking away, blindly tossing out one intervention after another hoping to find something that might work.
The time we spend on assessment allows us to fine tune our efforts. We know where to intervene and just how much pressure to apply to bring out the 'brilliance,' and rid you of the unnecessary pain and heartache that's burdensome to both of you. This takes a great deal of prep work - ours and yours. That's what the assessment is for. You prepare to see us, and we prepare to see you.
Jennifer Elkins left us with a better understanding of what caused the problems, we're better able to work through them. I loved it that she could relate to my ADHD issues and had a clear understanding of the stress it causes. She was warm and empathetic, and we BOTH felt an immediate and sustained connection. She was easy to trust on every level. Sarasota, Florida.
It has worked for us...It's that simple. This would be an option I'd highly recommend to anyone who needs couples therapy, especially in our situation as expats living outside of the USA."
There are no words to adequately express how grateful I am for the weekend my husband and I spent with you,
Dr. K. You provided invaluable insight that, with time and practice, will help us navigate our marriage as well as our relationships with our children and extended family in a loving, supportive way. I walked away with so much hope, to the point of bursting with it. "
We can help you to decide with confidence whether to stay or go...
Thank you for all the great advice, clarity and training you gave me. To me, it has been worth every cent..." ... - Online International Client (more)
Maybe you fight. A lot. Or you are polite but cold to each other. You're not having any fun, but you know you want to work it out and stay together. He or she irritates or infuriates you, but you can't imagine living without them.
This is what "Couples Therapy" is all about. Some want enrichment. Some want problem resolution. But these couples know they want to work on their relationship. Even if it's "one last shot" at help.
The key is each partner says:
We both want to work on it."
Maybe the sex has stopped, but the interest hasn't. Or maybe there is no interest at all.
Perhaps the "plumbing" doesn't work when you do have sex:
Sex Therapy Retreats are for couples who may no longer feel passionate desire for life or for each other.
Couples who say:
I love you; I'm just not in love with you..."
Discernment Counseling doesn't resolve relationship problems. It is designed to help you make a decision:
You'll spend more time alone with the therapist than with your spouse, and that's intentional.
Discernment Counseling can help you slow down and make the best decision to the question:
Do I really want to work on this or not?"
Step-by-step become a better listener, express emotions effectively & discuss important life decisions productively. Feel hopeful. Our experts can get you there.
Let go of your bitterness, anger, resentment, and confusing emotional states. An Affair? Icy Coldness? Happiness can come from finally knowing what you want.
Craft a happy relationship from your fast-paced, time-limited life. Intensive Couples Therapy Retreats offer 6 months of therapy, in one easy weekend. Fast, effective.
All of our clinicians speak English. Eleven additional languages are spoken here. Global perspective. You are sure to find a couples therapist who understands you perfectly.
They're as invested in being successful in love, as they are in excelling in their businesses, careers, education, or changing the world. They hold themselves and others to high professional standards. And they do their research.
We know that not everyone is appropriate for this time-limited, easy-access approach. That's why we offer a no-charge consultation.
Our Intake Coordinators, Daniel and Nancy are available to describe our process in detail and answer any questions you might have. We have highly-skilled clinicians all across the USA, in Ireland and Australia. Take a look at our Team Page and then read about our clinicians in detailed profiles. We're sure you'll find one that fits your needs.